ferosSUMMER 2020
COVER STORY BE SOMEONE FOR SOMEONE
CONNECTING YOUNG AND OLD
EMELITA KEEPS FINDING JOY IN THIS ISSUE
03 CEO’s Word feroscare.com.au 04 Feros News
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2 FEROS MAGAZINE CEO’S WORD
WELCOME TO THE SUMMER 2020 EDITION OF FEROS MAGAZINE
n this edition I’m very proud to they have experienced challenges suit the change and growth in our share with you the launch of and found their way through. organisation since we began almost IFeros Care’s charitable initiative, Wommin Bay resident Vic shares his 30 years ago, our values underpin Be Someone For Someone. simple tip for living life to the fullest everything we do at Feros Care. The initiative aims to tackle what on page 7, while staff member Rachel Read more on page 26. is arguably the country’s most gives us the low-down on Grow Bold We’re also moving closer to the challenging epidemic – loneliness. Requests on page 27. launch of Season 2 of Fearless Films. While we’ve been introducing This season of Fearless will focus programs to support our clients There’s plenty more inside the cover! on the lives of people with disability who are lonely, the problem is so The focus for Feros magazine is living fearlessly. We have a shortlist widespread in Australia that we information and enjoyment. We’d of people who will tell their story, and are expanding our efforts to reach love to hear your feedback and any our partner, Screenworks is recruiting people beyond those in our care. suggestions for the magazine. Email talented filmmakers to bring them This cause is close to my heart and [email protected] and it to life on film. We can’t wait to share it is gratifying to see the dream of will be gratefully received. them with you in the coming months. creating Be Someone For Someone As always, there’s been lots realised. Read more on page 8. happening at Feros Care since I hope you enjoy reading this edition People are the centre of our the last edition. Projects like Bold of your Feros Magazine. organisation, and we love to Ballerinas, Grand Gamers and Ask celebrate their successes, their Gran Not Google have nurtured journeys and their lives. That’s why intergenerational connections – page you’ll find plenty of stories about 12. While our Gran Slammers have people in this, and all our magazines. taken the world of slam poetry by Take Nathan – page 6, and Emelita storm – page 21. We’ve also updated Jennene Buckley – page 24. Both NDIS participants, our Feros Care Values. Renewed to CEO
SUMMER 2020 3 FEROS NEWS CHRISTIAN DESIGNS WORLD CHAMP’S NEW SURFBOARD With more than 50 creative entries, there was stiff competition to win the honour of designing World Adaptive Surfing Champion and Feros Care Ambassador, Barney Miller’s next board. After deliberation by the judging panel, Christian Chapman’s bold, futuristic design was chosen. The design typifies Barney’s transformation and determination to walk. Congratulations Christian, and thanks to all of our entrants! A special shout-out to Barney. We know 2019 was a very challenging year healthwise, and we’re awed by your determination to continue to live your best bold life!
RU OK? – A QUESTION FOR EVERY DAY R U OK? Day is about conversations with our friends, created by the virtual LAC team, empowering everyone to connect family, colleagues and clients and of course a sea of yellow with the people around them whenever we notice a change in clothing that served as a visual and start a conversation with them, no matter how small. reminder. anyone who may be struggling. On the day itself, there were If you are looking for resources While this important message lots of activities across the and support for yourself, or to has a special focus on the day, organisation, including ‘chat help others, a great place to start at Feros Care we try to put this corners’ in our ACT office, a is with the resources available on into practice every day by starting wonderful awareness video the R U OK website – ruok.org.au.
4 FEROS MAGAZINE MERV AND RAE GO PLATINUM
Carlee Williams
For Feros Care Wommin Bay residents Merv and Rae VIRTUAL SERVICE Edwards, September the MAKES LIFE EASIER FOR 3rd is an extra special day. It’s the day, 70 years ago, NDIS PARTICIPANTS that they wed. Meeting with a Local Area I’ve developed a broad local Never shy about a party, Coordinator (LAC) can be difficult knowledge of each of them. My the team at Wommin Bay to fit into busy lives. That’s why colleagues are the same.” celebrated their platinum the Feros Care LAC service offers wedding anniversary with different options to participants and “We’re able to answer queries them. As well as delicious their families and carers. Face-to- quickly and efficiently for cake and treats at their special face meetings at our office, our participants,” continues Carlee. afternoon tea, there were participant’s home or even a café “They get the information they speeches from family and work perfectly for some, especially need straight away. It also means friends, a Mr and Mrs Quiz when creating first plans. our LACs out in the community can and a good old ‘knees up’. be efficient in servicing their face- A huge congratulations from For others, including parents who to-face participants as they’re not all the team at Feros Care work full-time, attending a face-to- constantly checking messages and Merv and Rae! face meeting just isn’t convenient. returning calls.” That’s where our Virtual LAC Team come in. Based in Tweed Heads, Carlee, who has previously worked our team of Virtual LACs provide in community roles where she’s on over-the-phone plan options for the road, enjoys the organisation additional option to suit more participants across all our service and efficiency of being office of our participants. areas. And now they’re able to based. She is able to focus on the important and rewarding part of offer virtual services outside of As an NDIS Partner in the her role – supporting participants normal business hours. Community, Feros Care provides to create their plans – without the Local Area Coordination services Feros Care Virtual LAC Carlee interruptions inherent in travelling. Williams enjoys providing virtual in Townsville, Mackay, the ACT, services to participants. “I speak As the only partner in the Barossa and Northern Adelaide. with so many people from all community with a Virtual LAC team, For more information visit five of our service areas that we’re proud to be able to offer this feroscare.com.au/ndis.
SUMMER 2020 5 THE INSIDE STORY NATHAN’S TOP 3 TIPS FOR MAXIMISING YOUR NDIS PLAN
FOR MANY, THE NDIS IS NEW AND POSSIBLY DAUNTING. NATHAN MAHER HAS BEEN THERE! HE SHARES HIS STORY AND HIS TIPS FOR MAKING THE MOST OF YOUR FUNDING.
he last five years have not “Cindy’s knowledge of the NDIS is He has since participated in many been easy for Nathan Maher. truly remarkable, and not just about marathons and runs – at times seizing T In fact, they’ve been the the supports offered by the NDIS, but the opportunity to raise money opposite. But you wouldn’t know it what supports I, as a double amputee for organisations like the Starlight speaking to him. with numerous underlying medical Foundation and Ks for Kids. His best conditions, will benefit from in the time is 1 hour 21 minutes. In April 2014, Nathan was a healthy 35 future,” says Nathan. year-old who was rarely sick. A month later he became critically ill with a Through the planning process, Cindy life-threatening form of meningitis linked Nathan to other professionals and was placed in an induced coma. he could choose from, who could NATHAN’S TOP TIPS He was not expected to see out the provide the supports he needed. FOR MAXIMISING YOUR NDIS PLAN month. Although he did, by July of Nathan refers to his work with 2015 Nathan was a double amputee. physiotherapist Matt Croger as ‘life- Although the NDIS began its roll out in the ACT in 2014, for many Nathan shares his story as changing’ due to his invaluable pain participants around Australia it is background, however it is not his management focus. still new. As someone with first- focus. Instead, he is full of gratitude “I came to Matt weak and extremely hand experience of the scheme for the people who have helped him overweight from lack of mobility due as a participant, Nathan is keen to harness his own determination and to debilitating pain. Put simply, Matt to pass on his wisdom. regain his control and independence. has rebuilt me from the ground up. People like Cindy Seaman, his Feros Matt is constantly making me redefine 1. Know what your goals are, Care Local Area Coordinator, who my beliefs in what I am capable of and speak with as many understood Nathan’s needs and achieving and has supported me in people as you can in the built a National Disability Insurance every sense of the word”. community about your goals. Scheme (NDIS) Plan that maximised Nathan has lost 65kg and is able Once you are clear on your every dollar so he could have those 2. to manage his pain. His work with goals, be persistent and needs met. Matt has not only helped restore his relentless about achieving confidence and self-belief, it’s pushed them – this is the rest of him beyond his limits. your life, so it’s important. These days Nathan is fit and Don’t be afraid to be picky physically active, and a regular half 3. with your service providers. and full marathoner. Completing Your Local Area Coordinator his first half-marathon in October can provide you with details 2016, he credits his NDIS plan of those that might suit and the funding of a personal your needs, however it’s up trainer Bernie Dowling from to you to choose. So ask Body2Burn with his ability to questions, read reviews, achieve this goal. Training time ask around and make sure with Bernie was pivotal in his you’re happy with them! recovery. Nathan was not only able to lose 30kg in two and a half months, it became a form of therapy for him.
For more on Feros Care and Nathan and his sister who convinced him to do his first ever event. 30km equaled six its role with the NDIS grueling laps around the lake on the wettest and windiest day in over ten years! Nathan raised well over $5,000 for charity! visit feroscare.com.au/ndis
6 FEROS MAGAZINE VIC’S WONDERFUL LIFE
VIC HANNAM’S TOP TIP FOR LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST? BE NICE TO PEOPLE.
he 90-year-old Feros Village was supposed to know and do Wommin Bay resident, who and it has worked out well for me T grew up amongst the seedy through life,” says Vic. streets of Kings Cross’s red light After earning his trade as a fitter and district and went on to sail the Sydney machinist, Vic took his father’s advice the guy on the door looked after him, to Hobart Yacht Race, reckons it is and decided to ‘do a bit of travelling’ while we went in and had a dance,” that simple. as a ships steward before he settled he laughs. down. It was at this time he met his “My parents owned a bed and Sadly, after 60 years of marriage, wife, Barbara. breakfast and they got very close with Barbara passed away two years ago people. If you weren’t nice to people, “I was to take a passenger out one at the age of 84. She lived at Feros you never got the trade,” he says. night and she couldn’t make it, so Village Wommin Bay with Vic. she sent a girlfriend along and that’s “My mother would cater for anyone; Today, Vic is surrounded by friends of when I met her,” Vic smiles. doesn’t matter who they are, whether a different kind at the Village. they are heavies or what, we knew “She was interested in everything I “They are lovely here,” he says. them all in the Cross.” did, and I was interested in everything And knew them all they did. The she did. We worked as a team, we “I treat people as they treat me and family bed and breakfast sat opposite were good.” the girls are wonderful. I can’t fault the famous Sargents Pies in Palmer The couple moved to Sydney’s them and I give this place a good rap Street, Kings Cross, and across from northern beaches, close to his every chance I get. Tilly Devine’s infamous establishment. mother’s new bed and breakfast in Tilly, who made her name as a Manly, and reared three children – I’M VERY LUCKY, brothel madam and organised Mark, Greg and Kim. I’VE HAD A GOOD crime entrepreneur, was linked to His love of the ocean continued and TIME – A GOOD LIFE. everything from sly-grog to razor he joined the crew on the Mistral, one gangs, and was one of several of just 28 boats involved in the 1947 “I’ve never done anything silly... gone ‘characters’ that epitomised the Sydney to Hobart Yacht Race – just out on the grog or things like that. I’m suburb in the 1920s to 1950s. the third annual running of the ‘blue not a drinker, I’m not a smoker and “I come up the hard way, but I say I water classic’. I’m not a gambler. was brought up the right way. I had While football, ice skating and “If you’ve got good partners, hang very strict parents who taught me rifle shooting were also among his on to them, that’s what I always say right from wrong. I never went to a many sporting pursuits, dancing is to people.” brothel in my life and I had them all the one that brings the biggest smile around me,” says Vic. to his face. Another well-known neighbour was Within weeks of their first child, Mark, Dame Mary Gilmore, an Australian being born, Vic and Barbara were writer and journalist whose face back on the dance floor, enjoying graces Australia’s $10 note, and who the quickstep in famous dance halls, Vic helped with ‘all her odd jobs’. including the Trocadero. For more useful, inspiring “I haven’t been an extra well “We took my little bloke the first or and entertaining articles visit educated guy, but I’ve learnt what I second week after he was born and feroscare.com.au/stories
SUMMER 2020 7 COVER STORY “WE’RE ON A MISSION
BE SOMEONE Tackling loneliness together
FEROS CARE HAS LAUNCHED A MAJOR CHARITABLE INITIATIVE BY TO TACKLE WHAT IS ARGUABLY THE COUNTRY’S MOST CHALLENGING EPIDEMIC – LONELINESS.
e Someone For Someone has “In our work we see loneliness “To help us tackle loneliness on a been created in response to everywhere,” she says. bigger scale, Feros Care founded B alarming statistics that Be Someone For Someone – a reveal one in four Australians IN OUR WORK WE SEE dedicated charity devoted to raising are lonely every day. LONELINESS EVERYWHERE awareness and funds to help us fight this growing national problem.” Loneliness is known to have a bigger “To remedy this, we’ve been impact on health than smoking, introducing initiatives like ‘In Head of Be Someone For Someone, physical inactivity and obesity, Great Company’ – a program that Jo Winwood says everybody accelerating premature death by 26 connects volunteers with people deserves to have quality social per cent – worse than smoking 15 who are lonely; and technologies, connections. cigarettes a day. like Feros Care’s Virtual Social Centre – a digital platform that helps “Humans are social beings and they Feros Care CEO Jennene Buckley connect people who are isolated. need to feel like they belong – it’s as says her team work with people simple as that,” she says. across Australia – many of whom “But unfortunately the problem is so were lonely or at risk of being widespread that we need to expand “Feeling valued and giving value lonely, isolated and in need of our efforts so we can reach people to others through meaningful human connection. outside of those in our care. connections is as vital to our health,
8 FEROS MAGAZINE TO TACKLE LONLINESS TOGETHER”
FOR SOMEONE
Founded by
FEROS CARE HAS LAUNCHED A MAJOR CHARITABLE INITIATIVE BY TO TACKLE WHAT IS ARGUABLY THE COUNTRY’S MOST CHALLENGING EPIDEMIC – LONELINESS.
happiness and longevity as the air of impactful programs tailored Ms Buckley says Feros Care was the we breathe. specifically to address loneliness in right organisation to steer this project. its various forms. “The good news is, together we can “For more than 30 years, Feros Care address loneliness so people can live “And finally we want to raise funds has been actively advocating for, and healthy, connected lives.” to pay for this important work. working towards, helping people live happy and fulfilled lives,” she said. Jo says Be Someone For Someone “To help us achieve this, we will focus on awareness, education are looking for philanthropists, “We already support more than and solutions. businesses and the general public 60,000 people and their carers and to support us in whatever way they families every year, and we are now “We want to raise awareness of can, be it as co-funders, advocates, using that expertise to draw attention loneliness and its impacts with volunteers or donors.” to the impact of loneliness and help government, organisations and create a more connected world.” communities so we can tackle it together,” she says. “We also want to understand its underlying triggers so we can To find out more, if you need support, or you want to be a implement and scale a range supporter, visit the website besomeoneforsomeone.org
SUMMER 2020 9 THE LAUNCH
BE SOMEONE FOR SOMEONE WAS LAUNCHED AT A VIP EVENT AT STONE & WOOD IN BYRON BAY WHERE 200 LOCALS, PHILANTHROPISTS, ARTISTS, MEDIA AND CELEBRITIES GOT BEHIND THE CAUSE TO HELP FIGHT LONELINESS.
Hosted by Shelley Craft, the event also unveiled a giant jigsaw comprising 360 puzzle pieces decorated by people from across the country, 10 of which were sold during a live auction, with a piece by Aboriginal artist Narelle Watton fetching the highest price of $1,050. The Connection Project, inspired by the work of popular US artist and creator Tim Kelly, is a visual arts initiative that culminated in a giant, 360-piece jigsaw puzzle made up of artworks designed by people across Australia including schools, community groups, artists and celebrities. All artists were asked to decorate their own puzzle piece after reflecting on what ‘belonging’ meant to them, drawing their inspiration from the words, “I feel most loved when…”. Designed to start a national conversation around loneliness and to raise money for Be Someone For Someone – the response from the country was overwhelming, with a host of big-name celebrities lending their artistic skills to help the cause including Bernard Fanning, Sonia Kruger, Joh Griggs and Pete Evans. “This project has resonated with people from all walks of life, which is testament to how prevalent and relatable loneliness is among everyday Australians,” said Head of Be Someone For Someone, Jo Winwood. “The result is a visually striking and emotionally moving piece of art that goes right to the heart of what it feels like to belong. “In addition to the beautiful artwork, the personal stories written by the artists are a heartwarming insight into how people feel about belonging and that social connections are as important to our vitality as the air we breathe.”
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10 FEROS MAGAZINE SUMMER 2020 11 CONNECTING THE YOUNG AND OLD
FOSTERING INTERGENERATIONAL CONNECTIONS IS A KEY FOCUS AT FEROS CARE, WE UNDERSTAND THE PROFOUND IMPORTANCE OF OLDER AND YOUNGER PEOPLE ACTIVELY ENGAGING IN EACH OTHERS’ LIVES.
he vast amount of research suggests that ‘Ask Gran Not Google’ proved so successful that it has now engagement between generations may make been funded by state and federal governments and rolled T people happier and healthier, while increasing their out at more than 435 schools across Australia – many of life expectancy. which have adopted the program on an ongoing basis. These findings have been echoed through community Feros Care CEO Jennene Buckley says the benefits of projects created by Feros Care to encourage and facilitate connecting children and older adults are infinite for both connections between young and old. generations. Some of these projects include Gran Slam – an initiative “In a world where many extended families are separated that gave seniors a voice and a chance to join the youth- by distance or overwhelmed by the pace of modern life, dominated slam poetry culture; and our nation-wide Feros Care initiatives like ‘Gran Slam’ and ‘Ask Gran Not initiative ‘Ask Gran Not Google’ that encourages children Google’ are wonderful ways for youngsters and seniors to put down their devices and seek answers and advice to come together and learn new things about each other,” from seniors. she says. RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE CRITICAL INGREDIENT IN WELLBEING, PARTICULARLY AS WE AGE “Relationships are the critical ingredient in wellbeing, particularly as we age, so at Feros Care we focus on finding ways to ensure seniors are given a voice in the community and have opportunities to connect with people of all ages.” Ms Buckley says Feros Care also embraces technology as a way to connect people – a strategy that has been internationally recognised through the 2019 Global Ageing Network’s (GAN) Excellence in Ageing Services Award. “We are thrilled to have been acknowledged on the world stage for technologies that have the potential to revolutionise the global aged care industry,” she says. “These technologies include our Virtual Social Centre (VSC) – a platform that ensures those at risk of social isolation can join others via video-link and enjoy facilitated sessions such as Tai Chi, book club and poetry reading.” Ms Buckley says with loneliness becoming one of society’s biggest problems, the opportunity to connect, be it face-to- face or digitally, is more important than ever. “Fostering intergenerational connections not only improves the wellbeing of those involved, it also helps inspire social change and strengthen communities, which is key to tackling the issue of loneliness,” she says. “We’re proud to be leading the way with programs that create opportunities for seniors to not only connect with young people but feel a greater sense of self-worth.”
12 FEROS MAGAZINE GRAND GAMERS Feros Village residents – benefits that were over the age of 80 have sustained one month later. been fighting in a galaxy far, “Twice weekly gaming over far away while psychology three weeks also significantly and behavioural science improved working memory researcher, Alex McCord immediately after game play, has been studying the impact but the gains regressed a of gaming on their mental month later,” said Ms McCord. processes. “This suggests that game The University of New play should be ongoing England post-graduate to preserve its positive student found that residents effects and, with that, of the villages who regularly Feros Care has now played Star Wars: Battlefront, introduced gaming to significantly improved their two of its residential villages ability to switch tasks and on a regular basis.” maintain visual attention
BOLD BALLERINAS Pirouetting pre-schoolers according to Feros Care and chasseing seniors have Positive Living Manager Bec proved you’re never too Stephens, that is where the young or old to become real magic happened. a ballerina. “The ballet classes have Residents of Feros Village been fantastic for the Byron Bay attended ballet residents and you can see lessons with the aim to the positive effect it has on improve their strength, their mood and wellbeing,” balance and flexibility she said. through dance. “The residents really look After a few classes, the forward to their ballet lessons dozen seniors, with an and then when the pre- average age of 90, were schoolers arrived, the energy joined by four-year-olds from lifted and there was a real joy Byron Bay Preschool and, on everyone’s faces.”
INTERGENERATIONAL CHOIR Participants are singing the praises songs including Yellow Submarine, of a beautiful program that has Edelweiss and some tribal seen 25 preschoolers join 30 ‘call-out’ songs. aged care residents to form an Choir mistress Melia intergenerational choir at Feros Nauhton said this Village Byron Bay. was the first time After six weeks of rehearsals, she had worked residents from Feros Care villages, on a project that alongside children from Byron Bay connected ‘four Preschool, showcased their talents and 94-year-olds’. during a performance in November. “It’s so beautiful to Under the guidance of choir watch the children’s master, Melia Nauhton, who heads faces as they sing to up the Byron Bay ‘Shire Choir’, the old people and to witness the group performed a variety of the genuine connections,” she said.
SUMMER 2020 13 FRIENDSHIPS BREW BETWEEN BEER MAKERS AND SENIORS
THE KARAOKE MACHINE BELTED OUT EVERYTHING FROM FRANK SINATRA TO BRITNEY SPEARS AS FEROS CARE VILLAGE RESIDENTS AND LOCAL BREWERY WORKERS JOINED TOGETHER FOR A DAY OF SINGING, DANCING AND FRIENDSHIP.
he Stone & Wood Brewery made new friends gives them a sense team volunteered their time of purpose and something to look T and donated beer to brighten forward to. the day of residents at Feros Village “We just can’t thank Stone & Wood Wommin Bay. enough for choosing to give up their The young volunteers were paired up time to visit us and encourage all with seniors on a trip to the beach – companies to do the same with their walkers, wheelchairs and all – before local aged care village.” enjoying lunch and ‘happy hour’ back at the village. Feros Village Wommin Bay resident Ruth Nugent said the volunteers Feros Village Wommin Bay positive brought ‘so much love’. living assistant Lisa Burnie said the Stone & Wood team were so genuine “They bring their love and their in their interactions that they had help and make us feel happy. We already made plans to return. appreciate them so much,” she said. “The Stone & Wood team brought a Stone & Wood Communications and huge injection of energy and good Community Engagement Manager, vibes and our residents are still Jasmin Daly said her team got more buzzing from it,” she said. out of it than they put in. “We left the Feros Village on IT WAS JUST Thursday with full hearts. The team BEAUTIFUL TO SEE A got so much out of spending time BIG WAVE OF YOUTH with the residents and I feel like they BREATHE NEW LIFE did too. We’re all inspired to continue INTO THE PLACE. doing it,” she said. “We volunteer because this is a “Some of the team made such part of who we are. Supporting the genuine connections that they have community and giving back have planned to come back and see the been intrinsic to who Stone & Wood residents one-on-one. is from the beginning and enabling “The next move is for us is to visit the our team to get out there and do it is Stone & Wood team at their brewery important to us. in Byron Bay and we’ve already “We’re conscious of not making these had residents asking when that’s days tokenistic and that’s why we happening. want to work with not for profits to “It’s more than just a day, it’s going build meaningful relationships and for to be something that’s ongoing. For our team to support them in the ways the residents, knowing that they’ve they need it.” For more useful, inspiring and entertaining articles visit feroscare.com.au/feros-stories
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SUMMER 2020 15 LET’S INNOVATE: THREE COOL THINGS HAPPENING IN DISABILITY by Tristram Peters
CUE THE CONFETTI AND But we missed the fine print: the 1. Disability, dating & sex CAKE. ZOLGENSMA HAS BEEN therapy is only suitable for people One of the big things changing within APPROVED BY THE FDA! newly diagnosed. You see, the society is also the healthy discussion effects of SMA can’t be reversed for around people with disability, someone my age. Not by Zolgensma relationships, and sexuality. I mean, o the uninitiated, Zolgensma at least. Its curative powers lie in early why it took so long, I’ll never know. wouldn’t mean much at all. use, before symptoms take full effect. The word Zolgensma looks But more innovators are working in T Although a rollercoaster, I’ll admit this area than ever before. like someone’s throwing down tiles that I’m okay with the news. I’d love in a brazen attempt to top score Organisations like Northcott offer to be cured, but I’ve accepted my lot, at Scrabble. But for myself and sexuality and relationship education. and the thought that newborns will others with Spinal Muscular Atrophy This includes counselling, expos, and have this therapy is beautiful enough. Type 2 it’s a Very Big Deal. It’s a helping people march at Sydney Gay Without a doubt, it’ll save thousands potential cure. and Lesbian Mardi Gras. Northcott and thousands of lives. Zolgensma, a gene therapy, replaces Innovation also works to find needs I’m also okay with the news because, the survival motor neuron (SMN1) and gaps in the sex toy market for well, the world is forever innovating. gene, which is missing or mutated people with disability. On the daily, people are inventing (looking at you X-Men mutants) in More than anything, the innovators and brainstorming ways that make folks like me. This gene provides the in this space are the ones who society more and more accessible. building blocks for life, giving the continually normalise disability, They’re also normalising disability. muscles their oomph. showing that we have the same Let’s take a quick gander… desires and wants as everyone else. For instance, Squirmy and Grubs are brilliant at capturing what dating someone with a disability entails. Annoyingly, society does kick back. Squirmy and Grubs (real names: Shane and Hannah) are often the victims of internet trolls, who believe that there must be an ulterior motive for Hannah’s love of Shane. There’s not; changing society’s perception just takes time sometimes. And hell, they’re engaged now. Take that, internet trolls.
2. Make-a-thon innovations I don’t know what I’d do without my powerchair, but these days, powerchairs are merely the beginning of the mind-wrinkling Squirmy and Grubs Image: Facebook assistive technologies that are being
16 FEROS MAGAZINE LET’S INNOVATE: THREE COOL THINGS HAPPENING IN DISABILITY Thisables Snap Cup – Ikea Thisables Finger Brush – Ikea
introduced to the market. The people Now, people with disability can play Insurance Agency (NDIA). Basically, behind these technologies are the freely with their peers. it refers to accommodation for people real MVPs of the world. who require specialist housing. If you require specialist accommodation, Take a look at TOM. Not a bloke, 3. Housing and supported it’s worth investigating. but an acronym for ‘Tikkun Olam living Makers’. It’s a global movement that With assitive technology affording With such a focus on independent ‘creates and disseminates affordable people greater independence, many living, it’s also great to see solutions’ to common problems faced things are becoming more easily companies like IKEA get in on the by people with disabilities and others. achievable. For me, innovation means act. IKEA Israel’s ThisAbles project They partly do this by running ‘make- that I can begin looking at moving out offers simple furniture hacks that a-thon’ style events. of home and living independently, people can download and 3D-print; these hacks include easier-to-grab Basically, people with disabilities even at the grand ol’ age of 28. handles and bigger light switches. submit everyday problems that they For your disability housing needs, Nice one, society. would like solved. They’re linked check out sites like The Housing with a team of ‘makers’ (engineers, Hub. It’s got vacancies in New South designers, developers, and Wales, Queensland, and Victoria, WHAT ELSE CAN WE occupational therapists) who then including existing Specialist Disability INNOVATE? solve that problem. Accommodation (SDA) properties, Making the world a more accessible Some of the solutions they’ve private rental, properties for sale, place just takes a small bit of created included an adjustable and more. innovation. By engaging the makers and linking them with people with guide-dog harness, crutches that We also need to give a shout- disabilities (aka TOM), we can find can be turned into a chair, portable out all the amazing organisations solutions to problems we previously ramps, and a device (made of pulleys (again, read: innovators) working in thought unsolvable. and ropes) that allows someone with this space, from Youngcare to the a disability to independently dress hand-in-hand Summer Foundation I might not have a cure, nor might I themselves. Genius! and Summer Housing. For the latter, ever, but society is steadily evolving. With these make-a-thons becoming apartment features include access to We’ve just got to continue finding the more and more common, we’re also a ‘concierge’ support service! innovators, makers and people who normalise disability. seeing major corporations enter the Much of this fits within SDA, which game, in order to make their services is funded by the National Disability more accessible to people with disability. Microsoft is one such big- name player. ABOUT TRISTRAM Spurred on by a community of Tristram is the Content Manager at Clickability, gamers who had been modifying an Australian disability service directory and existing controllers for years, Information, Linkages and Capacity Building grant Microsoft last September released an recipient that allows NDIS participants to rate and adaptive controller for its Xbox One. review their disability supports.
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SUMMER 2020 17 5 MINTUES WITH OUR FEROS FAMILY DIANE COMES HOME TO ART
COMING BACK TO SOMETHING YOU LOVE, CAN FEEL LIKE COMING HOME. FOR DIANE FLETCHER, THAT SOMETHING SHE LOVES, HER HOME, IS ART. IT’S ALWAYS BEEN ART.
he started painting in high school as an elective. Like S her mother she can put her hand to most things creative. “I’m just artistic,” says Diane. Over the years she’s created beautiful cakes in the kitchen, and penned witty poems. She even began to crochet during a period she spent in a convent. Diane cheekily recalls “I got into trouble with the nuns for drawing and painting too much.”
I GOT INTO TROUBLE WITH THE NUNS FOR DRAWING A quadriplegic as a result of an about her health conditions and AND PAINTING TOO MUCH. operation, Diane has also had some reports that she doesn’t panic about serious health issues to contend with, things anymore. To appease the nuns, she learned including a heart attack and cancer. Since word has got out about her to crochet. Although she enjoyed it Over the years she stopped drawing prodigious talent, she is now an – even teaching her niece the craft and painting as she got back on her in-demand artist, with more than – it was never her real passion. feet and steadied her health. 30 people requesting she create A long-time Feros Care client, she something for them! has visits from her support workers most days. It was one such visit that eventually lead Diane back to art. Her former support worker, Corinne, was At Feros Care, our team vacuuming when an art book fell out are warm, caring individuals, of the linen press. Impressed with who see it as a privilege the contents, she asked Diane to work with seniors. We about it. offer team members the opportunity to enhance their Having discovered Diane’s knowledge and many choose substantial talent, Corinne to do a Certificate course, encouraged her to start drawing including Certificate IV in and painting again, supporting her Lesiure and Lifestyle, which to obtain art supplies, and even focuses on diversionary tactics commissioning some work from her. to enhance the mental and Now that Diane is back doing what physical wellbeing of seniors. she loves most she is less concerned
18 FEROS MAGAZINE INNOVATORS NOT IMITATORS
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SUMMER 2020 19 BYRON WRITERS FESTIVAL 2019
AUSTRALIA’S MOST RESPECTED JOURNALISTS AND SOCIAL ADVOCATES CAME TOGETHER BENEATH THE FEROS CARE MARQUEE AT THE BYRON WRITER’S FESTIVAL TO DISCUSS SOME OF THE MOST SIGNIFICANT ISSUES FACING OUR MODERN SOCIETY.
ow important are free the country’s most talented fiction “The Byron Writers Festival has speech and a free media to and non-fiction writers – with a total always been a great fit for Feros H protecting our democracy – of 19 author sessions held across the Care to throw its support behind. and have we got the balance right? popular three-day festival. “We firmly believe in the power of Where to from here for the #MeToo Among the most eminent writers storytelling and at Feros Care we movement? What are some of the and thinkers taking the stage at the love sharing the stories of people greatest challenges facing our Feros Care marquee were Australian smashing stereotypes around ageing regional Australians? And how can household names, Di Morrissey and and disability by living extraordinarily humanity’s relationship with Mother John Marsden – joined by, among bold lives.” Nature be a healthier one? others, literary legends in the making Byron Writers Festival Director These topics and more were placed Chloe Hooper, Rick Morton and Edwina Johnson said the ongoing under the microscope by some of Matthew Condon. support of sponsors including Feros Australia’s leading commentators, Feros Care CEO Jennene Buckley Care helped to ensure the event including six-time Walkley Award- said the organisation was honoured could return bigger and better winning journalist and recent to support the Byron Writers Festival ever year. Logies Hall of Famer Kerry O’Brien, for the seventh consecutive year. Australian correspondent and free “Not only does Feros Care provide press advocate Peter Greste, 7.30 “Feros Care was founded in Byron ongoing sponsorship support for our anchor Leigh Sales, World Vision Bay more than 25 years ago, so festival every year, but we are always Chief Advocate Tim Costello and we understand the importance of encouraged to see how its residents multiple award-winning journalist grassroots local events – that’s why and staff – and their friends and and #MeTooAustralia advocate we’ve been a major sponsor of the families – are among the festival- Tracey Spicer. Byron Writers Festival for so long, goers in attendance who every year and we only see our partnership with embrace and become part of the The Feros Care marquee also played the event going from strength to fabric of this much-loved grassroots host to conversations with some of strength,” she said. cultural event,” she said.
20 FEROS MAGAZINE GRAN SLAM
ONCE AGAIN, FEROS CARE HELD AN EXCLUSIVE BESPOKE EVENT AT THE BYRON WRITER’S FESTIVAL, FOR FEROS CARE FRIENDS, FAMILY AND VIPS.
ward-winning writer, speaker Caro Llewellyn took to the stage and appearance activist, Carly to talk about her memoir, Diving A Finlay joined us on stage into Glass – a searing, often funny to talk about her book, Say Hello – portrait of the realities of disability which is both a moving memoir and and an intimate account of two lives a proud manifesto on disability and filled with vigour and audacity. appearance diversity issues. To end, our Gran Slammers treated guests to an exclusive performance of their original slam poetry. What a treat!
WHAT IS GRAN SLAM? Caro Llewellyn More than 20 seniors had the chance to be a part of the slam poetry revolution under the Gran Slam is a collaboration guidance of an expert poet and between Feros Care and literary performer, David Stavanger. performance producer Everybody The project consisted of a series NOW, an organisation that shares of poetry workshops that taught our commitment to smashing aspiring wordsmiths to give voice to stereotypes and supporting their ideas and experiences. communities to live bolder lives. Carly Finlay
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SUMMER 2020 21 MEET THE SLAMMERS
MY DAD UNTITLED by Aaron Blomeley by Julie Crow
The rain hit the ground like the day my mother In 1964 at the age of twenty-one died I feared my lust would bring me My father, his stoic self, told me not to cry undone. A job must be done, so he said. No tears allowed And when my salacious sexuality So we set about to bury my mum Threatened to undermine my sense and sensibility While outside the rain hit the ground like beating I decided it was best not to tarry, sticks And hastily agreed to marry. And I looked across to see my dad ‘Forsaking all others’ I stoically pledged to uphold. His shoulders slumped, demeanour gone to bits. But alas! most of the time I felt lonely, empty, and cold. It was no bed of roses for me. This was not the Dad I knew More like being in a leaky boat at sea. Stern, strict and limited in view Because in and out Unmoved by pleading words those dreary ‘death do us part’ years ‘Pragmatic’ would be the word upon his sleeve Bits of me died floating seaward in a river of endless Hard-headed he was, but never, ever, forgot the tears. word ‘connect’ But I knew I was more, so much more. His disciplined soul was now in tears. Thankfully one magical day when I dived to the bottom of I had to learn a new kind of respect. the ocean floor, The words ‘I love you’ could never pass his lips I met Namaka the Goddess of the sea Put a gun to his head and demand he used these And low and behold! She was safe guarding the words tearstained pieces of me ‘I love you, I love you’ Then beneath the mighty ocean, and the endless sky He would reply in no uncertain terms Namaka shared her Goddess wisdom from times gone by. ‘That’s too hard, so shoot me if you wish.’ ‘Dear one never let your rebellious spirit be crushed by Dear mum never heard these words. age, fear, religion, myth or propriety. Nor did I. And always always! hold dearly your lascivious lust, and But love he certainly had salacious sexuality. For when the words failed to come, Because it’s your birthright, and the juice that feeds your Actions he had; actions full of love. soul, Unbreakable and well clad Sustains your spirit and keeps you whole. So we buried me mum down deep. Remember you have the power to choose your own fate Down deep ‘cos Dad wanted Therefore your destiny is yours to create. to go on top. So go forth; spread your wings; fly gloriously free, Not right then of Because freedom is the liberty to simply be’ course, but later Then I thanked Namaka for not only sharing her timeless When he joined the wisdom of Goddess lore, love of his life. But also for the safe keeping of my lust and sexual core. Jessie was her Then buoyed with gratitude and hope in my heart I swam name: his wife. swiftly back to shore.
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22 FEROS MAGAZINE HEART AND SPARK with Wendy Taylor
REGENERATION by Wendy Taylor
ike a bower bird I collect stuff. I love garage sales, boot sales, L junk shops – any place that can deliver up a prize. Breathing new life into something I already have, instead of shopping for something ABOUT WENDY new is always a challenge I enjoy. Over the years my collection boxes Wendy is a slam poet, film have overflown with ribbons, and instagram maven. jewellery, scraps of silks and velvet, Quirky and witty, she shares baubles of all descriptions. This her bold and unique take on helps my wardrobe forever evolve. life, based on her 80 years Not all my undertakings bear fruit on the planet. As Wendy – but there are always treasures says; “Nobody ever wants to be anticipated. We live in hope, to be thought of as ordinary, just like we do when buying a everyone wants to have a lotto ticket! little spark about them as we are all such individuals”. A knitted woolen thigh-length jacket/cardigan has had many We love her personal changes over the 20 years it’s style and asked her to lived with me. Different buttons, share a little of her process adding – dare I say – fur and later as she expresses herself a wired felted piece. It has also had through fashion. silk embroidery strips from India, and For more of Wendy’s pearls one year I found two large beaded of wisdom and sense oblong brooches. Placed on the of style, follow her on shoulders they looked like epaulets instagram @wendysthirdact and with the addition of a dangled tassel, my husband called me “The General” when I wore it. Its most recent incarnation sees a two- delight of someone else. Another pair But it’s not just clothing we can metre long scarf made of knitted net, of turquoise heels with a satiny sheen regenerate. I do it with exercise overflowing with beads and sequins were also dispatched. At 80 years they too. Although I need a reviving stitched around the front. I love my new are too hard, and probably dangerous nap afterward, I do circuit training ‘evening jacket’. At least for now. for me to walk in – but I could still at the gym twice a week. I didn’t wear them if all I had to do was sit on start at the gym until I was 72 – Do I throw anything out? A loved pair a barstool. You’re probably thinking I so it’s never too late! of black satin sling back very high couldn’t get up on a high stool – but heels were put in their box for the you betcha I can! Love Wendy
SUMMER 2020 23 EMELITA KEEPS FINDING JOY UNAPOLOGETICALLY INDEPENDENT. THAT’S THE BEST WAY TO DESCRIBE EMELITA KACZEREPA, 67. ADD CREATIVE, JOYFUL, OPTIMISTIC AND FUNNY AND YOU’VE CAPTURED HER PERFECTLY.
survivor of Hodgkin “I like to live life to the fullest,” lymphoma, breast cancer she exclaims. and currently managing A Joining the NDIS in 2016, her several chronic illnesses, Emelita is a funding allowed for supports participant in the National Disability to help her move through Insurance Scheme (NDIS) as she is the world without sight. also blind. Her husband Peter was her Her eyesight began to deteriorate in primary support, and together the early 2000s, and eventually she they continued to live the life lost all her vision. In her indomitable they’d always lived. manner, Emelita found ways to This changed after Peter’s Emelita describes how, in an effort maintain the life she’d always lived. death in 2017. Emelita found herself to maintain that independence, She featured in an exhibition of blind without the day-to-day support she she would crawl up five steps artists, entered (and won) a braille required. She couldn’t, nor did she to get to her backyard washing short story competition, nurtured her want to rely on her friends and family line. As harrowing as this sounds, musical talent and enjoyed a full and as it would change their relationship, she is smiling and positive as she active social life. and her independence. demonstrates how she now easily navigates those same steps with the safety handrails that have been installed thanks to her NDIS funding. It was quickly identified that Emelita required additional supports after losing Peter. Home modifications, together with assistive technology like smart doorbells, a smart watch, talking microwave and talking scales let her continue to reside safely in the home she’s lived in since 1982. Perhaps most important is the addition of a support worker. “Without the NDIS I would probably be miserable in my own home,” says Emelita.
WITHOUT THE NDIS I WOULD PROBABLY BE MISERABLE IN MY OWN HOME. Her Feros Care Local Area Coordinator, Pauline Gallacher agrees that this can often be a risk.
24 FEROS MAGAZINE DREAM BIG,
“Emelita could easily have become ACT LOCAL WITH isolated and possibly placed in an aged care home. YOUR LOCAL AREA “With the additional supports in her NDIS plan she can continue to live COORDINATOR in her own home and participate in all the activities that bring her joy,” she continues. HOW CAN YOU HELP Emelita has always found joy in life. PEOPLE TO REACH Born in the Philippines, she was THEIR OWN INDIVIDUAL working as a court stenographer GOALS AND EASILY and studying at university, when she UNDERSTAND THE INS accepted a job in Papua New Guinea AND OUTS OF THE with the Commonwealth Bank of NATIONAL DISABILITY Australia in the 1970s. It’s here she INSURANCE SCHEME met Peter, a “handsome” Australian. (NDIS)? Settling in Canberra, they raised two daughters, while they both worked full time. Emelita went he answer is to think local. with the activities of everyday into the public service, serving as As an approved NDIS Local living, to providing equipment to secretary to the Director of the T Area Coordinator (LAC), help you get around or assisting Australian National Gallery. and partner in the community, with participation in the workforce. Feros Care can get you sorted. Feros Care can help manage all the After 15 years, she left to have We want you to think big, dream not-so-exciting stuff. We’ll ensure more time to care for her youngest big and live big. Through one-on- you tick all the right boxes, dot all daughter, who had severe eczema. one discussions we can help you your i’s and include any supporting This gave her time to study as well, navigate the NDIS from go to whoa. information or reports required. and she went to culinary school We know the scheme like the back Because getting your NDIS support where, through cake decorating, of our hand, so we can provide plan right the first time will help she discovered her love of art. professional, reliable advice to help you receive the supports you you access assistance and funding. “I didn’t know I was an artist!” need sooner. Plus, we’ll play an she laughs. Acting as your NDIS Local Area active role in your NDIS support Never one to do things by Coordinator, Feros Care will get coordination – following up your halves, Emelita decorated cakes to know you, your goals and application, advocating on your competitively, traveling around the your challenges. We’re great behalf and introducing you to country displaying her artistic skills listeners and we’re determined. providers that can implement your – and sharing the secret to her extra So we’ll get the best outcome for plan once you get the go ahead. you, your family and your carers. delicious fruit cake (replace rum with At Feros Care we’re passionate Together we can create a holistic, Grand Marnier). about creating support individually tailored plan that frameworks that build an She began working part time as a meets your current and future individual’s capacity and deliver chef so she could continue to be needs, while also giving you the new opportunities. Through there for her daughter. She’d still be opportunity to thrive. doing that now, were she not blind. empowering, supportive and Everyone deserves to live their flexible pathways, that resonate “People don’t trust me to cook,” best life and as locals, we’ve with each individual, we can help she grins. developed strong relationships make a genuine difference to She probably wouldn’t have time, with services that can support you the lives of people living with a anyway. As well as becoming in your community. From helping disability – and their families. proficient in braille and continuing to make music – she writes songs and sings in three choirs – Emelita’s next goal is to begin busking to raise For more information on Feros Care and the ndis visit money for charity. feroscare.com.au/ndis
SUMMER 2020 25 FEROS VALUES
WHEN WE FIRST CREATED OUR VALUES 15 YEARS AGO, WE WERE A SMALL BYRON BAY BASED COMPANY WITH 150 CLIENTS, 100 STAFF AND OUR ENTIRE CORPORATE TEAM OF 5 PEOPLE WORKING IN A SMALL SHED AT OUR FEROS VILLAGE BYRON BAY.
ince then, Feros Care Our values are not just words on The language used for our values is has grown, changed and a wall. They are unique to us and edgy, challenges the status quo, and S broadened its services, as underpin our much bolder vision is bold – it is exactly who Feros Care have the environments in which we and aspirations for you – our are and who we dream to be. operate. We are diverse in cultures, clients, residents, participants, Each value is important in its experiences and backgrounds, customers, consumers, and staff. purpose, powerful in its meaning, we are diverse in geography, and Our commitment to involving both and aspirational in what we want to we are diverse in the services and staff and clients in the creation of our achieve at Feros Care. These values people we care for. This means values has ensured that our values drive our behaviour, and as a result we needed to revisit who we are accurately depict who we are now, people can feel them when they and what is important to us. And so and who we aspire to be. These work with us, visit us, or receive care we created a new set of company values set us up for success, and or service from us. values that still acknowledge and ensure we remain relevant to our celebrate our legacy. customers and staff.
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26 FEROS MAGAZINE THE CAN DO POLICY WITH RACHEL TYLER FEROS AT FEROS CARE WE GROW BOLD, NOT OLD. TO HELP OUR CLIENTS LIVE THEIR DREAMS WE HAVE AN INITIATIVE CALLED A ‘GROW BOLD REQUEST.’ RESIDENTS AND CLIENTS CAN SUBMIT A VALUES REQUEST EITHER FOR AN EXPERIENCE, SOMETHING TO MAKE LIFE EASIER OR SOMETHING THAT HELPS THEM OVERCOME AN OBSTACLE. OUR VIRTUAL WELLBEING MANAGER/CLIENT ADVOCATE RACHEL TYLER SHARES HER SECRET TO GRANTING OUR CLIENTS’ REQUESTS.
“People ask for all sorts of things. In May 2016, Rachel made the move Requests can be anything from a If you’re creative and resourceful, to Feros Care as a Client Experience new fridge or a walking frame to you can make it happen… or at least team member, before taking on the enable a client to walk their daughter achieve the next best thing. Never role of Virtual Wellbeing Manager. down the aisle. Or it could be give up trying.” Rachel is part of a team who really out of the box – like taking a coordinates and organises health nostalgic adventure. Growing up in Tasmania, Rachel and support services for our clients was inspired to pursue a career in “Recently, a client and his wife within their own home. aged care when she considered celebrated their 60th wedding the quality of care she would like “Every day is hard work and it can anniversary. We organised flowers her grandfather to receive. “My be exhausting. But when I come and chocolates, balloons and a grandfather was a dairy farmer, home, I think of all the clients I’ve big card delivered to their surprise a hard worker and a loving helped. I know I had a small part to party. They were so grateful and grandfather. As he aged, it was play in changing someone’s life for happy and said it was, ‘the best important for him to stay at home the better. Just having a chat with party ever!’ Afterwards, they visited and maintain his independence as someone can brighten their day. the office with photos and a thank long as he could. Unfortunately, he It is important to me that our aged you card. It meant so much to me suffered with dementia. I thought, clients know they are not forgotten; that our simple gesture made their ‘This I what I want to do. I want to they are valued. They have a night so special.” help people stay independent at wealth of knowledge and many “Another Grow Bold Request home as long as possible.’” have survived wars and overcome that comes to mind is when we obstacles our generation can’t even In her early twenties, Rachel became organised for a married couple to begin to imagine.” a carer with a focus on dementia- attend the EKKA. Our client wanted based care, and then progressed WHEN I GRANT A REQUEST, to treat his wife to a fun day out – to become a diversional therapist. I FEEL ABSOLUTELY reliving their youth. The smiles on This involved facilitating leisure- WONDERFUL. their faces when they were telling based activities to enhance the Rachel says she feels happiest me all about their adventures was psychological, spiritual, social, when making others smile. Indeed, priceless. I panicked at first when emotional and physical wellbeing of the highlight of her role, she says, I saw a photo of his wife standing clients. “I was a Diversional Therapist is granting ‘Grow Bold Requests.’ inside the pen with a monstrous bull. for many years. I absolutely loved it – “When I grant a request, I feel Then I thought, ‘Why stand on the but moving to Queensland, I wanted absolutely wonderful. I always follow outside looking in when you can to get back into a position in aged up to see how it went. I love seeing be right there in the middle of the care where I could support a healthy the photos and hearing about the action?’ That is what growing bold work/family balance.” experience,” she shares. – not old, is all about!”
SUMMER 2020 27 FIVE 5THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT SENIOR DATING IN 2019
FOR MOST OF US, SENIOR DATING IS NO LONGER TABOO. LOVE IS NOT SOMETHING WE EVER STOP SEEKING, AND THIS OFTEN MEANS GOING ON FIRST DATES WELL INTO OUR 80S AND 90S. BUT WHEN IT COMES TO SENIOR DATING, THERE ARE STILL STEREOTYPES TO BREAK AND FUNDAMENTALS TO EXPLORE. SO WHAT DOES SENIOR DATING LOOK LIKE IN THE 21ST CENTURY?
hen it comes to love, and that didn’t change 60 years on happy to go out, but I don’t want to we often think of young either, Joyce recounts the memories be serious.” couples holding hands, they shared during their school years W Just like younger dating, there are lost in their own world. If we do think and those they made together again. a number of reasons why senior of older people and love, we see In the seven years from their reunion dating has its drawbacks – and partners for life, two people having to Jim’s unfortunate seizure in 2015, they’re completely different to what spent so much time together that they spent quite a bit of time travelling younger couples would experience. they’re practically intertwined. and enjoying life together. Commitment is certainly one of them What we don’t really think of – and – depending on whether someone is what is the reality nonetheless – are 1. Commitment is a different entering the dating scene after their seniors actively participating in the story after your 70s spouse has passed away or whether dating scene. And while this scene simply never having been married, does differ from our younger dating When asked why she hasn’t given him commitment can seem daunting or days in some respects, love is still a chance at being more than just her even unnecessary. love, even when you’re 70+! friend after many, many years, she is very clear. Joyce has her eyes set on Joyce Basset is 86 and a Virtual remaining independent, even after Social Centre client. As we sit down “Those days were very different to two marriages. to talk, she recounts memories of a nowadays. Dating later in life is really “Married or not married, I still live high school friend, Jim, who – after common – I can name four friends MY life. If I wanted to go and see becoming widowed many years later who’ve got rings given to them something in, say Sydney, too bad if – contacted her again. While the two recently – but for the most part there’s they didn’t want to go, I went anyway.” were never together in high school no intention of getting married. I’m
28 FEROS MAGAZINE 2. Finances might be a reason for uncommitted senior relationships Part of the lack of commitment evident in most older relationships is a financial aspect. As Joyce explains, many of her friends with new partners will probably never live together. “They won’t grow old together because they still have their own homes. It can’t work if you want to retain your own independence – and your own pension.” While elderly people going on first dates might not have to worry about whether their date could be a potential life partner or the mother/father of their children, they case for Joyce – as she says, Jim well as emotionally. And a happy, now have to keep other things in was never a man of adventure, hence healthy granny is the best granny! mind – like finances. The pension is why they didn’t end up marrying each calculated on the basis of whether other. But after his wife’s death, Joyce someone is single or living together 5. Sharing is caring – and and Jim enjoyed many adventures in a committed relationship. For sometimes, sharing is together as friends; and these took those single seniors who rely on them to places where Jim would’ve also surviving the pension, moving in with a new never gone on his own. With Joyce’s There are just some things only partner might not work out very well positive influence on his life, they people who have gone through financially. According to Joyce, this travelled all around Australia, seeing similar life experiences can is something commonly stopping and doing new things. After all, understand. This can include the people of her age from moving in with loneliness is best fought with laughter passing of a spouse or other family their new partners. As she puts it, this and shared experiences. matters from a senior’s point of view is definitely a major problem. that can only be truly appreciated by 4. Intimacy is proved to someone else in similar shoes. WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS benefit us physically, Widowed seniors often come OF DATING AS A SENIOR? mentally, and emotionally together to help each other grieve and learn to live with and overcome Older people don’t stop enjoying 3. Companionship leads to that grief. While the support of other intimacy and sexual relationships. happy lives for seniors loved ones certainly helps, it can Intimacy, regardless of the degree to benefit seniors to discuss these The number one reason for getting which we enjoy it, has proven benefits issues with others coming from the back into the dating scene as a senior to our lives. According to research, same background. Sharing grief (or is the benefits of companionship. “getting intimate on a regular basis joy, or anxiety, or contentment, for that Life is best shared, and this becomes boosts your immune system. Your risk matter) can strengthen a bond and increasingly true after kids and for heart disease and prostate cancer help anyone overcome big emotional grandkids have left the nest. decreases. If that isn’t reason enough, obstacles in life. Loneliness is often an unwelcome but it’s been proven that frequently very persistent companion for seniors hugging people you love can lower Senior dating certainly has its unique – and one way to combat that is to your blood pressure almost as well challenges – but so does it have its dust off the old dancing shoes and go as prescription medication. What’s own rewards! As a senior entering the out and find someone who loves salsa more, healthy sexual relationships can dating scene, it’s good to know what just as much as you do. prolong your life up to 8 years.” you’re up against so you can protect yourself financially and emotionally. A new companion can mean positive Intimate relationships can help keep changes for seniors. This was the seniors fit physically, mentally, as
SUMMER 2020 29 PLANNING AHEAD
WHEN DIFFICULT CHANGES HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE, OR THAT OF A LOVED ONE, IT CAN BE HARD TO WORK OUT WHO SHOULD BE RESPONSIBLE FOR FUTURE AFFAIRS. BY PLANNING AHEAD FOR LEGAL, HEALTH AND FINANCIAL DECISIONS YOU CAN ENSURE WISHES ARE RESPECTED.
When you should plan ahead are your agent and should only do Although we’re living longer and what you authorise them to do. If you remaining healthier, many of us lose the capacity to make these types will have a period of increased of decisions and you haven’t given dependence and, potentially, a loss someone EPoA for your financial of decision-making ability. Don’t wait affairs, a court or tribunal may appoint Enduring Guardian until you are struggling to manage someone to do that – but it might An Enduring Guardian can allow you your financial affairs or healthcare not be the person you would have to guide decisions in the future about decisions. Everyone over 18 who has chosen. your care, health and lifestyle choices capacity should consider planning which you may not be able to make ahead now because anyone can Enduring Power of Attorney yourself, if you lose that ability. It’s a have an accident or event that will for personal and health good way to plan for the future and affect their capacity. matters will only be in effect during periods of incapacity. In the ACT and QLD, you can also Terminology throughout appoint one or more people to have An Enduring Guardian should know Australia EPoA for your personal and health your values, beliefs and wishes as The legislation covering planning care decisions. However, unlike EPoA they have the authority to make ahead is different in each State and for financial matters, the authority decisions about things like: Territory, with different terminology, of the person you appoint for your where you will live different documents and different personal and health matters does not your general health care matters provisions about who can make come into effect unless or until you and medical consent financial or health care decisions have lost capacity. support services you receive, such for you if you have not appointed as meals-on-wheels anyone to do that. Appointments for medical or who you may have contact with or health care in other states who can visit you Enduring Power of Attorney and territories day-to-day issues for financial matters Again, the terminology and In all States and Territories, an conditions are different across the ADVANCE CARE DIRECTIVES Enduring Power of Attorney (EPoA) country; e.g., in NSW, SA, Tas and Make sure that the person (or is a document which legally appoints WA you can appoint an Enduring people) you appoint to make one or more people to manage your Guardian (EG) to make medical and decisions for you if you lose capacity financial affairs and property matters. personal decisions for you if you know your wishes by completing an You can say when the authority of can’t make your own. In Victoria, you Advance Care Directive and giving that person starts and what they can can appoint an EG for some personal a copy of that to your EG/EPoA for or can’t do. However, while you have decisions but you need to appoint a personal and health matters (or capacity, the person you appoint can’t Medical Treatment Decision Maker to whatever that person is called in just do whatever they want to; they make your medical decisions. your State or Territory).
WHO NEEDS TO KNOW? GOT QUESTIONS? Any organisation or company that provides you with financial, personal or We recommend that you look at the health care support, including Feros Care, will need a copy of your EPoA Advance Care Planning Australia and/or EG documents and your Advance Care Directive. By requesting website advancecareplanning.org.au these documents prior to working with your appointee, we can make sure or contact the relevant Public Trustee your wishes will be respected. If you have written an Advance Directive or Guardianship Tribunal in your State or appointed an Attorney or Guardian, please let us know! or Territory, or speak to a solicitor.
30 FEROS MAGAZINE REVIEWS
BOOK REVIEW Fruzsina Gal – Digital Marketing Specialist IF AT BIRTH YOU DON’T SUCCEED by Zach Anner Part comedy, part inspirational impressing Oprah, to biography, Zach Anner’s If at Birth You driving the Mars Rover, Don’t Succeed offers a raw but funny and inspiring a John Mayer insight to the challenges and lessons song (it wasn’t Your Body is of life with cerebral palsy, as well as a Wonderland), Zach’s life is a man’s attempts at defining himself truly a testament to resilience, the outside of his disability. The book importance of friendship, and making follows the first 30 years of Zach’s the most of every mistake. often bumpy (sometimes literally, much more than that – it’s about the Zach’s witty sense of humour and his thanks to his wheelchair) road to coming of age of someone who is ability to extract not only hilarious, but success – not only in his career, but trying to find himself amidst friends, often touching, thought-provoking, more so his personal life. challenges, internet-fame, and love. and heart-felt details from the His musings recount the many challenges he faces makes this one With laugh-out-loud funny one-liners milestones he has reached, as well as of the best memoirs I have read. and elaborate life lessons blending all the failures and wrong turns along His stories are both entertaining in seamlessly, If at Birth You Don’t the way – some of which bear more and stimulating, and they had me Succeed is a must-read for anyone significance than the triumphs. From laughing at parts and getting teary- looking for a hilarious, approachable, becoming a viral internet sensation eyed at others. While the book but very honest look at life with who’s hosted two travel shows, captures life with cerebral palsy, it’s cerebral palsy.
MOVIE REVIEW Jacqi Holloway – Marketing Coordinator COOL HAND LUKE, 1967 I know, I’m more than 40 years late the attitude reminds me of current for the party – but it was definitely release films, like Joker, the worth the wait. reasons for Luke’s rebellion aren’t as well defined. This film appeals to my love of the underdog – to the quiet rebel in As the film goes on, and Luke’s me that wants to stand up against continued escapes garner him things that I view as wrong, unjust harsher punishments I find myself or uncaring. Given it was released almost willing Luke not to let himself in 1967, it’s not surprising that it so be broken. Yet when he is, I’m not as they could tell right then that they strongly positions the protagonist disappointed as I could be. weren’t a-gonna beat him. That old as an anti-establishment antihero. Maybe it’s because he never really Luke smile.” A rebel against ‘the man’. breaks. His sidekick and friend, Well written, directed and full of great “Calling it a job don’t make it Dragline, recounts Luke’s final stand. performances, Cool Hand Luke is a right, boss.” “He was smiling... That’s right. You compelling way to spend a couple of It’s not always clear what Luke is know, that, that Luke smile of his. hours. Hands up if you’re planning on rebelling against – it seems the He had it on his face right to the very watching it – or, re-watching as the establishment is enough. So, while end. Hell, if they didn’t know it ‘fore, case may be!
SUMMER 2020 31 SOCIAL NEWS
FEROS AWARDS Feros Care was awarded ‘Regional, Rural and Remote Provider of the Year’ at the Aged and Community Services Australia (ACSA) national awards, for a range of groundbreaking technologies that empowered seniors to stay independent, safe and connected while remaining in their own home. Every year, the ACSA awards recognise providers and individuals working and volunteering in The ACSA also acknowledged Feros Care for its the aged care sector for their compassion, continued contribution towards breaking down commitment and achievements – with Feros Care stereotypes around ageing by encouraging also taking out a state award earlier in this year in seniors to lead bold and fulfilling lives, and for its the same category. innovative workplace culture.
BOLDTOBER In October we teamed up with Sunrise to search for Aussies living their best BOLD lives – giving them a chance to win a share of $10,000 cash! Four winners won $2,500 each by sharing how they were living BOLD lives. The winners are: Jasmine West who showed us how she turned her life around after suffering a stroke at the age of 25. Elizabeth Marchi who shaved her hair for cancer, raising $11,547 in the process. Patricia Hooper who, at 73 is still flexible enough to do the splits! And finally, Stephen Howarth who stays bold at 60 by conquering obstacle courses and water-skiing barefoot! Congratulations to our winners – stay bold!
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32 FEROS MAGAZINE UPDATED DICTIONARY ANOTHER SMALL SELECTION OF NEW WORDS AND SENSES COMING INTO THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE.
OK Boomer A term coined by Gen Zers as a retort to older people who don’t appear to understand the issues facing FEAST them including climate change, housing costs and education. Our Local Area Coordination team in South Australia participated in Feast Festival celebrations. Founded in 1997, Feast is Adelaide’s only not-for-profit LGBTI Cannabusiness A term coined to Queer Arts and Cultural Festival celebrating Pride describe the growth of legitimate business and Diversity. activities around cannabis. The team were able to connect with the community and share information about how the NDIS can Chillax A combination of the words chill support them. And they had a blast at the same time! and relax. You get the picture!
Netflix and chill A euphemism. FEARLESS 2 SHOUT-OUT An invite to ‘netflix and chill’ should be interpreted as an invite to sexual activity. Get ready! Fearless Season 2 is coming! With so many bold stories submitted by people living with disability, it was such a pleasure for us to review all of them! A shortlist of stories has been created and production will begin in early 2020. Stay tuned for MEME CORNER the launch of Fearless Season 2 next year! THEY ALWAYS SAY: “OK BOOMER”, BUT THEY NEVER SAY: “YOU OK, BOOMER?”
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