Pride Weekend will AIDSWUk '9» LOCAL AND STATE feature many events NOW summit to Patade is Jufy 18, GAGV PicnieJuf y 19 seek new visions By Susan Jordan » last year, with dancing In the The National Organization for Gay Pride thb y«ar is July {5-19, Roundhouse pavilion. Tkkets are Women (NOW) will hold its na with the PHde March artd Festival $5 and $13 In advance, and $8 and aonai conference here July 10- on Saturday, juty 18 and the Gay $16 at th«^ gate. The higher prked 12, at the Four Points Sheraton Aiiiance Picnic on Sunday. July 19, tickets include beverages. Tickets Riverside Hotel. are availaMe at aN artt bars, the but related events, ranginf from a The local NOW chapter says, Pride Connection, Rochester Cus* golf tournament to speciaJ events "This natfonal NOW conference torn Leather, SIke of Life Cafe, for gayftunHies, ar e scheduled from wiil be... different from all other Parkleigh and the Rochester Spa July 15 on. NOW conferences. Bring your and Body Club. Pknk fare will be The Pride Parade will start at the friends, your daughters, your sold by Susan Plunkett Catering, Liberty Pole at 6 p.m.. and will AlOS Rochester's 1998 AlOS Walk raised $141.000 on June 7, Yt^ mothers, your sisters, your neigh Lorraine's Lunch Basket. SIke of proceed down East Ave. to 1,300 walkers takir^ part in the annual fundraiser for local AIDS bors, your co-workers.** Life and Scoop's ke Cream. The Goodnuui, en mm E ,_RjJI;:».T^:3C^:: C L O S 1^ y A3 i jaAwfafriiTtmrtthmMiiTTii lAJB. ^rtdi ccNvthfUMd from p* I tf»School of the Am» with a Gay PHde Barbra Kavanaugh tETTERS TO THE EDITOR: , tfiMM^ Oodrs open att 6 p.m. at 45 Prince X"'^ -^VJ^"*., THcoptntom of columnists, edlibrlaiwrt^c- ^ drops out of race for -rn\it . «rs and otli«r contributlra writers i«e / S£ Oi^Jufy 16. the GAGV wHl host an open their wm and do not necessaHly rdlea' hotne st che Communis Center, 179 At Lt«G€i¥emor dw cdlMttw attitud* of tikv G^fAitence lantic Ave.^ starting at 7 p.m. Perspectivei oTthe Genesee V^tHey or the finpty Ooset. Bert^ Ksvahamth, the openfy lesbian mem We wM pHnt iettein at the edttor^i dfetoe- There will be a community party on ber of Buf&fo City CouncU who attempted ^on and on a space svaHrtAe batis.We WiH Tlw Friday. Jufy 17. ''Break a Sweat for Pride'* to win epiace on the Democratic prinury viewpoints that matter not print personal attadcs on mdMdinlc wM take place at Muthers, beginning at 10 baHot, hts withdrawn from the race. *! t '^>* p.m. The dance party is sponsored by the ICavanaMgh, who tried for ti>e lieutenant -^ Empire $tate PHde Agenda, the GAGV. and n^ .J - govemor slot, said that when she realized COAP (Come Out And Play), and admis- that she did not have enough votes, she • LOCALAND STATE NEWS sk>o te $3at the door, to benefit the GAGV. deckied that she could either travd the state ^rQirt\ Oor Hiiiders Saturday, Jufy 18 will see the first annual trying to get enough signatures on a petition 25 years ago this month,.. Pride season and '^m>iit^ TeamRochester Golf Tournament, with that her name be placed ot\ the ballot, or she letter co Sears coipm^teojHScee^jlaining that registration begioning at 7 a.m. at the could withdraw with enough money to fund From the Empty Cioset, July 1973 Woodcliff Lodge Kesort. The cost is $50 a foture candklacy. She decided that tf she visibility Carbon cop/: Sears* Scars neaHy lost a $Y,Q00^1e because of this The newsletter for the Gay Revolution of Center, however, ignored GROWs involve per person. At 8 a.m. the evenc begins wkh had not ^ne welt, it would have reflected on polic)'. Carol said she M'ould E-maH the district Women (GROW) reported on Jufy 10 that a credit policy a Shotgun Scramble format. All proceeds ment. managicrrand atteiii^to t^otniic^^^^^ the lesbian/gay community and might have go toward the expenses of TeamRochester's meeting called by the group in May at the The GAGV Speakers Bureau did a two- May 23, 1998 ofHcc to change thispolicy. I dM purchase the hurt other gay candidates, and she deckied to competKton in the fifth Intematfonat Gay Wonien's Center had resulted in the forma part talk show with Wyoma Best on WHEC Scars Customer Service/Credit fl{^S^ances becso$e ^ron, Canjii alEuiltob ^^crc withdraw. Games in Amsterdam, the Netherlands, tion of Rochester's first Rape Crisis Center. TV on July 16 and 17. The first show fea 3333 Beverly Road supporti\x, professional and agreeable. 1 com Kevin Finnegan, president of Manhattan's Aug. 1-8, The golf tournament welcomes Planned Parenthood and the Women's Health tured Bob Crystal talking abouc gay rights. he Gay Pride Parade and the Gay Aiiiance Picnic will be combined again this year into Hoffman Estates, IL pliment them on the vc^y thcy handled this Gay and Lesbian Independent Democrats, all gay and non-gay golfers. To sign up. call Collective contributed ideas and facilities to The second show featured Michael a Pride Weekend, July 17-19. Since Rochester Pride Parades started in 1989 (then they To ^"hom It May Concem: sitoarion, however, I would like to sec this said, "The Democratic Party is not ready for Leslie Apetz at 482-9356 byjuly 11. Players the project. Publicity about the Rape Crisis Robertson on the subject of gay life. Twere held on June 28 to mark the StonewaU Uprising), conditions for gay people in our SUBJECT: CREDIT POLICY policx' changed immediately. us to be full partners yet, but they've opened will be limited to 10 foursomes, and can societ)' have changed quite a bit. Unfortunately, one thing that hasn't changed enough is I would like to respectfully ask Sears to the door for us like ntrfer before. Barbra is a non-parent she basically has absolutety no Please nonce that a copv of this letter was create their own foursomes or be paired can choose from among five speciat interest inadequate or nonexistent coverage ofgay issues by the mass media. revisit and change its policy concerning re- the right candklate, but this is not the race co rights under New York law... It was the sent to sc\'eral large gay and lesbian newspa with a group. workshops each moming and another 6ve Govemor Pataki has been dangling $2 million in Department of Health funding for gay and f\jsing to issue joint credit cards to coupks pers and organizations. This is not stricdy a gay run, each afcemoon. correct decision under the case law that Saturday is also the date of two new lesbian social services in front of New York ga^Tt, and then jerking it back again. Even worse, without the same last name. 1 was in your issue, however, do not forget thc married Kavanaugh plans to keep a high profile in On Saturday at 6 p.m. conference partici exists right now in New York" store in Henrietta N.Y, on Saturday, May 23, evena for gay ^milies with children. Bor N.Y.S. Senate Majority Leader Joe Bruno and the Republican caucus have made sure once again women \x'ho choose to keep their maiden the Democratic party. pants will move from the downtown Sheraton Richard Alderman, the ex-partner's law 1998, to purchase a washer and dr)*cr. My ders Books and Husic wili present a Gay that the gay civii rights bill (now called the Sexual Orientation Non-Discrimination Act), passed names. In tlie competitive environment that Sandra Frankel of Brighton, who has al Four Points Hotel to St. Mary's Church, yer, said that che two women had planned partner ViuA I chose a model and were in the Pride Storytime for young children at 10 for thc sixth year by thc Assembly, \^^li not cated columnist Deb Price Hding in a silver Sear^ operates in, one must ask is it vise to ways been supportive of the gay community, where Bishop Clark wilt celebrate Mass and to have a child chrough artificial Insemina process of opening a chat^ when Aaron a.m. Tanya Smolinsky said, "This is the first come to the Senate floor for a vote. Due to this converrible, or receiving a medallion from alienate customers. is still in che Lt. Govemor race. deliver the homily. Local supporters of les tion. The ex-partner has said that she had a Thibauit informed us that cmly couples with time ever that Borders has had this kind of conser\'ative abuse ofthe democratic process, Mayor Johnson, didn't merit a D^ Csnap. Sincerely, -Christine Dinsmore. The New York fikide bian and gay ministries are welcome at the partial hysterectomy based on her former the same last name could open joint ac^ event. The stories read will be inclusive of after 28 years we srill don't have any form of Can yo/f spell *'invisiblc"? Henry PrzybylolJ^^c^ Mass and at an optional community dinner partner's promise to have a child that would counts. lie went on to explasn that my part ^y families and appropriate for young chil civil rights protecrion. The inclusion of sexual I think we all want to feel optimistic that Rumford, R.I. National group for with che Bishop following the Mass. be tiieirs. They agreed to share the rights ner Tom could bc added as an authorized dren. Belinda's Bctuquet by Leslea Newman orientarion in thc hate crimes bill has caused it GanncttwiU cover che gay communit^'V major cc: Tlic Empt\' Closet Currentiy. NACDLGM meml>ership in and responsibilities of the child's upbring user only. Wc confirmed this poiicj'with the is one wondeHul book that will be included. gay Catholics to hold too to go unpassed. AH of these issues seem event a little morc adequately this j'car. It's cludes people from more than 35 Catholic ing. When the baby was bom in 1993 she department manager and nearly canceled thc Options magazine This Is an opportunity to leam about sev newsworthy, and affect thous.^nds of legitimate to be conceracd, though, because dioceses with ministries ranging from one- was given the ex-partner's last name as her sale. I am shocked that this day and age Sears InNcwsWcekiy eral books avaiiabie for gay families. After conference here Rochesterians, yet I have never seen any refer the mass media wield a great deal of power, Thc Rhode Island AJIIiancc person AIDS outreach programs to parish- middle name to indicate the ex-partner's docs not rccogni2c all of its customers. three or four stories are read, the event A national movement providing pastoral care parenthood. Alderman said. ence to them in the Danocrat c^ Cbrortklt. and so often it seems that editorial decisions Rhode Island Gay Website ww^v.glbt.nct based ministries to full-fledged diocesan-sup witl conclude with an arts and crafts activ- and support for lesbian and gay Catholics and Because of media silence, most heterosexu as to M'hat gets covered and what stays invis We spoke to Carol Kalmbachcr, Store Rochester gay Website ported ministries. In February 1997 the two women jointiy ity." their families wilt hold its fifth annual confer als are unaware that lesbians, gay men, bisexu- ible arc subjective decisions. It's hard not to bc Manager, and while all involved agreed rfiat u'^'Vi'.gajTOchcs ter. com Registration materials or more informa filed an adoption petition under which the At I p.m. the GAGV will sponsor a Gay ence in Rochester, Sept. 17-20. als and transgender people sriU have cause to pessimisric wVten one sees indications that the polic)* was anuquatcd, thcy could not tion about ti^e conference can be obtained bio\o^ca\ mother al\eged\y agreed to give Buffalo gav Website www.buffaiopride.com Family Curing at Charlotte Beach near the fear that their employers uill see them on T\ mainstream journalism may no; bc as accurate offrr a sohjtion. ! asked that Carol v^-ritc a The National Association of Catholic Di fromNACDLGM98, \2I UndenStreet,Roch up her rights as the birth parent so the two large pavilion, lastirig until 4 p.m. Tanya marching in a Pride Parade, and wnll immedi or objective about certain groups as it claims. ocesan Lesbian and Gay Ministries ester. N.Y. 14620-2311; or e-mail: could zdopt the child together. However, Smolinsky commented. The GAGV rec ateiy fire them — for "poor job performance" For jnsrancc, a May D^CsiVxiclc about thc (NACDLGM) conference is titied "Imaging [email protected]. they ended the relationship before the adop- / ognizes that many people in the community or some other excuse, rather than for the real horde.*; of visitors expected to descend on litde Justice," which Casey Lopata. local co-chair tion proceedings were final. This fact was who have children want to partkipate in reason of bigotr}'. Funny that homophol)ic Seneca Fails for the women's rights cdebra Corrections of the conference, said reflects this state- Syracuse lesbian cited by the appeals court m its ruling. The pride events but aren't comfortable bring lx>sses shouid be so warj- of telling the truth, rion this month listed a "Committee on Les mentfromthe 1997 document, "Always Our court said that "it was insufficienc to show ing their children to our annual Picnic. This since (as most straights don't realize) it is stiii bian \'^isibilit>'** as one of the invading alien Three graphic credits were omitted in the Children," from the Committee on Marriage loses custody fight to that the child has bonded psychologicaify first-time event at Chariotte Beach is espe- quite legal to fire, or refuse to hire, peopie enrities. Bfupty Closet reitdcTS Unow that it's thc June Empty Closet- The photo of the and Family Life of the Nadonal Council of with the non-parent." ciaify for community members who have biological mother solely on the basis that they are gay, lesbian, Cdalttion for lesbian Visibility', and that it was MOCHA Profect staff on pa^ one (top Catholic Bishops: -Associated Press children. Having two children myself, t am transgender or bi — or are perceived to bc so. founded in Seneca Falls in 1995 and has been left) is by Ron Cl^rk. "Nothing in the Bible or in Catholic teach A state appellate court has ruled that a particularly iooking forward to celebrating There must be some kind of guilt festering there ever since. But it's clearly not quite The photo of the '93 March on ing can be used to justify prejudicial or Syracuse lesbian who had planned to adopt Partner notification Gay Pride with other timiHes." The outing deep inside these employers, or they wouldn't visible enough y^x — to some. Washington (betow left) is by Ellen discriminatory attitudes and behaviors." her lover's child before they ended the rela offiers swimming and playtime at the beach, The conference will open with a welcome bill passes in Albany feel that insunct to coyer themselves. A small matter, perhaps, although ituiica- Mahaffy. tionship does not have any custody rights to and the chance to meet other gay families. by Bishop Matthew 14. Clark ofthe Roches Coming out is, of course, our best hope for tivc of thc level of knouiedge of thc gay The Pride graphic (betow) is by Paul the child. At the end of che legislative session on June For informatfon on any aspect ot Gay ter Dfocese, who Is recognized nationally for ending prejudice and discrimination, but it is communitj' deemed adequate by i>eXr edi Jutton. On June 12 che Appellate Division of State 19. the New York Scace Legislature approved Prkle, call 244-8640. his caring outreach to lesbian and gay Catho not aJwa^'s possible for ever\'One to bc totally tors. But then there's thc tcsdmony of Sgt. Supreme Court here in Rochester ruled a bill CO mandate that people who tesc posi ^K^^i, lics and their families and friends. out. For thc financially secure middleclass, Steve Scott, liaison to the gay community' for 'U» SONDA continued from p. I unanimously that the ex-partner has no legal tive for HIV muse provide names of sexual or however, thc reslity is that most of us have thc Monroe Count)' Sheriffs Department. conservative Sen. Serphin Maltese {R* Each day. the conference will open with a standing tn this state, whkh does not recog drug use partners, so chat the partners can be litde to fear (but fear itself) if we choose to Qu^hs) was the onfy Repubtkan to vote plenary session with presenters addressing nize same-sex marriages. notified of possible exposure. Scotr told this reporter, "'Last summer, a topks that include 'Toundatlonal justke: stand up proudly for ourselves and each other. agftlnst the btii, while the six other Repub The decision reversed the ruling of an The bill wil! also require doctors to report Gannett reporter called and was asking about Toward a Catholk Case for Supporting Gay Unfortunately, it's not exactly comforting to licans on the 12-person committee voted in Onondaga County Family Court judge who the names of people with HIV to publk leu'd behavior in the parks. Hc said, 'Is it all and Lesbian Civil Rights Legislation" and reflect that, while we may still be caught on TV favor. Paula Ettelbrick, legisfative counsel had given the ex-partner temporary visita officiais. Anonymous testing v/iti still be avail h€>moscxual activity'doxi'n there?* I said. That's '^Pastoral lmplicatk>ns of Catholic Sociai Jus cameras»we have Uttle to fear from exposure in for ESP A, said that key Republicans like Sen. tion rightt to the child. The.appeals court able. (The Empty Oosec hopes to print an not thc cascj and whatever \t»yx story is, it's tice Tradition fbr Ministry with Gay and thc Oemocrat <& Chromcie^ judging from last Dean Skelos, a powerful Republkran Irom dismissed that case for tack of standing. artkle in the August issue about how the law \iTong.* The)' seemed to want to kc)' in strictly Lesbian Cathoftcs.** year's Parade coverage, which as I recall was on homosexual acri\4ty." tradMonaify conservatto Nttsau Co.. voted The bfologkal mother's lawyer, Marsha will affect the gay community.) On Friday and Saturday, participants also two or three paragraphs on an inner page of Let's have fun on Pride Weekend, ixt's for SONOA on May 26. Hunt, said, *The appeUate court... said that as -Associated Press Sccrion B, uithout even a single photo. parade and picnic and part}'. But let's not How many rimes can some 2,000 people, dismiss ^drvt polidca) aspect of tiie word "Pride." ii9ma^mmn'mH our confidendai GAGV Membeiship includes an llwpty Chset wearing everjtiiing from "straight-appearing" Because the struggle isn't over yet* Because wc garb to the full Carmen Miranda, march dou^ need to bc visible—we have to bc seen to bc Y sul>f4=f|^tion metlcd toyoof home eleven times a year in a plain East Avenue without meridng a single photo believed. 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Blair Design Studio/ Celeste Wair Rochester Custom Leather Muthers Calvert Group/ Bill Glave CFR American Expreaa Financial Adviaors Christiania Carol and Carrie Cleveland Southwedge Collision Sponsored by the Greater Rochester Gay and Lesbian Busirtees Fonmi and The Gay Alliance oi Genesee Valley. f^t'^^e'O'jr^f » 04f090 9 0 4m»*^0Mj0*0*^Mea^^ f *^>^''-'i^'^^***^*»'»'»'Tfc^V»%.w».s,v\.%^.-^ i^iuk^i^i^aii:*^ v 'ThoM CBUpiiftw mMdh the mottien IMMI Wftant nktm away terview: INMII tlw calMpM^ in w^Jer to haum moea i^ma wtth «ach Lesbian psychiatrisc Nanette GairtcciL studies lesbian othwr* waett moMi wttttf to stiii moms and childten on a long-term basis be tDfallMrirtMM llw couples that hadfaoaii MWMHib cMid. • • -^ \ 15tli-19th z By BsdMer aadbbfattn co-cnodbeis WCVC intteracwed H^MO wlien the July In the earfy f 980s Iocs ofle^3fans «ctr begin' iM« Inchide: biao psfdxiatcisc, was knetesKd tti studyif^ are 10, and this for tfae first time inchides had bn^ccn up. Those cotsples in which ihe wiio once idenrificd as feafaseitt ace now in Priile PaffWrie Wednesday, July 15 mothers had spent time away from die dud- vohred m'idimcfi; a forwVNiicft faave died. But dicsc pioneer Icdbtam. interviews wtdi die cfaildtea tfaccnseives. Hien AKI'Ss Gmy Bingo Night at fite Sdioof of tite Arts "Wc had ao nK»ey,'* she said in a%oeci]t ti&c fiunilies wiQ bc uBtcrvievcd next when tfac drcti, in order to have tnore time with each Nanette has stayed in soncfa widi fust alxxxt all Saturday July 18th at 6:00 pm Doors open 6:00 pm at 45 Prince St. iiucivicw, *'hmtdicxmrse none of due work Fve ditkitcn arc 17« and wfaen tbey ave 25. other, were morc likely to still bc together tiian ciiciiiDnfienfto>fi vi -frv is Those couples in which the mothers bad spent time away terview: from the diMrenp in order to have mofe <^ne with each Lesbian psychiatrist Nanette Gartrell studies lesbian otiier^ were inore IHcely to still moms and children on a longterm basis be together ttiaii the couples that had been tYiostr child- By Hadicr Rothblum co-mothers were intc^e^^ed again when the lSth-19th In thc carly 1980s lots oflesbians werc begin children were a }'ear and a half old and when ning to figure out ways to have children by thcy were five. Nanette's team is currendy Nanette Gartrell GRGLBF's Annual donor insemination. Nanette Gartrell, a les intervie\('ing the fatnilies now chat the children •-. •?'' for Gay Pricle Indude; bian psychiatrist, -v^^as interested in studying are 10, and this for thc first dme indudes had broken up. Those couples in which che who once idendfa^ as lesbiahs Me now in Pride Parade Wednesday, July 15 mothers had spent rime away from thc chil volved niirfi a>cn; a lc«^ women have died. But these pioneer lesbians. interviews with thc childrcn themselves. Then ARI^ Gay Bingo Night at the Scliool of tlie Arts "We had QO money," she said in accent the families will bc interviewed next when thc dren, ih order to have morc time with each Nancnc has stayed in toudi widi fust about all Saturday July 18th at 6:00 pm Doors open 6:00 pm at 45 Prince St. interview, •*lHit of course none ofthe work I've children arc 17, and when thcy are 25. other, were more likely to still be together than thc wonien fromtiheot%inftt!$ampJe. Ascoi^les at the Uberty Pole ever done has been funded. It*s usually too '*Whcn wc interviewed thc mothers at first, the couples that had been most child-focused. break up and then get mvolved widi new part controversial to be funded by any of the tradi when thcy were pregnane, thcy andcipaied Now thc team is interviewing the 10-year- ners, Nanette incorporates all these "step- Thursday, July 16 donal sources, such as the National Insdtutes being out as lesbians," said Nanette. "For the old childrcn. "It's vcry exciting to bc inter moms" in the scud\\ 'This rneams we may be GAGVs Annual GAGV Conwmmity Center^ Open HtHsse of Heaidi. It's years ahead of its time in terms of most part jthey used unknovTk donors, because viewing thc kids for the first time," said Nanette. the only study that has more pardc^nts at the Doors open 7:00 pm at 179 Atlantic Avenue when such s^cndes would fund this kind of there wsis a lot more fear at that time that *Ticcausc wc have these vety articulate kids end of die study tiian at die beginntng!" 5 she research. We decided if we u'aited for funding somehow the state would come in and take the who arc highly educated aroimd issues of di said. Pride Picnic versit)', racism, and homophobia." Friday, July 17 agencies to get over their homophobia to fund childrcn away. By the time of thc next inter More information about die study results Breali a Sweat fdr Pride this study, we'd bc waiting another decade. So Doing longitudinal research is not easy- can bc read in: Nanette Gartrell es al. (1996), Sunday July 19th at 1:00 pm, views, when thc children were toddlers, many Co*Sponsored by ESPA, GAGV and COAP we went ahead and funded it ourselves." of them regretted this and v-Hshed they had When Nancnc had a flood in her basement a "Thc National Lesbian Famih' Study: Inter- at Genesee Valley Park Nanette's study is now thc longest-running used a known donor who could have parrici few years ago, some ofthe file cabinets got wet. \iCM's With Prospective Mothers." Atttrrican Doors open 10:00 pm at Muthers study of lesbians who had children via donor pated in thc child's life as a father. Lesbians "I was frantically using a hair dryet to dr)' the Jotirrtat efOrtteps^tdtit^^ytAntne 66, number 2, Alt proceeds benefit the Gay Alliance inseminadon, that we interviewed even a few years later had pages ofthe interviews so the data wouldn't be pp. 272 281. of the Genesee Valley Saturday, July 18 "It's already been wcU-documentcd that kids begun to use knouTi donors. We actually lost," she recalls. Nanette phones all thc fami Bsthtr R^thhittiN is Profrssor of PsyctHtit^* at the fst Annual TeamRodhester Golf Tournament of lesbian moms are healthy,*' Nanette told mc, stopped inviting new participants in 1992 be lies each year to see if they have moved, so she University of I'^nrtmnt and Editor o/'Z-iv Journal of Tournament begins at 8:00 am at the Woodcliff Lodge won'tlose touch with them. A couple ofwomen "so we're not trying to re-establish that. VC'hat cause the 'old' lesbians differed so much from Lesbian Studies. Resort. Call Leslie Apetz at 482-9356 to register w^e're interested in is how thcy have coped with thc 'new' ones in terms of donor identit)-." homophobia." At the time, Nanette's major Not surprisingly^ the children were vcry Gay Pride Storytime for Young Oilidren collaborator was living in Washington, D.C. much desired. VC^en the leshians were first and Nanette was living in Boston, so they inter\newcd while pregnant, about half thc 10:00 am at Borders Books, Music & Cafe began the research x^rith lesbians in those two women were in coupled relationships, and had Gay Camping at it's Best ^ties. Then Nanette moved to San Francisco been unth their parmcrs from a few months to GAGVi Gay Famiiy Outing and induded lesbians from the Bay Area. a decade or more. Others werc singic mothers. 1:00-4:00 pm at Charlotte Beach near the large pavilion The first step was finding lesbian mothers to When Nanette's team re-interviewed thc participate. Nanette's research team adverdscd mothers when the children were a year and a 9S35 OLD STATE RD. GRGLBF^ Cultural Festivai in bookstores and gay and lesbian newspapers. half, thcy were not surprised to find com Following the Pride Parade at the Village Gate At They made up flyers to distribute at lesbian pletely exhausted, harried mothers who had ANGEUCA. NY 14706 films and community events. They went to all ver>' litde time for their own lives other than the ^or\cs\\op» on choosing childrcn and told childrcaring and paid emplo^Tncnt. One ofthe parddpants about thc study. Thc ori^nAl study areas of difficult)' was thc iittJc contact wirh began with 154 tnothcrs. their partners, and this was often a source of =^^one: "^16-567-3100 The first interviews took place when the tension. By the rime ofthe interview's when the Call the <;AGV at 244-8640 mothers were pregnant. 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I stood by in riot gear. lived in Arkansas from 1985 to 1994. Bill Flip Benham says that it hurts him t(»tl>mk Clinton's presidendal campaign and the first of people "shakif^ their fists at GodtJ* What year following his elecdon resulted in a swarm really hurts Flip is the nodon that Americans in of visitors to "Arkansas: the Natxiral State." growing numbers support civil dghts for gays (Aduuisas used to bc called the "Land of Op and lesbians and support women's access to portunity/' but diat is the subject for another reproducrivc health services, and that book column.) stores offer children and adults the tools they Most memorable were the visitors who need to think crirically about issues facing our helped us understand the linkages berwcen society. issues. First, Iitde Rock was targeted by Rev. It hurts me to think of childrcn entering OtwcU from Texas. He and 40 ofhis followers Disneyland and WaltDisnc)' World subjected picketed first CJovemor and then President to the Flip Bcnhams and those ofhis ilk. But it elect Clinton's home church. Thcy targeted hurts mc even more to think ofthe children of lesbians and gay men, people of color, doctors the demonstrators — children that are gay, who provided family planning services, and lesbian, bisexual, transgendered or question people lix-ing with HIV and AIDS with their ing — learning to hate themselves and learn wrath. For three months, Sunday after Sunday, ing that to love they'll have to leave their wegathercd lOOcounter-protesters across from families. thc church. We were subjected to taunts and As a recent report issued by NGLTF's Policy physical threats. Worst ofall. week after week, Institute indicates, the rate of disapproval of we watched the children of Otwell followers homosexual relationships has dropped pre hoisted on top of coffins and encouraged to cipitously over the last 10 years. By shining a shout AIDSphobic chants. light on our families, Flip and friends provide By the time Flip Benham, Operarion Res us with a tremendous opportunity' to do what cue, and other demonstrators came to picket our communirics have done best — educate and block entrance to fanuly planning clinics, those around us through Uving lives based on "WC -were ready. W c Vubd molded ourselves into love, respect, and accountabiUn' to our com the Arkansas Libert>' Alliance, a coalition rep munity'. resenting sodal^ polidcal and religious organi ^rty I Jibe! is Executin Dinctor of the National zadons. Wc had hands-on traimng from the Cay and lesbian Task Force which has narked to Fund for the Feminist Majorit}*. Some of the eliminate prejudice, violence and injustice against gay, most ardent foes of women's right to choose ksbian, bisexsial and transgettdetvdpeopie at the local, were on the scene. Randall Terr\', Joseph state artd national level since its inception in 1973. As Scheidler and others attempted to divide our part ofa broader sociai justice ntoi'tment forfretdottt, town. Importandy, few people took the bait. jttstice and equality, NGLTF is cnatiitg a world that Most heartbreaking were the scenes of chil respects and celebrates tbe diversity of human e>:pres- dren yelling threats and taunts as we escorted sion and identity where all people may fidly participate women to dinics for famity planning services. in society. Moving fast forward to today, Operarion Disney update: few join Operation Rescue Few people cumed out for Opcracian Rescue's protest at Walt Disne)''s magic kingdom in COnHtKClAt^ Orlando. Fla, on June 6. Reuters, Associated Press and thc Oriando Setitinel tcported that only around 200 showed up for thc anti-gay group's demonstration against the annual 60 Browns Race - 262-2700 Disne>- Gay E>a>-s. Mean«4ule, Reuters said that an estimated 120,000 ^ys visited Orlando and Disney Worid. "In spue of all die hoopla, it had the feeling of a ven- normal day." said ivBL tsmmEs Overlooking the High Falis Gorge Disney spokesperson Bill Warren to the Sentinel. 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PAGE B5 PAGE BI2 Columnists Gay Groups • Farewell to Tom Fronczak and B Lambda Car Club Fingct Lakes 7i* Atttbetttk Seifi welcome to chapter holds its Classic Car Bruce Wilbur's The Scettic Rottte. Show during Pride events. PAGE BI8 Calendar PAGE B3 •4' HAVi YOU «eT THE «©DOK Share it with the restof thegaycommunity! The • Pride Parade, GAGV Picnic, Check it out % fempty Ckwet IS ahvays lookingfor lnfermatk>n regarding evema and socW ac^ and ail the other events of H Book and nnusic reviews. you laK>w something, send it to us! Subm^sk>ns are due by the I Sth of each month at: Pride Weekend 1998. \ '%' The Empty Closet. 179 Adantk: Ave.. Rochester, NY 14607-1255; Or caH 244-9030. 1 Jl ? ^f*^^ -.^ir<^^' ^^^^^.T^^r^yf^^^^^ ^ '^'*-^ J-: c a N Coftting up... a possibilin-, a hunk) soap opera star enters the fray, and the sexual and Blackfriars verbal sparks he creotcs throw a WTench stages Sumnner into their ncvfound romance. At the same time as rhe couple tries to na\n- "Camp" plays gatc their new romance, thc wedding slowly becomes enshrouded in chaos: Blackfiiftirs Theater will present Stun- sexual confusion, madcap moments mer *'Camp/* three comedies in ro of manral tension, nnd mns of alcohol tating rep, from JuJy 10 to 26. ensue until nil chnos erupts on the The Queen of B/rrgo, by Jeanne couch of thc bridal suite. Michcis and Phyllis Murphy, ex / TIjifik I Do boasts snappy dialogue, plores thc bingo adventures of t^'o giddy romance, and the one and only sisters over 50, and is directed by Alexis Arqucrre, who h.ns recently tit Ken Higgins. Thc performances will illated audiences \orh his wacky per be July 18 at 6 p.m.; July 19 at 7:30 formances as a melancholic Boy p.m.; July 24 at 8 p.m., andjuly 26 at George impersonator in thc main 3 p.m. (This sounds like a natural stream film Iht W'eddiii^ Singer^ and a for regulars at ARI's Gay Bingo teenage girl in last yearns runawav fes- Night.) ti^al hit. Scream Ttnt Scnam. Me afsd Je^^My hy EHzahttth L. Tickers for each show arc $10 and Fuller, directed byjohn Hftldoupis, will bc avail.ible at Tiie Pride Connec traces Fuller's true^fi£e account of rion and Silkwood Books. Tickers will the time in summer 1985 when Bette Davis came to stay For th^ night, also Wc available at thc Littic Theater on tVvt tX^vy t^\ T\"^C scv^uTA^n^. and ended up sta>ing^uzM>flth. Cau tion; strong langua^ (Bctte swore "like a trooper," it seems). Fasten CLV presetxts your seatbelts... The piay will run July 17 at 8 p.m.; July 19 at 3 p.m.; Cytron/Reagon July 23 at 8 p.m., avfed July 25 at 6 concert, women's p*m. . .'• . Psy^ha Beach Par^^ by Chaiies dance in Seneca Busch, directed by pmm Gen^, is Falls July 17,18 •'Gidgct crossed u'ish IU I^ttmFitttFS tfEve and Mtmtmie Dmm. Ifjdiivft Seneca Falls injuly will be a whirlwind Enjoy the view of downtown Rochester whik easily offended this is not the play of ^'omen's evenr;, including an a|>- sipping a cold refreshing cocktail. / for you*" It wifil»e ps^Msnced on July pearanc^ b}* Hillary- Rodham Clinton, PS: tt's the best cruising spot! 16 atS p^.; July 18 at 9:3Dp.m4ju^ and a perfonnance h\' rhe Rochester 25 at 9:30 p.flft^a«>d Jfrfy 26-ai7a0 Women's Communit}' Chorus. The • ...BLOU/ OUT! pjn. Coalition for Lesbian Visibility, Adult Aitemative Retro Dance VJ.P.tllNh4PMfEf FROZBI Show )«i»r^eahi-enjeY i hour Blackfriars Theater \^ locaied ar founded in Seneca Falls in 1995, laill Pance 10pln^2am open bar 11:30pm-12:30am sponsor a women's dance and a con $1.S0 Rolling Rocks 281.Awn Sc and is air-<:ondidoned. 5pi 2forl£j^ $1 Rnts All Night cert by Sara C\Tron and Toshi Reagon. 30f Chkken Wings TECHNO 10pm'2am "ndpets arc JIO. For reaervadons» 2 fo|;;$ v«iei|fuom 10pm-2am with DJ T R.T, call 454-1260. C\tron's humor and Reagon's mu OJ Samnvy DJ Damian sic wiil be featured on April 18 at 8 Inru^geOutto p.m., at the M\"nderse Academy audi ond Tea £3^^ 14 15 "c torium, 105 Troy St. in Seneca Falls. Adiklt Aitemative screen two films .y VJJ>. HUMP NTTE! Dance Retro Dance Advance sale rickets arc $15, and are Tea Dance '%^ 10pm-2am S^tt>wyo^Mt v^-l-ffef J-'b.d^ J^^A^ M P T V C L 0 S K T B3 abottt ivhat we should call ourselves. Guys my "You have to take ri^ts; chey don'c give been broadcasdng re-runs of che show every *60s v^ith Joan Bacz and Janis Ian, and soul ried Constance lioyd as a nise to gain social j^^foeaX^^ chem to you." Moodi^naght at lO/Why is blue-collar Buffalo. Wikto continued firom p* Bl M^th che legenckM^' Glad>'s Kaighc and che acceptance in 1884. llie lesuhwaaiii initiaBy awate^oaeiaiHB aJnUt' whji(& you> wjooU diiiak ts k»s gay-fintocSy than eternal Tina Turner, to the hardest of rock actor Stephen Fr>'—a dead-ringer for the real tranquil marriage of convenience dutprotduced that siMft tnan %cise hie» ao4% hiitt^iove yoo. I^ Rbidlester, ^kilcig what WXXI in Kochester with jTanis jof^in. Grade Slick and (I would be Wilde—embues his diaracter with a complex two sons. In ITSUr, Co^acance ia skillfully teal* privfli^ of ^dte 'Bust dteirgasket about otfaers littcEk anything dse under heaven really mat seems afraid co do? I wotdd hope chac peole here remiss co leave out) the Queen of Soul Aretha blend of excess, gendeness, masochism, and ized by Jennifer Ehlc* Hiov^ EhlcV presence perity* fairies or qucer^ because for ters?" will not only wacch ic buc also make it a prioric)^ Franklin. Along the way there were die groups enigma. Wilde once quipped that one must is intentionally dwarfied by Law's, she cKmethe- Ihe final acenar were pejoradve labels. Bttt I say, -Jamea Baldwin, Wdter to support this program, which is che only na LaBellc (who gave many of us our first French ^•.^ *•?"•'•-•••• - •***";• "• ••" ••--.•• ^^ •• •••• -I ~ •'-• ,r- 'treat all trivial things seriously and all serious less manages CO portray Wikfe's meek wife with funous vii«er every man call himself what he donal gay TV newsmagazine." lesson) and Fanny (who sang the virtues of things widi scudied triviabty." Throughout genuine sympathy and accurate understacemenc ReadioglSM^ iieedom to choose our idendty, The show ulrimately ht^>es co go monthly', if "Butterboy" in the 70s). ' WiHe^ we see a man straggling co live up to his Similarly, Vanessa Redgrave gives a thorou^y onerCJ^' aio«yi|^^label —if at all — is really whac it receives eitough stepport from individuals IfKace Bush was the Godmotiier of ^('omen's own words. The studied indaflEerence widi convincing (albeit brief) perfbcmance as Wilde's undcrwHti&s *^ln the he was aod the evt qSiilc iJBto fig^cing for, wasn*^ it?^ across die country. For informadon call 1 -800- music, then thc brilliant Paula Cole is the \diich Wilde defied bland and often oppres suffbcacingty enchusiascic mocher. who Oiice -WjMtittJi igj>, Busineaaman Life" newsmagazine 626-ONTV, or concacc wwwinchclifetv.org. Granddatighcer. The 1998 Grammy wiimer sive social convendons is amply displayed Much as been written and debaced abouc icy now eefieet* leave che hetero wodd because Phi! NOsesko, owner ofthe Pride Connection, for Best New Artist was bom and raised in diroughout the film. Nonetheless, Fty*s Wilde whether or not Wilde actually was a mart]^ for tunes. people fike yometEl It's leafy a so well. Then we come inco thc is die only local onderwnter of thc N.V.C.- Rockport, Mass., the '*Bechlchcm" chat she docsn't'mucatc inco a polidcal mouthpiece for the homosexual cause. Scholar Claude J. Sum "Why is it that ooeiuta to ooe'a miti?^* cause iicKfaiflg ts ever going to get done as kKig •md allow others to define who we produccdgayTV ncwsmagaaanc "In die Life," Night Music: sings of on her ground-breaking CD//t//*/^r post-Sconewall queer polices. Inscead, the ac* mers has put che matter into words succinctly: ^^Ide ^Toce in Ik Pt^imdiit hta h0fjk4BQ^ aa tPe tear each Odter t^.** ^ Don't conform; bc yourself. There shown on WXXI, che Rochescer PBS scarion, Thc former prom queen graduated frcmi thc tor allows che witty, charming, and certainly "Wilde's disastrous decision to prosecute are frorti Kate Bush to prison letter to Bosie. What makes IPS&k so <^^^pde HsA» AtftmKsy/Ma^fctOMUe are ouB^j^ianaAy flavors ofgay life." every ocher mondi. Berklee School ofMusic in Boston, where she pompous man to bc a human being, one who Queensbury for alleging that he posed w a compelling is chat it boBiamly densooatraves '^ hate chatge role models ase supposed CO -Miiiill Michael, Clinical Psychologist Misesko said, "Almosc no one was vi^atch- Paula Cole smdied jazz singii^ and improvisation. After uses language as his sole defense against igno sodomite was itself reacdonary rather chan be jusclike strai^pec^^ As if atraig^tpeople che probletns that occor when one's nature and i^jjiiiaii Hiking Giddb ing it, probably because ic*s bi-monthly^ and By Savannah gradauarion, she^'as a tiack-up singer for Peter rance and intolerance. defianc.Thac he did noc go inco exUe, as so weie even like diac." dictates self-deatrucdon, "Evesy dme wc kiss/ because WXXl broadcast ic at 11 ^30 or mid Whac people call'Vomen's music" is many chings Gabriel on his 1992-93 world tour. This would But such defenses were rendered impotent many prominent Victorians had done when -Paul Rudokk, Wxiter (fironiy#F) we coii&in the new worid coming." night, on the first Sunday of thc month. I ~ quirky, odd, arcane — but never is it dull or be the door-opener that ever\- artist needs. m the pfesence of physical beauty. Wilde had foced with the prospect of scandal and prison, fioolcievlewr ''Moscgm'saffectatdtudebecausedicythiak -BaaekHemphin, Poet made that point when I spoke co WXXI co sloppy. After breathing the polluted air tiiac arose Her songs are the voice of pain that preceeds a hankering for yt^ung men, whether they werc is a measure less of his rebelliousness chan of its atoracdve. But atdtude is /tetvr atcracdvc. "I aul oot a beginning. ask to become an undetwriter and to move from thc testosterone-driven heavy metal ghetto, redemption; they are the fire of emooons that rough trade or spoiled aristocrats, such as his his felt need to maintain his position in sodety. 425 gay men estpiain Work on your o^-n insecurides instead." I am not an end. thc air date to thc second Sundav of the Kate Bush, ^iiom many consider thc Godmother arc deeply and fiercely personal, but yet uni most infamous conquest Lord Alfred Dou- Even thc eloquent defense in his second trial of -Mitchell Gaynor, Gardener I am a linic in a chain. month, which should improvethe vicwcrship, of what was then an embrj'onic musical style, ^-as versal. Her guiding light is a statement by thc f^a&. By now acknowledged as che primary 'the Love thac dare not speak ics name'... is it ali to you... Tind >x)ttr voice. Whether it's deep or W^ Tlieiitet^h of which depends oti my own jusc because it allows rime for awareness of a true breath of fresh air. great poet Pablo Neruda, who said, "to explain i^entin Wilde's ruinadon, Doug^ (nicknatned shar^ undercut by the fact thac the speech, By &ia«n |ot4«t» J§hu^i$C^/,hy Ken Hanes-Three Rivers Ptess, doesn't macter, being authentic does.** contiibocions, as weH as dte contriburions of che show to percolate through che gay com Unlike her brothers who called ^emselvcs poetr\' is to nuUifi- the purpose of ics exist Bosie) is plaj'cd in Wilde by the androg}*nous latgely untrue and certainly miskadifig, was 201 RSOdiScNewYorkN.Y. 1002Z192 pp; •^ffichaei Keansa, Actor chose before and after me,.. When I am aware munity.'* "Mcgadeath" or 'Whitesnake," Kate Bush, %-ith ence." Like the powerful thoughts expressed Jude LAW. Perfecdy cast as the toxic beauty designed co deny che physical expression ofhis paper, S7.95* (To older inen): "Accept that I might want of this unity, and refiise to let my self-doubt Misesko said that "In thc Life" receives no her air of wonderment, appealed to the highest in this simple statement, she is a woman who behind the "gross indecency" scandal, Law*s homosexualic}' rather chan co defend ic." The hallmatk of the poor hook tevieu'^ is a your friendship, your advice and 5raur and lack of self-confidence interfere, it is one funding from FBS and all their funding comes common denominator. She was Rhiannon in answers to no one. presence is at once so sexually riveting and In light of Oscar Wilde's somewhat murky plethora of quotes, but chis particular bookie^ mentorship uidiout wanting 3'ou to fuck me. of tl^ most wonderful feelings I've ever expe from private donarions. "ItS a tribute ro their carnate. Her songs are like thc moming sun as it exasperaringiy selfish that any s>'mpathcac status as thc forerunnerof gay liberadon, Wtkk S^akit^ Ottt^ consists of nodiing else. Play And don't cake that ns an insult." rienced' Iam a necessary part of an important commitment that thcyVc survived on a shoe bathes rhe world wich heaJing warmth, calling viewer migjit vcry well see thc reasons behind Tin:c moved along, and women became more doesn't intend to hide its subject's h)*pocrisy. wright Ken Hanes, author of TU Cay Ctty's -John Soiberg, Label-Free search to which there is no end." string budget." ail things to iife, and because of this, we arc all Wilde's doomed fixarion. and morc the focus of popular music, in all In a surprising!)' sober courtroom scene. Fry's Gwdetol^ttnd TbeGayGtiy'sGttidei9J..i>tfe,\m% "live ttith a lesbian so }-ou team that petiiaes -Kel^ Hiring, Ardst He added thac the Buffalo PBS scarion has phases of music, from thc folk revolution ofthe better for thc experience of hearing her. Thc film accurately documents Bosie's ex Wilde defends his acdons in terms of'*a greac complied a coQccdon of comments firom gay don't rule." pert manipuladon of Wilde's innermost fears. affecdon of an elder for a younger man as there men famous and unknown, livir^ and dead, on -Scott Olaen, Male-Gender Lesbiao By pitting our hero against his bigoted (and was between David and Jonathan, such as Plato a x^ade variety' of topics. Reading die book is '*I hear so much quibbling and gnimbling unstable) father, Thc Marquess of Queensbury, made the very basis ofhis philosophy, and such che yoimg lad effectively introduced Wiidc to as you will find in the sonnets of Midiaekngelo Miriatn Steinberg PhD public prosecurion for sodomy. and Shakespeare... that deep, spiritual affection Ifthe central concern of Wiide is the dtama- u-hich is as pure as it is perfect." Nowhere m cizarion ofWilde's relarions with Bosie, several R%t, or in Wilde's actual writings, do we Nutrition Counselor other minor figures in che film surface with witness him endorsing man-to-man love ht- comparable success. Despite his insistence on t^'cen people of similar ages, and/or matched A haUstic approadi to natural health dismantling societal convendons, Wilde mar intellects. Furthermore, Wilde's ver^* cx^ana^ with optltftm f^ritUm, ,,^ bod^tmattmU immune JwKtWn^mti elevated', creatir^ hakmce and heaith. 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Check it out," The Law Office of Lawrence KriMer, Attomey, wbbtait £ke ft loc» has matecializcd after sev "Fve resisted ediring the original, buc se\-eral congratulates OUA^G.V. on 25 years of PHde serving tatki^ iocmnaiuaicado. Steve has agreed to of those rules, edited and taken togedier, are pnjs^ke a hocne repaif that no one else un- quice powerfiil. Fortunately, I have a forum the community. We can all be proud of woridng deaHRficis or is willing to tackle. He is even- where I can post thc tmcha$tged origfmily and together to make Rochester increasingly a city where tetnpeiecl and confident. He wants to wait until paraphrase here; tiie ^pldng rains stf^ befbre he digs around the You will leam lessons, Ifjott don't leant lessons, they .C^ all people, regardless of sexual orientation or gender mdatOfmy house in what he assuiies me will be gtt harder A lesson is ttpeatrd and ptesented toy ott in expression, are treated with dignity and respect for the final remedy for a basement leak. variousfttrtNS ttntilyon Intm it. Thenyou cangp on to Steve is so agreeable, so reassuring and so tbe next lesson. Yon will know yon'I'e leamed a lesson their legal rights. ijuatve that I dunk I will ensnare him with an when your atf ions change. Fkmdd Planning. 8 indoor ptoject, sort of a pre-task bonust let*s Bifty person or incident is the L ^nirwrsal Teacher. rep^ce ^te shower stall Once work com ^ The Authentic Self.-*,.*.—**—8 There atr tso mistakes, only lessons. Then an no '^ ^^/ Have a great Pride Weekend mences, it becomes cU^ to me that thc floor victifus, onfy students. "Failttn** is as mttch apart of coutd be replaced, too. Finally I stsk Steve to the process as "sttccess'*. FAMILY ATTORNEY- FULL SERVICE LAW PRACTICE repakit. ! want evcr>Tliing g^stening white. in America do you see men in their 40s? They're bercd an old John Wayne mo\ae (sorr}); **The "It's funnv how 1 knew all thar. Somewhere, Thc four-day job stretches out to 10. Thc on some level. But reading the words is what • Non-Traditional Fannily issues • Debt Relief / Bankruptcy buried in suburbia. Not only are thc men big High and The Mighty." It was about a maybc- protracted birth pains cause me to love my and healthy and sexy, they have gteat hair. The gonna-happen plane crash. All thc passengers made it real for mc." • Wills specifically for Gay Couples • Real Estate / House Closings new badhroom all thc morc. Many of life's lessons we must leam for • Small Business / Incorporation haircuts are what do it. Tlic hottest men, their have breakdowns. Some get drunk. Been there, • Divorce / Separation I rc^gard my pristine bathroom with affec hair a mixture of black and grey and white, done that. Claire Trevor throws her fur coat ourseh'cs. Although the wisdom ofcxp»crience • Child Custody & Visitation • Civil Suits in State & Federal Courts tion and pride. One small issue troubles me. favor a blunt short cut; thcy look like sexy out the window. Or was that Talullah Bankhcad is offered to us by others, wc have to make the • Child Support & Modification •TrafficTickets / O.W.I. For some tinte, beginning quite prematurely 1 badgers. I resolve, staring in the hotel mirror, in **Lifeboat?" Sitting halfwt'ay back, depressed mistakes, leam the lessons, for ourselves. • Criminal Defense • Auto Accidents / Property Damage assure you, I have colored my hair. Sometimes to hang ^^nch my natural hair. and tearful, was Jan Steriing. A skilled B-movie It Starrs carlv in life. Evcnonc has leamed • Legal Nanrte Change • Serious Personal Injury the result looks great^ Sometimes thc phone Three days back in America tny knees arc actress vinth eyes chat were slighdy crossed, Jan this lesson for themselves, and has seen little rings and I end up looking like Freddy Munscer, shaking; my confidence gone. I look horrible. Sterling was a tough gal and ver%', verj' plati kids insist upon learning it for themselves. Tr)' disconcertingly raven. Each dme I stand in the The Angel reappears. "Stop by on Saturday, num. Knowing the end could be near, she as thev might, evcr\' parent has suffered along Attorney at La^ shower stall waiting for the water to rinse clear, 111 see what I can do. I think yovi should go all hoists herSamsonite make-up bag onto her lap \^ith their child as thcy leamed the meaning of I wonder again if my scalp will stain. Chums white." Well, it'll be a match for thc crappcr. and methodically removes her sluttish make "hot." "Don't touch thc stove! It's hot?" And now know if they see me wearing a baseball cap The Wilder Building Saturday arrives. The world traveler who up, a fallen woman preparing to meet her as soon as thcv can get awa\' with it, the IVc let Miss Clairol overstay her time. 1 East Main St, Suite #^ can bravely dimb aboard a bus heading to an maker in her natural state, an honest woman at youngsters touch thc stove and get burned. Rochiester, NY 14614 Contem^^ting the small per fectwhite room, uncertain desnnadon trembles in thc dooru-ay, the end. She didn't do a damn thing to change Tile mistake made, thc lesson learned. I wonder could Nimibcr 518, Warm Dark one last deep breath before entering the salon. her hair. I think a lot of life's lessons arc like that. We Brown, bc a contributing factor in thc gradual Why hasn't some genius uTittcn a sitcoin Neither will I. Let thc fiin times begin. have to experience thc pain, physical or emo N«nrtb«r ot TOLL PKEE OUT OF AREA discoloration ofthe old shower stall? 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Ulumately, I guess all the basement^ the cold, damp, badly lit base- xfc am ofter unyonc \^ Y'^rmpectivc, eitVicx V>c- an) entranced. 1 »n also slammed into a chair. Lessorts in Love nH^.llMr sokition mm/mmiaimii HULjOnWiKljJM mfmmrf^zsrtuiz !^.* V '^^asrsi,^ ?te.-'^?cw;ra'iiiSMiw. • .• ,,'i". ,'•,',!;' •ii?;.i«^'i:''fl-i>.:--v;-. •'•:•*•• >• " :• " C L o s u T B7 On Your Side 4) What can I do in my Hfe to change the ried couple. It is quick to point out economic real lelatiooships in my life. Ranging in length reaBy talked fer die first time injwan « remember a thing tbat I had said, ^igfooce it hare n6 b^&rif^ o«^ 6r Acttfing diings diat I don*t Hke? Womanspirit differences, suggesring chatsingle parencs tend feom six mondis to 15 years. By the standard Our breakup had been rety lowT and, ttery cociaplefdy* oc wouil cdte die ilimdng SA tte en|^. By * Chtiatine 5)'Acn I makix^ a d^Gerence in this wtxId? CO have poorer quaHri' housing and less money measure, since Fm singie again, each of them pidilic At least witbin the flea market sNaene, it tatacs oppcHdisi> TtSk^dbom ^usmtii^ . you something lO dc> '^disn Sifflona 6} Am I ghru^ too much«o others and not By Dr. Paula available chan dud-pnrene families. Another has "feiled." Buc I've taken the lessons from was a jRlCseap epene, so^ we weieg^vttn'A t^nde 'Xfody « fe#«M»ba 1^ I zealiaed t^ %bt} Hx tbe drird entity ~ diei to mysdf? etc.. DeChelly comparison is around sin^e mothers having each and applied them to the next. Perhaps berth by both our vendors and die ebSUHxieifs used die wiM^ibes^'dt^Gi&retitfy. I wouU use And oow^ simevycsBte Independence Day For me» I can honesdy say I exri much hap less time available for chemselves and thcsr pier in my life dian I was on^ year ago. The Fve come fer enough that next rime, "LIK" aMkcBssentiaPy, everyone Within 4Q tt>5 0 feet tt meaning to dmk axid understand what is problem, but fivm different sideik fM can Hiert are many traditions that peof^ may have Healthy self-image children than families ^xnth t\i-o parents. These beikig said^ Not ntreaasfily to agtee, but to heaviness ofmy grief and mourning has less won't stand fbr Long-Tctm Relationship, but deared out. I dunk diey wece ei|>ecttf^ die make cfuick wodt of ic Afenr aB^ a burden ^4ien it comes to July 4di. There are barbecues, The mosc valuable lessons in my Hfe have come are some of thc factors thac lead co concern couple the act i>f hearitig words with duidcing ened and I want to Hve again! Thank thc starsl fbr Life-Time Reladonship. I won't know fbr shoot-out at the OK Corral. Or at least some shared... beachparties;femilygatherings,panie5atbacs, from being a single parent. It has been a long over hou- well single mothers can parcnc on dKMit daeir meatung. He took the word to I love my work and the pec^ple I come into sure until I gee chere. fireworics at the East Avon Flea. It was, after ^t sitt^dy beconies a matter of drrv^smg 1^ fireworks and lots of food. Whatever way in joumey ^ich many hills to cHmb and Iocs of their own. mean obey, as tn ihe sentence, listen to your contact with. My rdationships widi friends I spent 15 years with Vince. Fve really not all, thc Fourth of July. the workload. "Wdl Fm not so hot as this,:do whkh you cefebrate (or don't celebrate) July rock>' cerrain along the way. Because this expe- My experience challenges this old view of mcythcr. When Mom says that,^ we all know die and family are reaHy good, but... I still tee\ like written much about him and me on the site. Anyhow, Fd wanted co keep it feirly shcwi, you dunk yoti can Iwdp ine with diisjp««i^ 4th, I hcjpc you will bc safe and serenel rience has been so powerful in my growth as a single parenting. Even chough I am aware of tcaXty mems, obey your mother. '*I see yovi^ havii^ trouble with tlKat|Ntt^ can I need to find more time forme ! Pardy because I know he reads every word and and I thiok Vince did too. It was such an Wben I diink of July 4di, I dtiink of a day off woman, an adult, a person — I want to pause thc stigma society- has about single mothers, '*Somediftng so simple as diat caused us so I hatidte diat one fer yQ%n^ YourVe.probaialy With a busy work and home life, I grab what I don't want co re-open any wounds, and pardy emotionally charged meeting and it was X9 &oin work and time thac I will spend with my and reflect about it. these attitudes conflict viith my own kno\i'l- much trouble. I was asking to be understood. been doing that fbr yean with reglsrd to the I can to fet^^ that irKkpendence that I need and because you'd gee only one side of the stor)^ draining. And with the whole place abuKZ, &mily. This year we arc staying in Rochester. One of the biggest challenges to single edgc that I am a devoted and capable parent. He thought t ^I'as d^aandir^ obedience. No mundane stuff, like household chores, or re crave. little things can make a big difference, After my "Ahal", 1 went over to the bar to talk there wasn't much buying or selling going on. In previous j^ears, my £imily has dwa}^ gone to parenting is the stigmatizing aetieudes chat so Being a singic mom has given me positive wonder he would do d:ie exact opposite, or decorating. such as*, taking a walk, eating a med out by with him about it. After a half-hour or so, I got to saying what Fd Chautauqua. I am starting to think of July 4di ciety, the church and even the psychologicd feeHngs of confidence, self-esteem, pride and ignore me endrdy. Just like a kid reaccs co "Fve become iquitc comfbrtabic with this m3^elf, reading, cooking w^hile Hstening to I must have really frightened his friends come to say. I don't remember the exact word not only as a holiday to cddbrate my nation's community have about it. From dieir point of achievement. From this experience, I have mom. vicv(*^and find it completely liberatkig." music, visiting the Hbrary, going to the titde when I burst through the door and pulled him ing, but chis is the gist ofic independence, but a day to diink about how to view, singje parent famiHes are "arjpicd." gained independence, strength, self-reHance Theater, and taking a drive to somewhere I aside saying excitedly *''Fve gotu talk to you *'We*vc both been mean, nastj' and hurtful "Was it any wonder that hc soi^t out the Fve heard or read somediing like that some renew my commitment to mysdf to take care Singic motherhood may have occured throug and decisiveness. have never been to before (even in Monroe right now!" They eyed me suspiciously thc to each other for far too many j'ears. It takes company of (somerimes disobedient) kids? where, and did my besc co appl)* it when diings of me! My own independence! Does that sound divorce, separation, being widowed, adoption, These characteristics, which arc usuaUy as County!). These are small wa>'s I tr)^ to main whole dme. But then again thcy always do that. two CO tango, and I take full responsibility^ of Was it any wonder tliat I fdt misunderstood started tuming for my most recenc ex and I. too sd&sh? or never being married. But these institutions sociated \^'ith the male role, have developed Ultimatdy, it was pan of thc relationship be tain my own independence in a vcry busy They're waiting for the other shoe to drop. my half. Fd Ukc to say, Fm sorry for my half. and abandoned?" I know wc typically chink about making tT}^ to distance themselves by excluding single steadily in my life from being a singic mom. tween us that we couldn't fix. And when we world. After all, Fm the one who walked out, well no> And I'd like to say, 1 forgive you "for your half." In our next exchange, Lan-y and I agreed changes around Jan. 1. Maybe it's good to have parenting from their restricted modd of moth Learning to manage my time, money and en- broke up, things went so much better. Maybe this year you too need to stop your more like exploded out, ofthe relationship cw^o Beyond Thank You, T don't remember what that there werc some real similarities in certain two isxrsies^^ of year that wc stop ourselves and erhood. erg\' resources has been invaluable to me and aspects ofour relationships. I guess that's what True, there w*as the sadness and grief associ self and ask the questions that are burning in and a half years ago. hc said after that. Wc cried a licde, hugged and reflect on: 1) Am I h^>py? When J'OU read the statistics of the great positive modcHng for my son. made me forget my jxile about unsolicited ated with any breakup, but because we reaiistcd your heart. Bc prepared to Hsten to the an* I explained to him what Fd written tp Larr}' I left." 25 Do I like whac I am doing wich my life? number of children in this country who live As nevi' evidence of successful and positive advice in my next note to him. It said, in part: thc problem wasn't wirh one another, but with swers. and why, and asked ifhe minded my tuming it At some point in our past, \^'e had stopped 3) Am I spending enough time with me? with one parcnc, it becomes clear that wc must single parenting emerges, society* will hope- "1 know this is a prett>^ abstract concept, and che relationship, we never becatne mean and into a posting. And 1 invited him to sharc his talking and listening to each other and drifted re-examine contemporary society' and adjust fuH\' begin to recognize thc manv women and it cakes some getting used to. So let's start viith hateful of each other. And so, we avoided comments on it too. He said, no, he didn't apan. As the years passed, all the stewing pent- our attitudes uich consideration to the differ men who are making this journev vi^ith their something fatniiiar. hurting each other. In fact^ wc were almost mind, and yes, maybe he'd offer a comment or up emotions and frustrations turned into an ing family circumstances that currendy exist. children. Encoumgcmcnt and support need to gracious. Within six weeks we werc prctt)' two. (Authot's note: The day after this was posted he ger and hate. "It's easy to assign blame or feel guilt when It is important to recognize singic parenthood replace doubts and judgemental, outdated atti much over it and bar-friends ins.tead of boy ditL 2 posted his comments on the site that day J Larr)''s been frustrated lately in his 25-ycar you hir a bad patch. It's all \'Our fault, or it's all as a legitimace family form. tudes. relationship with Kim. i just wanted to fire a my fault. Or how about this one? You know, friends. . Afcer a while, talk tumed from our mutual Sodeey keeps its highese regard only for Paula de Chelfy, PhD., is a psychotherapist and warning shot off his bow, based on my past. I you've got a real problem. Which is usually So whar are ehe points Fm er\'ing to make past to our present and future. We're in agree mothers who arc pare of a heteroscxud mar edticator who specialities in nvttten's issttes. ment that we've never feit doser than wc do utlcd the note "Listening" and here's what I foUowed by a response like, I don't have a here? now. Neither one of us can quite articulate it, UTOte, in part: problem. You're the one with che problem. Well, first, that given thc right perspective, but there's a vcr\' special bond between us "Fm here to listen, 1 only give advice ifyou How many times have wc all had that fight? you tan^work things out. Sometimes, all it takes now. It's not like friends, best friends, or lov ask for it. But I uill tell the occasional story, "Begin here instead. Make sure you both is a different mind-set. And second, failing ers. I certainly don't have the words for it. He (like now) and you can take from it as much as understand that there isn't a problem with ei that, 3'ou can end it M-ithout turning into spitefiil doesn't seem to either. or as litde as you like ther one of you. Guess what? Neither of you vicious queens. And finalh', forgiveness, ^r// so Karen A. Miller,csw.,c^.c. Anj'M'ay, we also agree there's no "relation "I can relate to how you feel. Ukc Kim, is a bad person. You don*t really have a prob gpod^ to both the forgivcr and the fbi^given, ship" in our fumre. I mean, why screw up a Vince was al\n'ays ve*^' chattj' and outgoing lem u*ith Iiim, and hc doesn't rcaUy have a I offer my experience as pcrspccrive, not a good thing with sex and cohabitation? Been until I was around. Then he'd get quiet and problem with you. And best ofall, you still love les.son. Because these arc some of life's lessons PSYCHOTHERAPIST SPECIALIZING IN there, done that, got ehe t-shirt. It shrank. Aiid unthdrawn, almost sullen. I felt like I had to each other, wc all must experience to learn for ourselves. individual • Relationships • Group tViai's the part that people teally doo*t get. Ho\k' carry on both sides of any conversation. "So if the problem isn't with cither of you, Careful, that stove is hot! did that happen? Why aren't we angry and "For the last few years ofour relationship, it where is it? The problem is with a third entit>' Alternative Lifestyles spitefiil like evcr\'one dsc? This is what I think felt like we were rwo strangers sharing the between you. The reladonship. Blame and guilt causes Vince's friends to eye me suspiciously. same address. He*d just park himself in front Well, it was like that for the first year and a of a TV. (We had seven sets, all on cable, and half after we broke up. But it turned for me three VCRs, in a two-bedroom bungalow vk'ith when I just couldn't take it any more. I was expansion attic.) I don't care for TV, so Fd tired of being consumed with hate, tired of either read or get on the PC. being angr^', tired of the hurt. I just wanted to "I carrt read and hear words at thc same put it ali behind me. So last summer on the time. It confuses me. Apparendy my brain fourth of July weekend, I went out to the flea only has a single language processing channel market specifically to, as they say, seek closure. available, and I don't have the ability' to screen (716)436-6897 ^nn' • Therapy for individuals, 7 N. Goodman St • Rm 3 Both phj'sicallv and conversationally, we out the speech. So generally, Fd go in thc other couples. cNldren. drclcd each other tentatively, our "fi^r or room lo read. Thc computer was in yet another RAD! ANT Rochester, NY 14607 (716)244-1330 fL'ght" responses tumed up to the MAX. After room. WELLNESS goy ond lesbian famiiies we each assured ourselves that the other one "He felt like a computer widow. I felt like a ASSOCIATES • Parent/chHd conflict wasn't going to gitttge ottr eyes out or cause yet sitcom orphan, • Se)ajai ofsuse recovery lyn Pezzulo Ms. Ed ANOTHER big hissy fit scene^ we sat down and * When we did actually talk, hc either woddn't LolGfh Ehresman, MS. Ed. • Chronic physicai and Psychotherapy and emotional pain Counselor for all Theropeutk: • Resoiution of conflicts emotional concerns Splrft/Mind/Bodywofk • Anxiety and depfessk>n Third Presbyterian rhurch WHEN STRESS BECOMES Individual and couple therapy Fimd yomr »9tttt poke, redUmjmmr htmer power, kttrtt mfmm^mjt^mr mam kmM, TOOMUCIi^ Sliding Scale 594-51 coNstogRjrp||.yAiuUg OF For appointment, CC* 482^4396 rfAUMlb .pSiT-!' •• ••'- * • -. :>••-.:, • f-- ; -- « MDMMlBikliJi'^ -'''^ • pamiiiii • ADOflLCSClNTS £mnt4€fim^ Sewiise4 • rAMEKflNG CONCnUSS ^mdMdufU, ^ta^JM St 0mitt HJemtif PaiMilSy FtaMoi Mri FMtRdi of LtiMin wA Qiys A Mora Light ChuKh rrr=:Roche»ter^ NY Where Gay, lesbian and bisexual persons ^n w^comml as partners in nunistfy. 3iS'5m'S9er (7f4)33f-flS0 tTTTPt^Lddl^MU We let the laat Sunday of the month at the Frtends Meeting Houae. Sunday 10:30 AM Worship KT'- 41 Vtfeetmlnialer Road (near the comer or Eaat Avenue) FOrMemiaifen ceih 71S-2344HM Monday IstandSrd 7:30 PM Gay/Lesbian/Bfieiaial Support Group .^%. •**^--: • "ly'^'Ji'^'-.a^i'-l &" Child cara-Wfieelchatr accessible - Ui>ped for fhe hearing ImpafrM •'-^j^ :.;'" •U''*:^ "' . -V..-. •••f.--- •"Af^.:.,.-.v:,.,. ' *H, - '' ^ -.•-4. i-^^^-^ST* - 'i'* >S,3- • ;,*• '*4 ^ 5 .* ;' v wapjv- Kiiji' «i^>%m. Ksmm K^.L'OZXStSSiiX.&'StUSSiSSlSf^PiE^X.^JS^^ '.-J- jaac^t^^g^V^TT-' ' :^!tK^Ur.^'VJ. "J'q—•'^ ••" ^*^#-** :.I>"-:^T:''^ •••c I- o s n TJ B9 ing in the fund over time. around the comnnuiity»oasud»isaues aa bcxfy Quia JS #e«tw^a1&nfr ahdwc31-d^sfl||Sd L/ AIDS Directorv Financial Shareholder setvicea. Here yovSAsdi a list image, compubiae sexnd behavior^ Ms^piecic G/B/r cQismunlly, thanks to d!$#i»k of RESOURCES FOR Planning of services available, such as chedc writing, Coupies (HIV poddve and negpidve), and inti .Tanya snd die GAGV, which I wfilndSs very tdephone exchange, automatic invesiiiig and macy between men. much. • ": • • -•'•^>Q^ WOMRNJ I als<» wish to d^mk al of iiijfa^pf:"Miil By William Glave, ochers. This section, or another ^dttedflHDw The column went throi^ its own devekip- Free testing for H^V exposure is available from New York State Department of Health: CFP to invest^" will disclose the minimum invest mentd process reflecting not only its leaden^* mens' grot^/^-odcahop participants tit^fStve call Rochester Area Regfonal Hotline at (716)423-8081. or I -800-962-5063 for pay phones years. You all shared so petsonaHy of your wenm.|OBm l565iXRochescerNY l4Ma ment required to open an account. but my tywn evolutioo. Feedback came in vari H^inree County Women's Hssias or calls outside Rochester. Deaf or hearing impaired people should call (716)423-8120 Breaking the mutual sdves and have been tsry teachers as weK. I 234^9709. www.moofferMiuksxom/WAVE (TDD.) Oral testing now available. Statewide information can be obtained by callirtg 1-800- If there's anything in the prospectus you ous forms: in person, voice mail, letter and e- Fte^eeraht^ 111 WestftllRd^ Rochester tahnk you all fbr your courage to show iq> and NetioMi Oryanixeiton for Wonr»en 541-AIDS. Other organizations whkh provkie AIDS-related services are as folfows: don't understand or want to know more about, mail. Readers contributed topic ideas, gave NY 14492; (7l«)274^97a Cbmprshen- ftmds prospectus code feedback and Hterally molded the column. My be seen as die wondCrfy people yon absolutely (Greater B»cheiter NOW*) PO Box contact your financid advisor or thc fund sivs IHWSSC camcer scr^snlnf servkes for AIDS Rocfiester, Inc, 1350 Unh^rslty Ave., provides education, referrals to appropriate are. My warmestwishes for continuing success 93196; (716)461-1310. E-mail: While itiilHons of Americans own shares of direcdy. It's best to not invest in a fund until aU god had been attdned: to create a community unihsurad and tmd«rinsur«d wonien. service agencies, client and ^unily services, advocacy for people facing HIV-linked discrimi- fomm and ongoing didogue on key issues we toyoualL RochNOW^aoLcom Web page: nttion, and other servkes. Including financial assistance and a public education speaker mutud funds, it's Hkdy duit not aU of them read ofyour questions about ie have been satisfac ^MbethWandeBrHntCOidc. 1351 aU face as gay men. Six years kcer, and having No profesdood can practice in a commu wwWi.mooreresult5Xom.NOW bureau. (716)442-2220 VHDD (business line) or (716)442-2200 V/TDD (hodine). Free, their prospectus befbre investing. The reason torily answered. Wt IHope Avs. 442-2190. Dr, Wende Lo- grown from the experience, I now oHer my nity widiout die ft^^port of skilled and caring CULTURAL: confidential testing and couns^ingfor women by a lesbian counselor, second Thursdays. No may be that these documents indude language Eader reading on the way. The Securities Isn-Yom^f ^ ^ all-woman staff provkie appointment needed; drop in between 5-9 pm. Free, confidential testing every Thursday find contribution to the Btvpty Ckset, coBeagues. To diis end I Mish to thank Alan Rochester Women's Community diat is difficidt eo understand. and Exchange Commission (SEQ has been ffttmmogi'Aii IS. n%ht, 5-9 pm; no appointment necessary. Outreach van testing avaHabte on weekends. I have been involved with a wonderful man Roach, Steve Oavts, Martha Howden, Barb Chorus* 924-4144. (See Oi^pinc calendar). But it is imporcant that you tmderstand che workingwith fund companies fbr severd yeats AIDS Rodiester Women** Heeith to devdop and test more rcader^Etiendly pto- in a long distance relationship fbr over a year Repaid, Mcksjo Campanaro-Cummings, Dr. Women's Commuiiity Performance Helping People with AIDS, Inc (HPA) P.O. Box 1543 Rochester NY 14603-1543 is a basics ofany fund you*re considering so you ac Oiiitf eech. HlViwwveridon*jConiict Chris- non-i>rofit, volunteer ot^pniiation. HPA raises and distributes funds to support; programs spectuses. In March 1998, the commission now. (Some of you may remember die 11/97 Bill LevL'ek, and ofcourse BiO Kdly for their Project. CMMWmmk^ AJI-f^male perfor least try to dedpher a prospectus* key points. line Smons, 442-22:£U>» ext 302f AIDS tfiat provide servkes to people living with HIV and AIDS. Funding is provided to agencies column on long distance rdationships. Yes, contfibution to my |tfofesstond and persond mance eroup. Sharon Jeter, artistic dkector. Tbe inrestmeat ob|ective. This section of instituted cwo changes: Rocheseer. I3S0 IMverslcy Ave. AM dso focated in the counties of rionroe, Ontarfo, Schuyfer, Seneca, Livingston, Chemung, Steuben, there were times when the columns became Ufe here in Rochester. 740 University Ave. 654-7709; the prospectus disdoses the fund's main in "Piaht Ei^sh"pr9jpf€fyis^TheSEC revised has other services for HIV positive women. Wayne and Yates. Hotifoe (716)987-1853. its rules eo rec^uire fund companies co make very persondl} This rdationship continues to For tho«e who are natursHy wtMideringabout SPORTS: vestmenc objective — sudi as capitd growth, Comnminteir Hf»itli Network. 7S8 Gay Ailiiance of the Geneaee Valley peer fadliutors can provide referrals to physkians not only be wonderfuUy rewarding, but also the status of die men's groups. Bill Kelly^ CSW, Women's basketbeH. Monday, Thurs current income, stabiHty of prindpd pr a com their prospectuses more dear and condse. By South Ave. 244-9000. Support group for and servke agencies. Person on duty MonTThurs. 1-9:30 p.m., Fri. 1-6 p.m. Message proves to be a vehicle for my own rdationd AASECT certified sex therapist, will be taking day nights, 7-9 pm. Downtown United Pres bination of objectives. By reading diis section, the end of 1999, prospectuses must have less HIV positive women» '*Maklng Connec machine other times. (716)244-8640. you candctcrmine if the fund's objective technicd jargon and legdese and provide "plain learning and persond growth. over the Intimacj' Betwxcn Men and Gay byterian Church. 121 S. Fitzhugh Sc Ramona, tions.'* Conoct Lyn Bbckbum. Meets first HIV/STD Coordination Project of Monroe County, 11 i Westfall Rd., run through English" disdosure ofa fund's objectives, strac- Thus I have made a dedsion to relocate Fadiers groups. Hc expects to stare each in 244*1640. matches yourown. and third Mondays. 9:3(^11 ani. Pre-inter> Monroe County Department of Health, provides information, education and training, and outside of Rochester to be with him and his September. Those intercsced are encouraged Investnoent poUdea. Here yon can leam egics, risks, perfbrmance and fees. The re view required. I^oms Etc** support froup GENERAL: maintains a resource hbrary. (716)274-6114 (V/TTY). two young children. (Noce: co aU che men in my to contact BiH ac his private practice, (327- thc types of securities — stocks, bonds, cash vamped prc^peccuses dso must indude a stan for afl female caregivers: contact Sydney Women's Resource Center. YWCA, dardized risk/reward summary, a bar chart gay fachcrs' group who werc concerned diac 2121.) 175 N. Ointon Ave. 54^7740. Conwnunity HeaMi Network (CHN). 758 South Ave. Aggressive early intervention equivalents or others — the fund holds in Metafsr, CHN has many other focus groups medical care for all aspects of HiV/AIDS care. Clinical trials, programs for women, mental having children may bc a UabiHt}' when seeking As far as the ongoing ^ixckend workshops attempting to achieve its objectives. This sec iUustrating thc fund's volaciHcy over 10 years, and services fbr HfV positive women and Slice off LHe Cafo* Feminist vegetarian health and social work/case management. (716)244-9000. tion also describes the t\pe of transactions and and a table comparing its performance with dating partners, let me tcH }^u, diis is an for gay men chat BiU and 1 have faciHtaced. we restaurant. 742 South Ave. 271-8010. HIV negative partners. Rochester Area Task Force on AIDS (RATFA) is a collection of agencies providk^g investment strategics the fimd manager uses. the appropriate securities market index. incredible asset as far as I am conccmcdf k's a are actually planning to continue the scries. I'm SUkwood BCK>IGE. Women's bookstore. Ateemetiws for Battered Women. a multiplicity of resources and servkes to the upstate New York community. Their ofBces Fund profile - In June 1998, fund companies wonderful oppommity to get those "good happy ^-ith this dedsion, as it 'will bc a nice 633 Monroe Ave., 473-8110, Ifyou want to know whether a fund is allowed 232-*7353. Sheher. cowtsel^. Lesbians wd are located through the Finger Lakes Health Systems Agency, whkh also provides •wUl be aHowed to use fund profiles during the dad" needs mec.) reason for mc to \'isic Rochester and reconnect Coalitfon for Lesbian Visibiiity. Di to invest in potentially volatile securities, for come. medkal literature and newspaper clippcngs. as well as demographk stnd statistkal data for example, you can find out here. selHng process. These shorter documents wiU I must let you know this dedsion to move U'ith many of \'ou. Keep your eyes open for ads verse group of women holding potiucks/ ^nctkn Resource Center of Watyne use in developing health care services. (716)461-3520. Investment risks. Understanding a fund's summarize key characteristics in a format that does not come >x*ithout the fuU range of mixed in thc Etftpty Closet and flyers in thc mail. socials «n Finger Lakes area. Second Satur County. Newark N.Y. Hodine 800-45^ risks before you invest may prevent sleepJess allows easy comparison to profiles of other emotions. I am excited and very happy, as this For those interested, I would absolutely days, Becky Bly, (315)539-6271. Men of Color Health Awareness Project (MOCHA). HIV prevention focus for men 1172; office (315)331-1171; lax (3150331- nights later on. "^This section discusses the par funds. These profiles do not replace prospec is a very good move for me. However, at die love to hear how you're doing. I can be con Women's social- Fourth Fndays. GAGV who have sex with tr^t\ (MSM) in the minority communicy. Support groups, one on one peer 1189. ticular risks involved in thc fund. A stock fund, tuses which StiH must bc provided at or before same time there arc so many good-byes thac I tacted by e-mail at T)¥tone:Ttk\i@%o\.t:om or Community Center. 170 Adantk Ave. A education, safer sex workshops, referral services, buddy testing. Rochester Center for Hsay Mefdelene House. Women's Independent Living. 758 South Ave. 442-6470. for example, might disclose that it invests in the time of sale experience a true sadness with the realization by US. mail at P.O. Box 603093, Providence propam of the GAGV. 244-8460. outreach center for HIV positive women just one industry or "sector" ~ making it The SEC's "plain English" campaign no of inherent losses with this move. It is truly an RI 02906. Chedc our momftjy ond cngoinf cotendors ^ Monroe Community CoHege maintains an AiDS Resource Library in the Leroy V. Good and women at Hsk. 29f LyeH Ave. Open potentiaUy more risky than a widely diversified doubc wiU further >*our understanding of any experience ofthe fiill range, and t have come In closing, all my best and much thanks and more groups atid events, atnl caM the GaySource Ubrary, 1000 E. Henrietta Rd. 424-5200. Mon-Fri. 6:30-9:30 pm 458-5728. fund. A bond fund should describe how vul funds you're considering. A knowledgeable to understand the phrase "bitter sweet." appreciation, Rochestcr. As a community and Itifbkte for referrtOs, at 244-6640, Artd $end us Monroe County Health Departnnent, at 855 W. Main Sc, offers testing and counselir^ POLITICAL: nerable its holdings are eo inceresc race, credic financial advisor can assist you as well, by A thank you is certainly in order co many that as indi\iduals, you have been ven-good to mc. ytHsr ktfitrmatkml for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. (716)464-5928. and other appHcable risks. helping you forge an investment plan and I will noe be able co list specificaUy, who added TTiere arc many fond memories I wiU take with Women AfAkist a Viokftnt Environ ment (WAVE*) Issues of vk>tence a|^nst Strong Memorial Hospital provides a complete range of H)V medkal r:)re, induding Hiatorical performance. All fund prospec choose fiinds that are suitable for your gods. value to my Jife in Rochestcr. I want to petson- mc ofmy time here. And whatever aspects of access to experimental treatment protocols, and H(V testing. Also provides individuat and tuses iTvust display a clnart sbo\kring several ally acknowledge my appreciation to Susan myself through my work, writing and commu group psychoth«^rapy. Training of health care professionals also available. Infectious aspects of the fund's performance over one, Tbe Authentic Jordan, editor of the Empty Closet, for her nicy'presentations you found helpful, feel free Disease CJfnk, (716) 275*0526. Departmentof Psychiatry. (716) 275-3379. AIDS Tralnir^g five and 10 year periods (or since inception of Self support^ critique and suggestions over thc years eo keep thatwiih you. May you aU continue to Project, (716) 275-5693, Hve in a way that feels honest, truthftil and best the ^d,if less than one, Bve or 10 years). This fbr this column.Also to Tanya SmoHnsky for AIDS Remembrance Garden. Highland Park South, Rochester. Infoline: (716)234- The recent advances in the treatnr>ent information incudes share net asset vdue at By Thomas her continued support of the work that I do, for 3'Ou. In doing so, know chat you honor j-uur 1640. Mailing address: 935 East Ave., Rochester NY 14607. the end ofeach year, ycar-by-ycar totd return, and for her creativity and leadership in her role Authentic Self. ofAIDS provide new hope and Fronczak, CSW-R, Planned Parenthood of Rochester and Genesee Valley offers testing and infonna armud dividend and capitd gains pajTnenes, as director ofthe GAGV Community' Center, prolonged life. CHN brings those advances tc you including; tion (716)546 2595. portfoHo turnover rate and yeariy expense ACSW Thanic you Rochesteir • HIV testing and education Threshold Youth Center provkies confidential testingfor young people ages 12-25. Fees ratio. Keep in mind, of course, that past per • Experimental drugs and research formance does not guaramee future results It was Augusc 1992. My vcry firsc column ran in on sliding scale, no one denied servke. Threshold Center for Aitemative Youth Servkes. • Counseling and support groups 80 St- Paul St. 454-7530. and che vdue of the renun uHll fiuceuate. che Bmpty Ckset under ehe tide "In Search of • Nutritional services to promote Feea and expenaea. This section details Sdf." Licde did I know at chac time it would tum Protect Your Home or healthy eating Finger Lakes Family Care will provide confidential or anonymous free testing in noe only any commissions or "loads" on share into a monthly columun and its topics fuel de • Medical care for all patients Ontario/Wayne Counties. 1-800-650*9853. eransacrions, but dso the other costs of invest bates thac I would be involved in or hear about regardless of ability to pay Action Front Center (Action for a Better Community.) Provides HIV prevention be considere education and case management services. Training and technkai assistance to service with provkiers. Resource library open to public. All services free and confidential. Multicultural COMMUNITY and bilingual staff. Rudy Rivera, program mar^ager. I SO N. Clinton Ave. Hours 8:30-5 pm, Monday-Frkiay. 546-6180; hx 546-5669. Free anonymous HIV testing on walk-in basis, Tyte Security, Inc HEALTH Thursdays 9 am- 4 pm. provided through NYSDOH at Action Front Center, 242 Andrews St Carmen Hau, 262-4330. Dr. Peter Piot NETWORK A Rainbow Community UnitCii Nations AIDS Program Catholic Charities AIDS Services. Provides linkage with other servke providers, tnmsponation and ftnanclal assistance for housing. Mon^y-Friday 8JO am- 4:40 pm. 1150 More Light is a national networic of inclusive Presbyteri£tfi churches BuffafoRd. 328-3210. welcoming gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered persons into fuli co-ministry and life celebration within our worshipping family. Anthony Jcwdan Health Center Prevention and Primary Care Program. HIV *"" ..' counseling and testing (free If ui^nsured), community outreach. Center in-reach with strong "* -• focus on education. Comprehensive HfV care and servkes. Induding medical treatment. Two services every Sunday at 11:00 am CD4 ahd vtral teed nionfcerir^medteatiogtt(ofv^i^ - a traditional service in the Sanctuary - dental, nutrition, mental heahh and substance abuse services, case management, commuity servke rdiarrals, support groups, assiscance with medkaid and disai>lll^. 82 Holland St., - a contemporary service in Celebration Hall - Rochescer NY 14601:423-2879. - V Adult Education 9:45 am ri:y -(« • tARA RIWROW. mJ>. Caii for dates and times wtien Rev. Jane Spahr wili be worshipping with us. Ste(e-o^0ra-j%t mstBmttfon • K '^ •-, ••»• Edith H. 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Inc, Licensed Real Estate 32M69« PAGER: 527-3«56 This wonderiui attached colonial style residence ofFers over 2100 square feet of luxurious Broker 924-5122 or 586-6622 living sqpace. Hardwood floors, tall ceilings, and moldii^ d^ails are featured throughout WearSealneiehurk *Tom fiiom Muthers" the first floor. The kitchen has been wonderfully updated and ofifers an abundance of OpeiTiesdaf-^Saia^ liMk storage. Th^e are two laige bedrooms on the second floor as well as a spacious marble bath with whirlpool tub. The skylighted third floor makes a fabulous guestroom or office. Gorgeous perennial gardens and two porches complete this property. One hundred thirty nine thousand nine hundred dollars. Steve Butler, 586.6622 ext. *119 For aU your real esiaie needs..* •Residential •Commercial •••Apartments • Private Financing • OLVER, KORTS, KORONA fk 10 Toley Village Office Park - PitUSorA, NY USS4 Mark Siwiec Call For Professional, Personal Representation for: • Purchases & Sales of Real Property • Real Property FaxttierMp Agreements • Wills & Estate Piaaning 1353 Long Pond Road • Small Business transactions • Itefbislied HanlwDOdft * Ciown Moldlasi AsfliMlte - Broker Singk Family HcHoe * New Osk Kitchen ^ 3lM»BadnM» * Lotsofltattt-iitt C .^:.,>^-;T'^. , ¥ ;• ^ / * '^^ejl^MlMa^lMtmA *Bli9iHgorSiffi^i«AMtiwdra««iy Bo eattar AUi Kodwier or tile Giy '^v *••' •C -•'tV^'-1'".,"'-'''-"''^' -h^^^. .•<-J ^wsmmmmmmmmtmmmm g^y*!J!i''f.M'jH'"ii»ii I. ..t.ji ii^ icin S«wd«y everting, Jul)' IB. CBTI ness and otttffBflcfa. Pfease caU the ,AftcrtheParadc,PFLAG wiU have a l^ick fo Rochester from Newr and 26 we'U be holding our first OR reach us throv^ regular mail by San Frandsco from its starting point by volunteers of die SF Club. The vkiht^tt^t^OAt^^ at die fodc City, vheie he waa ftcthre in the garage sale at 1361 Ric^peway Ave. wiidngus at Rochester Rangers, 1361 near Front Street, across to^^n to the group enjo^'cd wonderfid food and for itop-oiifist pidtTUpJkt^l -#478. \lBaiiaiS««%. W^ ^be diauibuting [.YX:. PFLAG* We are looking for- firom 9 ajEn. to 6 pan. There will be Ridgeway Ave. Rochester, N.Y. Padfic Ocean for a 7.5 mile course. entertainment. Dan*tfbfgeto>imousonJiily3|afid bur tMrochiires andPR-AG hand- to bia enthuaiasm and ei^er- lota o4 bargains f<^ you to cake ad 14615. Several unique chamcteriatics make Ao^. 1 fbrthesale. >ut». 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Not sanae inr ftieadsbip, poa- festival, come scO your wstcs at thc receive a cotnmission for each ad your home. Local independent dis* Will send phoco. John Lawson, #315- Bi-curious, Itsiiwo, F, looking for Bisexual ea- sibleLTR, »16t4 BiWM (25-45). Mvst be Brst ann^ial Festhral of Gny and Les sold. Interested? Call our office at tributof, (716)367-958Z 009, PO Box 5500, Chillicothe OH mid-20's. ISO anocher Bi- counter. ^^'^^^ Thia cxtreflMl^ wIM healthy A discteet! #B21 iBtti»4>»e20rfc»iiiiMhto WM,U9^iO>,idhntoav. Price curious F for friendship & MWBiM 45, ISO ether hasr f^ fftteddMj^ A ocogo ;wei^ A well* bian Aittsts and Crafccfs^ Johnson 271-2640 and leave your name and Haa dutter got you down? I will 45601. BiF 23, 5*4", 100 Ibs^ SWC is ISO F for fiot I rhLwAt-d admire$5 tt>rthe famasy fuiritlmenl. Must timesl #1468 Bi/GM*s or Cs for oarly fiist timo ^-'•^^ •'••• IP I II i» i!tH0^iiAm-ftia^i^i,tm,^ilm ^nce party, Seneai FaUs. (315)568- F^^i^...•••••> *»*i5^ BI9 Wi'.W . 41 V364. 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