LOCAL NEWSBRIEFS Court says Topfree legal By Susan Jordan New York State's highest court dismissed charges on July 7 against Ramona Santorelli and Mary Lou Schloss, rwo of the seven Ibp free activists arrested in 1986 for taking their shirts off as a protest against what they say is a law discriminating against women. The other women arrested in 1986 did not pur sue their cases in court. The Court of Appeals said that the law banning public exposure of women's breasts "should not be applied to the noncommer cial, perhaps accidental, and cerulnly not lewd, exposure alleged.*' However, the court did not declare thc 1983 law unconstitu tional, in spite of the fact that two of the six judges criticized the decision, saying that the statute should be ruled unconstitutional. Mary Lou Schloss said, "I am disappointed that they didn't deal with the constitutional challenge. The unanimous decision was only three pages long, and Judge Utone wrote a lengthy 11-page treatise, signed also by another of the judges, making it clear that chey tiiink the law should be declared unconstitutional. "However," Schloss said, "the decision does clearly legalize the type of exposure />l'tea on bates immd oJBf ihe Jburih annmU PHOe BaraOm. Mare om pages 6-7. Pboto tfy ElUn Mabaffy we've been working for: women in New York can now take their shirts olf in a natural selling." When asked about thc thrcat by a legislator to restore a law banning topfree ac tivicy, excepc Ibr ttresistfccding suul' 'eoplcss' * dancing for male entertainment, Schloss 300 march in Pride Parade '92 said, "So-called 'topless' entertainment has been legal from day one, and that's what's so ironic lo thc women who have been in By Susan Jordan America/Peace and Justice Education Center Benet said, "Wf can disagree about issues volved in this. Legally we could always have (ROCLA/PJEC). but we can't pcrM>nalize them. I don't know been paid to dance in a sexually provocative As thc line of march for thc fourth annual Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual Pride Parade turn Jo Cummings and Laurie IWilight supplied if wc will have a solution to Morin-Ryan, but way for men's entertainment, but women spirited accompaniment on drum and tam a there is a solution, it will be because dif haven't been free to take off our tops for owr ed thc comer at Culver Rd. on June 27, those who looked back could sec over 300 mar bourine. Political supporteis included Rep. ferent people have come together. I want to own comfort. That's what's so ludicrous. chers filling Park Ave. with colorful banners Bill Benet and Rep. Nan Jolmson of the thank thc gay community for teaching mc "1 anticipated a backlash,' Schloss added. and signs. Monroe County Legislature, City Coun that." "There always is when women demand cilmembers Tim Mains and Gary Muldoon, Tim Mains bounced onto the stage and an rights or freedoms, because we do live in a This year there was no anti-gay presence, and Cathy Smith. nounced, "VMrll, City Council's here, and patriarchy. Most men would be happy keep or any form of opposition or harassment. In he's queer!" Mains said on a more serious stead, there was a sense of fun and soUdari The rally took place at Lalce Riley in Cobi>s ing women's bodies scxualized and keeping Hill Park. Performers included singer Marty note that he had just come from thc women as objects." ty among thc marchers, many of whom wav ed purple triangles on ribbon-trimmed Brown, poet Eddie Swayze, singer-guitarist memorial service for Vemon Molefe, a South Santorelli and Schloss were also arrested sticks, provided by Rosemary Hillatd and her Rose Houston, and singers Joarme Casey and African student and activist, who was with 10 other women in 1989 at a Topfree anistic crew. Kathryn Maclntyre. Thc fuial performer was dedicated to the cause of fireedcmi, and who, picnic at Durand Eastman beach. Those con Brenda Bea, who did seveial songs, and was after esoq>ing the violence of s^xurtheid, had victions were thrown out in November by A delegation of eight "Dykes on Bikes" joined by a friend, Linell, for the final been shot here in Rochester while working Monroe County Court Judge Patricia Marks. led off the parade; leadership by women number as a cab driver Mains said that, despite the motorcycle groups has become a national On July 19, around 20 topfree women Lori Matocha rcad a poem about "people great differences between the two struggles, tradition. Oiganizations and afRnity groups marched to the Canadian border on the in under seige,' which she dedicated to lesbian, he had been struck by "how much Wmon followed, including Dignitylntegrity, ternational Peace Bridge over thc Ni^ara gay and bisexual prisoners. She accused had in common with us. We're going to Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays the River, to protest Canadian laws forbidding Geoige Bush and greedy pharmaceutical stand up and be visible and prevail over Fitst Uniurian Church Lesbian, Gay and women from barir^ their chests. There were companies of genocide, saying that for peo homophobia." Bisexual Concems Tlwk Force, Open Arms no arrests. Some men took off their own ple with notiting left to lose, "death has lost Janet Schaeffer of Albany, upstate Metropolitan Community Church, llie Gay shirts in support, but hundreds of ochers its immobilizing grip'' organizer for the 1993 March on Alliance of thc Genesee \Wlcy, Rochester harassed the women. Rep. Bill Benet, a longtime supporter of Washington, uiged the crowd to get involv Gay Sutnmer Theater, Come Out and Play 'R^>frce protests were held in scveial Cana gay rights, spoke atxnit what the gay and les ed in piaimif^ for tbe march. ^^Hch she sajd (COAP), the Rochester Lesbian and Gay dian cities over the weekend; six women bian movement has taught hira. He said that would taice over Washington D.C., "from thc Political Caucus (with a float of a voting weie afficstcd for going topfree tn VE^tterioo, at that tnoment he was trying to save the erect U^hington Monumem to thc breast- booth), AIDS Rochestet; a Banana Boys (AIDS Ontario, on July 18. Morin-Ryan plan allotting fiinds to the City, like Capitol." education) vehicle, thc Bisexuai ^(bmen's Rochester's Ibpfree Coalition will hold a which is being terminated by Republican Network, and a banner proclaiming "Queer celebfatory potluck brunch at 11 a.m. on County Execudve Bob King in response to Pride Americas," carried by members of the Aug. 2 near the upper reservoir at CoblM HiU thc Democratic Party's iclusai to back King's Rochester Committee on Latin Park, followed by a trip to Durand Eastman sales tax. coAtilnnied oti Page 6 beach* Thc vktory cdebiations will be held at the aiscs of former arrests. ^Bilking Topfree Picnickifig Commenting on culture :4)l Censors at WXXI in the park WXXI-TV. whkJi has reftMtd to air the gay pftDgiani "In thc Lifie." also nun thc most heavily edited venion of Magtmrpif Tb$it$ar** ''Poniaii of a Marriage,** an ac count ofthe mafrtagc between agay man and a leaUan, which was shown in July. "Ffortfait of a Aterriagc" deacrtt>cs thc ef fect on the marritiac td writcis Harold NIcholMMi and \^ SackriilcinMt when \ta caiMAdei8 lonrtat Harold for her Ufelont lover Violet'BclMs. The plajr was based on a book written hf die cooplc's son. The MiBc BfOadcasdiit Syisan i^fc local id-tf. MKC tlM cipttoo of funalRi tbe fiill ver- bfT Ctmkme^ Pboto by Doug Mtsxhr itt 1999. *MM* ki T 1 ^^ i) I !lliill!Hli(!l!l!l]! Tbe Empty Closet- August. 1992. At4^t, mi' m'Mmpiy diciH' 3 State and local news
WAXI Continued from Fs^e 1 goal to that of thc Gay Alliance, as stated in gay rights movement, and that affects me. Tim Mains said, "A lot of tiincs thc elec-* does not have the same force of law as a Having said this, and being one of the con- * sion, which shows romantic and sexual the GAGV Articles of Incorporation. Union contract, this too is a step in the right servative gays Ms. Jordan refers to, I would I reject the idea that everything that Thc GAGV's mission is "to support the tonte faces thc choice of the lesser of two Union fights for manifests itself within the gay community, scenes between the two women, or a cen direction. like to put a different slant on some of the sored version. WXXI-TV chose the censored eradication of homophobia, thc delivery of evils. W(r have three good candidates, and wc Our Union's efforts to convince thc points made in her column. This is not is good for the gay community. Each of us version. unbiased health care, employmem protec have the chance to support the best of the gay rights Volunteers of America Adult Care Facility, meant to be a criticism of her opinions. has to have responsibility to speak out tion, social integration, full legal rights and three. Liz can confront DAmato point by Rather, it Isinerely to show another side of against those things that we believe adverse Anyone wishing to express criticism ofthe point; her record in Congress and as New Tb the Editor: our only en^loyer who has not agreed, have station's actions in lelation to eitiicr program protection, personal and financial security 1 am writing to update your readers on a so far proved fruitless. VQA not only refuses the important issues she raises. ly affea us as a whole, or as individuals, lb for all." 1ft>rk City Comptroller is impeccable." not do so, for fear of offending someone or should caU Elizabeth M. Iball, WXXI public significant breakthrough in our Union's ef to include a ban on discrimination based on First of all, the complaints of censorship If that requiremem is met, the oiganiza Nancy Padilla said, "I support Holtzman for any other reason, contributes to our own rclations director, at 325-7500. Gay and les because of her progressive platform; her forts to prohibit discriinination on thc basis sexual orientation, it refuses to ban handicaq> of gay art is somewhat of a smokescreen. bian viewers can also show their disapproval tion must supply the GAGV with stamped, The real complaint is a lack of federal fun oppression. sund is especially important to the Latino of sexual orientation and sexual preference. bias as well. Both issues are of major con of this censorship by refusing to donate stuffed, scaled envelopes witb their retum Strong Memorial Hospital has agreed to cem to the Union. W? are still fighting the ding for gay art. I am aware of the problems I do not view the gay rights movement as address. Upon receiving these envelopes, the and African American communities.** with thc National Endowment for the Arts an all or nothing process, ^«fe owe it to money to WXXI fund appeals in future. David Gantt said that the key is not what amend the Union contract's **No Discrimina VOA on these issues, as the 1992 negotia -Some information from John J. O'Connor, Membership Chairpcison wiil run off labels tion" clause by adding "sexual orientation" tions arc still in progress at this date. and with the antics of Jesse Helms, but I ourselves to have priorities and to take ac of the membership list and affix to envelopes candidates promise, but what they have done tions that will provide the most benefit to New }fnie Times, and the Democrat and in the past. "Liz has a good record in the to the list of biases prohiNted at the I believe that our struggle to ban won't discuss them here, lb do so skirts the Chronicle with the help of the executive committee of workplace. The new Union contract, which discrimination through a Union contract, a real issue. The federal government should the most people in the shortest amount of the GAGV. Committee members will then civil rights movement and on womens was approved by the Union's Stiong Ho^tal so-called collective baigaining agreement, is not be in the business of funding any Idnd time. Thc rights that benefit the fewest, uke the envelopes to the Post Office to be issues, and has spoken out for gay and les memberhip, was effective as of May 31, vitally important given the state of legisla of art in the first place. should have the lowest priority and they Threat to Camp mailed. bian rights," he said. 1992. It covers over 800 employees. tion in our nation and our state. Efforts to- Wc are a capitalist society. Artists should should be the ones to icad their own fight. This procedure wiil enable mailings to be When asked what makes her the best of The clause rcads as follows: "Neither tbe ban discrimination on the basis of sexual succeed or fadl based on their own talent. If NAMBLA should be given no cotisideration Good Days sent without threatening confidentiality. the three candidates to oppose DAmato, tix Holtzman. Pboto by Doug Meszler tmder any circumstances and should be con* Camp Good Days and S|>ecial Times, a Holtzman said, "I have the strength to uke Hospital nor tbe Union shall discriminate orientation have failed at the national level their art is good (regardless of whether it is GAGV members can ask not to receive such not prepared to compromise on women's against or in favor of any Employee on ac gay or not), people will buy it. If it is bad, demned by everyone whenever passible un Branchport camp for children with cancer mailings at any time before November on DAmato, people know they can respect in the face of the right wing's control of the til they do not exist. rights, human rights, civil rights. You don't count of race, color, creed, national origin, Federal govemment. Recent Federal ad people won't buy k. Censorship does not and people with AIDS, is currently being me, and could respect me when I was in threatened by local residents, whose concem Congrcss, and my whole effort over the compromise on bottom line issues." politicat ttelief, sex, age, handicap, marital ministrations have gutted the enforcement play a pan in this scenario, it is a simple tnat C HT^iyne Ferren When asked if she felt the trend towaid ter of supply and demand. Ed. note: 1 wiil attempt to reply to only for property values and ignorance about Local coalition years has been to bring people together to status, sexual orientation, and Vietnam era of no discrimination laws that are on the fight bigotry and prejudice of all kinds. increasing the numbers of women in Con or disabled veteran status'' -Article IV, Col books; while a conservative Federal judiciary In another point, Ms. Jordan seems to im one of tbe many points raised by C J^yne AIDS may cause the camp to close. Tm thc only candidate who's creating gress, especially the Senate, would transform lective Bargaining Agreement between increasingly weakens the legal foundations ply that simply because it was a group of Ferron. Most artists and art-lovers would Neighboz? of the camp are apparently op backs Holtzman thc traditional * 'old boys' network,' * District 1199-Rochester, ficMipital & Healtb of such laws. queens that threw rocks at Stonewall, we not agree tbat the fetleral governmem posed to the presence of people with AIDS, jobs right now, and making tax dollars go as By Susan Jordan- far as possible to meet peoples needs. I can Holtzman said, "Its not just having women. Care Employees Union and Strong At the state level, legislative initiatives have should have some Itind of s[>ecial regard for should not fund tbe arts. Experimental art or those who are HIV positive. Gary Mervis, Elizabeth Holtzman, one of three it's who the women arc. Vfe need women the "different" people in the gay community does not find a wide market, no matter how who founded the camp in 1980 when his do thc job of putting New Yorkers back to Memorial Hospital/University of Rocbester had limited success in certain public scfrtor Democratic candidates for U.S. Senate, held work." She said that she continues to feel with guts, character and courage to take on Medical Center jurisdictions, but have had little impact in today. What if it had been the boys from "good" it may be, tiecause it extends our daughter Teddi was diagnosed with a a press conference in Rochester on July 22 that vinually all-male bastion and change it. North American Man-Boy Love Association preconceived ideas of wbat is ' 'good," and cancerous brain tumor, said. "You can't committed to women's rights, including Our union's efforts to bar discrimination the private sector. And recent budget cuts to announce support for her candidacy by choice, and to civil rights for thc gay. Latino. Thc two women cunentiy in the Senate on the grounds of sexual orientation and sex have overioaded thc State Division of Human (NAMBLA) that had started thc riot? WDUld establishes new ways of seeing and think discriminate against people for a disease. It's a broad coalition of Rochester-area groups went along with the nominees to thc ing which society as a whole has not yet at just wrong. It would be a tragedy if thc town African American and other oppressed ual preference began in 1988. In that year, Rights' ability to investigate and prosecute I then be expected to be especially grateful and individuals. communities. Supreme Coun, for example." thc Union made its ftist comract demand in cases. to that group today? I don't think so. tained. In tbe past, artists whose work was in some way were to try to prevent the camp ahead ofits time either fbund an enlighten from doing AIDS programs. They can't dic Holtzman is competing with Sute At To thc observation that Bush sSd Quayle volving the issue. The employer was Conti In the face of these circumstances, a I have a great deal of respect for the peo torney General Robert Abrams and former Asked about Geraldine Ferraro's greater ed patron (an early version ofthe NEA) or tate to us what our programs should be." exposure at thc Democratic convention, have both recently atucked gay and lesbian nuing Developmental Services, Inc., a Fair- strategy based on workplace oiganizing ple involved in the Stonewall riots. At great vice-presidential candidate Geraldine Ferraro families, saying that they are not "real" would seem to be one of the most effective personal risk, they took a stand for what was starved. To reduce art to a mere commer Local residents have also ob|ectcd to the Holtzman replied, "I was on the podium just port based agency serving the developmen- cial product is indeed typical of a crass for the Democratic nomination for families, Holtzman observed, "They've at tally disabled. It agreed to add language to and potent tactics. Unlike civil complaints right. Whether they were queens or not is noise made by bands doing beneftt concerts as she was. New York voters will be thc ones capitalist society whicb values everything Republican Sen. Alfonse DAmato's seat. The who choose a senator, not thc Democratic ucked every family except their own. the contract, its first with thc Union, barr filed with courts or other government ^en- irrelevant. If it weren't the queens at for the children; the smell of horses and Rochester coalition supporting her includes There's a wide spectrum in this country. Thc Stonewall, the gay rights movement would inclnuiing human lives, solely ticcording to other animals kept to entertain the children, Party. Ferraro's isn't a liberal record, and I ing such discrimination. cies, which may wait months or even years the financial bottom line Assemblymemt>er David Gantt, City Coun real issue isn't structure as much as it is before moving forward, a union contract have begun with some other group of peo and the presence of drugs which the am prepared to debate with her anytime. I In 1990, the Union's Executive Board cilmembers Tim Mains, Nancy Padilla and have a much broader l>ase of support across whether it's a structure that supplies emo resolved to place language in each of our grievance is heard quickly. Unresolved ple at some other point in time. It was in if artists whose work is politically or sex children uke to combat their illnesses. V(^de Norwood, and Brighton Town Board- tional and financial support to its members. evitable that it would happen. -Jack Jones, Democrat and Chronicle the sute." contracts that barred discrimination on thc grievances may t>e submitted to binding ar ually controversial, and tbe venues that member Linda Goldstein. Padilla, Mains and "They (Bush and Quayle) don't like Mur grounds of sexual orientation and sexual bitration. The arbitrator's decision is en I also agree with Ms. Jordan that wc would ining tbeir art to tbe public, are not snip- Gantt wcrc also present at the press Holtzman later told the Empty Closet that phy Brown," Holtzman said. "They can't preference. Strong Memorial Hospital and forceable in State court in the event the all have the right to be ourselves and dress ported by federal funds (awarded by artist Mailing list conference. her campaign will begin a scries of TV ads even deal with fictional problems, much less the University of Rochester both refused to employer refuses to comply. Compared to as we choose. But you have to wonder how peers, not try politicians), tben nmny art "Thc chief issue," Holtzman said, *'is to which, among other things, will address the real problems. There are many single so amend their Union contracts. The issue thc civil system, thc grievance procedure is many people at gay pride parades arc actual works which might be hailed as great end DAmato's anti-choice, anti-civil rights, D'Amato's corruption issues. "That's why mothers and fathers oxxi there raising a speedier and much less costly way to fight ly being themselves and how many are vy achievements in the future, and whicb policy I'm a much better candidace than Ferraro." was debated at length in thc negotiations, ^ anti-environment incumbency. I am proud children." sometimes quite heatedly. Thc Hospital and discrimination. ing for thc tnost outrageous outfit priie. might ultimately contribute to greater Organizations wishing to use the Gay to have the support of so many prominent she said. "She has said she wi/I not raise tbe Holtzman said that Geraldine Ferraro had thc University did commit to review their Wc believe that our Union has made some Where do all of these people "being understanding and tolerance, will never be Alliance of the Genesee Valle>' mailing list members of the Rochester community sleaze issues; after all, he was thc one who voted with xhe "Moral Maioriiy" xo re- position during tlie term of thc 1990-92 con significant steps in thc fight to ban themselves" go when the parade is over? created, or if created, will never be seen. for a mailing must have a similar mission and Together we can defeat DAmato.** firet raised thc issue of her tax problems. You criminalizc sodomy in the District of Colum tract, and signed a letter of agreement to that discrinunation at work, and to ensure human Don't get me wrong, 1 see people in leather And conservatives are deliberately, need someone to uke him out on all issues, bia. "She said it was to strengthen rape systematically trying to silence gay and les effect. rights and human dignity. V(^ wanted to in various places and 1 sec women riding including sleaze. We have atucked and will laws," Holtzman said, "although c\'ery share this information with your readers in around on motorcycles. I'm sure the bian voices, in all areas of art and enter continue to atuck him for sleazy politics ' strong feminist across thc country opposed In December 1990. the Anthony L.Jordan tainment; tbe attempt to control tbe NEA Health Center agreed to add the language to thc hope of encouraging them to struggle for transsexuals and transvestites are around, but TJie Empty Closet noted that Ferraro lefus- it. I probably don't notice them because they is only part of their strategy. Tbis is, in fact, ed to come to Buffalo to confront Operation Tm very proud thar we have rhe strong its Union contract. There was no dispute in justice in their workplace. wbat censorship is all about. /^^ TONES POND T^ making the change there. As thc Reverend Jesse Jackson told us at blend in so well. These people reaily arc be Rescue, while Holtzman was present to take support of (openly gay gay NY Assem- ing themselves, and 1 salute them. This year, we once again demanded that our International Union's convention this V^ AMPGROUN U part in thc resisunce to thc anti-choice at blvmembers) Deborah Glick and Tom Strong Memorial add thc language to its year: "DIGNITY IS NOT NEGOTIABLE." But when was the last time you saw a man tempt to close clinics in that city. Holtzman Duane, and of Tim Mains. I've received Union contract. The Union was not satisfied Yours truly, in a prom dress or anyone on roller skates said. Her refusal to stand up to Operation tremendous support from lesbian and gay that the Hospital and the University had liv Bruce E. Popper with fairy wings, a magic wand and a bag Let's support Rescue raises the question, how do you groups. I'm proud of the coalition were ed up to their commitment. The promised President of glitter anywhere in public except at a gay know what shell sund up for after she's building of groups which have been victims review committee either did not meet, or at parade, at Halloween or Mardi Gras? You elected? of discrimination — gay and lesbian. Latino. least did not seek, any input from the Union don't even see this in gay bars. I challenge Bill Benet RD. #1, Box 214 • In 1984 she didnt want thc Equal Rights African American — that's the bottom line, and from employees. After some discussion, Conservative anyone to go to the "gayest" secdons of New lb the Editor: Amendment in the Democratic platform. I'm and that's where I don't compromise " the Hospital agieed to the Union's propos York City or San Francisco on any other day Since 1977, Democratic County Legislator 9835 Old State Road ed change (see the quote at the start of this viewrpoints of the year. I guarantee you will not see Bill Benet has represented not only his 23rd letter). anything in thc extremes of what you see Legislative District (Monroe-Park-Univeisity Angelica, N.Y. 14709-9729 during the parades. The Univenity of Rochester is expected to lb the Editor: area), but the entire gay community as well. follow suit when Union contract negotia I would like to voice my agreement in Now, I must admit that I am not complete He has been vocal, visible, and vital in his TELEPHONE: 716-567^100 OPENING tions open in the fall for its non-medical principle, with Susan Jondan's editorial in the ly comfortable with my own arguments on support of gay issues. Benet is a neighbor who Union employees. July edition of the Empty Closet. The this issue of public dress and behavior. On lives, worics, and fights for city living and the one hand, it's none of my business what September 1 The University is also expected to issue a elimination of bigotry, prejudice and censor what it can be. Located in the Foot Hills of the revised personnel manual for its non-union ship from society is an admirable ideal. I also anyone wears or how they act in public. On This September, Bill faces a tough primary employees shortly This new manual is liice dis^^rce with the concept of assimilation in the other hand, it is my tMisiness. I truly challenge from a weU-financed opponent Allegany Mountains of Ny.S. ly to include thc same no discrimination order for the gay community to achieve the bcdUcvc that actions by some members of the lanauaac. Althoufdi the f>ersonnel manual riohts we deserve. gay cotnmunity impede thc advances of thc Letteta Continued on Ps^e 28 All male, adult campground. Located on 742 South Avenue 119 acres of Rustic Campground with two The Empty OoMtt i« published eleven times a yew Advertisina Policy: The Empty Cloaet does not Rochester, NY (December and January combined) by die Empty Cknec {Hint advertia«ments that contain nude drawings or large natural trails and 135 Sites. A large fnu isr the Gwy Alliance af Genesee \Uley.Jnc. ApprOR- photographs, nor does it print advertising that sug pond with paddle boats, a sparkling •""MIMUlimiMf!!.;,.;,,., :' M * ; i • ' I ' •••ii M I 1; I ^ t^icA*:) v:>*\tit'3 ^*\: £Q^I j^unuh August, 1992 Tbe Empty Cioset 4 Tbe EmfHy Closet Ai^ust, 1992 tec Chair M. Dennt? Afefr>fe "r*c '"''v'rr say year, abottt 7C lc «wasu and gay men wili ^.x^r thej ;;^i cient th?t the Presiding Bishop ing it's all or nothing. £ithcr put all of Memphis, said, "Thc general cooccASus hete tinue cr be drummed out of the amwd forces spoke most strongly in support oi lesbian is that this is a dream team. Wc view Gore Leviticus into tiic constitution, or put because of their homosexual orientation." and gay Episcopalians. He was responding nothing." as a tnainstream politician who Is supptM*- ' rAras van Hcnum, Tbe Washington Blade; to 12 lebian. gay and straight penons who tive on our issues." Thc Committee was founded after a Gay Ttmes shared their struggles witiiin the Episcopal According to Eric Roseitthal, legislative Newsffronts homophobic fundamentalist group, the Church with him. He appeared deeply mov director of thc Human Rights Campaign Oregon Citizens' Alliance, began a petition- ed and spoke well beyond his scheduled gathering campaign for a measure which 100,000 maich in Fund, Gore bqpm to reverse his views on gay symptoms due to thc lack of rtrsearch on departure time. rights in 1987, and since then has become All the women paid a $50 Hue and were MBssadiusctts, and fonner presidential would forbid the state from adopting any AIDS conference: women. form of legislation to protect gays and les N.Y.C. Gay Pride more and more supportive, voting Gay rights activists fMotcSted U.S. visa released. didates Paul Itongas and Jerry Brown, repeatedly against amendments by Sen. Jesse •Anne Danahy, Tbe VPitsbhngton Blade rcmarks wefC cheered by the large and vi bians from discrimination. They base their Vatican orders undetectable restrictions on people with AIDS by placing aiguments on the claim that thc Old llesu- Parade Helms (R:NC) which would have penalized cardboard cofBtis in front of the U.S. and bie contingcfu of gay tMegatcs. people with AIDS. A IcsUan also addfcssed thc convcntit mcht Book of Leviticus says that homosex Over 100,000 people took part in the New UeS. bishops to new form of HIV? other consulates. Speakers at the conference Gay/lesbian uality is against biblical law. York City Gay Pride Parade and Celebration Gorc also voted for thc gay-inclusive hate also criticized thc policy, whidli prevented RNi>cita Acfaeenbetg, opcfily lesbian San Fl crimes measure passed by Congress, and for The eighth International Conference on Cisco Supervisor, said, "Our Inaction as a The Committee received permission from on June 27-28. oppose rights the confereiKX from taking place in Boston, visibility high the state in June to begin its own petition the bill repealing the immigration law barr AIDS in Amsterdam last month ^KMlighlcd as originally plaimed. tion is proof that we have not valued A rally on June 27 featurcd Washington drive, and collect the signatures necessary DC. activist Frank Kameny, lesbian come The Vatican is demanding that U.S. ing foreign gays and lesbians from entering several issues, including thc fact that a new, In another development, Dr Jonas Salk, lives of gay men/' She hailed the platform*i to place its initiative on thc Novcihlier ballot. dian Suzanne \lfestenhocfcr, and several Catholic leaders oppose all forms of civil the United States. "1 think it's a tremendous undetectable strain of HIV may have emerg inventor of thc polio vaccine, announced at convention support of civil ri^its protection, saying, "i\ -Nick Bartolemeo, The Vfixshington Blade singers and bands. The parade on June 28 rights legislation for gay men and IcsNans, attribute for him to have grown and chang ed, and the fact that by the year 2O00, most that he has taken a new sqiproach to develop IWo spokespersons for people with AIDS is a matter of justice that all people shouU included a large number of highly creative including allowing us to adopt children, ed" said gay rights attorney Abby Rubenfeld, new AIDS patients may be women. ing an HIV vaccine, and feels that current ap werc among the most powierfiil speakers at be allowed to work free of discrfmination^ become tcachcis or coaches, or join the arm fioats, such as "The House of Africa," which acting co-chair of the 'fennessee Lesbian and Dramatic revelations by physicians and proaches arc misguided. thc Democratic Convention in New \bik Ci and that lesbians and gay men who cht British say ed services. Gay Alliance. "This is a conservative sute." scientists during the proceedings added to to serve their country in the military arc en-| featurcd scantily clad musclebound men Salk said that treatments which cause pro ty in July, and lesbians and gays and our The Congregation for the Doctrine ofthe -Lou Chibbaro Jr., Tbe Washington Blade the possibitity that a new virus may have ap issues werc morc visible than in previous titled to do so." dancing to loud house music. The float at duction of antibodies to HIV may actually military gays not tracted a following of over 100 men and Faith has written to U.S. bishops, reaffirming peared — one which does not respond to hasten the progress of AIDS. He proposes years. For the fitst time, the words **gay" and! its belief that discrimination on thc basis of current tests. At least 11 cases are known of Bob Hattoy, a gay man who is a member 'iesbian*' werc memioned in the Democtatic women, who marched in the parade all the sexual orienution protects the "common that a model AIDS Vaccine should suppress criminal way to its destination at Christopher Strcet people who developed AIDS without testing antibody production and instead cause a of the Bill Clinton campaign staff, and Party platform; the gay and AIDS planks good." positive for the virus, according to a report The British Parliament voted on June 17 in thc West Village, where it turned into a rapid increase in immune system Th-I cells. Elizabeth Glaser, a mother who contracted were written with Bill Clinton's support. Thc Peri Jude Radecic ofthe National Gay and in the July 27 Newsweek. the virus through a blood transfusion, made issues arc now accepced as mainstream issues to remove miliury rcgulations making sex large strcet fair and party at a pier on the He said that his researeh along these lines between consenting adult men a criminal of Hudson River Lesbun Task Force commented, "The faa Bush may alter Six of the HIV negative AIDS patients has only just begun, with experiments on brief addrcsses to the delegates. Hattoy an within the Party, and there was no opposi that a church wiUi a history of social respon mentioned by Newsweek are American nounced, "I have AIDS," and went on to tion to either during thc platform debate. fense. But thc armed forces' ban on -Cheryl L Coward, Tbe Washington Blade mice. homosexuality was not revcised. sibility would use gay and lesbian people as current policies citizens, and their cases arc under study by -Associated Press, Newsday condemn the lack of action by Reagan and "I was very happy with all the mentions," the pomt where civil rights end is an the Centers for Disease Control (CDC). Bush administrations. said Ann Northrop of ACT UP, a New York Homosexuality was legalized in Britain in Top Episcopal outrage." 1967, with the exception ofthe military and on AIDS testing Newsweek cited an abstract by CDC He said, *'\lfe'rc part ofthe American fami delegate. **I was very satisfied. It feels great, -Associated Prcss epidemiologist Thomas Spira, which said Lesbians join cfaoice ly Mr. President, your lamily has AIDS. Vfe'rc it feels like we've reached a new level, and police force. The House of Commons voted bishop to gays: that all six American patients have fullblown dying, and you're doing nothing about it. I think that's significant. I hope all this is to bring military regulations in line with >^ Thc Bush administration is considerii^ AIDS, but none has tested positive for either protest at White House Listen, I don't want to die. But I don't want real.* civilian law due to a 1991 rccommendation "Hang in there changes in currem AIDS policy which would HIV-1 or HIV-2, the only known AIDS by a parliamentary select committee which Gay activists tequirc reporting of all cases of HIV infec to live in an America wherc thc president -Peter Freibeig, Tbe Washinton Blade, Thc Most Reverend Edmond L. Browning, viruses. Thrce of the six received blood TWo lesbian activists werc arrested on June sees me as the enemy." said that ^'homosexual activity of a idnd that tion, notification of all persons who have Sydney Schanbetg, Newsday chief bishop of the Episcopal Church, urg transfusions, while of the remaining three, 30 in front of the White House, at a Glaser described her own infeaion and is legal in civilian law should not constitute pleased with had sexual contaa with infected individuals, one has used IV drugs and another is a demonstration protesting the recent the death of her daughter, who was infected an offense under service law." ed lesbian and gay Episcopalians meeting in and expansion of fiederal Medio^^d coverage health-carc worker. Suprcme Court rcstrictions on abortion. through breast milk. Her son was infected However, thc committee also suted that Houston, ItxaiS in July to "hang in there. It Gore's record to include treatments for thc poor ftom HIV is extremely important for your voices to be Rcsearchers arc trying to determine Urvashi Vaid, executive dircctor of thc Na in utero. She said, "I surted out as just a Fighting hellfire with "thc time has not yet come to require thc Gay activists are praising Democratic diagnosis to death. whether AIDS may have other causes than tional Gay and Lesbian Tiisk Force, and Kay mom, fighting for the life of her child. But Armed Forces to accept homosexuals or heard." presidential candidate BiU Clinton's choice Unidentified sources within the Depan ^ virus, such as other germs or conditions Ostberg of the Human Rights Campaign along the way I leamed how unfair America hellfire in Oregon homosexual activity." The decision means Browning was making an historic visit to of Sen. Albert Gore of %tmcssee as his nin- ment of Health said that the changes have (hat may result in suppression of thc immune Fund, werc arrested along with Patricia can be. Not just for people who have HIV, only that gays dismissed from the services the 18th anniversary convention of Integri nii^ mate. been discussed secretly for some thne, and When a fundamentalist group tried to add ty, Inc, the Episcopal les^y justice ministry. system. Ireland, president ofthe National Organiza but for many, many people — poor people, due to homosexual activity will no longer Thc National Gay and Lesbian Tisk Force, that if the White House decides to seek the anti-gay restrictions to the Oregon state con be subject to detemion beforc dismissal, or It was the fiist time In the history of Ics- The Ccniere for Disease Control had been tion for Women (NOW); Eleanor Smeal, gay people, people of color, children. A stitution, based on Biblical injunctions and the Human Rif^ts Canq>aign Fund, both changes, they would l>e tied to White House trying to minimize the findings, but during president of the Fund for a Feminist Majori strange spokesperson for such a group — a risk having a criminal record. bianilgay Christian caucuses that the head of advocacy groups locucd in Wuhington D.C., requests for 1992 budget appropriations. against homosexuality, a gay activj a major denomination traveled to a caucus' discussion of the issue at thc Amsterdam ty; Ruby Sales, of Washington D.C.'s Women well-to-do white woman — but I have leam organization decided to fight hellfire wit Gay activists arc not satisfied with the rul gave Gore a high rating for his Senate record Thc Centeis for Disease Comiol piesem- conference, one physician after another rose of All Colors, and two other women. The ed my lessons the hard way. And I know that hellfire. ing. Peter XMchcU of thc direa action group convention. on gay rights and AIDS legislation over the ly require that aU cases of AIDS be reported; America has lost her path — and is at risk Outrage said, ".. .by this decision, thc Bishop Browning preached and celebrated in the audience to say that they, too, had seen women were arrested for demonstrating on The pro-gay group, the "Special past five years. nearly 250.000 have been recoided since patieilTS who had fullblown AIDS, but did the White House lawn without a permit, a of losing her soul." government Is reitcratiiig its support for in- the Eucharist at thc convention's opening 1980. However, no agency currently logs Righteousness Committee," has b^im a cam-^ service on July 10 and led an open forum In Gore's home state, Stuart Bivin, not test positive for the HIV. misdemeanor. Bob Hanoy said beforc his speech, "None paign to insert all the commands of the iltook atimtloiiaUacd discrimination against the publisher of Query, a a weekly gay paper In positive HIV tests. Dr. Michael Merson, head of the World Vaid said. "The civil disobedience action of what 1 dream about is going to happen of Leviticus into Oregon law, including bans community.. It means that every with integrity mcnibers on Jtdy 11. It was at ^Associated Prcss Health Oiganization's Global Program on was, for all of us, a protest against the ero as a result of my speech. George Bush will on the consumption of certain Idnds of AIDS, said that close to half of the million sion of a woman's right to choose." he fishing. Most crf Aflierfea'will get up imd shcBfislh'; thcf'wcaring of Pride Continued from Page 1 to move off to proclaim to the world diat Jay Laird of Speak Out said that his gioup just because you choose to ignore us the will send messages to lobby Congress in the other 364 days doesn't mean that we're go name of anyone who wants to participate. ing to go away. The response vk^as minimal Bill Pritchard of the Rochester Lesbian and as wc walked past empty houses or smatter Gay Political Caucus talked about the need ings of people, some of whom showed sup for gays and lesbians to be visible, show sup port for our cause. Ibgether wc proclaimed port for our rights, register and vote, so that that "Homophobia has got to go," as if to bigoted local politicians like Bill Polito of no one. V(H>ster will be defeated. The hecklers that I expected didn't appear; I guess those yahoos were too busy chain- ii^ themselves to abortion clinics. Afterward I felt disappointed, wondering, * 'did Did we anybody see us, or did we give enough courage to help someone come to terms with their homo/scxuality^hobia?" Then I do enough? remembered what ha|::^>ened to mc last sum By John Merchant mer. . . I had just moved into an apartment The day was warm with an overcast sky complex that was for the most part for eldcr- that threatened to rain on our parade. Inter ly people. The grounds were well mittent bursts of sunlight seemed to only in manicured, with finely trimmed trees, a tensify the heat rising up from the pavement. perfea place to sit out and rclax after work. But, rain or shine, we wcrc going to march. Sitting out there for the first time. I felt like Milling about beforchand, groups of men I was being watched by all the "empty" win and women werc chitchatting, proudly wav dows, breaking their unwritten code that Photo by Ellen Mahaffy. ing their banners of various organizations, "Thou Shalt not sunbathe on these hallow ,f<«f.w*.^jr-^^V.: .^" and therc was a feeling of excitement in the ed grounds." I became used to the invisible air. Intermingled among the crowd I saw a sures, enjoying many hours relaxing out in man in a dress and a few leather women on the sun. The march was thc same idea; peo bikes. I thought, this is why wc came, to be ple were there, but they werc too ashamed heard, but also to be seen, so that thc to come out of their houses, maybe for fear stereotypes of "Faggot" and "Dyke" will that we would ridicule them. For this rcason die. We are a culture, not some generic buzz wc must endeavor to teach the straight com word used to cut us down. munity that we are just people like them ^kfttling into a group, wc waited as the pro with hopes, drcams, goals and love cession of people grew in front of us. then down the street behind us. At last wc surted Gan/Lesi»aii Picaic 12 MMHXt' 6pni filled dudoi bieast sandwidwsOsaiads Rain CMT Shine dipsOtuDwniesCHieerOsoda ifwjvr I'^rk, Utde IbrkJSY Advance Sale Tickets S!0 Available Nov> At BACHELOR lORLM mtm% Ary tkkels not sold in advances WiO be aMEuy^e dt the paik cri a fir^hxrne; first serve basis Tidoets ^ the paik S12 fhobDiBquiiedtraloohoi Sponsorttd but fthara Day/Usbian/^dJMties Soard RbuleSlExtB poBcBce^ 3miessoiJhonRt28I « ,_-;.^H August, «99j^/ TbmMi^tf^mt^'^i-X y7 d Photo by Ellen Mabaffy Paul Scheib and Marge Booker ofthe Parade Committee Photo by Ellen Mabaffy Derek & Ariel of tbe Radical Faery Corps. 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It shows how alienated this culture I've also been getting a lot of phone caUs Tve received many positive responses too, Ghost woman: a lesbian and when African American lesbians tried came for the Communlscs," ecc. Sometimes Tbpfree activist Ramona Santorelli spoke is. from the media, offers to be on talk shows tkot just harassment. Many women have caU to ask for recognition, she was very when you Unally realize that you are involv with the Empty Closet in late July about her RS: I attribute a lot of those attitudes to and that kind of thing. But I'm evolving; I ed to express gratitude. One said, "I'm not homophobic. She comes from an ethnocen ed, it's too late. reactions to the ruling by the New York the $S billion pom industry, which fosters keep havifig revelations, and 1 hold onto the ready for that myself, but I understand." tric African Nationalist movement, and she Court of Appeals that women may take their idea that in 20 years fix>m now, aU this will said African American people "must em EC: It's encouraging that more white peo these ideas about women's bodies. Breasts Another woman said she had been walk mestis in Rochester ple lately seem to be interested in Indian shirts off in contexts which arc not "lewd** seem laudable. Like being foUowed by TV brace heterosexuaUty for our empower are considered objects that axe men's proper ing on the beach after the dectsion, and issues, but too offen it's because they've seen or "commercial.'* Santorelli has been one of ty not women's, and are to be used for men's cameramen everywhere and then they )ust thought about taking her shirt off. I thought By Susan Jordan ment;' She claims that homosexuality is a thc most active members of the Topfree show my back. The media and the pubUc The Empty Closet recently spoke with I was uneducatable — put me way in the "white disease ' that didn't exist in Africa, Dances with Halves or somechli^, and pleasure, not feeding chUdren. that was great — now her mind*s not being maybe next year they won't be so interested. Coalition over thc past seven years. hysteria will eventually disappear. controlled by fear of male laws. She*s come Qtiirota, a lesbian mestis (half Native back of thc classroom, aiKl Ignored me wben and when the African American lesbians EC: How does the topfree issue apply to tried to talk with her, she goc angry and Then therc arc the New Age types who rip EC: It must be a good feeling to know that lesbians in particular, or does it? The local media refuses to understand; a long way. Ainerican, half Hispanic) who has lived in I put my hand up. Then when you do badly lU>chester for several years, has been involv walked out. off fragments of Indian tradition that they women all over the state are starting to use RSt Getting thc right to take off a shirt they are in denial, except for a few talk The way I feel is, something has to be done they wonder why. They ignore you untU you don't even understand. I remember Mohawk thc new freedom you helped to win for shows. And Relin continues to contort the to respond to the outrageous vtolehce ed in social work in the community and is become disruptive. Q: There's homosexuality and paves thc way for women to be viewed as planning to go to law school. educator Barbara Bethmann saying, "Some them. full human beings, which will affect all information, and play dummy — and he*s against women in this society. Maybe I'm Tben when I wem to Uve in Puerto Rico homophobia in all races. Nobody can years it's foshionabfe to be Indian, and some RS: I don't know if changing the law is women*s right to decide issues affecting their not. ideaUstic, but I believe that human beings are EC: It's often said thac the gay commtmi there was a diffiercnt kind of discrimination dispute that, it's true. years it isn't, but we go on being Indian as important as how many women's issues sexuality. Standards for women's bodies have constantly evolving, and I'm one of the few ty In Rochester is ;q>oiitical, or politically in — being labeled "American," which was Sister Souljah says homosexuality is a every year!" arc being discussed nationally. I said to a been established by men. As a lesbian I don't ' 'If I ftever take off my shirt optimists who have faith in humanity being active, even when it comes to issues of gay rcaUy funny And therc if you*rc homosex white disease. It's neither. She says there was friend recently *lf I never take off my shirt Uberation. Do you attribute that to apathy ual you're dead, so don't say a wont. And no homosexuality in Africa. But in this con Q: What you can't relate to is what's need male approval, and by changing beau loving. I look at it as a human process. fashionable; then your interest wanes. But again, something has happened. VC^men are ty standards from those esUblished by men, again, something has hap We women wilt |ust have to keep taking or ignorance of the issues? if you're a woman you'ie dead too. You're tinent there werc gay people long before the Qx Apathy. Everyone knows about the seen as not needing higher educarion, and whites arrived. They werc called "TWo when it hies you that "chey mighc come for thinking differently about their body image, life will be easier for all women. I think it back our body parts — breasts, uterus — one me," then you can reaUy relate. and men are thinking about how they treat affects thc heterosexual community more, by one. But they'll never gel our souls. isaues. You hear it all day, on radio and TV, if you gec raped it's seen as your fault. You Spirited people," or "capcurcd by the moon," pened. Women aire thinking on bumpcrstickers, from friends. I don't know your self worch is noc as good as male and they were weU-respected. But this is the *90s, noc che *30s, and women.* because it affects how straight men view EC: Are you feeling burnt out by aU the everybody knows abouc multlculcuialism Rochester District Attorney Howard Relin women. But we're all affected by body im work and pressure over the past yeai^? think it's ignorance. It's a choice not to deal self worch. So I don't know where Sister Souljah is differently about body im with tbe issues. It's comfortable to go where So being mestis, of two different cultures, getting all this incorrect information. Her and racism; nobody has to be ignorant unless (who is of course a longtime feminist ac age — we're all taught to hate our bodies. RS: Just the opposite. I have an intuitive they choose co. Buc you can always choose tivist!) said that the topfree issue was number EC: How has all this affected your own feeling about going in other directions — the the current takes you, instead of fighting the I've come to value my Native American rcfusal to address issues raised by African age and men are thinking current and taking chances. heritage as weU as Hispanic. Itcame feom my American lesbians shows a lot of ignorance. CO take part — join in, go to an Indian gather 300 on the scale of importance of women's life? topfree experience is leading mc in a direc ing and socialize, and just sit and Usten. You issues. But we're ulking abput sexually ob RS: I've been getting a lot of harassment tion that wiU have an even greater impact on I^opIc talk about tacism, but it isn't go grandmothers on both sides; chey handed Ignorance and fear. That's how you con trol your fears, by conquering them. Euro don't have to be an accivisc leader. jectifying women, violence against women, calls. Which reminds me of something fun about hotv they treat our culture. ing to go away untU we dio something. I'm down che heritage. Wc were raised co be talking about aU groups in the gay comimmi white, and wc were supposed to marry blue- peans feared us and were ignorant of us, so There is ignorance on everylxxly *s side, women's body image and self esteem issues ny Brother V(^ase (call-in show host on I give workshops on sexuality and pre noc jusc whices. Ycaih, che whites have been (eating disonJcrs, depression, bieast augmen judice reduction and effective confrontation ty ~- tnen, women, poot rich, white, African eyed blonds. My grandmocheis didn't op that's the way they controUed us — by con WHAM) has been talking about topfree on women/' quering and dominating us. the ones controlUng it aU, buc we aU have tation, etc.), the effects of pornography and his show since 1986. He's openminded for women. The sexuality workshop is call Ainerican. Native American, Asian, Latino, pose chac direcdy, buc chey passed on our or any other group. It's everybody. songs, stories, etc. to become knowle(J^M>l<^ of each ochec advertising, sexual abuse and exploitation of about some things, but he's sexist — maybe EC: How do you feel about the fact that ed "Understanding and Celebrating the You talk about racism in thc white com Things wiU never change insofar as we re women, the right of women to control our especially on his show. the court didn't declare the law unconstitu Diversity of Human Sexuality" 1 speak as an BasicaUy ray in^>ression of Rochester is My fiither tried to keep that knowledge munity, but there's racism even within the main ignorant of the issues. Why drift own bodies and sexualities. This topfree So I've been getting crank phone calls, and tional, although two judges suted that it out lesbian, and what I attempt to do is, first, thm it's a bar culturc. Every group goes at from us. He was helped also by the govern people of color communities. When you get passively along with the main curretu with issue painfully draws out our culture's one evening recently I decided to change my should have been? to read the group I'm with, and get them to a certain time, every bar has its own group. ment. As Indians we're tcrfd chat we're bad. into cthnoccntrtcity you can ignore all the other fish, and go right into the net discomfort with all these issues. upe. and send out a very strong message to RS: My fear is that some police officer participate. I offer exercises allowing all And lo and behold we have a iot of people even that we're dead. One memory I have historical focts. It's not popular to hear and get cau^t? EC; From the reactions to the topfree issue harassers, to deter them from calling again. somewhere will eventually use that, and will kinds of people to question and think about witfa diug and alcohol problems. And all too is of coming home from school and celUng anything differctu. ofiben they end up in recovery in places that my grandmother chat aU 'BOnos were dead One night I was showing some Indian that I've read over the past years, one recur The message said (in a sultry voice) "Sorry charge some woman with being "lewd." sex, affeaion, intimacy, attraction, relation Nobody wants to talk about Indians. You dances to some African American friends, ring theme is that people say the sight of a ships, etc., and what these things mean. are homophobic, where therc aie attempts — that wc were extlna. She thou^ it was haven't heard much about ocher peopfe of I can't come to the phone now; please leave EC: The wording is funny, where it says to convert people from being gay. and 1 got thiough one song, and chen che rap woman's breast would be damaging to their a message. But if you're a prank caller, please that it's OK to be topfree for "accidental" What it's like growing up female or male. amusing. She looked at me and said, "Do I color, or white lesbians, getting involved in music came on a^ain. Thac shows how we children. This strikes me as perversion in thc put your penis in a blender, and have a reasons. Oh, officer, my t-shirt just acciden- It's fascinating — people's revelations, EC: Ic*s ironic that two of the Empty look dead co you?" the protests against the Columbus can be disrespectful of each ocher within che true sense of the word, because for thc last peaceful day." uUy fell off! their willingness or reluctance to open up Ctoset*^s latgest advertisers have always been She said that che people are here, and quincenteimial. people of color community. million-plus years, thc female breast has nur To my surprise, the next mpming I had RS: Two years ago a friend and 1 were and Ulk about their feelings. It's a platform ban and therapists. I have co wonder what some arc morc mixed, and some are less EC: LocaUy, there are apparently some kind of message we're sending with that! EC: What would we leam aAx>ut Native tured children and saved their lives. But our five messages from WHAM. Apparently riding our bikes without our shirts on, and for me to bridge all human sexuaUties and mixed, hue chac our culcurc, language, white lesbians and gay men involved in the American culcurc if we paid actencion? Q: The bars aeem to be the only safe place religion and cnuUcions werc wiped ouc. woman-hating culture has turned that basic Brother >X^ase had called me while on the a cop stopped us. I told him I'd accidentally create greater appreciation of diversity 1992 CoaUtion as individuals, bot there's no Q: The circle of life A circle formed co human fcality aroimd to see women's breasts to go. "We can't go into the park or to the Anyone who resisted was kiUed. oiganized response from the gay communi air, and they had played my message on the fotgotten to put my shirt on when I left the beach and hcM each other But — when preserve who and whac we are. so we as threatening to children. That's such a sick air. My philosophy is "no regrets. . ." house. What you preserve is stories, che storytcU- ty as such. woiddn'c die off like Che Europeans wanted African American/Native American/ ing. And Che food, and some worcto you Q: Whites don't tinderstand our survival Asian/Hispanic lesbians go into a us to do. People say Native Americans arc leam, and a few dances. If you |^ by whac issues. A lot of Indians scarced to intermarry isolated, buc we had to tie to survive. white bar — and the white people aU look die govemmenc says, then we are dead, and assimilate with whites so they wouldn't ',.-< Andy Rooney on 60 Minuies was defen ac the door. . . * What I used to do with because they killed our culture. be forcibly removed from their land, and die friends was walk into a bar and sit at an aU- ding sports teams with Native American In Oay Hcatfl, on Martha's Vineyard, Jackie on thc way to Oklahoma or someplace, or names, and he sadd that Naidvc Americans arc people-of-color table, |ust to tease the white Onassis buUt her house on Gay Head Indian dfe when they goc therc. It was a way of woinen. isolated and arc to blame for our own op land. The judge said to the IIK&UIS, **Yon can survival. pression, because we di Miss Continental N.Y. Making the scene Slate; Leather Fanteisy Thank you. Wild Seeds By Susan Jonlan Kingrey *s funny comments on *'Bush and Cars slowed as they passed Wild Seeds Quayle;" Brenda Bea's grcat voice, which Boolcstore and Cafe on the evening of July knocked everybody out; Kathy Mclntyre 18. The sidewalk was crowded with aiound moving from Cole Porter to Janis Joplin; 200 people, mostly wonien, listening to Leah Wamick, who is too seldom seen, and poets and musicians perform on a stage set the debut of Lori Matocha and the Jo Cone up in front of thc storc. As night fell, thc Band — or was it Jo Cone and the Lori stage lit up and a breeze ruffled the leaves Matocha Band? of the smaU trees by the curb. There were Another personal high point was being sparklers, ball games, and food; the music given a tourmalized quartz scone by Sasha and laughter went on past midnight, mov Hedley. co aid in rcpeUing negative forces, Lori Matoeba & Mmrge Booker. Photos by Rose Houston ing inside affer 11:30. and lo, beforc che evening was done, word It was the "Community Thank You to came chac computer whiz Dave Emlen had Wild Seeds," or, as it could also have been dealt wich an Empty Closet hard cUsk which called, the Univeisity Ave. Wbmen's Music had Clashed Uve days before deadline. Festival. It was also a homecoming reunion It was that kind of evening — special, fun Sybil Devain, Miss Continental, at Heaven, for many performers who have appeared at ny, and with a magical feeling. Thanlcs for Pboto by Doug Meszler the Cafe over thc past three years, and a an unfotgettable party go to Diane Conway, chance for them and Wild Seeds fans to who had the idea and set it in motion; Lin show how they feel about Maige and Lori. ny Gaudieri. who arranged thc entertain and thc community center they have created. ment; Connie Shulters. Wild Seeds Performers included Half Impulse. Henry "employee ofthe month after month;" Mel Padrone. Kathy Mclntyre. Maria Gillard, Smith, Wolf Khan. Jo '*Cone;' sign inter Susan Jordan, Lynx, VCblf, Janet Zandy, Karen preters Cindy Barrett, Donie Oatman and Kingrey, Eddie Swayze, Lori Matocha and thc Judy Molnar; Lucia Espinosa, m.c. Maria Sci Jo Cone Band," Diane Conway, Linny pione, Karen Bums, who created thc flyer Ciaudieri, Joann Casey, Brcnda Bea, Anne (and has done many covers for the EC), and Seale and Sasha Hedley, Marty Brown and Slice of Life Cafe (opening Labor Day) who Melissa Davidson, Leah Warnick, and provided the delicious food. Paradox. The biggest thanks of all go to Marge and A few ofthe many highlights, from a very Lori, for planting the seeds, and creating a perstmal point of view, wcrc Janet Zandy's space where women, men and children can Marty ^ Melissa perfomt, witb sign in Kencly humorous poems, mostly about grow, Icam and flourish wildly terpreter Cimty Barrett, Sybil lyevain won all three categories: swimwear, mothers and daughters; deaf poet Karen Tbfu bote, courtesy of Slice of Life gown and taient. Photo hy Doug Meszler July 16 was Leather Fantasy nigbt at Carpe Diem, Above right: Sam Lovetro IH, Al Agricoltoso & Aggie Dune, Below right, Tim Mtotterts as Joan Rivers, m,c. for Miss Con Janice Camllleri, tinental competition. Pbolo hy Douf^ Meszler CONTINENnL FREEWHEELERS Wild Seeds GLAS Presents BICYCLE SHOP & PERSOM^L FITNESS CEMTER Bookstore & Cafe TIRES 704 University Avenue Anne Seale miraigB Rochester 14607 al! sizes including Hybrid 244-9310 natural rubber WtEtRiR'W •< & Linny much rounder 5&^ feminist lesbian & gay progressive politics poiyamide casing sraws 8» ^h*^t ] CTCLIS multi-cultural kids books iO - i2 Soutii 'WiA^i^ifib^ (S%'ea 1 149 Cufver Road, Rochester. NY 14609 473-3724 Vegetarian Cafe In Concert Entertainment Weekly Friday Saptembsr 4th. 1992 8:30pm Wild Seeds will be ^oc^tt^ c^en^ at 8:00/tmt, ^Q^a^tt^ ^amakta^ iO/mt, (o 2 ^ .4~' ^^^~SA~Sf*- :* . . ..„^*»f ,*,,••* 4 «»•••*»«* t^*^******'^**** »»•'*"**-*=• •-^••••"-*^*»^» ********* •*-'-*^ 224-0059 _] il \ 12 Ibe Entity Ctoset August, 1992 August, 1992 Tbe Bit^tty Goe^ 13 church. **PeG^c used to think having babies open at aU times for thc direction of thc Black gays & the church out of wedlock was wrong, but those ly spirit. If you reaUy search you can fin* children were accepted, and the mothers congregation compatible with you as| A question and answer session foUowed. weie iMTver read out of congregations.'* Christian and gay man." By Susan Jordan One man said that he finds the discrimina One group member commented that ^(Uker said that gay men should not Thanks for a great picnic! Thc Rev. John \SUkcr of United Church tion he hices as a gay man equaUy abhorrent "male/female issues are discussed in chur anti-gay prejudice as a crutch. "It's lj ches, but when it comes to male homosex — thank you. Gary, the Brothers are thc Ministries recently addressed a meeting of as the discrimination he faces as an African racism. It*s real and it's out there and greatest* American. "People who are heterosexual ual relationships, and a group struggling have to deal with it, without making it] By R.L. Gamey, co-chair. Picnic '92 Brothers United, speaking on the subject of With any nujor event, many talents arc the Black church and the Black gay com don*t really understand thc level of with coming out, the church doesn't even crutch. But think that if we can overcoi . lb Carpe Diem and Hector and Henry, discrimination against gays," he said. "You open itself up to counseUng." those obstacles of racism, we can overcoi utilized. We in the gay commtmity have thanks for a great sound! Everyone danced munity. The Rev. Madeline Porter and Sister come to depend on these people and their their bodies off! Florence Jones also attended. said a gay person's orientation is between these obstacles. I admire your cotirage in special gifts. Without their help, the annual lb Rochester Spa and Body Club — thank Gary English of Brothers United tnade the them and God, but Tve heard cotnments ing able to state who and what you are. Gay AUiance picnic woiUd not have been a you for your generous donation. introduction, commenting that in his ex- from fundamentalist Baptists who say this '7 admire your think that that courage, more than anythii is thc word of God, and crack us over the else, WiU reduce prejudice against gays." success. (We raised 614,000 net to support To Marge from Wild Seeds — a great p.r. perience, gay tnembets of churches were ac thc GAGV through thc coming year.) job — thank you! head with the Bible. When we go to change A Brothers UcUted member said that cepted as long as the subject of their identi courage in being able So — many thanks to the IbUowing gifted the law they hold us down with the word had been raised in thc church, which did nt lb Rick Robbins and Paradox — great ty was never mentioned openly. He said that people: to Evelyn and Chic, for coordinating entertainment. Thanks for giving your aU. of God. They call our sexuaUty a sin and we recognize his identity and made him feel dt it is now time to bring the subject into the and doing a great job at thc gates — thank ha^e to live with that — that we are to state who you are. mcancd and as if he couldn't seek counsel To Gary Sweet and thc Avenue Pub — a open and bridge the g^ with dialogue; '*we you. ' special thank you for use of your kitchen and as Black people must discuss this.** unredeemable unless we deny our sexuali tng. Walker said that maybe he didn't ncc] ty. I wish church people would speak up and I think that that lb thc Gay AlUance Board for donating storage, and a generous donation, plus sell Rev. Walker began by saying that the ma counseling. "The most important thing is ing the most pre-picnic tickets — way to go! say, no, discrimination against gays isn't the ing at peace wieh yourself.** time and working thc gate — thank you. jor struggle in the African American chur lb Susan and the Empty Closet, sorry lb thc political Figures who attended to ches now is over the position of women as word of God." courage, more than The gtoup member added that his parent about deadlines, but thank you for bearing demonstrate suppon for the gay communi cletgy, not over gay sexuality. He said he is Acknowlec^ing that he cannot truly had found out about his sexual identity ant Mr. Bud E, W^iser with me. ty, and show how important our vote is — not sure whether gay identity is an issue, and understand thc experience of gay oppres anything else, will were not able to relate, although he hat thanks to Rep. BUl Bcnct, Rep. Nan Johnson, said that it is not a question of ignoring the sion. Walker repUed, "On many issues cleigy assured them that he was comfortable witl To Ed, Lou, Tbm, Rick. Paul and ISmya for standing over a hot griU all day, and doing Cathy Smith and Rep. Mary Ellen Jones (thc subject, but of tolerating those who arc dif aren't prepared to counsel in certain areas. reduce prejudice his identity. latter may be running against homophobic ferent, whether that difference is popular or We didn't do weU with drugs either in the Walker repUed, ' 'Sometimes parents nee< a terrific job — thank you. To Lioness Pride Women's Motorcycle Wrhsvct Rep. BiU Polito for a State Senate seat not. earlier years; that problem came very fast, counseUng, particularly fathers. That this fall!) **Unlike white churches," Walker said, and the only way clergy could counsel was against gays.'' something thc church needs to deal with, Club for early set-up and general grunt work — thank you, ladies. To all thc clubs and organizations that "we haven't put this on our national agen saying, 'It*s a sin,' without looking at the — Rev, John Walker person who feels comfortable witl showed their own speciai experiences — da, such as the question of whether so social factors that affect drug use in the Black themselves is pretty much on the way. To Paul Scheib for early and late sct- up/break-down and everything else — thank thank you for being there at thc picnic. meone gay can be a pastor or not.** He said community." *'The only people who can educate whii All photos onthis p^e Lasi but not least, a very special thank you that African American history has focused WUker said that there was a similar failure Walker said, *'In our church we have an people about racism arc whites. \W; aien*t| by Doug Meszler. you. lb Harlow for the flnancials —- thank you. to co-chair Roy Lawrence. Thank you for Angelo and aJHetut. on racism and justice issues, and the primary to respond to crime; he had found no com evangelism committee, and people are train qualified to discuss it because we're not ex your time, guidance, love, and showing me identity for Black people is their race, not passion or concem among clergy about the ed for six months to share the gospel and perts at it! (Laughter). I can't comprehend To Rochester Historical Bowling Society thc ropes. for setting up and manning a beer booth — their sexual orientation. prisoners killed during the Attica uprising. be prepared to help and counsel. They why people feel this kind of hate. But white And of course, thank you to all the ticket "Being gay is considered a personal deci "Being a criminal is a sin, and you don't should be equipped to counsel people from people who have gone beyond that are the a great job, Brian and crew. To Brothers United for manning the other outlets, and to thc 2000 or more picnic goers sion," Walker said, "between a f>crson and weigh any other faaors in a person's lite." a spiritually compassiotiate point of view. ones who should be educating other white themselves. Thanks for letting mc learn. God, and not a matter for the Church.*' He Walker said that there is an effort to When I was growing up it was something people. Thc only people who can educate beer booth and doing countless other jobs said that Black gay church metnbers have not develop a pastoral counseling Center, so that people weren't cotnfortable discussing.** Black people about homophobia is gay Black been expelled or condemned, and he noted people who have a problem with their sex A questioner asked, "Would you be say people.** that Christ was compassionate towards uality can find a compassiotiate listener. ing to a person that felt drawn to the same When asked if thc church stiU makes a lepers and others shunned by society, and "The church hasn*t been able to deal on a sex, 'that's wrong and you have to change,* distinction between "guUty" and "inno that Christian tradition has been one of human, social level as Jesus did. We preach or would you say 'that's OK,* and accept cent* AIDS "victims,** Wdker said, "I don't compassion. good, we teach pretty good, but we don*t their identity?'* think so. not so much. I sec it more in terms counsel as well." Walker spoke about the United Church Walker answered, "From my experience of AIDS being this terrible disease, and Ministries, "a consortium of 80-odd African Another group member asked how the the best counselor is the objective counselor. everyone is being victimized." Atnerican churches and religious itistitutiotis church defines sin, noting that "a heterosex I'd never say, *you should never do this.* I He mentioned thc early official theories in the area, with our Islamic brothers join ual deacon can fool around, but a gay might say, 'you could try this,' or 'that hap of thc sources and causes of thc disease. "In ing us from time to time." He said, "In our deacon is gone.*' Walker replied, '*One is pened to me once and I did this.' I try to have 1981-85 tlicy were saying that there arc thrce recent move to place the Rochester Police penreived as natural, the other as unnatural." a person reach a point where they can sources: homosexuals, prisoners and Hai Department under civiUsut control. Black When ttte group laughed and asked if evaluate what their problem is. I let that per tians. And they were talking about this clergy from 1988 have indicated we call for heterosexual deacons were supposed to fool son share their anguish , and if I can relate monkey origin in Africa and all that. So right an end to opprcssion of the Black, Latino, around. Walker said, "Not really, but it's and be helpful I will. I could make a refer away they werc doing a job, and they put it Asian, Native American and gay com perceived as a natural sin. I've known many ral to another counselor if I feel I'm losing all on oppressed groups — gays, prisoners munities." things that were wrong, and it's been objectivity, or if thc person isn't comfortable and Black people. What turned It all around Walker stated that in his own church AIDS tolerated. That's one inconsistency." with me." was Rock Hudson — that one death. Then issues are discussed, including the gay com An audience member said that W^Uker had When asked if he would perform same- people staned to understand that rich white munity and IV drug use. "If there is a way seemed to imply that homosexuality and sex marriages. Walker said, "No, I wouldn't. people could die of AIDS. Hils is our con this can be done compassionately and in drug and alcohol use are all "problems" that I'm very traditional. I think marriage is bet cem now in thc church. We've reaUy got to order, this is a way it could be done," he said. require a tolerant attitude from the church, ween a tnan and a woman, and is for the pro do something.** Walker added that he is concerned about and asked if Walker considered homosex creation of childrcn." However, when asked if he would recom pederasts (child molestors). "I wouldn't uality a "problem" or a fact of life. To a man who said that he does not get mend the use of condoms, he said, "I allow them any mercy,*' he said. He added Walker said he was not trying to place a good feeling when he thinks of thc church, wouldn*t recommend condoms because that that he associates pederasty with the straight homosexuality on a list of negatives, but to and asked "where can 1 go to feel comfor would be going against what I tell young show how all kinds of people have tradi- people, that thc best way is abstinence." community, "which 1 should call the crook uble with myself?". 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I painfuUy listened s^ain. Some songs Stevie. Carolina has a hurricane Stevie up as a working class Southem woman. Her that's good had an identity problem: were they swing drowns. The narrator mopes on the beach main character. Bone, is a member of the iMit my frieads, or blues? Pop tune or show tune? But most where he meets the one hot man in town wild, hard-drinking Boatwrfght clan. The on the dance floor, ly they all just sounded simUar: similar keys. who (tight plot tum here) turns out to be one Books for lesbians, book cxplofcs her violent confrontation loud, proud, outrageous, SimUar chord progressions, similar styles. I of the lads who gangbanged him years with her abusive stepfather, and her coining queens, queers, clones was not prepared. /earlier. They fall in love. Hey what's that of age as a Boatwrighc woman. trolls, chicken hawks. . . Next month, a look at the other side of bruise on your shoulder? Ohmygod. Both briefly noted Speaking Dreattts, by Sevema Park. gone. our duo. as Paul Phillips produces a new hoc ticket and narrator have IT End of pot- Fiiebrand Books, l4l The Commoos, Ithaca I guess I miss singer under R and P's Fresh Fruit label. I boUer. If you read because there's nothing By Sosao Jordan N.Y. 14850. 1992. 254 pages. •9.95 paper. worth watching on TV. then this is your kind Tbe language ofthe Gotldess, by Marija the parties tbey would throw. promise, this one is worth looking into. This science fiction novel balances che Hello AIDS in thc '90s. Gimbutas. HaiperSanFrancisco. 1989, 388 story of a galactic conftontadon with the of book. pages. •24.95 paper. lelationship of two women. Costa, a young If. on the other hand, you like the kind This large and splendidly illustrsited book slave who possesses crucial information, and of book that when you are reading it you is a landmark in the archaeology of the God Mira LoDire, a diplomat who is ordered to stop cold every three or four pages and stare dess, as was Gimbutas' earlier Gods arui buy a slave — Costa. The bond that forms blankly into space day dreaming about your Goddesses of Old Europe Her sources are between the two enables Costa to break che own life, AUen Bamett s Tbe Body artd Its che anifaicts of Neolithic European cultures, outward and inner bonds of slavery. This is Dangers is worth considering. It contains six which placed a strong emphasis on female an entertaining (if not exciting or especiaUy Unprepared for Fiction for gay medium length stories written in prose that images of the forces of life, nature and the well-written) book which is weU suited for is complex, rich, and spirituaUy chaUet^ng. cosmos. long, hot summer afternoons. Romanovski's men: truth and In "Snapshot" an adopted boy carries into his adult gay Hfe questions about his father. In this book Gimbutas records and inter Tbe Worry Girl: Stories from a prets what she calls the pictorial "script'' for solo album talent A handsome man, he ?s having an unsettl Cbil€ihood, by Andrea Freud Lowenstein. ing affair with an older man, a liaison thc religion of the Great Goddess, whose Bronze age bird goddess Jirom Ctrete^ in Firebrand Books. 1992. 164 pages, •8.95 cult preceded recorded his-siory. Her fin The Language of the Goddess. characterized by deep fears of abandonment. paper. By Eric Bellmann It's a "slice of Ufe" vignette that iUuminates. dings are still controversial in an academic TYiis book is a collection of short stories By Joel Oreenberg tradition which has been myopically Tbe Body and Its Dangers and otber at least for me, the my-siery of why beautiful about the coming of age of a Jewish girl I was prepared. 1 had taken my phone off f^Tf*^"* tow.- a quilt panel for Marvin PeUman, „ European-male-centered for centuries, the hook, locked my door, fed the cat. and stories by Allen Bamett, StonewaU Editions. people occasionally find themselves in "a whose parents, relatives of Sigmund Freud, St. Martin's Press 8.95 paper 1991. unhappy relationships. despite its claims to scientific objectivity — Since the Aniu Hill atrocity, and the in have fled from a ravaged Europe to an un- gotten into my bed. I was prepared for this claims challenged both by Gimbutas and by creasingly bold attacks on reproductive special evening of just the two of us. I was Wbat Tbe Dead Remember by Harlan "The Times As It Knows Us" is about a S^k o7I7«^i~f^ ^ Remember: The Names Profect familiar small-town America. Greene. Dutton, 18.95 hardcover 1991. cluster of friends in various stages of exiting scholars like Martin Bemal, whose Black rights, large numbers of American women Lowenstein sensitively describes the con prepared. I picked up the plastic object Athena reveals the blatant, emotional tacism have begun to realize that we are under at ftom this earthly life, Gatheied on Fire Island fusion of a child who has to deal with Nazi which I was sure would be the catalyst to my A few years back Harlan Greene wrote a and anti-Semitism which underlay sup tack, and have begun otganizing and fighting joyous evening, and I pushed play. It was an they grouse about dinner, deceptions, past clamps and riding crops. In other words, horrors lurking in the immediate past, and fine novel. W^ W& Never Danced tbe tea dances, past liaisons, medical disasters is not to say that safe sex can't be used to posedly objective 19th century scholarship. back with a fierce effectiveness not seen the bewildering messages sent by teachers, evening of Ron Romanovski and me — no someching for everyone. With an eye heighten erotic tensions; John Gimbutas writes. "The Goddess gradual since the late *70s. This book is part of the Cbarleston. Mary McCarthy once observed past, present, and anticipated, and the urgen family, classmates, friends, and her own Paul Phillips to get in the way. that the worst thing about some writers is catching cover photo, this is a handsome Wagenhauser's stories "Safe Sex Without ly retreated into the depths of forests or on reason why. Ic was our first time without Paui; I cy of the present. This is not escapist reading volume which shouldn't prove embarrassing Condoms." and "The Group," both produce evolving lesbianism. Definitely that, after having produced their first effort, but it is not somber GaUows laughter, flashes to mountaintops, where she remains to this Boomer: Railroad Memoirs, by Linda recommended. wondered what he would be like. Would he for the buyer. intense excitement without resorting to un day in beliefis and fairy stories. Human Niemann. Cleis Press, Pittsburgh. 1991. 252 they think of themselves as authors and of wit. sparkle throughout. While much of inspire me to talk to my adolescem co- write another book, when too often they As edited by John Preston, an author of safe practices. Thc explicit S/M selections, alienation from the vital roots of earthly life pages. $12.95 paper. experimenter like "Best Friends" did, off R the book is crisp, hard-eyed, it's an attitude erotica himself. Flesh is a 300-page chroni however, revel in repeated and tortuous ensued. . . But the cycles never stop turning, Boomer tells the story of a lesbian who have nothing more to say. A fair portion of 1 can identify with, what I prefer if I'm go and P's / Thought You'd Be Taller album? the interesting material in Green's recent cle of gay pornography from the '60s to re penetrations. Two accomplished women and now we find the Goddess re-emerging chose the hard and dangerous job of railroad Would I laugh at his music like I did to such ing to read a book: truth infonned by talent cent years. Preston, in his introduction, wise writers, Pat Califia and Anne Rice, pnnide from the forests and mounuins, bringing us brake"man." Niemann's well-written book Wbat Tbe Dead Remember is a replay of the and taste. goldies as "Don't Use Your Penis Fdr A adolescent coming out/coming to awareness ly notes that the only difference between memorable examples of rough male sex. but hope for the future, returning us to our most is also the story of a woman in search of Brain" and "What Kind of Self-Respeaing erotica nd pornography is the form, not the they pale in comparison to Steven Savior's anctent human roots." adventure, sex, sobriety, and self re^^ect. She in Charleston, South Carolina written about Faggot Am I?," both cuts off 7)rouhle in earlier. content. He makes his point by selecting ex "Blue Light," which takes you to the very creates a fascinating picture of the romance Garden Party cerpts from critically popular books like A limits of sexual degredation. It's pretty Goddess Sites of Europe, by Anneli S. Paradise} I was prepared. Marooned on vacation with few books, I Flesh: a trek into and squalor of the railroad life, the perils of Boy's Oum Story and juxtaposing them with strong stuff to be surc, but Preston is not one Rufus and Kristan Lawson. HarperSanFran- As ehe cassette deck rolled 1 quicldy look had no choice but to make do, not unlike be che work itself, the hazards of a woman's articles from magazines like Mandate and to ignore the impact of such writing on the cisco. 1991, 319 pages, S12.95 paper. ed at the tape box. It was entitled iton ing seated next to a tiresome person at a din venture into a male world, the beauty of the gay male Drummer. In both instances, the afifirmation history of gay Hterature. This amusing, unpretentious guidebook Romanovski — Hopeful Ronumtic, wdl that ner party. What one wants of course, from American West, and her ow^n personal of gay sexuality and pleasure seem to be the traces some of the sites sacred to the Euro (Coming up in Sept.: gave a little insight. A evening of lovc songs eicher book or dinner companion, is not Such hardcore material, though, is ntH struggle. sexualities main goal — a concept which needs to be pean Goddess which can still be visited to a garden tour revie^vir) possibly? Produced by Tferesa 1>^ll — oh. simply a tale, bur distinctive personal style quite my cup of Earl Grey. Interesting stuff. day. Thc authors have visited the temples, Tbe Persistent Desire: a Butcb-Femme she's produced a few R and P albums. 2 By Ken Salzcr reinforced during today's AIDS crisis. but ultimately it leaves tne feeling distaint. Ac Reader, edited by Joan Nestle. Alyson as well. This book is pure narrative; it's what I'm sure there are some of you who still springs, grottos, museums and other places wonder how similar the style will be? Hey Jackie Collins dishes out. Maybe Greene The book excerpts are also helpful in tually my favorite stories in Flesh and the where the local goddesses may still be Publications, Boston, 1992. 503 pages, this is interesting, Paul Phillips had nothing have problems dealing with the purchase of highlighting the aspects of gay life which c^an W[>rd rely on unconsummated lust for their • 14.95 paper thought he had the ingredients for a runaway gay erotica. You know, the back room of effect. The main characters of "The Shin" honored and consulted. By Brooke Bovard to do with this tape. This release is best selling potboiler. And while parts of the be successfully transmitted to a diverse au Joan Nestle, of the Lesbian Herstory Ar Rochester Custom Leathers or the magazine dience. (And it saves you the trouble of sear and "Brian's Bedroom'' concentrate on The book puts goddesses back on the Here therc are Phillips-free. parts are interesting, they would have work chives, has been an advocate for lesbians to rack in a comer of the Village Green — these ching through books to find the iuicy sec clothing or a photo of their lust-objea and map, and back into their original contexts. big straw hats The fitst cut, "The Telephone Company ed better as shon stories. whom thc old roles of butch and femme still locations might carry with them some sort tions. I'm sure I wasn't thc only teenager only get as fora s the mental satisfaction of Like the work of Gimbutas, the book is and a string quintet, Loves Me," is a tribute to any couple who First and most effectively, we have the meant to restore women's stolen heritage. have deep meaning. Nestle challenges the re are attempting a long disuncc relationship, of stigma which transfers to those people who flipped through trashy books in the their fantasies. This is what gay por- cent tendenc>' to deprecate such roles as large tulip glasses memories of an awkward adolescent ship who venture within. nography/erotica is all about, fueling your The sites are often still redolent of female or whose lives are so busy thc>' can only ped off to be cared for by elderly, liberal library until I came across signal words like stereotypes, comments on unresolved class of champagne and strawberries, Too sleazy or awkward for you? If so, sexual imagination. while strengthening magic and mystery, and even those of us who "check in" with each other I was impress relatives in the souch. The urmamed nanacor throbbing " or "erect.") issues, and pfx>vides a place for many voices, the gentle curves lighten up — and then check out a brand your sexuality through the portrayal of are unable to cross the ocean can perform ed and ready to hear more. What followed is mocked and rejected by the rowdy townies With many of these stories written or tak from the 19th century to today, and from a landscape architect new collection of gay male erotica that you positive, exciting gay relationships. So there's a pilgrimage of thc imagination. was a trip into rhe IWilight Zone with one and befriended by Stevie, a retarded boy. ing place beforc the mid-'80s, the specter of diverse races and backgrounds. uses to imply can Hnd at most eclectic bookstores. It's call no reason not lo track down a copy of Flesb Backlash: Tbe Undeclared War Against bad song after another, most of them manag Towards the end of this vignette the townies AIDS rarely shows its face, which is probably Nestle's book is an intelligent hymn to the the remembrance garden. ed Flesh and tbe Wbrd, an anthology of and the Wbrd— unless, of course, you wrote Anierican Wt^nwn, by Susan FaJudi. Crown ing to sound similar. The one bad song that gangrape the narrator and he loves it. He just as well. The whole business of por nurturing qualities of femmes (whose soft This is not drawn to scale. stories ranging from the intense high school the book on gay sex yourself. Publishers, New York, 1S>91, 552 pages, S24 broke the mold was an unsuccessful foray finds identity and power through this ex nography is the promotion of fantasy, a hardback. ness does not equate with weakness) and the into comedy. 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The purpose of Lady in thc Ifatti-Frutti Hat." cooqyletc with the event is to perfom fbr eachochec These talents atkd enecgics to pnxhice music which five-foot baiuuias and large headdfcsscs that cooiinunicates *'a message of peace, choruses converge perftMinances prcyvide inspiration atMl sup looked like fruit t>askcts from Wiegnians. port for everyone involved. uiMlerstaiiding and non-oppressioo/' The The Dallas Women's Chorus did a chorus has travelled to odier places arotuid '?•" Love is all around at GALA fcstivais, as was >, delightful number set in a beauty parlor, New Ybrk State, and has had foim concerts . -^i, '^ on Denver aptly pointed out by one pf the choirs hom By Peter House where thc women concludcd that God loves with thc Rochester Gay Men's Chorus. the twin cities. They opetied their perfor women who tease their hair and wear baby Denver, Colo, is no doubt still recovering mance with ''Love is AU Afound,** t>crter Thc fcunion cfaorus (approximately 33 from thc rcccm influx of gay men and les- doll pajamas. Thc beauty parlor setting and women) met at 7:30 a.m, oo June 20. the kiKswn as thc tiiemc song of the '*Mary lyicr the southem accents made it impossfl>le not -A^ f. bians. From June 27 untU'July '!$ wc virtual Moofc Show." And yes, someone did throw moming of the pcfformance, for bagels, and ly *'owned** a huge area of downtown to think of "Steel Magnolias." Was this then rehearsed until noon at the Downtown a hat in the air when thc song ended. intentional? Denver surrounding thc city's performing Nearly evcy group received at least one Uniied Pfesbyterian Chuich. The cfaurch has arts center. Thc power and diversity of thc GALA an awesome beauty and tfae acoustics are standing ovation. The love, cscitement, and choral movement is incredible. Many of the Approximately 3500 of us converged acceptance was almost overwhelming. At wonderful. I was impressed witfa our sound. upon tfae city for GALA IV, thc four^ tri- groups at GALA IV were the best choir in It was amazing faow quickly we learned five tending GALA IV would have made anyone their home city. Choruses of 75-100 annual convention of GALA (Gay and Les proud to be gay or lesbian. songs. It was a vocal maiatfaon. I felt a sweet •• "'.'••-'.'i members were a common sight, GALA has nostalgia working witfa a women's group At bian Association of Choruses). The week was There was not a bad performance at thc •.,, vy become a major musical movement in this again. Our sense of purpose, cooperation, empowering, enlightening and entertaining. emire festival. But natually there were country. It is one of the most effective tools TTY^ Sixty-four choruses performed and many unity, joy and faumor had always been the highlights. The Thursday evening concert wc have to carry our message to thc rest of ingredients for our success. others sent representatives. Groups from all featured the Gay Men's Chorus of Los the population. GALA IV let the world know over the U.S. and Canada were even joined Angeles and Tbrtlc Creek Chorale (Dallas, "We're Proud and We Can't Be Ignored.' After rehearsal, we went to Ellison Park for ••V. by a British choir and a German ensemble. Texas.) Both groups performed works lunch. What troopers we were, sitting in an The Rochester Gay Men's Chorus perform specifically conrniissioned for CiALA IV. Both open pa illion in March-like weather At 7:15 ed selections from our recent concert **Let pieces were 50 minutes in length with Women's Chonis p.m. we were back in our places, wanning ou and your organizations Freedom Sing." including two pieces by several movements. And both pieces were up for the concen. The dress was black pants Rochester composers: '^Psalm of about the incredible losses that our com harmonizes at and ctiorus icunion T-shirts (br^ht pink with Brotherhood'* by Paul Stewart and David munity has suffered as a result of the AIDS blue). A matcfaing banner hung from the may now have free use of Diamond's "Cradle Song.' epidemic. remiion stage. . . good job. Cynthia. The concert was The Rochester Community Women's TUrtle Creeks "When Wc Ao Longer By Barbara Schanzer well attended and the audience was very Chorus sent representataves. Wc hope to sec Lately 1 had been thinking about how responsive. The members of the "now" the Saint for: Touch" focused on the personal loss of a chorus sang and were followed by a four- the entire group perform at GALA V in 1996. lover or close friend. The piece led the au wonderful it would be to sing again, to blend • '•i GALA Choruses is an intemationai alliance my voice with other women's voices, and woman "mini-choir." Karen Hagbeig played dience through the stages of grief. Ibrtle piano for most of the evening. She has Meetings of over 90 women's, men's and mixed Creek Chorale distributed two free books at then came an invitation to do iust that. What choruses, dedicated to providing leadership an intriguing idea—a reunion of Rochester recently returned from spending several thc performance — "You Can't Afford Thc years in Japan. The performance was inter Fundraisers and inspiration to the lesbian and gay move Luxury ofa Negative Thought," and "How VPbmen's Community Chorus members since ment through excellence In the choral arts. the beginning in 1977. preted by Cindy Barrett — no easy task. Bar to Survive the Loss of a Love." bara Johnson added the beat with her drums In addition to thc chora! festivals. GALA The LA. Chorus looked at the epidemic The original chorus, of which 1 was a Benefits & plans annual conferences for directors, ad member, was created by Robin Miller from for us. Marty Brown was busy singing solos, in a larger sense. Their focus was on the accompanying on the piano, and directing dresses problems of mutual concern, and shrinking community around them. The LA., then a Ph.D candidate at Eastman v-^is School of Music. The chorus' music was the chorus in a couple of songs that she Other Community Events assists with the sharing of music holdings. choreography provided a dramatic visualiza arranged. To anyone who attended GALA IV. it's quite tion of this in one movement. Several primarily woman-composed and always clear that GALA Choruses Is one of (tf not woman-identified. I remember singing Hol The audience loved the variety of music, couples danced together and gradually ly Near's "There's Something At>out the •^.^: the) laigest and most powerful choral from a medley of the '20s, '30s. and '40s. couples dropped out. leaving only one cou Women,' and "We Shall Go Forth." and organizations in the United Sutes today. ple to finish the movetnent. to folk, spiritual and show tunes. Judging Several groups (including Rochester) com spirituals like "Bright Moming Star." No from the response and mood created. 1 thitik On the lighter side, - 'camp*' was woman was turned away. Though not a large missioned works by major composers for everywhere. A4any groups included at least thc chorus will need to have more encores GALA IV. GALA Choruses is a leading con group, our strength was in our enthusiasm ready for future concerts, and perhaps a few one campy production number. RGMC per and creativity, and in the messages we sang tributor to new choral music in this coun formed a medley from "La Cage Aux Folles.'' more sing-a-longs for those inspired to add SaiiTLt: p)r-esen.t:s try, due to the number of individual out. their voices. Bravo womyn! It was A sub-group of the Seattle Men's Chorus per The chorus has persevered through the transformational! choruses that conunission works each year. formed "Sisters" dressed as nuns. A mixed years under thc direction of Debbie W. More The GALA choral Clivals are not competi chorus did an outr;^cous rendition of "Thc If you lovc to sing, come and join the than 60 women have contributed their chorus. 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I dreamt of being held Phoine F Charlotte sitive about the deficiencies in my develop close, and when! flrst began having sex, be of lockers, past the office where the ment, I went to the nearby park pool for lifeguards were headquartered (but where ing held was what I prefened. nauMjmr flnSM Wtlff em H By Eric Bellmann lessons. I liked to open my eyes uixler water, Finding someone in the shower was as they could never be seen), past the manual and 1 could tum somersaults without getting When 1 was a youngster, my mother and wringers for squeezing wet bathing suits, frustrating as It was gratifying, for I wore I would go to Charlotte Beach on Saturdays. water up my nose. 1 could stand on my glasses and could not shower with them on past empty shower stalls to the tunnel. There hands, too, but I dreaded diving, and after (It was SHA-lot, not Shar-loc. a regional od were waist high nozzles on the side wails of or see well with them off. The logic of join [ClAUnr MEUNES: dity of pronunciation like Chi*lie, not Chil I passed thc begirmer's test, I quit. The water ing a man in a shower was shcm circuited. the tunnel that fltfully sprayed icy water in was OK at the pool but there wasn't anything So I lurked. The first years of exploration ly.) Xl/ic took the bus up Main St. and chang tended to remove city grime. One dodged ed at Four Comers and rode out Lake Ave. to do but swim, there was no place to walk, were marked t>y waiting and frustration and these streams and leapt from the damp con and the trees surrounding the pool were that didn't change much as the years pass past Kodak, past the rose garden at crete onto the hot sand. V(^*d find a place Maplewood Park, past St. Bernard^s dense; there wasn't much sun. I started to ed. From the b^inning, sex was voyeuristic BomrniKRS to spread out. Vd play in the sand or walk go to thc beach by myself. visual rather than tactile — wait and watch. Seminary (which I liked: it looked like a cas along the shoreline. At noon we*d buy a coke Ceipfei tle in a movie), along nearly iO miles of vir Thc heavy sun made the day endless. I had Desire and frustration melted together in thc to drink with sandwiches brought from no«ense of time. Sometimes I'd walk all thc summer heat. And for all tfae patience that tually straight road that crested briefly half, home. a mile before fhe final destination, as the way to thc beach to save bus fare. I wasn't I practiced I never understood that I would i-90M»2070 avenue crossed a railroad overpass. happy if I didn't have a sun tan. Early in my find what I was seeking. Then one could see the lake, a thin sliver GROWING UP teens 1 broke out in severe acne. The sun I was lonely, of course, and spent endless PHONE BUD of sand, the river and the breakwall that dried my skin. 1 used baby oil to hasten thc hours in seemingly deserted spaces. My tim separated thc river's deep channel from the effea. I'd walk along the breakwall watching ing and attitude were off. It was as simple Aslaa lake, and the domed roof of the merry-go- By ERIC BELLMANN sail boats and motor boats heading out to thc as that. I'm an early riser even today; I get - - - —•— ^^ I open water. In time I fek drawn to thc locker round. Thc water blended with thc sky, an I liked to walk along the shore, stepping most of the day's tasks done by noon. Men, LeoHMr/Uvi .•4? room. I was curious about men. / endless expanse of white-blue. We loved go from hard packed sand to the water soaked older and more experienced, cruised at the liM4(»f ing to the beach. We stayed all day. My adolescence preceeded video and beach at the end of the day. I'd been the sand where my feet sank. Sometimes the lake magazine pornography; then there was on-* Leaving the bus loop, we'd head across the was calm, other times there were waves, hunter stalking a mythical beast, and when UIlK still-damp green lawn towards the bath ly underwear ads in the Sears catalog, and I stopped that — literaUy stood still in the white caps. I was slow to swim. The swim lUrzan movies. One simply never saw nak locker room — other men began to cruise GvossiMsafs house, a sprawling one-story brick and ming area was sectioned off by long ropes masonry building. The foyer was dark and ed men. I haunted the locker room listen mc. and buoys, and at the end of each line a ing for muffled voices or the sound of the cool with a stone floor and ornamental tile lifeguard sat in a boat that bobbed up and Gay life is marked by stages. Most of us work. There wete separate entrances leading shower. Td wait by my own locker or I'd spend thc better ponion of our years as pur down. I'd wade out until, standing on my stand in the thin sliver of sun that broke over off the foyer to the men's and women's sec toes, the water lapped at my chin. When suer, hunter, supplicant. There is a time, 190(^288-2990 S9/sk tions of the bath house. It cost a dime to get the wall. I wanted to see. Sometimes I'd walk however, when we are the pursued, there were waves, I'd tum my back to them back and forth, crisscrossing the entire com a locker. The locker key was on an elasticiz- and squeal or tumble through them thrilled desirable, if not for our beauty, then because pound in hopes of seeing a naked man. I'd wc are young — youth can give the ap ed band. Older boys wore their keys around by the brush of sand on my legs. I could track the soimd of running water, seeking its Beas&Daddtoi their ankles. When I tried that, the elastic **dog paddle'* and float on my back, buc I pearance of beauty. Lonely, awkward, I knew source like an explorer hoping to find a those well. 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Dandng Dancing Piano Bar Piano Bar L^e Byar no cover no cover Mark De Waters Martha Brown 31 7 pm Dancing Euchre I no Cover 1 Friday, August 14th Sunday, August 23rd - 8:30 p.m. 8:30 'til 10:30 p.m. LEE BYAR Live irom NYC RenoMTii Female Impressionist The Sunset Cruise In a Parade of ParodUs Spoofing Hollywood's Famous Laoiet 15 Different Characters - 23 Voices inducting: "Chockfull Bmtte Of The Da¥la Unexpected" t|rr tt "ALL ABOARD Judy f 1 Garland "Abmolutely The Island Wanderer Hllarloue'* A Paddlewheel mm En«Hiid Hirrw Llxa Double Decker Boat Minelli $21.00 Ticket Per Person '*A PiMsant Evening Includes Bus Ride Of Laughs'* . - Carol PrOKluM TMM ni Channing to and from Tara - 7:00 p. 'itoQttmt Hot Hors d*ouerves ^ .^ 40 Seated Tickets $12.50 -14Standino Tickets! 7.50 Openiftg Act - Btiff«le>s **Je«ii Rivers'* - iPiili^ IOQL TtfOLem^la^^ CUtret-^LiMHiarr - -'. Wli Jb^-'«>^«« i. ^^t .MtgtiA %MoO ^t^^mA ««t ££ August, 15>92 7»e Empty Closet 23 August great blossoming to come. Your tendency is ways. Jupiter, in opposition to your sign, mail, only to find postcards stating youVe to pamper your partner. Focus more on brings a cycle of positive expansion and pro been "specially selected" as the winner of yourself than others. This will greatly fur sperity You are flnding yourself unexpected a fabulous vacation? I for one can say. many. horoscope ther your growth and your parmer will share ly surrounded by new people in your life. My only advice is "beware.*' Most of these By Laurie Tvrilight in your fulfillment. Joining groups with like-minded interests is are scams! ARIES: MaitJi 21 - AprU 20 SCORPIO: October 22 - November 22 especially favored now. Get political. One of The Federal IVade Commission (FTC) has This sununcf is especially hot for getting Your emotional life is opening up. You arc your recent friendships could also tum into been receiving a record number of com what you want in a work situarion. August better able to express your feelings. The something morc. Open youiself up to lovc. plaints from consumers stating that brings you recognition for your prior hard tough cover you once had was blown away The flower within you is blossoming. Allow telemarketing companies arc deceptively work. Do your t>est to keep a back seat in long ago. Now you arc learning about true others to see your beauty. selUng travel packs^es. a group situation. Learning rather than vulnerability. This allows morc people into Laurie lUHIigbt, MA. is a lesbian Here is some advice from thc American leadenhip is your keyword for this time your life. Social circles are expanding. You ftstrologist witb a masters in psychology. Society of Thnrel Agents (ASTA) and thc FTC period. Continuing your haid work will are flnding those who share your interests Sbe is available for readings or astro on how to protect yourself ftom fraud. bring you even more rewards. when you thought you were alone in tbem. therapy: contact ber at 383-2199. 1. Be extremely skeptical about postcard lAVRUSt AprU 21 - May 20 Pay attention to needs in the home. Any im~ and pfaone solicitations which state you've You feel like a bull in a china shop. Put provemcnt there could further y Dinner: Tuesday. Wednesday, Thursday SJ BARBEK SHOP ^1^ M .Saturday 5-10 pm.' Friday til 10:30 pma ei 720 SOUTH AVE. Open Sunday: 4*11 pm light Menu tii 9 pm 473.5570 En^rtainment on Pdday & Saturday Ni^ta 09 AMfttttmtM lAtt^ IHvia on Wsiltkeadays »«-«^ Gkm, JannUff a Lyndon ••**-*^ 40 SOUTH UNION STREET I W M W M M 0 n 24 Tbe Bmtpty Ctoeet August. 1992 How about those nasty joim debts, like thc Because ofa lack of information (at times Being a role model doesnt mean being perfect. It means being a resource. It means car loan or credit card? ^feU. when Ms. A and it feels like a vacuum) wc arc really resources Ms. B take up cohabitation and decide that for each ocher. Friends look to each other being visible and avaUaWe. XWc can all be role models and we all have a responsibUity to they need a new family vehicle, the natural for ideas and solutions to proMems. Aside thing to do is use their joint earning capaci from a few books on thc subfect, same-sex other same-sex couples to be available. Our ty to assure a note for the new car. In other Role models: couples have only each ocher to tum to for community needs us. woids, one co-signs the loan to assure the information. We are vital to each other and we need them & we all have a responsibility to our communi bank that they will get thc money back. Eigh* ty to share information. teen momhs later. Ms. B has taken a roman tic interest in Ms. C. taken the car. stopped need to be them Same-sex couples serve as role models to making paymcnus. and Ms. A does aot kncyw the gay/lesbian commimity just by being visi why the bank keeps calling. Sure, she can By Peter House ble. Our visibility says to those seeking a refuse to make payments and allow the car To anyone who read this column last lasting commitment. "It's possibic — keep to be repossessed and sold at auction; but month, the topic of role models probably looking." Everyone is strengthened and cm- The dangers of she is still liable for any amount still owing seems quite contradictory. Didn't I just finish powered by seeing couples who have a on thc original loan even Jifter the sale ofthe trying to convince you not to look for role strong, healthy bond. joint finances car. llie next thing you know tbe bank has models? Tbm and I realized the value of role a garnishment against your wages for a car Thc answer is NO. What I tried to con models eariy in our rclationship Early on we By Andrew S. Dunn, Esq. that was sold at auction. Your credit rating vince you not to do is look for the perfect lived in Syracuse. Anyone familiar with If you think tt was hard to find someone is shot too. couple. But that doesn't mean that the con Syracuse knows that the gay community is to help you fill that lovc nest, just wait until cept uf role models has no place in our on far less visiMe or organized than it is in you have to work through the world of mix This sounds pietty dismal. Joint tuxnes on going discussion of same-sex couples issues. Rochester. It seenied that role models weie ed financial obligations. a mortgage is even worse. Imagine a loan that In fsct, last month's column set thc stat^ for nowhere to be found. Should we have a joint checking account? has to be repaid over 30 yeais. Now serious this month's discussion of role models, ly, how many couples stay together for 30 .j^ How about a joim savings account for the because we now realize that one need not ^'special" vacation to P-town? Do wc have yeais (gay or straight)? ONLY SIGN F<^ A be perfect to be a role model. IN RELATIONSHIP to have everything in one name or thc ocher? MORTGAGE THAT YOU CAN COMFOR Everyone needs role models as children, • What about that house? Small business? Car TABLY AFFCMID TD WOT ON YOUR OWN (if role models help us decide what our true note? Apartment or car lease? OK. wc sleep you have to.) talents are. Role models help us choose a By PETER HOUSE together, but what should we do with our career. Roic models give us an idea of what money? type of life we want. Sadly, however, the Then we became involved with GLAS Now I know that I will be called the most 0 U T L A W available role models rarely give us any in (Gay/Lesbian Alliance of Syracuse). In GLAS insensitive person in town (after all, I am a formation about how to integrate our wc met six or so long term couples in stid>le lawyer), but put the emotions aside. Love homosexuality into our lives. And rarely are relationships (men and women). All had does noc belong in your checking account. ByllliREWSJIII,E$i same-sex couples available to give us the idea been together seven or more yeats. All had Do noc think about how weU you WANT to of establishing a lasting bond with a same- (in my estimation) healthy, fulfilling know her/him, think about how long you sex panner. relationships. have really had a relationship with her/him. Love is like the stock market. It is highly This is not lo say that Mom and Dad. Their influence on us was extremely If you are usually in a relationsh^ for a year volatile The market can soar, and it can hit Grandma and Grandpa, or Aum Helen and beneficial. Our union was in its infancy at before it falls apart, then I suggest that you all time lows. Anyone can invest in the stock Uncle Joe can't serve as role models of thc time. VE^ were strengthened and em do noc get a joint accoum in the fitst six market, but at least financially, invest only lasting committment. Their examples can be powered by our contact with them. We months (unless you en|oy being taken). what you can afford to lose. of consideiable value. But I believe we also received advice from them. We were able to Let*s take a look at this from die bank's need same-sex couples as role models. Put your investment of time and emotion look at what had and hadn't worked for perspective. \bu tell the bank that Mr. X and into the lovc affoir. and keep the comlngl- Therc arc issttes unique to same-sex them. They were role models for us in the Mr. Y wish to have an accoum in both of ing of funds out. Of course, if the afi^dr is couples and it is important to be able to refer truest sense of the term. their names so that they can both draw on one chat has already reached a ''long term'* to a role model when we face these issues To this day. thinking about that group the money. The bank wiU now allow either status, you can make more risky financial in ourselves. Aunt Helen and Uncle Joe didn't gives us a warm, special feeling. They were peison to make withdrawals from the ac vestments, such as joint accoimts for trips. have to face homophobia (intemal or exter a resouree for us. They showed us it was count. . .even dosing die accoum. The bank Althou^ it sounds harsh and cold, I have nal). Mom and Dad never had to worry possible to establish a lasting bond. They has no interest in monitoring your love life's found that most people actually appreciate about what to do if they were both attmcted modeled healthy same-sex coupling for us ups and downs. When Mr. X leaves, he takes having their own moneys. It gives a sense of to the saate thlid party. Grandma and Grand aiKl 1 believe we are better for having had ail of the money that the two have put into freedom and mastery of oneself. The tnore pa didn't have to tnake legal decisions about contact w^ith them ifsrticn we were so new to the account, and Mr. V can use the deposit someone fecU thac they can leave, the more health care proxys or joint assets. each other. sUps K> line the bird cage 0Mr. X left the bird.) ^they tend co remain. Spirituality Psychology CHATTERLEY'S Tkpes, CDs Sc Tise Shirts Recovery Jewelry b Medallions & 12-Step Books tc Cards And always the latest in lesbian writings Sc video VIDEO CHANNEL The Best in Adult Entertainment SiJfi^mi • AREA'S BEST SELECTION OF ALL- MALE FILMS (available for sale or BOOK STORE rental) 633 MONROE AVE • ADULT NOVELTY ITEMS-greeting (1 block west of Oxford Sq.) cards, t-shirts, gift items, marital aids 473-8110 • FULL LINE OF ADULT BISEXUAL FILMS • LARGE SELECTION OF BOX OFFICE FILMS • WE SPECIAL ORDER (No extra charge) f5 — Gay owned & operated — present this ad and receive 10% off purchase ORCL^ (movie rentals excluded) CHATTERLEY'S VIDEO CHANNEL DR. PAULA deCHELLY 473-6918 442-1140 473-3050 MON-FRI: 11-9 SAE 11-7 SUN: 12-6 At^ust, 1992 Tiie Empty Cloeet 25 CUP & SAVE: Finally, back to that house. It is sound both retain independence and self reelect by economic and fiscal advice to purchase a handling your own finances. house. But instead of buying a house that re As always, I have very quickly covered a quires boch incomes Co make thc mortgage nuntf>er of invcrfved areas of the law and life. payments, ic is better to stan small. Start with Please contaa an tUtomey if you have Safer Sex a house that either one of you can afford specific qtiestions (especially about buying alone. The house is put in one partner's a house.) I have arranged with Gay Lesbian name (the furniture and appliances in the Aitemative Socials (GLAS) to provide office other's for balance), and the partner who hours for legal consultations specifically to Ciuiclelii:ies does noc havocide Co the property pays rent thc gay comniunity at GLAS meetings on Fri cotnmensurate with half of the mortgage. day evenkigs, stardng in October 1992. More HIV is a virus believed to be tespotisiblc based on ttieir own and their partners' sex IAMI still get thc house, you avoid a lot of pro news on that later. for causing AIDS. The highest concentration ual history, drug use history, andAor HIV Uems if marital bliss leaves you, AND you of HIV are found in blood, semen and status. Pec^Ie also make decisions based on vaginal fluids. Avoid direct contact with how comfortable they feel negotiating safer these body fluids and avoid getting these sex in any partictilar situation. If you and body fluids into the bloodstream, it is im your partner have not talked about past portant to know that the foUowii^ behaviors behaviors andA>r HIV status, dcm't make may put you at risk for HIV: assumptions. INTERCOURSE (ANAL, VAGINAL) The following arc gtiidelines for safer sex. RECTORY WITHOUT A LATEX CONDOM. These It is strongly suggested that you put these behaviors account for most of the behaviors into practice and that you discuss Washbum Library; support groups, social documented cases of HIV transmission these behaviors with your panner(s): Bve testing for HIV exposure is available work and case management services. Em through sex. Altvays use a latex condom for inter from New York State: call 1-800-541-AIDS phasis on cariy intervention for aU aspecns of ORAL SEX WITHOUT A CONDOM ac course. Use a water-based lubricant like KY (l-800-541'2437). Other organizatiotis which counts for a very few documemed cases of Jelly. Never use an oil-based product like provide AIDS-rclatcd services are as follows: HIV and AIDS. 244-9000. Finger Lakes Health Systems Agency pro HiV transmission; however, oral sex without vaseline, baby oil or crisco. It can and will « AlDSRocbesten Inc., 1350 Univetsity Ave., vides medical Hteiamre and newspaper clip a condom is considered an HIV transmitting break down the latex and cause the condom provides education, rcfcrials to appropriate pings as well as demographic and statistical behavior to break. service agencies, client and family services, ad data for use in developing health carc services. Other ways of tiansmitting HIV that have If you arc receiving or performing oral vocacy for people facing HIV-linked 461-3520 _ ^^ . not been documented but which could be sex. use a condom. A non-lubricated con discriminatton, and other services, including theoretically risky include: fisting or put Greater Rochester AIDS Interfaith Netivork dom with a flavored, water based lubricant financial assistance and a public education ting a hand or fingers into someone^s will prevent the ejaculate or pre-ejaculate ^»caker bureau. 442-2220 V/TDD (business (GRAIN) provides lay and professional carc v;%ina or rectum, rlnuuing, deep or through healing and memorial services: train from getting into the mouth and possibly in line) or 442-2200 V/TDD (hotline). open moutih kissing, stiaring sex toys or to thc bloodstream. If you air going to be Helping People witb AIDS, Inc. is a non ing of friendly visitors for visiting homes, other sex apparatus. hospitals, hospices and prisons; information performing oral sex on a female or doing profit \'oluntecr oiganization that raises money Many of these behaviors may cause something like rimming, you can cut a non- to fund those who provide services to HIV- about pastonil resources and advocacy on bleeding or damage to body tissues. If a per lubricated condom into a square and use it infected individuals. HO. Box 1543, Rochester behalf of people affected by AIDS. 889-8050 son were to have cuts or abrasions on their as a barrier. Again, the point is to avoid com NY. 14603; hotline 98-'-185.^. Monroe Community College maintains an hands or in their mouth, HiV could be ing into direct contact with a body fluid that Gay Alliance of the Oenesee VaUey peer AIDS Resource Librar\' in the Leroy V Good transmitted. may transmit HIV. Library; IOOO E Henrietta Rd. 424-5200. facilitators can pnnide referrals to physicians ARTIFICIAL INSEMINATION may put Keep semen, vaginal fluid, and blood (in and service agencies. Person on duty Sun Strong Memorial Hospital provides a com plete range of HIV medical carc, including ac you at risk. Discuss this risk with potential cluding menstrual blood) out of thc vagina, day/Friday 6:30-9:30 pm. Message machine donors or sperm banks. anus, mouth or breaks (cuts) in the skin. other times. 244-8640. cess to experimental treatment protocols, and HIV testing Also provides individual and ALCOHOL, POPPERS OR OTHER If you share sex toys or other sexual ap AIDS Coordination Project of Monroe DRUGS may lower your ability to make paratus (i.e. dildos) use a fresh condom each County, run through Monroe County Depart group psychotherapy. TVaining of health care professionals also available Infectious Disca.sc good decisions. Many people report having time. Clean toys and apparatus with ment of Health and AIDS Institute of New York little ability to maintain safer sex practices hydrogen peroxide, a solution of bleach and (State Department of Health) pnnides infor Clinic 2-'5-0526. Department of Psychiatry, 275-3379. AIDS Ihiining Project, 275-5693 after getting high. water (1:10 or 1:20) and/or soap and water. mation, education and training, and maintains Massage, hugging, role-playing, masturba a resource library. Sue Cowcli. 274-6114 Af^r AIDS, AIDS bereavement support tion (solo or mutual), fantasizing through (V/TTY). group. Second and third Thursdays. AIDS HOW TO PLAY words or creating inures, caressing, and im Community Healtb Networkjnc (C:HN). Rochester, 1350 University Ave.. 7:00-8:30 aginative use of loving hands and fingers can 758 South Ave. HIV testing; medical, ex pm.. 377-0332. SAFER relax, soothe and excite anyone; AND these perimenul and pentamidine treatments; J<)hn behaviors don't let body fluids that can Only you can decide what risks you arc transmit HIV emer your ttloodstream. willing to take. Some people use safer sex Reprinted from Gay Community News, practices with all their partners. Others make with additional information from AIDS decisions about risks they arc willing to take Rochester. JUST JOIN US. A GROUP FOR MEN JUitMNGatNtJGMlOUFIXUrj%IfffLT ME^ractjSED aMSELrKg:TasM ANOFEXSaHiAJL tSMOWTJO. WSMEET tJMSDNnATSx^ariuagANn wr Wy^LiXMl^MeWMEMBEMSi CAU-4^2-2^86 LOCATION; WKLLKSLXT CXNTZR FACIUTATORS: HORAOR UBTHBRIDGB. MA KXCXASLfVIXXVAIf, CSW TIMB: S01fDATS r:00-li.*SOFM FEE: SUDMG SCALE FROM ftS TO #25 BACKPACKING • BIKING • CABIN CAMPING CANOEING •CROSS-COUNTRY SKIING • DOWNHILL SKIING • HIKING • TENT CAHPING • TRIPS • PICNICS CULTURAL EVENTS • BRUNCH SOCIALS OM£5QA ¥festern NeMV YorlTs Only ildventiure Group forGa y Hen and Wdmen Meet New People, Make New Friends, Have Fun and Socialize! Open to Couples and Singles from All Over Western New York NEW MEMBERS WELCOME $10 for Individuals $12 for Couples Omega is a state-chartered, norvactiviGt. not-for-profit (please print) organization (:ornntined \o recognizing and meeting the unique Name; Phone: _ needs of older Gay men and women in the greater Rochester Acidress: ~ -^ New York community it welcomes adult members 35 years of City and State: —— _ Zip; age. or older, who are interested in the philosophy of this CHECK ONE: organization. Q You may include my name, address and phone on a general membership roster for r» r)ewsletter distribution. Omega meets these needs by providing social, educational, Q You may not include my name, address or phone on a general membership roster for and cultural programs. Also, through its network with other circulation. ofv^ci^.'jdtions. It further provides a non-threatening environment I Mn interested in the followiiig typos of activitios (optional): in which Gay individuals can meet in a bond of friendship. • Backpacking • Bikir^g Q Cabin Camping • Canoeing • Hiking trust and open communication. Q Cross*Coumiv Skiing Q Downhill Skiing Q Tent Camping Q Trips F6r Information, writa OMEQA, RO. Box 10292, • Other: — Rochaatar, NY 14610-0292, or caU Jan at 223-1748. Mail te OUT & ABOUt c/o GAGV, 179 Atiantic Ave., Rocli., NY 14607 I Jk A ^ A^^* I -• ]Jt7:^!Uy •--ir*^ *•.•-•».' 26 7%e £m/>l> Cioset August, 1992 »'« Gay Groups Aug. 29 brings us a dayhike up Clark Gul each set oi meetings. There arc fall, winter, ly near Naples. Wear comfortable old Rochester Gay and spring sessions. In order to ensure con sneakers (you'll get wet), bring a lunch and tinuity of associations, members are asked something to drink. Fbr further information, Men's Chorus to make a commitment to attend all six Rochester Gay conuct Bob at 473-9384. meetings in a session. One may drop out at And last but not least, thc annual Pharaoh any time if the group does not meet his Smnmer Theater Lake Backpack in the Adirondacks will be needs. Sept. 4-7. This event will be in conjunction Rochester Gay Mens Chorus is resting up Confidentiality is a must! A mutually does Fierstein with Sundance from New Vork City. If you*d after a great trip to Denver. Many thanks to agreed-on contract for conduct is establish like to go, call Bob at 442-7185. Space is everyone who made the trip possible! ed at the first meetings. There are usually no By Joel Greenburg limited. Don't miss our membership ad in On Aug. 22, RGMC will receive a portion more than 12 men in a group, with one or Rochester Gay Summer Theatre has just this issue. See you Out and About! of the ticket sales for gay filmmaker Derek more facilitators. A one-time fee of SIO per finished our run of l^mpire Lesbiatts of Jarman's Edtvard 11 at Thc Litde Theatre, session to cover operational expetises is col SfHtont and Tbe Fairy Garden^ and a big 240 East Ave. Tickets arc 16 at thc door. See lected at the first meeting of a session. The congramlations goes to the cast of those two a grcat movie and support RGMC! meetings are in the Park Avenue area and are shows. Coming up is An Evening of Harvey HincTup your vocal conls! RGMC will hold held on lUesday evenings. Fierstein, featuring two ofhis one-act plays: Gay/lesbian auditions on Sept. 8 at 7 p.m. at Downtown New membets are asked to meet with a Ow Tidy Endings and Forget Him, Aug. United Presbyterian Church (DUPC), 121 N. facilitator prior to attending thc group, as a 13-30. Please call 251-7098 for tickets. support group Fitzhugh St. Our first rehearsal will be on way to explain the ground ndes and answer RGST is a community theatre, and needs A Sept. 15 at 7 p.m. at DUPC. any questions. If you arc interested, please you, your skills, or just your backbone. Cur> at Third Check the classifieds. RGMC is looking for write to the Gay Fathers' Group at the ad rently we could use any leads on a full- year an office manager. dress below by Sept. 15. An appointment i » theatrical space, as well as any help in the Presbyterian will be made to arrange the prc-session » • following areas: set construction; advertis meeting with you. Please be assured that ing; underwriting campaign; running crew; . The Gay and Lesbian Support Group of discretion will be used when contacting you. publicity; hanging fliers; fund raising; grant Third Presbyterian Church meets twicc each writing; play reading committee. Call our The address is. Gay Fathers' Group, P.O. month for personal sharing and to discuss Box 25525. Rochester, N.Y. 14625. box office number, or 342-0023, for more community issues. information^ The group has male and female co- Oroup facilitators, and encourages participation of both men and women, gay, lesbian, and The Gay Fathers* Group of Rochester Out and About bisexual persons and friends. The group will would like to extend an invttation of gay meet Aug. 3, 7:30 to 9 p.m. in the Church men who are fathers, live with a gay father, Join Out and About and enhance your Parlor, 4 Meigs St. (at East Ave.), for personal or provide care for children, to explore our Lesbian summer with a wealth of activities design sharing. group. Meetings will begin Sept. 29- ed for our gay and lesbian community. On Aug. 17, a member of the group will This is a support otganization for gay men writers' group Canal Path bicycling continues twice each facilitate discussion of current aicheological who come from all walks of life — married, week: on Thursday evenings, hosted by Bob and sociological research indicating that the divorced, widowed, single or in a gay rela H. (442-7185), and Sundays at noon, join Lou "Garden of Eden" myth of creation may, in tionship. Some have young children, some Hold open Sept. 20 at 1 p.m. for a meeting and Bill (436-9187). In addition to healthy fact, truthfully refer to prehistoric times teens, others adult children, but all may of the Lesbian Writers Group. exercise, it's a great way to socialize! when developing societies were neither benefit from sharing, listening, consoling, Due to life's interventions, the lesbian With the co-support of Out and About, violent nor hierarchical, and God, thc reaffirming and encouraging one another. writets seem to have vacationed the summer romp with GLAS on their second annual suprcme being, was female. All arc welcome The group began six years ago. Thc tradi away. A new coordinator (keeper of thc key) hiker, this time along the Erie Canal on Aug. to attend and join the discussions. For morc tion has been to meet for six evenings dur is needed. All lesbian writers arc welcome IS. For more information, call Dale at information, contact the church ofHce at ing a nine week period. New men are admit to get together for mutual support and in 232-6031. 271-6513- ted to the group only at the beginning of put. New w^riters are encouraged to join us! JOHN A. MITCHELL, PhD. Elkins M.S. Ed. Licensed Clinical Psychologist Individual, Group, and Rclationship Counseling Sensitive, confidential treatments tailored to the needs of the clients. Evenings and weekend appointments available. 100 Palmerston Road 100 White Spruce Blvd. Rochester. New York 14618 (716) 244-4837 272-9430 TIMOTHY SCHAPP, M.S. ED., NCC Roman Cadiolics - Episcopalians Medical Arts Psychotherapy Associates Nationally Certified Counselor offers Odier Gay Christians individual, couples . and group counseling and support. Jom Us! 325-4090 Medical Arts Building • 277 Alexander St. Dignity-Integrity/Rochester is an ecumenical organization open to everyone who wishes to worship hi a pleasant, non-threatcnhig atmosphere. We invite you to join us for our weekly celebration of the Eucharist, followed by a social hour, or one of our many special WHITE SPRUCE Addressing the needs events such as pot luck supper, picnic, retreat, etc. A Roman of gay, lesbian & Catholic mass is celebrated each Sunday of the month, except for bisexual Individuals the fourth Sunday when mass is celebrated in the Episcopal tradition. ASSOCIATES &thelrfamiiles Providing individualy couple & family therapy Pastoral and Paar Counseling Is also available • Alcoholism & • Sexuality 8c Sunday Schedule co-dependency issues gender-related concems Llturgy-5:00 p.m. Social Hour-6:00 p.m. • Reladonship problems St. Luke's Episcopal Church 17 S. Fitzhugh St. Martha M* Howden, CSW, CAC William KcUy> CSW, CAC (between Main St. & Broad St.) CrsdenHatod Alcohdisin Counselor CmdemiaM Aloohoiisffl Counselor Phona 328^758 CerWad Sex Therapist Steven D. Dmria, CSW, CAC CredsnlieM Alcoholism Counselor dignity-integrity ^ rochester 496 White Spruce Blvd. 272-7210 •A- August, 1992 Tbe Empty Closet 27 Chelsea. Just a short distance away from the She will be bringii^ the message as well Inn, you'll find the wondeis of Soho, Green Finger Lake^ as sharing her gift of sii^ii^. Vbcship begins COAP wich Village and midtown Manhattan. at 6 p.m., 875 East Main St. (Prince St. Once in New York you*ll have ample time entrance). to enjoy the town. Why not visit thc Statue By Dick Nielsen COAP (Come Out And Play) is a new Thc anniversary dinner will follow the of Ubcrty or the Museum of Modem Art? Or The Finger Lakes Gay-Lesbian Social worship service, and will be held %x the Air group of young adult gays/lesbians that is you may choose to relax at a cafe in the Group is now one year old and goir^ strong! designed to provide an avenue for young port Marriot OBHest Ridge Road) beginning at Village, or check out the shc^>ping New \brk We celebrated this event with our first an 7:30 p.m. Everyone is welcome to atttend thc adults to engage in aaivites with other fun is so well known for. But most of all, don't nual picnic held on Canandaigua Lake. Our people of simiiar age and interests. COAP's dinner, and tickets ate available by calling forget to save some energy for the nighdife. picnic was a huge success. 271-8478. purpose is to pull the young gays/lesbians of New York is full of exceUem Broadway We continue to meet at our regular times the Rochester area together for a variety of through the summer! Come and join! Please Everyone is welcome to attend a class to shows, casual dining establishments and all- leam more of Open Arms M.C.C. and the activities. night dance clubs. remember to bring one refreshment item, Are you content with the prospect of thc bottle of pop, bag of chips. As always, our denomination we belong to. A class will be Don't miss out on this wonderful held on Aug. 12 beginning at 7:30 p.m., at bars being the only way for young adult weekend in New York with Out and About meeting location is known only to members gays/lesbians to socially interact? \(^uld you to assure confidentiality. For forther infor 875 East Main St. For forther informaUon and Great ExpcctaUons Ihivel. X^e*ve amus call 271-8478. likie to play volleyball, go to cookouts at the ed a special package price of otdy 1235 per mation, please contact Dick Nielsen, PO Box beach, play softball or teimis, attend parties 211, Penn Yan, NY. 14527, or call Sam Ed Open Arms is the gay-affirming Christian person based on triple occupancy and $275 church, a congiegation ofthe world's oldest or concerts, bike or hike, river rides or wine per person based on double occupancy for wards at (315) 536-7753 tours, bowl or play miniature gold, attend and laigest gay and lesbian ofganization. 'Sffe the weekend. The package price includes welcome all to our services, regardless of art galleries or cards^izza gatherings, go to round trip transportation on Amtrak, hotel Sc3d>recze, attend movies, or help with com sexual orientation, gender, race or previous accommodadons for three nights, continen chuich affiliation. \(^ bdieve we are the netv muaity aid projects with other young adult tal breakfast daily, gratuities and taxes. Political witness of God's all-inclusive and uncondi gays/lesbians? Come Out And Play. Space is limited! Deposits are needed by tional love and acceptance. VG^^rship services COAP's weekly events for August are listed Aug. 14. Fbr reservations and additional^in- Caucus are held each Sunday evening at 7 p.m., 875 on che caletuiar cxicepc for out car wash fun formation, please call Great Expectatiotis East Main St. (Prince St. door). draiser the last week in August. To find out Ihivel at 244-8430. Thc Rochester Lesbian and Gay Political about other events, come to our next Caucus will not hold an August meeting. In tneeting Aug. 11 at 7 pm. at the Gay Alliance stead we're having a barbecue on Aug. 10 of Genesee Valley, 179 AtlanUc Ave, call from 5:30 to 8 p.m. 244-8640 for more information, or call I'tiere will be food, swimming, music and Chuck at 334-2795 Omega fon. \(^'ll also be presenting awards to those Carpet Caretakers Caucus members who have gone above and beyond the call of duty. All current and former members along with our friends are golf toumament OMEGA coffeehouses are held from invited to attend. Bring a friend or lover. Call Out & About September through June on thc first Satur Bill Pritchard at 251 7437 to RSVP by Aug is coming up day of each month, from 8 p.m. to U p.m. 7, Cost is S5 per person/tS for two. or bring invites you These coffeehouses give us a chance to meet a dish to pass. on Sept. 16 informally for games, music, snacks, and to N.Y.C. conversation. The second annual Carpet Caretakers Golf OMEGA is a state chartered oi^nization Open Arms Tournament will take place on Sept. 26 at Discover the wonders of New York City committed to recognizing and meeting the Shadow Lake Golf Club in Penfield. the weekend of Oct. 9-12. Out and About unique needs of older gay men and women Metropolitan Both experienced players and beginners and Great Expectations Travel have teamed in the Rochester communiiy. We welcome will be able to uke part in the "scramble " up to offer you an enjoyable weekend in the members 35 years or older to join our ac or "best ball" toumament Golfers will * Big Apple; tivities. Guests arc always welcome. Community Church receive greens fees, trophies and door prizes, Sit back and enjoy the fall foliage and For more information, times and locations and there will be special contests, food, live scenic landscapes as wc head to N.Y.C. on of thc coffeehouses or other events, write entertainment, and a party after the The Reverend Dolores Berry will Icad thc tournament. Amtrak for our weekend adventure. to us at OMEGA, P.O. Box 10292, Rochester musical worship at the celebration of Open We*U be staying at the Colotual Inn, a gay N Y. 14610-0292 or call Jan at For information and entry forms, call Arms Metropolitan Community Church's Aron, 654-5728. bed & breakfast located in the hean of (7l6)-223-I748. llth anniversary on Sunday, Aug. 16. ^I^>^l::^^^:^V>:>^lW^iSSj^•(^^;^V^::^/i1 ^ :<^ <^:: r ^fl CAROL PLANK M.S.. R.N. Michele Tb£uiy WELLESLE h ft Psychotherapy Ed.D. N.C.C. CEIVTER f 442-2986 Consultation Iielping women 244-0613 Lesbian & Gay achieve OfEers: Individual • Couple Therapists offer personal « Personal Enlightenment Family • Group Counseling individual, couple & ^' Interpersonal Relationships /^ to persons living a gay, group counseling in a goals M Self Esteem Development lesbian or bisexual lifestyle discreet setting. M Individuals/Couples/Groups Letters August, 1992 Tbe Ettipty Ocaet 29 Continued irom Pa^c 2 societal expectations and lack of role models, other gay men or anything dealing widi consciously aware of as I was that night. I tiomosexuality, name calling, gay bashing, from outdde the district. (Some party itisidcts saw men putting other men down, name he may be confused about, and resist or deny, his more sensitive feelings U>ward this or other cotnpensatory behavio>(^:. such as are unhappy with tough decisions and calling, back stat>bing, laughing in a mock over-identification with ttie heterosexual tm courageous stands Bill made conceming ing way at the effeminate men and the half- friend. Most likely he is uncertain as to how *• mmmmmmmm rcdistrictifig, Bob King, and a deadlocked doxen crossdressers in the t>ar that night. to express them, and plays sex off as world. legislature.) 1 was appalled at the teasing and lack of something casual, lacking substance or any The goal here is to integrate all of ourselves. Wc need to make peace with and AmrsimsiNG In this Democratic primary, expect Bill respect I saw. Growing up as a gay male, I imimate meaiung. He engages in casual or invite all parts of ourselves into a relation sn 1#wwjs n Benet, an unabashed progressive liberal, a was certainly aware of the prejudice in the perhaps promiscuous sex, because if it ship with our TRUE SELF. There needs to be traditional Democrat and energetic worker latger outer world, but this particular night "doesn't mean anything to him emotional an intemal recognition that wc are MUCH for our neighborhood, the gay community, I became increasingly aware of an apparendy ly," than unconsciously he can continue in morc than our sexual identities. Wc can do and Monroe county, to be atucked as quite similar prejudice within my own gay com his denial ofhis true sexual feelings, identi this through reading gay-positive literature, the opposite. Don't t>clievc it. The truth munity. This concerned me gieady, and real ty and orienution. joining a group of gay, bisexual or non-gay Classifled ads cost $5 Jbr Ote flrst 30 with children and enjoy tieing wtth kids No liead games. I want to try to establli^ a hasn't changed, and tieither has Bill. His im ly had tne question myself and my own sense Eventually "intimacy" and "sex" become men to discuss thoughts and feelings of t>e- unmOs and Sl Jbr each additionai 10 words. whenever 1 can. I Uke to "vogue" to Madon true, honest longterm rsladonslilp. Will pressive record of accomplishments still of homophobia. separated. Wc see this occurring with many Services ing not only a man, but a gay man, to gsdn Send ctieck or money order and €ut, typed na tunes and I adore women who wear answer aU who wiU send photo. Paid 1km- stands, and shows what we can expea from Ours is a homophobic society. Gay youth gay males. There seems to be a true desire further validation of self which will combat or written legibly, to. E.C. Press, 179 Atlan Are you co-faaMting with a ia^erf Con lipstick! I also Uke to dress futilonably and my Decker. #185-353. 787 Lucasvllle- him in the futurc. grow up in homophobic families, within a for intimacy and a loving relationship, and Tm having a diffictdt time finding stylish yet a fear of uncertainty about how to attain some of society's negative messages. tic Ave, Rocbester, NY 14607-1255. AOs tidll sider protecting your rights with a ^'living Mlnford Rd., LucasvUle OH 45699-0001. Since 1977, Bill Bcnct has been there for homophobic culture, with perhaps not be accepted over the telephone. women who don't have egos the size of homophobic teachers and peers. Therc is such a relationship (lack of role models). Individual therapy dealing with issues of together agreement" and other legal us. Now we need to be there for him. If you The Empty Closet will not accept measures. BM-peace of mind, call attorney, Texas*. If you are interested, write to me and Please Cree me beam loneliness and are a registered Democrat in Biirs 23rd minimum suppon for their feelings. The Casual, promiscuous, anonymous sex is self may also prove t>cneficial for some gay include your hobbies, goals, desires, rescue me through beautiful love Reaching message is one of disapproval, that something gay men know well, and have men. We can, when comfortable, become classifled ads by mail unless they ane ac- 271-4416. Housecalls, evening and weekend Legislative District, vote for him on primary companied try a name and telepborte af^xiintmetits available. Also affordable whateverl P Davis, 4434 Culver Rd., — seeking. Ttie hope of someone special. day, lUesday, Sept. 15. Whether or not you something is not right with you, and that seen stereotyped by thc media and the larger visible enough with our sexual identities to Rochester NY 14622. uneducated, homophobic society. Intimacy nutnber Tbe number wiil not be ptiblisb- wills, health care proxy. Vm 23, 166 lbs., 5'ir. Andy Blgsby. 233-331, can vote in the 23rd Legislative District, you somehow you arc flawed or wrong. It is very begin creating role models for other gay PO Box 45699, LucasviUe OH 45699-0001. tough to feel good about oneself in such an between two men is something wc know less men, and especially younger gay men in the ed, but tve will call to confirm the ad can help. Bill needs campaign workers, and placement. Change. I specialize in HOUSEHOLD/ Why not spend thc rest of Oic summer environment. There is a very real need to about, and this goes for both gay and non process of coming out. in thc nude? If you enjoy nude recreation help with fundraising. To volunteer for voter gay men. The longer we continue to separate ^^ accept personal aOs, but the advertiser ESTATE UQUIDATION. Sincere and sensitive registration, or for questions or comments, hide emerging sexual feelings for fear of One of the major problems with men, as and arc interested in meeting others to abandonment, rejection, or punishment. intimacy from sexuality, the tougher it will must tise his or her otvn tfox number or ad help for you to make thc chattge in your life. Roommates/ you can reach Bill at home, 271-8178. wc are learning through the men's move Call 461-8383 for Scott anytime. possibly form a group, please write to PO be to integrate the two. ment, is the sense of isolation and loneliness. dress. Wfe ptiblisb personal ads from Box 42054, Rochester NY 14604. ft Sincerely, With this hiding there is an implicit jnHsoners on a space-available basis ifyou Housemates Claire "Chic*' Parker message that "I am not good enough," that It is well known that that which we resist This can ccruinly add fitel to the increasing Body/muscle rabs. Let my strong, sensual 'I don't matter," or that "1 am wrong." This will persist. The morc wc try not to think number or addictions. We need suppon. 'Wn bave a problem tvith apenpai, let us know, Thc foUowing prisoners aiv lonely and Tbe Empty Closet cannot be held responsi hands help you relax. Males ordy. I'm a THE ROOMMATE NETWORK INC Look stigma leads to a sense of isolation and about or acknowledge something, the cannot come to a point of acceptance of self GWM, 30s, healthy, discreet. inA>ut calls. seekii^ correspondance with anyone ing for a roommate or a place to live? Give secrecy which fuels internalized shame. It is stronger it becomes. Many gay men believe alone We are social animals and in need of ble fbr anyflnancial loss orphysicai injury who will write: that may result Jrom any corresportdence Very reasonable rates. Call 987-1314 anytime, us a call—wc can help! 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