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RABBI Elyse Frishman CONTENTS RABBI Rachel Steiner DIRECTOR OF LIFELONG LEARNING Sara Losch Key Events eXeCuTIVe BOarD 10 WZO/ARZA Election PRESIDENT Kathy Hecht 12 Israel Film Festival FIRST VICE PRESIDENT Roberta Hong Julie Good 13 Learn About Israel VICE PRESIDENT VICE PRESIDENT Bob Levin 15 Senator Menendez, Foreign Policy VICE PRESIDENT Elizabeth Resnick 15 Lesley Sachs, Women of the Wall VICE PRESIDENT Debbie Ungerleider 16 Shabbat Inside Out! SECRETARY Charles Troyanovski 19 Mitzvah Mall TREASURER Les Ivany 23 Blood Drive FINANCIAL SECRETARY Steve Kiel WOMEN OF BARNERT PRESIDENT Rebeca Gordy MEN’S CLUB PRESIDENT Rich Brookler Also in This Issue: IMMEDIATE PAST PRESIDENT Rick Greenberg 3 Rabbi Frishman’s Message CHAIR-COMMUNITY OUTREACH Chris Meyer 5 From the President, Kathy Hecht 6 A message from Sara Losch ADDITIONAL CONTRIBUTORS TO THIS ISSUE: 6 Networking Group Alice Berdy, Karen Dougherty, Justin Garland, 7 Preschool and Camp Registration Justin Giberson, Benita Herman, Les Ivany, Sue Klein, 8 Bar/Bat Mitzvah Profiles Bob Levin, Alan Lieber, Amy Lynn, Andrew Pressman, 9 Adult Education Dani Steiner, Sue Wild, Rachel Yeshion, Amy Zage 18 Israeli Movies 24 Book Club Barnert Temple 747 Route 208 South And more! Franklin Lakes, NJ 07417 201-848-1800

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2 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine A Message from Rabbi Frishman A Lifelong Partnership With Israel

ear Friends, to have such an expert in our midst. Please prepare your questions! We’ll be gathering them in advance for the Senator DWhen I was eight years to consider. old, someone asked me to sketch On Sunday, april 29 at 9am, we’ll be joined by a map of the world. I drew a Lesley Sachs, the executive Director of Women of circle: on the left side was the the Wall. Do you recall when I was detained by the Israeli USA, and on the right, I split police for wearing my tallis at the Western Wall? Since then, the hemispheres with England Supreme Court legislation is beginning to address issues of on top and Israel on bottom, women’s equality. But there’s a great deal more to be done. with some ocean in-between. Sachs will share her experience fighting discrimination and From my education thus far, advocating for equality and religious pluralism in Israel. the world was composed of America, England and Israel. We also encourage your engagement with Already at the age of 8, Israel was imprinted in my three key players on the Israel-american scene: imagination. Thank you to my parents and Religious School aIPaC, the american Jewish Committee and J Street. teachers!1 I urge your involvement with at least one of these groups; I can’t imagine a world without Israel. I’m confident that at least one will address your questions But our relationship with Israel is complex. and concerns about Israel, and our nation’s relationship with Consider the dynamic of a healthy marriage. Time deepens her, and offer you ways to participate. Look further within this awareness of difference, including irritation and frustration Magazine for information on each.2 Stay tuned for gatherings at — but also strengthens friendship, understanding, support Barnert and in Barnert homes for opportunities to learn and love. A profound relationship is deep and imperfect. more about these friends of Israel. Though imperfect, it is not fragile. A true friendship lasts For those of you familiar with AIPAC, the AJC and through diapers and despair, family and financial woes. J-Street, you might ask me why I support them all. Certainly How does one develop a lifelong partnership J Street and AIPAC offer opposite approaches. Since my love with Israel? for Israel runs deep, I believe it’s important to ask hard ques- This season kicks off several ways to engage. tions about Israel’s political choices, even as I view American This spring, two powerful and important financial and military support essential for Israel’s survival. speakers will join us to share two essential These three organizations provide multiple perspectives, and perspectives on Israel. push either Israel or our government to be more responsive. On Sunday march 29 at 11am, we welcome Finally, we’d like to do more to support our Senator Bob menendez, perhaps the strongest Senatorial college students who are being bombarded by the friend of Israel. A previous chair and current member of the BDS movement — the massive Palestinian-based effort to Senator Committee on Foreign Relations, Senator Menendez harm Israel through boycott, divestment, and sanction. will talk with us about the Middle East, the peace process, There are two aspects: academic boycott of Israeli universities ISIS and Iran’s nuclear program. We’re incredibly fortunate and Israeli faculty; and economic pressure on companies and investors who do business in Israel to divest. 1 In high school I lived in Israel for 6 months on the EIE program, which our Barnert Last summer, many of us shared concern about the students still can attend. I’ve lived in Israel for as much as a year, and traveled there over 20 times. anti-Israel demonstrations at Boulder Run. I tried to engage EIE is a four month superb high school program in Israel. Students live in dorms and combine formal academics with experiential learning, touring, engaging in social them in dialogue and they refused to talk with me — in action, deepening Jewish commitment. Additional Reform Jewish youth opportunities include Israel Mitzvah Corps, a summer-long community service learning program essence, they said they had the right to be there, and I could bringing young American Jews, Israelis and Arabs together; and NFTY-in-Israel, a bring my own counter-signs if I chose! I believe that there is 6 week tour of Israel preceded by a trip to Poland. Scholarships are offered; and we are always seeking benefactors! anti-Semitism at the heart of these protests; with so many

2 Within the Magazine, you’ll find the Mission Statements for AIPAC, the AJC and more people in the region who are harmed or murdered, the J Street, and contact information for each. If you’re interesting in either hosting a focus on Israel is misrepresented and wrong. parlor meeting, or organizing an event at Barnert, or learning more, please contact me at [email protected]. Continued on page 4

March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 3 SHaBBaT eVenIngWOrSHIP WITH raBBI FrISHman

Shabbat services are reflective yet joyous, a true renewal of Saturday, March 28 the spirit. You may come in tired, but you’ll walk away renewed Shabbat Inside Out – Kavanah Kids, Junior Congregation, and revived. It’s a promise! All ages are welcome, and dress Shabbat Yoga, Torah Study is nice causal. And we have the best Oneg Shabbat desserts 10 am Service, Bar Mitzvah of Justin Garland — check out the chocolate caramel pretzels! Friday, April 3 On the first Friday, the 7 pm service is followed by a Potluck Supper. 1st Passover Seder – No Service

Friday, March 6 Friday, April 10 7 pm Service 7:30 pm Yizkor 8 pm Potluck Supper 8 pm Service

Saturday, March 7 Saturday, April 11 9:30 am Torah Study, Ki Tissa 9:30 am Torah Study 10 am Service, Bat Mitzvah of Jessica Demsky Friday, April 17 Friday, March 13 5:30 pm Tot Shabbat and Pizza Dinner 8 pm Service 8 pm Service

Saturday, March 14 Saturday, April 18 10 am Service, Bat Mitzvah of Amy Zage 10 am Service, Bar Mitzvah of Justin Giberson

Friday, March 20 Friday, April 24 5:30 pm Tot Shabbat and Pizza Dinner Shabbat Inside Out – no Shabbat Service 8 pm Service Saturday, April 25 Saturday, March 21 Shabbat Inside Out – Kavanah Kids, Junior Congregation, 10 am Service, Bar Mitzvah of Andrew Pressman Shabbat Yoga, Torah Study 10 am Service, B’not Mitzvah of Danielle Steiner Friday, March 27 Shabbat Inside Out – no Shabbat Service Bat Mitzvah of Rachel Yeshion

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Our goal in this issue of The Barnert Magazine is to Do you know a Barnert provide you with deeper knowledge and perspective, tools and Temple member who opportunities for strengthening our partnership with Israel. is ill? In need of sustenance? I support all of these opportunities for engagement, because Help us I think each allows positive support of Israel’s future. help them! I want and need you to be involved In Israel’s future! Contact And as always, I welcome your questions and com- Helen M. in the ments, your participation and support. Temple Office at (201) 848-1800 or [email protected]. L’shalom, yours towards peace, Rabbi Elyse Frishman

4 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine A Message from the President Personal Connections to Israel – Welcome Noa

s American Reform when she comes back. For our part, I’ve personally guaran- Jews, Israel plays a dual teed that the weather will be much more agreeable when she Arole in our minds. We comes here next time (she was a good sport and did not make strong spiritual connections seem bothered a bit by our frozen tundra). to ancient Israel through our As for the icing on the cake, it turns out that Noa and prayers and our study of Torah. I share similar political values and were at the very same event We stay connected to modern a year ago November when I went to Israel to participate in Israel through our visits, our ties the Women of the Wall’s 25th Anniversary gala and prayer to friends and family who may session at the Western Wall. I wrote about this experience live there, the news media and last year — a thousand women from this country and Israel our support of Israel, whether gathering together to pray, wearing tallit, in defiance of the it’s as simple as planting a tree in memory of a loved one or ultra-Orthodox rabbis who control access to the wall and making larger donations to causes close to our hearts. And of insist on treating women as second class citizens. Noa eagerly course, our concern for the safety and well-being of all scanned through my pictures from that event and Israelis knows no bounds these days. For me and pointed out her friends. Although I don’t have a Leonard, though, we have few personal connec- picture of her from that time, she identified her tions to Israel — no family there at all, no close tallit being held aloft in the exuberant crowd. lifelong friends — until now. (Our children, We were there together in a common cause and Becca and Ethan, however, have been fortunate now fate has drawn us together again — how to have made their own connections to Israelis extraordinary! I told her of Rabbi Frishman’s through their travels with NFTY and their sum- experience at the Wall the year before when she mer experiences at Camp Eisner.) was detained and made headlines in the New Last month my family was able to deepen York Times. Noa was there too, and could not our personal connection to Israel by welcoming a have imagined then that she and Rabbi Frishman new friend from Israel into our lives. Barnert was asked would end up as teacher and student, as rabbinical col- to participate in a new program with the Jerusalem cam- leagues, as mentor and friend. It is a small world indeed! pus of HUC (Hebrew Union College) in which an Israeli We have a few wonderful opportunities coming up rabbinical student would come here to the States to learn in the next few months to help deepen our understanding about American Reform synagogues. My family,together with and connections to Israel. On March 29, Senator Bob Alice Heffner and Alan Lieber, eagerly agreed to co-host a Menendez will come to Barnert and share with us his insight student, who would then spend two weeks shadowing Rabbi into Middle East affairs and how this relates to Israel. And Frishman, attending all of her meetings, classes, services and on Sunday April 19 the Executive Director of Women of the programs. On a very cold and icy Wednesday a few weeks Wall, Lesley Sachs, will speak to us about the struggle for ago, Noa Mazor landed here from Jerusalem. Noa is one of women’s rights and pluralism in Israel. I hope you’ll join me those people who takes no time at all to warm up to. She’s and Len at these programs — both will be extraordinary. bright and fun and insightful and easy-going. We connected (By the way, we’re looking for a few more volunteers instantly. While the purpose of her visit was for her to learn to help coordinate these wonderful events. Send me an E-mail about us, we were able to learn about her and to be inspired at [email protected] if you can help out. Not much by her teachings. At Shabbat worship on Friday, February 13, time is needed, and especially if you haven’t had a chance to she participated in the service by presenting the d’var and by get involved in a committee here at Barnert, this might be an co-teaching a new song with Vlad Lappin. If you missed the easy way to start!) service, you can find it on our website in the archived live- Spring is right around the corner! Stay warm, stay streaming services. And even better — Noa will be joining safe and I look forward to seeing you around Barnert! us again in the Fall for a few weeks. I hope you’ll have an opportunity to meet her and to join her at Shabbat Services —Kathy Hecht

March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 5 A Message from Sara Losch Much More Than the Blue Pushka Box

he most effective riculum. Of course, traveling to Israel is the single most suc- way to learn about cessful method of realizing these goals. Yet, the vast majority Tany subject is to do of Jews are not having this experience. so through experiential Only a generation ago, it was common for many families methods. A goal of our Reli- to travel to Israel as part of a Temple trip with the Rabbi, or as gious School curriculum is to a Bar/t Mitzvah celebration. As they did then, today’s students have students learn that Torah still look forward to peer-teen experiences with their sleep- teaches us that we must pro- away camps (especially the Reform camps: Eisner, Crane Lake tect animals (tzar baalei chayim). and Harlam), on high school semesters abroad through EIE, Students are more likely to and as college students on free ten-day trips to Israel through retain the lesson if they are Taglit-Birthright. (Ask us for more information on all of actually caring for classroom pets and visiting a farm. Though these programs.) we do have animals in the school, our My fantasy is to fill a plane with Mitzvah Mall brings to life many Barnert families and travel through of our mitzvot as students meet eretz Yisrael—the land of Israel— people whose days are spent experiencing the people, walking caring for animals, feeding the the stones of history, studying in the hungry (ma’achil r’evim), or places we read about in Torah, honoring the elderly (kibbud meeting Israeli entrepreneurs, z’kaynim). Over the years, we eating Israeli food (!!). My life have proven that the Mitzvah Mall changed in so many ways every time experience too is educationally I went to Israel. I was different each effective, as students retain pieces time. Israel was different each time. of the experience for years. I am hungry to go back, to go home. A fundamental aspect of a It does not need to be a fantasy. healthy Jewish identity is a relation- Rabbi Frishman is planning a ship to Israel as the historical homeland and the spiritual inheri- congregational trip in 2016. Interested? E-mail her at tance of the Jewish people. A fundamental aspect of a healthy [email protected]. Reform Jewish identity is a commitment to advancing the Wishing you a “zeesen Pesach”—a sweet Passover. cause of religious pluralism within the modern State of Is- rael. These goals, too, are part of our Religious School cur- —Sara Losch, Director of Lifelong Learning

NeTwOrkINg Upcoming Meetings

The Temple Community Network is a professional networking Our Networking group will meet on the following days: group targeted at helping the job search needs of members Monday, March 23 of the community. It is a joint project of Barnert Temple, Monday, April 27 Temple Beth Rishon, Temple Beth Or and Beth Haverim Shir For more information, please Shalom. Everyone is welcome at the group’s meetings, in- contact me at cluding both those searching for a job who are transitioning [email protected] and those already in a position. The meetings are designed or (201) 247-0863. to be warm, inclusive and informative. Doors open for net- working at 6:30 pm and any programming starts at 7 pm. —Bob Levin

6 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine REGISTER FOR CAMP BARNERT! We invite parents or grandparents who have children between 15 months and six years old to consider its camp program for the summer of 2015. Camp Barnert offers activities to meet the needs and interests of every camper: nature exploration, sports, gardening, crafts, cooking and special programs. The starting date is June 22 and ending date of August 21.

For older campers there are swimming lessons twice a week at a local lake. Pioneers (ages 5 and 6) will enjoy activities that focus on STEM — explorations in math and science. Camp Barnert offers a full-day option until 3 pm or a half-day option until 1 pm for campers Monday through Friday. Weekly special programs such as a petting zoo, magician and nature presentations all add to the joy of camp!

Camp Barnert’s schedule is designed to be flexible and convenient for families who can choose from four to nine week sessions. This provides enough time for children to make friends, lend continuity and still have lots of time for families to enjoy a vacation together.”

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March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 7 Bar/BaT mITzVaH PrOFILeS

AMY ZAGE out them, I would be falling collected money for the Spe- spired me. I can’t wait to March 14, 2015 behind and seriously strug- cial Olympics. I will be do- become a bar mitzvah and gling with my Hebrew, and I nating a portion of my bar share this amazing event with My name is Amy Zage, and I am extremely happy and mitzvah gifts to the Special my family and friends. am in the seventh grade. I grateful that they are here Olympics. I chose this charity live with my mom, dad, my today to help me. I would because it gives all people a JUSTIN GIBERSON older brother named Michael, also like to thank my parents chance to compete in all April 18, 2015 and my older sister named and my whole extended fam- sports they love. Allison. In my free time I like ily for this stressful time and Hi, my name is my name is to play basketball, tennis, supporting me one-hundred JUSTIN GARLAND Justin Giberson and I am in playing with my dog, Marlie, percent the whole time! I am March 28, 2015 the 7th grade. I enjoy playing and hang out with my friends. so excited. I can’t wait to be- baseball, tennis, basketball come a bat mitzvah and to Hi, my name is Justin Garland. and many other sports. For my Mitzvah Project, I am have an extremely fun cele- I am in 7th grade. I like to collecting and donating items bration afterwards! play sports, hike, camp, being I have a love of reading from the wish list for the Fam- outside and playing with my which is what inspired me to ily Promise Shelter in Ridge- ANDREW PRESSMAN friends. I play football, bas- do the collection that I chose wood. I have been visiting the March 21, 2015 ketball and lacrosse, but my for my bar mitzvah. I am shelter a lot for at the past favorite sport is basketball. collecting books for the St. year and really enjoy my time My name is Andrew Aaron Every year my family and I go Joseph’s Hospital in Paterson, there. I play with the smaller Pressman. I live with my par- to Acadia National Park, Maine. New Jersey. I will read any children while their moms ents, sister, Lindsay, and dog, My family is my sister Rachel good book that I can get my make phone calls to try to se- Rosie. I am 13 years old and and my brother Daniel, Mom hands on and enjoy getting cure employment and other in the seventh grade. My and Dad, and my dog, Acadia, lost in a good book. I hope to necessities, mainly housing favorite things to do are play yes, named after the national pass along books and the love possibilities. These families soccer, lacrosse, golf and ski. park. of reading to the children are having a very difficult time When I am not playing sports, needing to be in the hospital. now, living temporarily in the I love to hang out with my This will be my 15th time va- shelter system, and I hope we friends. In the summer, I go cationing at a National Park. I would like to thank all the can all work together to help to sleepaway camp in Maine This is where the idea of my teachers, Helen Fleischmann, them gain their independence which I love. Mitzvah Projected began. Jennifer Katz-Goldstein, again. Their wish list consists When I was little I learned Morah Edith, Sara Losch, of gift cards to local food stores, For my Mitzvah Project, I have about “leave no trace” — ba- Rabbi Frishman, Rabbi Steiner, vacuum cleaners, flashlights continued the work that my sically, pick up after yourself. and all the others that helped with batteries and small elec- sister started. I collect un- For my Mitzvah Project, I me get to this day. Thank you tronics…. but mainly, these sold bagels, package them picked up trash after all my again for all that you did to families really need just basic and deliver them to CUMAC sporting events that other help me through it. daily supplies: soap, deodor- in Patterson, New Jersey. people left behind. I did this ant, toothpaste and tooth- CUMAC is a food pantry that around, bleachers, stands DANI STEINER brushes, diapers, shampoo, serves the needy in Passaic and sidelines. I hope other April 25, 2015 hair brushes, laundry deter- County. Since we have started people will follow my lead gent and general personal this project, we have donated and pick up after themselves My name is Dani Steiner and hygiene products. I have approximately 20,000 pounds or others if they see some- I am in 7th grade. I have a placed a large box outside of bagels to feed the people thing left behind. My family family with a mom, dad, and my front door to collect any of Passaic County. In addition, helped and supported me older sister named Sam. I and all donations to bring to we have donated clothes, throughout this process. enjoy playing sports and the Shelter. toys and books. At my bar hanging out with my friends. mitzvah, I will be collecting I would also like to thank I would like to thank Helen non-perishable food for Rabbi Frishman, Rabbi Steiner, For my Mitzvah Project, I Fleischmann, Morah Edith, CUMAC. CUMAC always and Cantor Bromberg for baked each week for the Rabbi Frishman, Rabbi Steiner needs more food to help the helping me to prepare for this Community Soup Kitchen in and all of the great teachers community. For the last five momentous event. I would Morristown, New Jersey. The who have helped me grown years instead of receiving also like to thank my family Soup Kitchen is open 365 days in my years at Barnet. With- gifts at Hanukah, I have who motivated me and in- Continued on page 9

8 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine Bar/BaT mITzVaH From page 8 aDuLT eDuCaTIOn: a year and serves lunch to sleep, food to eat and InD Our LaCe anyone that is in need. The clothes to wear, which I F Y P ! goodies I baked were given often take for granted. Torah Study, Saturdays at 9:30 am to people that could not March 7; April 11 afford daily meals. It was I have been part of the nice to see that people were Barnert Community since I Join Rabbi Steiner or Rabbi Soffin for an in-depth and enjoying the things that I was born. Then I became a highly engaging exploration of the Torah portion of the was baking. Preschooler and now I am a week. We begin with breakfast at 9:30 am (participants student and community take turns providing the food) and discussion at 10 am. I would like to thank all the member. I have learned the You will go home with much to think about and to share people from Barnert Temple importance of Judaism both as the words of Torah — and other supportive texts — but especially Rabbi Frish- to me and to my family and are brought to life. No experience necessary and new man, Rabbi Steiner, Morah continue to enjoy experienc- Edith, Cantor Bromberg and ing the traditions and sense friends are always welcome! Helen Fleischmann. With the of family at Barnert. I hope help of these people I was Barnert will always be part Talmud Study with Rabbi Joel Soffin, able to accomplish my bat of my life. Thursdays at 7:30 pm mitzvah. I would also like to March 5 and 26; April 16 and 30 thank my family for helping I would like to thank every- Join our modern day discussion of the Talmud. Learn me and taking me every- one who has helped me how to shop, talk, and think Jewishly. Look behind the where I needed to go. I can’t through the entire process wait to spend this day with of preparing for my bat mitz- scenes at the lives of real life rabbis and learn from all of my friends and family vah during the past 13 years. their triumphs and missteps. Most of all, enter into the that I love. Without them, I would not historic Jewish conversation and discover your own have had as much success Jewish soul. Be prepared to think differently as you RACHEL YESHION as I have had today. Thank engage in the world. As with our Torah classes, no April 25, 2015 you Sara Losch, Jessie experience necessary and new friends are always Losch, Morah Hannah, welcome! My name is Rachel Emma Morah Edith, Helen Fleis- Yeshion. I am a 7th grader. chmann, Rabbi Steiner and My parents are Felice and Rabbi Frishman. You have Israeli Film Series, Sundays at 7 pm Craig and I have two sisters all been a special part of March 29 and April 26 named Jordyn (16) and Aly this day. I would also like to There are amazing films coming out of Israel. This (8). I enjoy playing soccer, thank my parents for push- series will give us the opportunity to learn and explore basketball, and dancing. On ing me to practice more and more about Israeli culture including issues of daily life, a daily basis, I love to hang write my essays. Without Arab/Israeli issues and political issues. out with my friends and go them, I would definitely not to the movies. In the sum- be where I am today. I would mer, I love being at my home also like to thank my sisters, Adult Confirmation Class, Sundays at 9 am away from home… Camp Jordyn and Aly, for encour- March 15 and 29; April 12 and 19 Blue Ridge. aging me to finish every- Adult Confirmation offers you the opportunity to explore thing I needed to and who and affirm your Jewish identity with Rabbi Frishman! For my Mitzvah Project, I am stayed up listening to me We will study Jewish ethics, theology and theodicy volunteering at the Family practice my Torah portion. (is God dead?), rituals and holidays, prayer, living Promise Day Shelter in purposefully. You do not need to know Hebrew! Ridgewood, New Jersey. I enjoy spending time with the children and playing games The class will meet once or twice a month from with the families that go September through May, on Sunday mornings from there during the day. The 9 am to 10:30 am, breakfast included! You do not need people I have met there to have had a Bar/Bat Mitzvah to be confirmed. have taught me a lot. I am Please RSVP to Helen Milstein at learning to place more value [email protected]. on things like a place to

March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 9 Why your Vote Counts in the World Zionist organiZation eleCtions

Today, Israel is at a crossroads. Much is at stake when it The above situations all take place in the State of Israel. comes to women’s rights, freedom of worship, and peace Fortunately, we have strong voices advocating for Womens’ in the region. Rights, Gender Equality, and Religious Equality, through the Israel Court System and in the expansion of the Israeli Are you: Movement for Progressive (Reform) Judaism. As Reform Jews, we share a commitment to egalitarian • Used to being sent to the back of the worship, to a wide welcome to those who wish to embrace sex-segregated bus? Judaism, to K’lal Yisrael – the many voices of the Jewish people united as one. We work together to foster a Jewish • Ok with Reform synagogues, rabbis and peoplehood and state in which the ideals of pluralism, conversions not being recognized as legitimate? equality and peace help to secure prosperous, fulfilling Jewish lives for us all. And yet, the challenges of Jewish identity • In agreement that the Religious Ministry may and Women’s Rights that many experienced in the United determine the Jewish identity of you and your States are now a greater challenge in modern day Israel. descendents, and whether who you may marry? Your vote for in ARZA (Association of Reform Zionists in • In agreement the Western Wall should be America) in the World Zionist Organization’s Congress will accessible to all Jews? strengthen the voices for fairness in Israel. The WZO provides a forum for all the world’s Jews to come together and deliberate • A Jew by choice who has been told you aren’t about issues affecting all Jews and the state of affairs in Israel. really Jewish? The composition of the WZO Congress has both financial and policy implications in Israel, as resources are directed to • A Jew through patrilineal descent who has been recipients in Israel based on the power each party holds within questioned about your identity? the Congress, and the policy positions of those parties.

• Comfortable with signs in your neighborhood In short, these elections are the strongest way for American asking women to dress modestly? Reform Jews to promote and encourage the ideals of justice, equality and democracy in Israel itself and help build the • In agreement that women who don’t dress kind of Jewish state we all know is possible. Now is the to others’ standards deserve to be verbally and time to cast your Vote for ARZA in the WZO Elections! physically assaulted? Cast Your Vote Today for our Israel! hoW to Vote in the World Zionist eleCtion; Why arZa is the reform Vote to Cast

The requirements to register and vote are:

1. You must be Jewish 2. You must be 18 years or older by June 2015 3. You must be a resident of the United States 4. The registration cost* is $10.00 USD ($5.00 USD for those under age 30)

To get started, have a credit card or your PayPal information ready and go to www.reformjews4israel.org Continued on page 11

10 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine hoW to Vote in the World Zionist eleCtion; Why arZa is the reform Vote to Cast From page 10

Step 1 Scroll to the bottom of the page and click the “Register and Vote!” link.

Step 2 Complete all the required fields on the registration page (they are marked with a red star) and submit your registration fee* of either $10 or $5, depending on your age. The fee can be paid via credit card, eCheck or PayPal.

Step 3 Once registered you will be redirected to the voting page, click the “Vote Now” link.

Step 4 Click the checkbox for ARZA: Representing Reform Judaism which is #6 on the list of slates.

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Step 6 You’re all done! Now, share the good news on Facebook and Twitter, and tell your family and friends that you just voted. You will receive a confirmation of your vote in your e-mail. Thank you for helping us reach our goal of 100% from your Barnert Temple Community.

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12 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine Learn about IsraeL These three organizations: AIPAC, AJC and J Street have unique voices advocating for Israel. We invite you learn more about them, to find your voice about Israel.

AIPAC, The American Israel Public Affairs Committee1

The mission of AIPAC is to strengthen, protect and • AIPAC is a public affairs committee, which is a promote the U.S.-Israel lobbying group that advocates policies to the relationship in ways that Congress and Executive Branch of the United States. enhance the security of Israel and the United States. College students may also participate in AIPAC’s mission: Bi-partisan, non-denominational: AIPAC’s training programs teach students how to strengthen With the support of our members nationwide, AIPAC works the U.S.-Israel relationship through political involvement. with Democrats and Republicans in Congress and leaders On campuses across America — from Ivy League universi- in the Executive branch to protect and strengthen the U.S.- ties, to small liberal arts colleges, to historically Black and Israel friendship. AIPAC is not a particular Jewish denomi- Christian schools — AIPAC gives students the tools to find nation. AIPAC is for all Americans who appreciate the need their voices in support of a strong U.S.-Israel relationship. for Israel to exist in safety and security. Check out http://www.aipac.org/connect/students.

AIPAC empowers pro-Israel activists across all ages, Interested? religions and races to be politically engaged and build Reach AIPAC directly at (212) 750-4110 or [email protected]. relationships with members of Congress from both sides of The AIPAC Northeast Regional Office serves New York, the aisle to promote the U.S.-Israel relationship. The vital North New Jersey and Southern Connecticut. work of AIPAC is made possible by its dedicated membership You can also reach out to Rabbi Frishman at participating in AIPAC’s Clubs, investing with the AIPAC To- [email protected]. morrow Campaign, and being politically engaged with mem- bers of Congress. http://www.aipac.org/act/join-the-club.

AIPAC’s legislative agenda: AJC: The American Jewish Committee1 Congress has been a bedrock of support for the U.S.-Israel relationship by supporting aid, helping stop Iran’s pursuit of Who We Are a nuclear weapons capability, supporting Israel’s right to For more than a century, defend itself and reinforcing American policy that peace AJC has been the leading will only be achieved through direct negotiations. Below global Jewish advocacy are the current legislative priorities that will strengthen organization. With offices American and Israeli security and the bonds that unite across the United States these two allies. and around the globe, and partnerships with Jewish com- munities worldwide, AJC works to enhance the well-being AIPAC brings new legislators to Israel to educate them of of the Jewish people and to advance human rights and the need for supporting Israel’s security. AIPAC focuses on democratic values for all. building and sustaining strong relationships with members of Congress, advocating pro-Israel policies. What We Do • AIAPC is not a PAC (political action committee Global Diplomacy that raises and distributes money for the purpose Through high-level diplomatic meetings that leverage of electing or defeating political candidates).

1 All this information comes from the AIPAC website, http://www.aipac.org/. 1 http://www.ajc.org/ Continued on page 14

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long-standing relationships, AJC gains the support of J Street global decision-makers on our critical issues. Perhaps the most controversial change on the American Legislative Advocacy Jewish scene occurred in April 2008 with the entrance of Through local, regional, and national advocacy with J Street. For the first Members of Congress, AJC promotes domestic policies time, American Jews and legislation that support our global agenda. who supported Israel Interreligious and Intergroup Coalition Building but not the Israeli gov- Through establishing important local and global alliances ernment’s policies on among diverse ethnic and religious groups, AJC builds settlement expansion and the peace process found a voice. coalitions to advance issues of common concern. Yet, many American Jews expressed horror that J Street might air Israel’s dirty laundry publicly. J Street’s leadership Communications felt otherwise, certain that more and more American Jews were Through a global media presence, AJC generates being alienated, and wanted to be included in the dialogue. awareness and provides expert resources to promote our advocacy agenda. You don’t need to support J Street. But you may find that J Street speak for you. The American Jewish Committee works globally, and its We want you to find your voice in our shared support of Israel. agenda is broader than Israel-American relations. J Street Supports: Israel: To secure Israel as the democratic homeland for the Through close contact with world leaders, AJC advances Jewish people, living side by side with a Palestinian state. peace between Israel and its Arab neighbors, promotes Israel’s standing in the international arena, and strengthens • Draw the Line on Settlement Expansion. its ties with American Jewry. • Renew US Leadership to Achieve a Two-State Solution

For close to a decade, the notorious Boycott, Divestment • Refrain from Cutting Palestinian Aid and Sanctions (BDS) campaign has sought to delegitimize • Advance Human Security Israel as a pariah state. Proponents of BDS have long called • Reach a Negotiated Resolution to the Nuclear Crisis upon entities to boycott, divest from and sanction the Jewish with Iran state. Across the United States and around the world, AJC works diligently to expose the true, sinister nature of the • Advocate a Regional Approach movement. Learn more by exploring J Street’s website at jstreet.org. Learn more by going to ajc.org or contacting Jeff Himeles Contact them or Rabbi Frishman at rabbfrish@barnerttem- at [email protected] or Rabbi Frishman at ple.org if you’re interested in learning more or bringing [email protected]. J Street to Barnert for others to explore.

sIck? need a meaL, a rIde? We are Here forYou!! Your Barnert Temple Caring Community is here for you! When you’re struggling, let us help! We can provide: • A meal for you or someone in your family when there is an illness • A ride to the doctor or for medical treatment • A ride to Shabbat Services Contact Pam Himeles and the Barnert Caring Community will be there for you! (201-403-4536) or [email protected].

14 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine Barnert Temple Welcomes Senator Robert Menendez Sunday, March 29, 11 am “Israel, Iran, ISIS and American Foreign Policy in the Mideast”

Senator Robert Menendez is the Senior Senator from New Jersey. Formerly the Chairman and now the ranking Democrat on the Senate Foreign Relations Committee, he has a reputation as a fair and true friend of Israel. Join your Barnert Community for this meaningful and wide ranging conversation about American, Israel and the Iranian nuclear threat. RSVP: [email protected]

Barnert Temple Welcomes Lesley Sachs Executive Director, Women of the Wall Sunday, April 19, 9 – 11 am “Is Religious Pluralism Emerging in Israel?”

The Western Wall has become the greatest metaphor for the exclusion of women in the public sphere in Israel- grabbing national and international attention. Executive Director Lesley Sachs is a longtime advocate for social justice and women’s rights in Israel. Join your Barnert Community as we learn about the work of Women of the Wall, the leading advocates for the voice of women in Israeli society.

March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 15 Shabbat Inside Out: Friday Night Dinners There’s A Place For Everyone at the Shabbat Table! March 27 and 28; April 24 and 25

On the fourth Shabbat of each month, we continue to gather for Shabbat dinners with our Barnert Temple community at homes or in restaurants! You can choose to host a Shabbat dinner at your home, be part of Shabbat Dinner at a Barnert Temple congregant’s home, or join a Barnert Group at a local restaurant.

Hosting dinner means that you can invite your own guests, on your own, and organize your dinner as you like or leave the invitation list to us, and via the online survey sent out each month let us know how many people you are comfortable hosting.

If you’d like to be welcomed at a Host Home, or joining a Barnert Group at a restaurant, please fill out the survey that will be sent via E-mail the beginning of March and again in April.

Saturday Morning: There are Many Ways to Enjoy Shabbat!

Join Your Barnert Community on Shabbat Morning for Breakfast, Learning and Spiritual Connection. The schedule for March and April is as follows:

9:30 am: Breakfast in our Atrium 10 am: Junior Congregation and Kavanah Kids Babysitting Shabbat Yoga Torah Study 11:30 am: Light Kiddush

For more information, please contact Julie Good at [email protected].

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Blessing before Giving Tzedakah

Baruch atah Adonai, Eloheinu Melech haolam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu lirdof tzedek. We praise You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of the universe, who calls us to holiness through mitzvot, commanding us to pursue justice.

Candlelighting Blessing

Baruch atah Adonai, Eloheinu Melech haolam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu l’hadlik ner shel Shabbat.

We praise You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of the universe, who hallows us with mitzvot and commands us to kindle the light of Shabbat.

Blessing for Wine or Grape Juice

Baruch atah Adonai, Eloheinu Melech haolam, borei p’ri hagafen. We praise You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of the universe, Creator of the fruit of the vine.

Blessing Over Bread

Baruch atah Adonai, Eloheinu Melech haolam, hamotzi lechem min haaretz. We praise You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of the universe, who causes bread to come forth from the earth.

Blessing for All Children

Y’varech’cha Adonai v’yishm’recha. Ya-eir Adonai panav eilecha vichuneka. Yisa Adonai panav eilecha v’yascim l’cha shalom. May God bless you and keep you. May God look kindly upon you, and be gracious to you. May God reach out to you in tenderness, and give you peace.

March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 17 Israeli Film Series at Barnert March 29 at 7 PM in the Library Fill The Void Put aside what you think you know or don't know about the inner world of an orthodox Chassidic community in Tel Aviv, and let Rama Burshtein weave a story that is believable, engrossing, and rich with nuance and subtlety... the timeless themes found in a community which lives in the past, the excellent acting, direction and casting, will have you quickly absorbed in this terrific film. If you are looking to vent your critique or holier than thou judgments of Jewish Orthodoxy, you may feel a bit humbled by the humanity found behind the long dresses, black robes and covered heads. The portrayal of the rabbi is an especially tender reflection of some one who is indeed spiritual, in the most human sense. Winner of 7 Awards from the Israeli Film Academy including 2012 Best Film and Best Director.

Israeli Film Series at Barnert April 26 at 7 PM in the Library

Off White Lies

A different type of Israeli film. The film opens at Ben-Gurion Airport, where divorced and newly homeless Shaul is picking up his teenage daughter Libi whose mother has decided she needs to go live with her father. The film then follows the ironic, sad and humorous travels of Shaul and Libi. A bit like an Israeli Sideways (no wine country). It was nominated in 2011 for the best film by the Israel Film Academy.

18 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine The Faces of Mitzvah Mall 2015: Learning, Donating, Doing, AND Eating Pancakes!

The Barnert Temple community, family, friends and neighbors came out in record numbers on February 8 to learn about 10 carefully chosen grassroots organizations, the mitzvot they’re addressing and how to help. Charity volunteers recorded questions, comments and observations throughout the day. Team Tzedek hopes participants will keep these discussions going and continue looking for ways make a difference close to home and around the world.

How do you find the survivors? “ –Sage, 5th grade”

Why do they need money? “ –Aaron, 5th grade”

Do they watch Sponge Bob? “ –Austin, 4”

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What happens to the world when the elephants are extinct? “ –5th grader”

Where does the money that’s collected for the elephants go? “ – 4th grader” “ How do you free the children?”

20 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine The Faces of Mitzvah Mall 2015

“ How do they stay free?”

This organization does great stuff to help kids. –Clara,“ 10, to her grandmother” “ What is a veteran?”

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I would feel sad and lonely and the teddy bear would make me feel comfortable. “ –MK, 8, Ringwood”

I didn’t know women could be in the military. “ –3rd grader”

Why don’t they have a home when they get back? Why don’t they stay with their mom and dad? I’m never going to leave mine! “ –6½ year-old”

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March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 23 nOmInaTIng COmmITTee requeST

Do you feel the need to lead? Consider joining the Barnet have fresh insights and are always interested in new leaders Temple Board of Trustees. who will keep Barnert vital and inspirational. Thank you!

The 2015 Nominating Committee has begun work to prepare a Julie Good, Co-Chair [email protected] slate of Temple officers and members of the Board of Trustees Marty Kron, Co-Chair [email protected] and Advisory Board. If you have thought about stepping up to Lauren Cohen [email protected] leadership or feel that you have some fresh insights into the Rick Greenberg [email protected] running of Barnert Temple, please contact one of the com- Joan Lipkowitz [email protected] mittee members listed below to discuss how you can serve Mitchell Hausman [email protected] our Temple next year. Do you know someone who you think Rich Brookler [email protected] would be a great Temple leader? We’re happy to receive those Jennifer Sauer [email protected] recommendations as well. We welcome congregants who Seth Haubenstock [email protected]

BOOk CLuB March and April…

Time for a classic and we have her “a rich mine of life,” a beautiful heroic woman. chosen Willa Cather’s My Antonia. Seen through the eyes of a child- We will meet at my home in Wyckoff on Tuesday, March 24. hood friend, Jim Burden, Antonia RSVP to me at [email protected] or (201) 891-2509. is an amazing Bohemian immi- grant girl who works unceasingly All Temple members are welcome to join us. Where are all to help her parents wrest a living of you English majors? We meet evenings, from 8 to 10 pm from the untamed land which and the discussions are always inspiring. Coffee and pies these pioneers came to settle. are always delicious. Come join us. The adversity and hardships were intense, yet Antonia’s spirit —Benita Herman emerges undaunted. Jim finds

SuPPOrTYOur CarIng JFNNJ Good Deeds Day

COmmunITY Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey’s Good Deeds Day is March 15. An international day of caring Barnert Temple’s Caring Community, through the and sharing, Good Deeds Day in northern New Jersey Helen Lee Mitzvah Fund provides Temple members combines a telethon (9 am – 1:30 pm) with a food with cards, meals, gifts, visits, transportation and drive to help fill up local food pantries. Both are general mitzvot. This fund provides for those in times community-wide. Share in the spirit of the day! of need, as well as those celebrating joyous occasions. Don’t forget to answer the call in the morning and Want to be more involved in this work? bring your food (no glass, Offer your time to the Caring Community please or perishables) by contacting Pam Himeles at to Federation’s offices, 50 Eisenhower Drive [email protected]. in Paramus, in the afternoon by 1 pm. Remember: no good deed goes unnoticed!

24 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine Please join us for A WOMEN’S CELEBRATION OF PASSOVER

Gather as a comm unity of women to lift our voices in song and rejoicce as wwe are inspired by the story of Miriam. Spoonsored by Barnert Temple’s Women of Barnert

Wednesday, March 18 – 6:30 pm The Barnert Temple $24 per Person

DINNER IS POTLUCK Entrée – Side Dish – Dessert Kosher for Passover, Please Space is Limitedd–No Walk-ins – Your Check is Your Reservation n

Grandmothhers, Mothers, Daughters, Sisters, Aunts, Cousins, Nieces and Friends… All are welcome!

Send check by March 7 to Ilene Kandler, c/oo Barnert Temple, 747 Route 208 South, Franklin Lakes, NJ 07417 (518) 669­0811

Name: ______Phone Number: ______Number of People Attending: ______x $24 = Total Enclosed: $______$ Names of People Attending: ______I will be bringing a (dish): ______I can help with … Setup: _____ ClClean­up: _____

March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 25 DeCemBer 2014–JanuarY 2015 DOnaTIOnS

Associate Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund Jacob Cohn Library Fund In memory Of In memory Of Joan Cowlan Samuel Temkin Janet and Joel Bauer Bernice and Warren Bauer Reggie and Peter Gross Meyer P. Gross Joyce Unger Helen Lappin Mayer

In Honor Of In Honor Of Lucia and Josh Farber Thank You Rabbi Steiner Barbara and Steven Kiel Ronnie Levine

In Honor Of asher Jamie Steiner’s Birth Jed Haubenstock BarTY Fund Galinko Family Karen and James Dougherty Barbara and Steven Kiel Lisa and Seth Haubenstock Marilyn Schotz Trish and Mitchell Hausman Alice Heffner and Alan Lieber Barnert Temple Community Support Fund Rita and Marty Kron In memory Of Margaret Mulhern and Stephen Becker Beth and Joe Valenti Joseph Valenti Deborah Naroff Scott and Stephen Scott Arlene and Howard Lemelson Ida Lemelson Deborah Ungerleider and Richard Brookler Matilda Lemelson In memory Of Barnert Temple Endowment Fund Sara and Joe Dunn Gerda von Halle In memory Of Reggie and Peter Gross Martin Haubenstock Janet and Ted Lobsenz Ruth Slater Elizabeth, Larry, Meyer Lobsenz Amanda and Greg Resnick Gerda von Halle

David Nalven Memorial Youth Education Fund Kathie F. Williams’ TAG Scholarship Challenge Alice Heffner and Alan Lieber In memory Of Margaret Mulhern and Stephen Becker Joan Cowlan Sylvia Cohen Rami and Arthur Nalven Erica and Craig Fishman Iris Seligson Rochelle and David Lipson Adele Yamner In memory Of Karen and Darryl Weiss Gerda von Halle Roberta and Robert Meyers Florence Turner Gail White and Family B. I. Cohen Nalven-Krasnow Family Frieda Nalven Raymond Rose

Director of Lifelong Learning Discretionary Fund In Honor Of In memory Of Sandra and Paul Friedman Bobbie and Howie Lurie’s Ruth Sorkin Summers Edward Sorkin 60th Anniversary Rhonda and Don Mains’s Helen Lee Mitzvah Fund 60th Anniversary In memory Of Judy and Edward Gulko William Lee Lifelong Learning Fund Alexa, Jay, Jody, Janet and Jeffrey Lee In memory Of William Lee Toron/Troyanovski Family Sylvia Troyanovski

Interfaith Fund In Honor Of In memory Of Marcia Kestenbaum Jacques Ohayon Pamela and Scott Harper Jean M. Solvith Alice Heffner and Alan Lieber Continued on page 27

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Oneg Shabbat Fund Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund In memory Of Kaitlyn Frisch-Grossman and Matthew Grossman Stacey Rappaport and Craig Solomon Carol Weissman Lawrence Solomon Beth and Joseph Valenti Sandra Schwartz In memory Of Leonore Albert Adele Dresner In Honor Of Florence and Irwin Ames Philip Blachman Jayne and Alan Demsky Jessica’s Bat Mitzvah Carole and Pete Brodie Annabel Brodie Elizabeth Ellen and Robert Pressman Kathleen and Richard Cameron Theodore Lezon Andrew’s Bar Mitzvah Carol and Sam Cassell Frances Margaretten Beth Valenti Joseph’s Conversion Diane and Ed Curland Gerda von Halle Cindy and Steven Zage Amy’s Bat Mitzvah Dorothy Danziger Samuel R. Benjamin Jill Edelson Kenneth Edelson Prayer Book Fund Burton Edelson In memory Of Sylvia and Dick Ellin Seymour Hecht Benjamin/Howard Family Leon Howard Arnold Hecht Lenni and Robert Puritz Joseph G. Dorfman Susan and Robert Goldstein I. Howard Goldstein Gerda von Halle Julie and Jeff Kagan Louis Kagan Rita and Marty Kron Samuel Bakhash Preschool Teacher Appreciation Fund Stephanie Frank In Honor Of Lillian Carrol Cooper and Reese Fishman Addison Fader Rebecca and Andrew McKinnon Martin Kreston President’s Discretionary Fund Barbara Miller William Altshuler In memory Of Darlene and Alan Mintz Milton Mintz Trish and Mitch Hausman Shirley Hausman Barbara Sacks Theresa Kaplan Amy and Richard Sommer Martha Karig Pulpit Flower Fund Beatrice Scott Sommer In memory Of Bonnie and Richard Weiner Lori Weiner Dawn, Andy, Jessica and David Frankl Gail and Morris Yamner Sam Yamner Marilyn Elting Nalven and Krasnow Family Frieda Nalven In memory Of Harold Hecht Ronnie and Bob Powers Florence and Arthur Klein Elyse Hecht Stacey Rappaport and Craig Solomon Susan and Richard Kuller Lawrence Solomon Sara Levine Resnick Family Frank Levitt Frank Kahn In Honor Of Schotz Family Edward Schotz Florence and Irwin Ames Rabbi Frishman’s Recent Walder/Fiddle Family Danny Fiddle Birthday Birth of Sharon Isaacs’ In Honor Of Grandson Jayne and Alan Demsky Jessica’s Bat Mitzvah Sylvia and Dick Ellin Phyllis and Robert Steinfeld’s Elizabeth Ellen and Robert Pressman Grandson, Ethan’s, Bar Andrew’s Bar Mitzvah Mitzvah Cindy and Steven Zage Amy’s Bat Mitzvah Reggie and Peter Gross Rabbi Dan Freelander Continued on page 28

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Rabbi Martin Freedman URJ Camp Scholarship Fund In memory Of Cipora Schwartz Zvi Odentz Ruth Summers Louis Sorkin

In Honor Of Cipora Schwartz Olivia Pincus’ Bat Mitzvah

Social Action Fund Kaitlyn Frisch-Grossman and Matthew Grossman

In memory Of CUMAC Wish List Recipients Thank Barnert Temple! Ree and Dick Adler Joseph Dorfman Pictured above are some of the adorable children who received Gilbert Dorfman holiday gifts from Barnert Community Jill Edelson Walter Holdstein Trish and Mitch Hausman Shirley Hausman Fran and Bob Kaufmann James Gendimenico We HOnOr Bert Weil December 2014 – January 2015 Casualty List – Afghanistan Barbara and Steven Kiel Adele Lauber Staff Sergeant Matthew R. Ammerman Monroe Lauber Specialist Wyatt J. Martin Susan and Richard Nashel Beatrice Nashel Sergeant 1st Class Ramon S. Morris Total U.S. casualties in Afghanistan to date: 2,356 In Honor Of Mireille Schuck With Appreciation To Debbie Zlotowitz and Rick green TIP OF THe mOnTH Greenberg for organizing Don’t forget about our feathered friends! the Civil Rights Trip Help the birds get through snowy winters by providing Women Of Barnert housing, food and water. Many birds do not head south for In memory Of winter and spend time here year-round. Snowy winters make Barbara Sacks Louis Kaplan it that much harder for our birds to survive winter safely. Hang a couple of bird houses in your yard to give birds a Yahrzeit Fund warm, safe place to spend the winter. Fill feeders with seed In memory Of and you will provide the birds a good source of protein and Margie and Mike Buckweitz Joseph Buckweitz fat during the long winter months. Paula Schleimer People don’t often realize that birds need a fresh, clean source Judi and Gary Farber Irving Klein of water even during winter — a heated bird bath will help Alan C. Goldberg insure the birds have access to water all year round, especially Alan Kornfeld this time of year when it can be particularly hard to find. Dale and Philip Greenberg Barney Brawer Barbara and Allan Peller Nathan Peller Add these things to your yard and you will be amazed how many different species of birds you will attract — even Fred Roa Frederick Roa, Sr. during the cold, dark days of winter! Lynn and Rick Rosenfelt Doris Rosenfelt Mrs. Eleanor Doblin Unger Minnie R. and Nathan Doblin —Karen Dougherty

28 March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine marCH-aPrIL annIVerSarIeS

Howard and Jill Brechner Howard and Ruth Schack Jay and Deborah Breslow Daniel and Daryl Scher Mat and Alli Bruh Joseph and Ellen Silverman Chad and Dana Frank Jonathan and Judi Strauss Andy and Dawn Frankl Charlie Troyanovski and Daniel Freelander and Elyse Frishman Susan Toron Todd and Karen Galinko Joe and Beth Valenti Neil and Karen Hart Evan and Donna Wuhl Jim Judd and Ellen Benson Judd Bob and Carol Zurier Jeff and Julie Kagan William and Catherine Krame Marty and Rita Kron Theodore and Janet Lobsenz Craig and Katherine Lucas Debbi Strauss, MA, PD, LPC Licensed Professional Counselor Bruce and Jayne Mazie Certified School Psychologist Bob and Roberta Meyers Counseling for Children, Teens, David Miller and Rebecca Holland Miller Young Adults, and Parents Michael and Courtney Raff Psychological Evaluations

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March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 29 It’s a Gift! It’s Spending money!

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March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 31 CONGRATS Pave the way CONFIRMATION Individuals CLASS OF 2020 Family MAZEL TOV WE 0 YOU Community SUE & PETER GRANDMA SADIE HAPPY 50TH

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PURIM PURIM Study§ Talmud 7:30 pm 5 Preschool Celebration Purim 12 19 26 Chodesh^ Rosh 7 pm Study§ Talmud 7:30 pm

Wed Wed

School Religious 6:30 pm Seder of Barnert Women School Religious ofBarnert Women am 7:30 Workshop Tallit School Religious Purim 7:30 pm “Adult-Humored” Reading Megillah 4 PURIM EREV 11 18 25 School Religious Tue Tue Grade Ma’ayan Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade th th th th

Grade Ma’ayan Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade

th th th th th th School Religious 8 Election Israeli School Religious 8 School Religious 8 No School Religious 8 3 School Religious 8 No 10 17 24 31 9 Confirmation 9 Confirmation 9 Confirmation No 9 No Confirmation Rehearsal Purim 7:15 pm 9 No Confirmation Shelter Men’s

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Trustees of Board 8 pm 9 for Meeting 7 pm in Mitzvahs Bar/Bat 2016 April and March Networking 6:30 pm 16 23 30 Post Confirmation Committee Executive 8 pm 2 March 2015 2015 March 5775 Nisan - 11 5775 Adar 10

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Fill The The Void Fill Daylight Saving Time Begins Begins Time Saving Daylight School Religious am 9:30 Shpiel: Purim am 11:30 Achash-Beast” and the “Beauty Promise Family 8 15 School Religious Blood Drive 8:30 pm Confirmation Adult am 9 School Religious Club Men’s am 9 ofBarnert Women am 9 29 School No Religious Confirmation Adult am 9 Menendez Senator 11 am Series Film Israeli 7 pm 1 22 No Religious School School No Religious Force Task Governance am 9 Carnival Purim Preschool 10 am

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Sat Sat Shemini Tazria/Metzora

Seder Seder PASSOVER PASSOVER nd 25 Lev 9:1-11:47 9:1-11:47 Lev Shabbat Celebrate 10 am with us! B/M Giberson Justin 4 2 11 18 9:30 am Torah Study Torah Study am 9:30 Lev. 12:1-13:59 12:1-13:59 Lev. 14:1-15:33 Lev. Out: Inside Shabbat am 9:30 Kids, Kavanah Breakfast, Junior Congregation, Study Torah Yoga, Shabbat Shabbat Celebrate 10 am with us! B/M Steiner Danielle B/M Yeshion Rachel

7:24 pm 7:24 pm 7:31 pm 7:38 pm 7:46 pm

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Seder st 3 3 Begins Passover 1 10 PASSOVER 17 24 No Preschool No Preschool Office Closed Yizkor 7:30 pm Service Shabbat 8 pm No Preschool No Preschool Office Closes 1 pm and Tot Shabbat 5:30 pm Dinner Pizza Service Shabbat 8 pm Out Inside Shabbat

Thu Thu YOM HASHOAH YOM PASSOVER

YOM HA’ATZMAUT 2 9 16 23 30 Study§ Talmud 7:30 pm No Preschool No Preschool Club Men’s Dinner Passover Study§ Talmud 7:30 pm Bowling of Barnert Women

Wed Wed

YOM HAZIKARON HAZIKARON YOM PASSOVER

School Religious 15 School Religious Earth Day Earth Preschool/Kindergarten Preschool/Kindergarten Seder School Religious 1 8 22 29 No Preschool No Preschool School No Religious School Religious Tue Tue Grade Ma’ayan Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade th th

Grade Ma’ayan Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade Hashoah Yom Grade Ma’ayan Grade Ma’ayan Grade PASSOVER PASSOVER th th th th th th th 14 7 No Preschool School No Religious 8 No School Religious 8 21 School Religious 8 28 School Religious 7 9 Confirmation 9 Confirmation 8 9 Confirmation Shelter Men’s No 9 No No Confirmation

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PASSOVER April 2015 2015 April 5775 Iyar - 11 5775 Nisan 12 Networking 6:30 pm 27 Post Confirmation Trustees of Board 8 pm Torah: Purple Purple Torah: Blue Avodah: Green Hasidim: Gemilut 6 13 20 Chodesh^ Rosh 8:30 - pm 7 No Preschool No Preschool Confirmation No Post Committee Executive 8 pm * * * *

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PASSOVER Off White Lies White Off Rabbi Steiner’s Class Class Steiner’s Rabbi
§ Rabbi Soffin’s Class Class Soffin’s § Rabbi Class Losch’s ^ Sara Series: Film Israeli 7 pm No Religious School School No Religious Confirmation Adult am 9 9 am Women of the Wall: ofWall: the Women am 9 Sachs Lesley EASTER EASTER School No Religious School Religious Promise Family Club Men’s am 9 ofBarnert Women am 9 School Religious Confirmation Adult am 9 26


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March–April 2015 Barnert The Magazine 35 Congregation B’nai Jeshurun Nathan Barnert Memorial Temple 747 Route 208 South, Franklin Lakes, NJ 07417 www.barnerttemple.org

Rabbi Elyse Frishman [email protected] Rabbi Rachel Steiner [email protected] Vicky Farhi, Executive Director...... (201) 848-1800 [email protected] Sara Losch, Director of Lifelong Learning ...... (201) 848-1027 [email protected] Preschool and Religious School Office ...... (201) 848-1027 [email protected] Mt. Nebo Cemetery ...... (973) 373-0144 Sanford B. Epstein Inc.

Mark Your Calendars

Wednesday, March 3 Friday, March 20 Thursday, April 16 ereV PurIm Tot Shabbat and Pizza Dinner YOm HaSHOaH Purim “adult-Humored” megillah 5:30 pm (Holocaust remembrance Day) reading 7:30 pm Friday, March 27 – Saturday, March 28 Friday, April 17 Thursday, March 4 Shabbat Inside Out Tot Shabbat and Pizza Dinner PurIm 5:30 pm Sunday, March 29 Friday, March 6 Senator menendez Speaking 11 am Sunday, April 19 Shabbat Service and Potluck Supper Israel Film Series: Fill TheVoid 7 pm Women of the Wall: Lesley Sachs 7 pm 9 am Friday, April 3 Sunday, March 8 Passover Begins Thursday, April 20 Purim Shpiel: “Beauty and the 1st Seder rosh Chodesh 7 pm achash-Beast” 11:30 am no Preschool Temple Office Closes 1 pm Friday, April 24 – Saturday, April 25 Sunday, March 15 Shabbat Inside Out Blood Drive Thursday, April 9 men’s Club Passover Dinner Sunday, March 29 Wednesday, March 18 Israel Film Series: Off White Lies Women Of Barnert Seder 6:30 pm Friday, April 10 7 pm 7th Day PaSSOVer Thursday, March 19 no Preschool rosh Chodesh 7 pm Office Closed Yizkor 7:30 pm