FEBRUARY 11, 2018 the SIXTH WEEK in ORDINARY TIME VOLUME 67:19 DIOCESE of COLUMBUS a Journal of Catholic Life in Ohio

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FEBRUARY 11, 2018 THE SIXTH WEEK IN ORDINARY TIME VOLUME 67:19 DIOCESE OF COLUMBUS A journal of Catholic life in Ohio

WORLD MARRIAGE DAY, FEB. 11, CELEBRATES THE BEAUTY OF GOD’S PLAN FOR MARRIED LOVE 2 Catholic Times February 11,2018

Editor’s reflections/By Doug Bean, Editor Subscribe Subscribe Casting a wide net: Lent, fish fries, and marriage Catholic Times is the only newspaper This week’s Catholic Times features two enjoying a lovely meal that brings you a weekly look at diverse topics: marriage and fish fries. might have to wait. There’s no real “marriage” between the How about celebrat- Catholic life in the Diocese of Columbus two, other than that married couples and ing early on Valen- families often attend fish fries together. It’s tine’s Eve, which is simply a coincidence of the 2018 calendar. also Fat Tuesday, or Mardi Gras? Does any- The U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops one make heart-shaped paczkis? recognizes Feb. 7-14 as the annual Nation- It’s a small sacrifice to pay when you con- al Marriage Week. World Marriage Day is sider the holy season we’re entering and the Sunday, Feb. 11, also the World Day of the suffering Christ endured for the salvation of Sick. This is traditionally when the Times souls. Ash Wednesday gives us an opportu- publishes its annual marriage issue. nity to deepen our devotion not only for our The following week is the beginning of loved ones, but for the one true God. Lent. Ash Wednesday this year will be on When you think about it, this week’s issue Wednesday, Feb. 14. And so, with fish fries is really about love. Love for Christ is re- flected in abstinence during Lent (no meat Don’t Miss Out beginning in earnest at parishes and schools on Friday, Feb. 16, the 2018 Fish Fry Guide on Fridays, hence the Fish Fry Guide) and By dropping your Catholic Times envelope love for spouses in marriage. is included in this edition. The pullout sec- into the collection plate in February, you We hope you’ll take time to read the stories tion can be found on Pages 11-14. We en- guarantee getting the Catholic Times for courage you to save it and patronize local in this issue about marriage and relationships parish fish fries during the next six weeks. that are intended to inform and hopefully to the special parish rate of only $17 You’ve probably heard by now that Ash help anyone who might be struggling. Wednesday and Valentine’s Day fall on the One of the inspirational stories recounts the same day. If you can’t remember that hap- 60-year marriage between Joseph and Do- pening in your lifetime, many of you are not lores Siemer of Lancaster. Carol Spellacy, alone. Not since 1945 has this doubleheader one of the couple’s seven children, shared occurred. But, strangely enough, the twin- her observations on her parents’ strong bond bill will take place again in 2024 and 2029. and the state of the sacrament today. This daily double creates a bit of an Ash “The words ‘commitment’ and ‘vow’ have Wednesday vs. Valentine’s Day conundrum. meanings much different than in the past,” she said. “However, when one is bombarded Ash Wednesday is a day of fasting for with messages that suggest a life without Catholics from ages 14 through 59 who are virtues, values, or morals, it is easy to see able to do so. Valentine’s Day is associated how this could happen. Unfortunately, very in a secular sense with indulging in choco- few take the time to notice the message of lates or enjoying a special dinner. those couples who value commitment and What should we do? the vows they made.” The Catholic Times Collection Those Valentine expressions of love and USCCB resources to promote marriage as affection are by no means a bad thing, but a lifelong union of one man and one woman because V-Day and Ash Wednesday share may be found at ForYourMarriage.org, Por- Feb. 10-11, 2018 the same calendar page, prudence suggests TuMatrimonio.org, and MarriageUnique- that diving into that box of chocolates or ForAReason.org. catholic times catholic times

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Gay St., Columbus, Ohio 43215. Please allow two to four weeks for change of address. February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 3 Luncheon club honors Thomas Vollmer’s work for church, community BY TIM PUET perform wonders among you” (3:5). Reporter, Catholic Times Another daughter, Amy Ogden of Even as he was expressing his grati- Reynoldsburg, speaking of her fa- tude for receiving the 2018 diocesan ther’s becoming Catholic, said, “My Catholic Man of the Year award, dad always knew God (before his Thomas Vollmer said he hoped he was conversion), but I feel that he truly serving the Catholic Church and the found God years later. Every day, he community for the right reasons. truly embraces the opportunity to live his life as a faithful servant.” She “Sometimes I have a problem when said the proudest moments of her life I do something for other people,” he occurred when two of her children said. “I ask myself ‘What am I doing were altar servers for the first time, it for? Am I doing it because Jesus because they were taught a server’s said ‘What you do for the least of my duties by their grandfather, who is a people, you do for me?’ Or am I do- frequent daily Mass server and assis- ing it for my own self-satisfaction? I tant sacristan at St. Pius X. constantly question myself on that because I truly don’t know 100 percent The Vollmers have two younger the answer, daughters who live out of state, 10 grandchildren, and one great-grand- “I try to keep in mind that I am doing child. it for Jesus and for humanity. I try to keep my brain focused and my heart Before presenting the award to focused as best as I can.” Vollmer, Bishop Campbell thanked the club for its continuing observance Bishop Frederick Campbell present- Chris Vollmer and her husband, Tom, the Catholic Men’s Luncheon Club’s 2018 diocesan Catholic Man of the Year, with Bishop Frederick Campbell. CT photo by Tim Puet of the first Friday devotion to the Sa- ed the award to Vollmer, a Reynolds- cred Heart of Jesus, noting that it was burg St. Pius X Church parishioner, at pretty loud and clear,” he said. “The ers. He also was a part-time instructor founded in the 1940s to promote the the Catholic Men’s Luncheon Club’s next day, I called about joining the at Owens Technical College in Toledo devotion. He said Vollmer “exempli- monthly meeting on Friday, Feb. 2, at RCIA program” at his parish. for more than 10 years. fies the compassion of the Sacred Columbus St. Patrick Church. Vollmer expressed appreciation to The pastor said he was particularly Heart and its mercy and love for life, Vollmer began his remarks after re- “the things and people I’m most grateful for Vollmer’s efforts as a for others, and for God.” ceiving the award by saying, “I’m not grateful for,” first mentioning the member of the parish’s Wondrous Vollmer was one of 10 men nominat- standing up here alone. I’ve got Jesus body, blood, soul and divinity of Je- Works committee, which performs ed for the award by members of their up here to remind me of what my pur- sus in the Eucharist and his conver- repairs as needed at the parish. These parishes. The others were: Patrick pose is in life. I am very humbled to- sion to Catholicism. He followed that may seem to be minor things to some Shroyer and Joseph Cardimone, Co- day that somebody thought I was wor- with words of appreciation for former people, Msgr. Funk said, “but they are lumbus Our Lady of the Miraculous thy of this honor. There are so many Bishop Robert Donnelly of Toledo important. I’m edified by what Tom Medal Church; Eric Yang and Tom people that I feel do so much more for and his brother, Father Martin Don- has done in his retirement (from the Prem, Columbus St. Peter Church; their communities, so many people nelly, and to his pastor at St. Pius, sheriff’s department). I’m stepping Frank Hartge, Gahanna St. Matthew that are far more spiritual than I am. Msgr. David Funk. He urged those into that role (of being retired) this Church; Frank Cichon, Coshocton Sa- To just be in the company of all of you, in attendance to thank their pastors summer, and maybe I’ll have to take cred Heart Church; Louis Schwartz, it’s overwhelming.” because “I don’t think they hear that the lead from Tom on what to do in my Columbus St. Anthony Church; Matt Vollmer grew up as a member of often enough.” own retirement.” Palmer, Columbus St. Catharine the Methodist Church and joined the Vollmer also expressed appreciation John Beyer, St. Pius X assistant busi- Church; and Robert Brehm. Columbus Catholic Church in 2006, three years to two former Catholic men of the ness manager, described Vollmer and Our Lady of Peace Church. before moving to Reynoldsburg from year – the 2011 recipient, Lee Brock of his wife as “a couple who doesn’t tell He was chosen for the award by a the Toledo area to be closer to two St. Pius X, whom he described as his people what they do. They’re just there. committee consisting of members of of his four daughters. His wife of 48 mentor, and Tom Wagner of Pickering- … They are folks you can count on the Catholic Men’s Retreat League, years, Chris, is a lifelong Catholic. ton St. Elizabeth Seton Church, who when there’s a need, and you can cry on the Catholic Men’s Ministry, the Serra Vollmer said that although he attend- received the honor in 2012. Vollmer their shoulder” if needed, he said. Club, the Knights of Columbus, and ed church with her, he was reluctant and Wagner have worked together on Vollmer’s oldest daughter, Heather the luncheon club. Father Michael to become Catholic until one Sunday the Gospel Road summer youth ser- McKay of Gahanna, said her father Lumpe, rector of Columbus St. Joseph night when he went to Mass alone be- vice project for several years. was “always a man of honor and Cathedral, was its clergy adviser. cause she was on a mission trip. Msgr. Funk praised Vollmer for his kindness, possessing a work ethic The luncheon club has presented the He said he heard someone call his lifetime of service, which included second to none.” She said he pro- award each year since 1957. John name three times while he was in four years in the Air Force and more vided an everyday example of two Igoe of Columbus St. Agatha Church church, and the third time, the uniden- than a quarter-century both in the Air verses from the Book of Joshua: “As was the first recipient. The 2017 tified voice added, “Why are you not National Guard and as a Lucas County for me and my household, we will awardee, Josef Banks of Columbus Catholic?” He never found where the sheriff’s deputy, where he spent much serve the Lord” (24:15), and “San- St. Dominic Church, died on Aug. 30 message was coming from, but “it was of his time counseling young offend- citify yourselves, for the Lord will of last year. 4 Catholic Times February 11, 2018 Mount Carmel offering course in parish nursing Faith in Action By Mark Huddy The Mount Carmel Health system is holistic health, and community. A faith sponsoring a two-month weekly course, community nurse may serve as a paid or Only one more week of winter combining online and in-person class- unpaid parish staff member while work- es, targeted toward Catholic registered ing within the parish to establish or sus- There is something in our DNA that seeks nurses interested in starting or expand- tain a health ministry. expression in a ritualized way. Certainly, this ing a health care ministry with a spiri- With the intentional focus of spiritual tual dimension in their parishes. is true for those of us who are formed in the health, a faith community nurse uses Judeo-Christian tradition, where God’s revela- The course, titled Foundations of Faith interventions of education, advocacy, Community Nursing (Parish Nursing) referral, resources, and coordination to tion helped prescribe the rituals in which we will begin Monday, March 12 and con- provide health promotion, health edu- participate. But it is also true for our secular culture that, out clude Friday, May 11. It will include cation, and disease prevention. of its unfulfilled need, has created its own rituals to celebrate. weekly sessions online and three class- The course fee is $295, with a re- Today, as I write, Christians celebrate Feb. 2 as Candlemas Day, es at Columbus St. Peter Church, 6899 duced rate of $250 for Catholic regis- commemorating the Presentation of the Lord in the Temple and Smoky Row Road. Class dates are Fri- tered nurses living in the Diocese of Simeon’s proclamation of Jesus as a light to reveal God to the na- day, April 6 from 10 a.m. to 4:45 p.m.; Columbus. There will be a minimum tions. Traditionally, candles are blessed on this day, a foreshadow- Friday, April 27 from 10:15 a.m. to 5:30 of six and a maximum of 20 students. ing of the paschal candle on the great feast of light, Easter. In the p.m.; and Friday, May 11 from 10 a.m. Pre-registration is required. Besides secular culture, today is Groundhog Day, the ritualized predictor to 4 p.m. Attendance for the entire pro- a check made out to Mount Carmel of the onset of springtime. gram is required. It will include devo- Church Partnerships, a letter of intent is tions prepared for and led by students. required and a letter of support from the The good news for us Catholics is that we know exactly when The course is a nationally endorsed pastor of the applicant’s parish is rec- springtime begins. This year it falls on Ash Wednesday, Feb. 14. curriculum from the Westberg Institute ommended. The registration deadline is We know that springtime by another name – Lent. Lent is a time for Faith Community Nursing. Success- Wednesday, Feb. 28. for us to reflect on living out our baptismal identity more fully. ful participants will receive a certificate For more information, contact Kate Though our penitential practices of fasting and sacrifice, we turn of completion, and participating regis- Whitman, manager of Mount Carmel away from sin and selfishness. By our prayer and almsgiving, we tered nurses will earn 38 contact hours. Church Partnerships, at (614) 546-4062 turn toward God, trusting in His goodness and provision for us. The American Nursing Association or [email protected]. A brochure Lent is an excellent time to incorporate the Church’s way of think- recognizes faith community nursing about the program is available at https:// as a specialty practice of professional www.mountcarmelhealth.com/working, as expressed by the seven themes of Catholic social teaching, nursing. The course will include mod- files/pdf/church-partnership-resources/ into our daily lives. Do we recognize the God-given dignity and ules on spirituality, professionalism, faith-community-nursing-brochure.pdf. inherent worth of every person in the way that we speak about them, in our actions toward them, even in our disagreements with them? Are we quick to uphold and defend the fundamental rights ODU offers free tax preparation assistance of others when they are ignored? Are we faithful to the personal and societal responsibilities intrinsic to our own possession of For the 12th consecutive year, Ohio Appointments will be taken starting fundamental rights? Recognizing that our nature is both sacred Dominican University accounting stu- Saturday, Feb. 14. To make an appoint- and social, do we seek to mirror the relations of the Trinity in our dents and faculty will offer free income ment with an ODU VITA tax preparer, tax preparation services to qualified in- call HandsOn Central Ohio at 211 in own relationships within the family and in the larger community? dividuals through the Volunteer Income Franklin County or (614) 221-2255, and Do we help people participate in the fullness of being human and Tax Assistance (VITA) program. ask to speak with the VITA scheduler. living in society? Do we view work as a means of becoming more VITA offers free tax help to people with Since first offering the VITA program fully the image of God that we were created to be? Are the needs low to moderate incomes (generally in 2007, ODU faculty and students have of the poor a factor in every decision we make? Do we work for $58,000 a year and below). Through this helped prepare more than 2,700 tax re- the common good, the good of all and the good of each individual program, ODU accounting students offer turns. Last year, the program assisted person following the example of our Savior? Are we conscious of assistance with special credits, including 153 community members in complet- our role as stewards of creation, holders in trust of God’s prop- the earned income tax credit, child tax ing returns. erty, intended for the benefit of all? credit, and credit for the elderly. The Internal Revenue Service certi- The U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops has developed a more The program will be offered Room 202 fies participating accounting students, detailed Examination of Conscience in Light of Catholic Social of Erskine Hall at ODU’s main campus, usually juniors and seniors, as tax pre- Teaching which can be a helpful practice in our own conversion, or 1215 Sunbury Road, Columbus. It be- parers. Under the supervision of fac- gins Saturday, Feb. 24. The schedule ulty members who are certified public turning toward God during Lent. It may be found at http://www. for this season is as follows: Saturdays accountants, students prepare federal, usccb.org/prayer-and-worship/sacraments-and-sacramentals/pen- from 9 a.m. to noon (Feb. 24, March 3 state, school district, and city income ance/examination-conscience-in-light-of-catholic-social-teaching. and 24, and April 7), and Wednesdays tax returns. In addition to free tax return cfm. May our Lent prepare all of us to more fully share the light from 3:30 to 6:30 p.m. (Feb. 28, March preparation assistance, the program of- of Christ in the world. 7, 21, and 28, and April 4 and 11). fers free electronic filing. Mark Huddy is episcopal moderator of the diocesan Officefor Social Concerns. www.columbuscatholic.org February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 5 Seminarians admitted to candidacy for priesthood A Mass on Saturday, Jan. 27 marked a defining moment in the priestly formation of five seminarians from the Diocese of Columbus who are attending the Pontifical College Josephinum, as Bishop Frederick Campbell admitted them to candidacy for the Sacrament of Holy Orders. Pictured are (from left); seminarians Michael Fulton, Gordon Mott, and Pushkar Baum; Bishop Campbell; Msgr. Christopher Schreck, Josephinum rector-president; and seminarians Frank Brown and Seth Keller. The rite of admission to candidacy is celebrated when a seminarian, usually in his second year of graduate study, has reached a maturity of purpose in his formation and has demonstrated the necessary qualifications for ordination. In the presence of the bishop, he publicly expresses his intention to complete his preparation for Holy Orders and his resolve to fully invest himself to that end, so that he will serve Christ and the Church faithfully. Photo by Peter Stetson

Religious Freedom Institute president Profession of faith to speak at Josephinum Dr. Thomas Farr, president of ies of Religion and Democracy, the Religious Freedom Insti- at Baylor Uni- Christian Soli- tute, will speak on “The Crisis versity and the darity World- of Religious Freedom in Amer- Witherspoon In- wide-USA, and ica and Abroad: How It Affects stitute in Prince- St. John Paul Us All” at 7 p.m. Wednesday, ton, New Jersey. the Great High March 8 in the Jessing Center He served School in Dum- of the Pontifical College Jo- for 28 years in fries, Virginia, sephinum, 7625 N. High St. the Army and and is an adviser His talk will be the 14th an- the U.S. For- to the Alexan- nual lecture on world religions eign Service. der Hamilton and interreligious relations In 1999, he be- Society and the sponsored by the Theological came the first director of the National Museum of American Consortium of Greater Colum- State Department’s office of in- Religion. bus. ternational religious freedom. The Theological Consortium The Religious Freedom Insti- He subsequently directed the of Greater Columbus includes tute is committed to achieving Witherspoon Institute’s inter- the Josephinum, the Methodist Bryant Haren, pictured with Msgr. Christopher national religious freedom task Theological School in Dela- Schreck, the college’s rector-president, was one of broad acceptance of religious liberty as a fundamental human force, was a member of the ware, and Trinity Lutheran four seminarians from the Diocese of Columbus in Chicago World Affairs Coun- Seminary at Capital Universi- their third year of graduate studies at the Pontifical right, the cornerstone of a successful society, and a source cil’s task force on religion and ty. It offers an annual lecture to College Josephinum who made a profession of faith U.S. foreign policy, and served highlight contemporary issues and took an oath of fidelity to the Catholic Church of national and international security. Farr, a Roman Catho- on the Secretary of State’s IRF for the world’s religions and last month. The others are Paul Brandimarti, Kyle working group. interreligious relations. Tennant, and Christopher Yakkel. They and their lic, also is director of the reli- classmates from around the nation made the pledges gious freedom research project Farr trains American diplo- For more information about in preparation for their ordination to the diaconate at Georgetown University’s mats at the Foreign Service the consortium, contact Dr. later this year. The candidates for ordination Berkley Center and associate Institute, teaches at the Na- Paul Numrich of the Method- promised to remain faithful to the teachings of the professor of the practice of tional Defense University, ist Theological School at (740) Church and to be faithful teachers of the Gospel. religion and world affairs at and is a consultant to the U.S. 362-3443 or pnumrich@mtso. CT photo by Ken Snow Georgetown’s Walsh School of Conference of Catholic Bish- edu. For more information on Foreign Service, and is a senior ops. He serves on the boards the talk, call the Josephinum at fellow at the Institute for Stud- of the Institute on Religion (614) 985-2274. 6 Catholic Times February 11, 2018 Why Mass stipends? Franks honored for service Marriage and consummation to wildlife council Charles Franks of tion agency. Before couple could certainly be Newark St. Francis and since his retire- regarded as best friends but de Sales Church ment as manager QUESTION & ANSWER never man and wife. Is that, was honored by of the former B.F. by: FATHER KENNETH DOYLE in fact, the case? (Rich- Gov. John Kasich Goodrich store in mond, Virginia) and Lt. Gov. Mary Newark in 1984, Catholic News Service . I will leave aside the Taylor on his retire- he has been a vol- Aquestion of whether ment as a member unteer with more . Why does the church fortable if there were an- a paraplegic man is neces- of the Ohio Wild- than a dozen com- Qsolicit stipends for other way of doing things. sarily impotent. (I think this life Council, where munity organiza- Mass requests? It seems I cannot count how many may not always be so.) he had served as a tions, particularly that we haven’t learned times in my 50-plus years member since 1989. those dealing with chemical But to your basic ques- dependency. anything from the Protes- of priesthood people have tion -- whether impotence is The council is an eight-mem- tant Reformation in 1517. I asked me “How much does an impediment to a Catho- ber board that approves all pro- He continues to help many wish that the church would a Mass cost?” I have to ex- lic marriage -- the Code of posed regulations of the wildlife low-income elderly people, discontinue this practice. plain that there is no set fee, Canon Law answers clear- division of the Ohio Depart- battered and abused women, What do you think? (Little that the suggested offer- ly: “Antecedent and perpet- ment of Natural Resources. the poor and vulnerable, and Rock, Arkansas) ing is $10, but if that’s any ual impotence to have inter- Appointed by the governor, troubled teens. Licking County problem, you can donate course, whether on the part no more than four members of Common Pleas Judge Robert something less or nothing . I would not mind if of the man or the woman the council may be of the same Hoover estimated in 2016 that at all, and the Mass will still the church were to dis- ... nullifies marriage by its political party, and two mem- Franks had worked for more A be offered for the intention continue the present practice very nature” (1084.1). bers must represent agriculture. than 66.000 hours since 1999 you desire. Each member is appointed for a as a volunteer with at-risk male of Mass stipends, but let me So the church considers as Practically speaking, if four-year term. juvenile offenders. offer some background. essential to Christian mar- there were no Mass offer- First, the church’s Code of riage the mutual and exclu- Franks, 87, was appointed by He is a director of the Shep- ings at all, I suppose some Canon Law uses the word sive right to the conjugal Gov. Richard Celeste, a Demo- herd Hill Foundation and the people might submit pages “offering,” not “stipend” act -- i.e., to the total self- crat, and continued to serve on Licking County Hospital Com- -- to highlight that this is a of intentions regularly, the council under Govs. George mission and has been on the while others might be em- giving of the two spouses to free-will gesture and not an one another. Voinovich and Nancy Hollister, boards of many other civic obligation. barrassed ever to ask. And Republicans; Ted Strickland, a agencies over the years. I also think there is some It’s important here to note To require payment would Democrat; and Kasich, a Re- He served in the Marine Corps merit in the present prac- the difference between - im be wrong, and in fact the potence and sterility. Im- publican. He has been its vice from 1948-57, then was in the code specifies that priests tice, when one makes a chairman and secretary at vari- nominal financial sacrifice potence -- which can be Air Force Reserve, retiring should “celebrate Mass for physical or psychological ous times. with the rank of brevet major. the intention of the Chris- to request a Mass for a loved one. So I’m not sure -- means the inability to per- In 2016, he received a life- He and his wife, Peggy, have tian faithful, especially the form the act of sexual inter- time achievement award from been married for 65 years and needy, even if they have what the ultimate solution is, and the floor is open for course; sterility (infertility) the St. Vincent de Paul Society have four children, including not received an offering” suggestions. is the inability to conceive of Newark and was honored as Father Don Franks, pastor of (945.2). or to induce conception. Im- community leader of the year Dresden St. Ann and Mattingly Next, in some developing . I recently attended potence is an impediment to by the LEADS community ac- Settlement St. Mary churches. countries, priests do not re- Qa bioethics seminar. marriage; sterility is not. ceive a regular salary but During the portion concern- Also key is the fact that Record Society Meeting are totally dependent on ing marriage, the leader ex- to be an impediment, the Mass offerings to meet their plained how there could be impotence must be both Dr. Tony Lisska, a philosophy lished in 1942, 1970, and 2001. living expenses. no such thing as marriage antecedent and perpetual; professor at Denison University, Lisska’s talk will look at where Third, the code is espe- between two men or two impotence that is correct- will speak at the Catholic Record the four texts fit together and cially concerned that “any women because there could able -- either by surgery or Society’s quarterly meeting at 2 where they differ and suggest appearance of trafficking be no proper consumma- medication -- does not in- p.m. March 11 at the Columbus what role Vidmar’s text might or trading is to be excluded tion. Fair enough. validate a marriage. Neither Historical Society, 717 W. Town play in the general narrative of entirely from the offering One of the participants is impotence that develops St., Columbus. the history of Catholicism in for Masses” (947). There is then asked, “If that is the later in marriage -- after He will discuss the most re- the United States. no financial incentive for a case, could a paraplegic surgery, for example, for cent history of the Dominican The society’s annual luncheon priest to celebrate multiple man not marry a woman, prostate cancer. Friars in the United States, Fa- will take place Saturday, May Masses a day, since he is since such a union could Questions may be sent ther Fenwick’s ‘Little American 5 at the Westminster-Thurber permitted to keep for him- not be consummated?” The to Father Kenneth Doyle Province’, by Father John Vid- Community. Details will be an- self the offering from only leader, who is a member of at askfatherdoyle@gmail. mar, OP, which was published nounced later. one Mass (951.1). a religious order, responded com and 30 Columbia in 2005, and will compare it For more information, contact That having been said, I that such a marriage could Circle Drive, Albany NY with earlier volumes on the Mike Finn at fcoolavin@aol. would still feel more com- not take place, that such a 12203. same subject, which were pub- com or (614) 268-4166. February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 7 “Fish fry guy” favorites from 2017 BY TIM PUET the circuit now that I’d like to would unfortunately have it,” Reporter, Catholic Times finish it.” Maris Frank said, smiling, “JK The great fish fry trek began told me about all these fish After five years, JK Menden- with a phone call in 2013 to dinners he attends. hall (at right in picture) has the Times from Mendenhall, “We go to fish fries every just about seen it all when it whose birth name is Terrence year, too. We don’t travel very comes to fish fries at parishes Lee Dorcy. He took on the much, but JK can be very per- in the Diocese of Columbus. JK Mendenhall identity years suasive, and a few weeks af- The Catholic Times’ travel- ago to honor his former wife ter we met, we were heading ing fish connoisseur has vis- (Joyce), her hometown (Ken- down to Wheelersburg,” near- ited nearly every parish that’s ton), and her last name. ly 100 miles from Columbus. listed in the Times’ annual After he told a Times reporter “It was a very ecumenical trip, Lenten guide to fish fries to of how the newspaper’s fish with a couple of Mennonites sample what’s available at fry guide and the Mainstream and JK, who’s a Seventh-Day those events. He’s done so ev- service enabled him to at- Adventist, trying to figure out it added a little class. It was the situation and donated two ery year since 2013, with the tend multiple fish fries around where to find the Catholic fish in the school cafeteria, and refrigerators, to give them a help for the past several years Franklin County on each of fry in Wheelersburg and get- the Knights of Columbus give total of four.” of David Drees of Pickering- the six Fridays of Lent before ting lost a couple times.” you lots of choices, includ- “One of the special features ton St. Elizabeth Seton Parish Good Friday, he was invited That trip was the final one of ing fried or baked fish, fried of the Marysville fish fry was (pictured, left) and additional to share his thoughts on those the fish fry season for Menden- shrimp, fish tacos, or cheese a display by a group of en- help last year from Maris and meals with Times readers. He hall and his various travel part- pizza. The shrimp and the fish thusiastic women known as Nancy Frank of Columbus. did so in the 2014 fish fry is- ners. Because of the distance tacos were sold out by the time the Happy Hookers,” Drees They’ve been able to take him sue, and his yearly comments involved, he made only seven we got there. There also was said. “They have turned their to places beyond the reach of have been a pre-Lenten part of stops last year after hitting a clam chowder and lots of sides passion for crocheting into a the Central Ohio Transit Au- the newspaper ever since. dozen fish fries in 2015 and – fries, macaroni and cheese, mission to support the military thority’s Mainstream service, The first story about him 2016 and even more in the pre- mixed vegetables, coleslaw, personnel from the commu- which he relies on for most mentioned his desire to attend vious two years. Here are his and hush puppies. They also nity who have been deployed of his transportation because fish fries outside the Columbus observations on his 2017 visits: were out of slaw and hush to Iraq and Afghanistan. They he’s blind. area if he could obtain trans- Marion St. Mary – “This puppies by the time we ar- were selling a lovely variety The only diocesan parishes portation. This has resulted in was the first place I visited rived. You can tell by that how of crocheted wall hangings with fish fries that he hasn’t responses from several people on March 3, the Friday after busy it was. From where I sat, and baby blankets in varied visited yet are New Philadel- over the years. Drees has been Ash Wednesday. I give them I could hear the Knights in the patterns, including many with phia St. Joseph, Zoar Holy his travel partner on at least five stars on my five-star rat- kitchen, and they were cook- a sports theme. Money raised Trinity, Cardington Sacred one Friday in each of the last ing system, with a sixth star ing up a storm.” from their sales has helped Hearts, and Columbus Holy four years as Mendenhall tries for the homemade desserts. Marysville Our Lady of not only the military, but Spirit. “New Philadelphia and to get to as many fish fries as The fish fry is in the Knights Lourdes – “Five stars. It’s in also the Wounded Warrior Zoar are 90 miles from Colum- he can during the three-hour of Columbus hall, so go there, the community center next to project, the family of a local bus,” Mendenhall said. “Dave time span when most of those not the church. The fish was the church, which is a great big resident who was significant- and I went to Cardington last events take place. all-you-can-eat Alaskan pol- room, and they need the space. ly disabled by a stroke, and year, but they only have one “Last year, I guess we were in lock. French fries were fresh, They had fried and baked all- the building of a house for a fish fry a year and it turned a little too much of a hurry,” not greasy. Coleslaw and a roll you-can-eat fish, slaw, fries, child with special needs.” out we were off by two weeks. Drees said. “I got stopped by were part of the dinner. There some wonderful rolls, apple Sunbury St. John Neumann Holy Spirit is somewhere I just the Ohio State Highway Pa- were a lot of extras, including sauce, mac and cheese, and – “Five stars, with a sixth for haven’t gotten to yet, because trol in Delaware County on the chocolate, vanilla, or straw- cornmeal hush puppies which the desserts. This was run by it didn’t fit whatever schedule way home from Mount Ver- berry ice cream. They also had tasted great. Iced tea and des- the parish men’s club. They I had in a given week. non. That was on March 17, beer, wine, and pop on sale, pus serts were free. Everything had cod and pollock, baked “We’ll get to all those this St. Patrick’s Day, but no Irish free orange drink. There was a was perfect, including the por- and fried, and seasoned well. year, as well as some old fa- luck was working for me then. 50-50 raffle, too. One thing that tion size. We were there on There was a choice of a baked vorites like Columbus St. Mar- These fish fry trips can get was a real nice touch was that March 10, the second Friday potato or fries, plus veggie garet of Cortona, St. Stephen, expensive. Then two weeks those doing the serving were all of Lent. I was told that on the pizza with a homemade crust, and St. Cecilia, plus any other later, we went to Cardington young people. We stopped here first week of Lent, the Knights as well as slaw, apple sauce, places Dave and Maris espe- for their fish fry and found out twice last year. The second vis- ordered 80 pounds of fish and and a seven-bean soup that cially like. For the 2019 fish we’d missed the date.” it came on March 31 after we ran out. The same thing hap- was unique. The Women’s fry issue, I want to do a Top 10 Mendenhall met the Franks, found we had the wrong date pened when we were there. Club took care of the des- list of all the fish fries in the di- his newest travel companions, for Cardington.” They have two refrigerators, serts, including an excellent ocese (there are more than 40 at a Sunday-morning breakfast Delaware St. Mary – “Five but need a big commercial re- brownie and cookies. And altogether) and talk about my which was being served at the stars. This was our other stop frigerator to store more fish. they used real silverware and favorites in various categories. Clintonville Resource Center on March 3. The menu was After all, you don’t want to run paper napkins, which added a Then I’ll hang up my knife and by the Columbus Mennonite laminated, which you don’t out of fish before you run out little elegance.” fork” because of health issues. Church in Clintonville, which see very often – or in my case, of customers. I’m told the lo- “I’m so close to completing the couple attends. “As luck I don’t see it, but I feel it – and cal Rent A Center got word of See RATING, Page 8 8 Catholic Times February 11, 2018

RATING, continued from Page 7 Mount Vernon St. Vincent de Paul You can’t beat the price, which is THE EVERYDAY CATHOLIC – “Five stars. You may be beginning $5. I learned about it from a neigh- to sense a pattern, but as I’ve said bor, Martina Whittaker.” By: Rick Jeric many times before, to me there’s no Wheelersburg St. Peter in Chains – such thing as a bad fish fry, so it’s “Five stars. Tim, you kept telling me I All you need is love rare that I don’t give a high rating. We didn’t have to go down there because stopped here after going to Sunbury it’s a two-plus-hour drive, but I want- on March 17. Most places have the Amor, Ljubav, Laska, Kaerlighed, Liefde, Ar- ed to, and it was worth the trip. The Knights of Columbus doing the cook- mastus, Pag-ibig, Rakkaus, L’amour, Liebe, portions were extremely generous. ing, but what I remember best was the Szerelem, Ast, Cinta, Gra, Amore, Kjaerlighet, You don’t need seconds, and Father three lovely ladies who cooked there Dragoste, Ljubezen, Upendo, Karlek, Ask, Cariad, Joe Yokum, the pastor, and his people – Barb Brenneman, Kate Richardson, and Love. This is how you say Love in 23 differ- were wonderful. They had been told and Heather McNamara. Pollock was ent languages. This is nothing new, and various I was coming with Maris and Nancy, $8 with a choice of two sides, which marketing campaigns over the years have tried to use this to encourage and they couldn’t have been nicer. include a baked potato (a dry Idaho), world peace and love of neighbor, no matter where people are or where They had great hush puppies and slaw, mac and cheese, vegetables they came from. Not to mention buying a particular product to remind fries, but no other potatoes. What I in the California medley style, and you of that love. The universal language of love is certainly one that we think I’ll remember best is the apple something you don’t find too often at all understand, no matter who we are. Love is found in print everywhere. pie, which was made by 91-year-old fish fries – potato salad. There were Eleanor Mary Elizabeth Flanagan. Love is in poetry and song. It is on our lips constantly, and on our minds homemade cookies, and since it was She’s probably baked thousands of throughout each day of our lives. While a more specific definition may St. Patrick’s Day, they were sham- pies, and you can tell they were made mean somewhat different things in different situations, we all getthe rock-shaped. All the money raised with skill and love. basic meaning. We all have a grasp of what love is, how it is given, goes to the parish school and the and how it is received. Love is focused upon throughout the Bible and parish St. Vincent de Paul Society’s “I couldn’t have made this par- other books of other religions throughout history and the world. Even work helping the poor.” ticular trip without the Franks, and The Beatles, who, according to John Lennon, were “more popular than I give special thanks to them and to Jesus,” understood that love was pretty important. I wonder if Lennon Columbus St. Thomas More New- man Center – “Four stars, mostly Dave for putting up with me all these ever was actually praying when he wrote one of his songs: “Love, love, years. Thanks also to the readers of love. There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done. Nothing you can because they had fried perch, but not baked. It was good, but I had to the Times,” Mendenhall said. “Now sing that can’t be sung. Nothing you can say, but you can learn how to that I’ve been doing these fish fry re- play the game. It’s easy. Nothing you can make that can’t be made. No watch how much of it I ate because of dietary issues. Sides included views for so long, it’s not unusual for one you can save that can’t be saved. Nothing you can do, but you can people to greet me and say they rec- learn how to be you in time. It’s easy. All you need is love, all you need fries and some outstanding mac and cheese which I understand was made ognize me. I am sort of hard to miss. is love. All you need is love, love, love is all you need. There’s nothing They say they’ve gone to this or that you can know that isn’t known. Nothing you can see that isn’t shown. by Father Steve Bell, one of the priests there (the Paulist Fathers re- fish fry because of what I’ve said, so There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be. It’s easy. it’s nice to know my information has All you need is love, all you need is love. All you need is love, love, love cently reassigned him). The Newman Center fish fry isn’t on the Catho- been useful, not to mention that this is all you need.” lic Times list because it’s a ticketed, has been a lot of fun for me.” God is pure love. Love is all about our God. In a way, love is all we once-a-year event. It was on March Anyone interested in providing need. If we pay attention just a little to the Gospel each Sunday, or, bet- 31 last year. It’s mainly for students transportation for Mendenhall on a ter yet, if we read the Gospels for meditation on our own time, we know at Ohio State and people in the cam- Lenten Friday may contact him at how clearly Jesus made love the focus for everyone. We love God, we pus community the center serves. (614) 400-8879 and leave a message. love ourselves, we love our neighbor, and we love our enemies. Did He miss anyone? Love does not pick and choose. Love does not play favorites and does not skip anyone. If we deliberately choose to not love Bishop Hartley to present ‘Once on This Island’ someone, or even to hate them, then we have broken the promise to fol- low the same love and forgiveness of Jesus Christ. How can we embrace The Columbus Bishop Hartley High Bobak, Shannon Carmon, Fiona Co- the notion that we are somehow special and better than everyone else School drama department will pres- bler, Braeden Craig, Christian Craig, without forgiving and loving anyone and everyone, without condition? ent Once on This Island, a one-act Cassidy Davis, Nina Ekukole-Sone, This year, Feb. 14 is both Valentine’s Day and Ash Wednesday. On the musical with book and lyrics by Lynn Jenna Eramo, Marlee Franklin, Gab- practical side, be sure you take your spouse, date, significant other, or Ahrens and music by Stephen Fla- by Graham, Elizabeth Hudelson, friend out for a nice dinner the weekend before. No dispensation for Val- herty, at 7:30 p.m. Thursday to Sat- Kiera Jones, Laten Jordan, Maggie entine’s Day. Remember, it is one of only two days the whole year when urday, Feb. 15 to 17 and 2:30 p.m. Kelley, Liz Kessler, Sergio Mariscal, we are asked to both fast and abstain. Yes, we can do it. The additional Sunday, Feb. 18 at the Shedd Theater Emily Martin, Thomas Mayhan, connection ties in with the rest of this column. Valentine’s Day focuses of the Columbus Performing Arts Caitlin McCarthy, Lily McClung, on love. So does Ash Wednesday, but in a very different and humbling Center, 549 Franklin Ave. Dominic Motter, Anna Nash, Diego way. There is no greater example of love than the complete forgiveness Tickets are $12 for adults and $10 Pantoja, Genevieve Pfister, Dominic of our sins by simply, sincerely asking in the Sacrament of Penance to be for senior citizens and students. Ratliff, David Rees, JD Robinson, forgiven. Jesus said that there is no greater love than to lay down one’s Tickets may be reserved by emailing Audrey Ryan, Jillian Savage, Joseph life for a friend. The two are directly and permanently linked. Jesus did [email protected]. Sheridan, Matthew Sheridan, Ben it for each and every one of us. All you need is love. The cast includes Abigail Allwein, Smallwood, Jordan Soltau, Lillah Audrey Bailey, Greta Bedell, Olivia Tolbert, and Emily Valin. February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 9 LIVING

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740-653-4633 SITE DEVELOPMENT . EARTHWORK . UTILITIES . CONCRETE 222 S. COLUMBUS ST., LANCASTER STABILIZATION . EARTH RETENTION . ROLLER COMPACTED CONCRETE 10 Catholic Times February 11, 2018 Joe, Dee, and God: A 60-year partnership By Doug Bean, Times Editor ginning. But that love has never wa- Through six decades of marriage, vered in 60 years. Dolores (Dee) Siemer says “there is “I think in the beginning of our only one thing that has come between marriage, our faith was very strong,” me and Joe, and that is God.” Dee said. “We’ll look at ourselves Siemer and her husband, Joseph and say, ‘How did we do this? How (Joe), who are members of Lancaster could this have possibly ever hap- St. Mary Church, will celebrate their pened?’ And we know. Mary is right 60th wedding anniversary on Thurs- here constantly. day, Feb. 15, a few days after World “I’m not saying there hasn’t been Marriage Day on Sunday, Feb. 11, ups and downs. But in those down and at the end of National Marriage times, to be able to call upon God, Week USA. our faith, Mary. What do I do? Where do I go? Help me. Give me the strength, give me the graces The timing seems fitting. The couple’s enduring I need to understand. I’m afraid that’s lost in so marriage is a testament to the Sacrament of Matri- many relationships today. And relationships are mony and the vows they took on Feb. 15, 1958, at hard. It’s work.” Junction City St. Patrick Church. The Siemers were blessed with five children in four The Siemers have raised seven children and are years while Joe was getting the family business, grandparents of 22 and great-grandparents of 18 – Siemer Distributing, off the ground. with one more baby on the way in the spring. “Be fruitful and multiply,” God told Adam and Eve in “I always thought, ‘I’m in heaven now with my Genesis, and the Siemer family certainly has been family and a good wife,’” Joe said. “We had hard open to life. times, but we never did without. I wondered where the money came from sometimes.” At the heart of their marriage are Christ, His Blessed Mother, and the Church. As the children grew, they worked for their father and developed a strong faith and work ethic through “As clichéd as it may sound, my parents’ marriage is the example of both parents. Daily prayers, weekly and use the other sacraments to strengthen that, and so strong because of love,” said Carol Spellacy, one Mass, and monthly confession were part of the fam- then ask for understanding. of Joe and Dee’s six daughters. “The love my parents ily routine. have makes them ‘one’ with God, who is part of that “We change constantly. He changes, I change. ‘one.’” “As a child, their witness to our faith made me feel We have things all worked out and then something safe. I know that sounds strange, but I found great changes. That spouse has to cope then, try to under- Joe and Dee were raised in strong Catholic fami- comfort in knowing that God loved (loves) me no stand then, and get on the same page again. Maybe lies in southeast Ohio. Dee’s parents were very poor. matter what trouble I got into,” Spellacy said. “I truly if they don’t change, maybe you can change to un- They lived in a log house with no running water. believe my siblings felt the same.” derstand or accept without causing problems, even if She considered becoming a nun as a teenager, but “When we were young, we received the Sacrament you don’t like it. It’s not that big of a deal.” her father died and she had to go to work. Dee and of Reconciliation weekly,” she continued. “However, Joe has retired from the business, but two daughters, Joe got together when he offered to take her to her we often complained about going because it meant we a son, and a son-in-law have taken over. high school prom. had to stop playing early on a Saturday, since confes- Most of the family lives in the Lancaster area She remembers when Joe came to visit her for the sions were around 4 p.m. Dad told us that when he was and the children attend Catholic schools. Grandma first time and saw where she lived. “I thought he’d little, he went to confession twice in the same day, so and Grandpa’s house is a frequent stopping point. never be back,” Dee laughed. “I think most boys we should be happy that we only had to go once.” They’re the parents and grandparents that every kid would have run.” Joe and Dee moved the family from Corning in would love to have. “I went to St. Rose (Church in New Lexington) al- Perry County to Lancaster in 1978. They’ve lived in “I am happy to say that my parents have set the bar so most every day after work and asked that God would the same house since then, just down the road from high when it comes to marriage,” Spellacy said. “It’s guide me in the right direction because I had never Fisher Catholic High School and St. Mary Church, strange for one to be happy when the bar is high, but I dated, I’d never had a boyfriend,” Dee recalled. “I where they attend daily Mass and remain active in could never hope to be as strong (more like perfect) in was terrified about the whole thing. I prayed con- the parish. my marriage. I think my siblings would agree.” stantly.” Joe and Dee deliver for Meals on Wheels once a “One thing I do know,” she continued, “is the legacy Her fears eventually were put to rest. “God sent him week and take holy Communion to shut-ins. Joe also Mom and Dad have given us has shaped our hearts to me,” she said. “It just happened so easily.” is involved with charitable work through the St. Vin- and those of our children. We all know and love God, cent de Paul store and warehouse in Lancaster. “I met her and I didn’t give it another thought,” Joe serve others, and pray often. It would be great to be said. “I said to myself, ‘This is a gal for me.’” Their devotion to Christ and each other remains able to witness my parents’ message in the news, at constant through the many changes in life. the movies, and in our schools.” It wasn’t long before Joe proposed. “Those vows that we take, I’m not sure today (cou- A few years ago at one of their grandchildren’s wed- “When she was looking for a job, I said ‘I’ve got a job ples) pay much attention to all the sacrament entails. dings, Joe and Dee were asked the secret to a happy for you … to be my wife,’” Joe joked. “And I didn’t lie That’s where it all has to be,” Dee said. “No matter marriage. Joe answered, “The secret is there is no to her. She’s been working like a dog ever since.” when times get a little rough, that’s where you go secret. You put God first and that’s all you have to Like most young couples, they were in love at the be- back and pray for graces. Use your sacrament again worry about.” February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 11

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Bill to: Tony Petrarca KofC Council #11445 Publicity Chairman 194 Meadowlark Lane Columbus, Ohio 43214 Phone: 614-888-2415 email: [email protected] February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 15 Men and women were created out of love and for love By Stephanie Rapp Recently, my sister-in-law became engaged to be married. She and her fiancé are planning their wedding, which has included asking my two young children to be in the ceremony. My toddler doesn’t know what he was signed up to do, yet my preschool-aged daughter is ecstatic to be a flower girl. She is now Men and women were created out of love, for love, more enamored with marriage and weddings than she and “their mutual love becomes an image of the ab- was before. solute and unfailing love with which God loves man” She has even begun to plan her own wedding, decid- (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 1603). Therefore, ing that she is going to one day wear a purple wed- God in His infinite wisdom and mercy not only cre- ding dress! Her interest in marriage has led to some ated us, but also established marriage. And it is within thought-provoking conversations as her young and marriage that men and woman love each other in a innocent mind tries to grasp the idea of what takes way that points to God’s love – which is free, total, place at a wedding ceremony. Something about mar- faithful, and fruitful. riage has made an impression on her. In fact, she re- To love in a way that is total requires husbands and cently told me, “I hope God wants me to get married.” wives to gift their whole being to each other – body, Watching my daughter fall in love with the idea of mind, and spirit. They share themselves completely, love, and at such a young age, points to the reality without reservation, withholding nothing. This in- that we, as humans, are made to be in relationships cludes everything from sharing their home, finances, with others. We are born with the desire to be in com- and time to sharing their very own bodies and sexual- and wife become in a way one heart and one soul, and munion with other people and to give ourselves to an- ity. Through marriage, they commit to a shared mis- together attain their human fulfillment.” other. This makes sense, as we are made in the image sion of making a gift of their entire selves to their be- On this World Marriage Day, I pray that all married and likeness of God, who Himself is a communion of loved and helping each other get to heaven. couples continue to grow and demonstrate to those persons in the Holy Trinity and gave Himself com- I’ve often heard it said that marriage is not a 50-50 watching, like my daughter, the beauty of God’s plan pletely for us. relationship, but rather a 100-100 relationship, requir- for married love. God created us male and female, different, yet equal ing spouses to give their all to the other so that they Stephanie Rapp is director of the Diocesan Office in dignity and worth, and made to complement each may become one. Pope Paul VI, in his encyclical let- of Marriage & Family Life. She may be reached other. Sacred Scripture proclaims this in Genesis ter Humanae Vitae, affirmed this belief, stating that via email at [email protected]. More when, after creating man, God says, “It is not good married love is “an act of free will, whose trust is such information about the office’s programs is available that man be alone, I will make a helper suited to him” that it is meant not only to survive the joys and sor- online at [email protected], and its (Genesis 2:18). rows of daily life, but also to grow, so that husband phone number is (614) 241-2560. Faithfulness is your mission By Catherine Suprenant Think about the other serious formal commitments This faithfulness is about more than avoiding di- In my 20-something crowd, the hot topic of conver- people make. Joining the military, taking a govern- vorce; it is an invitation to live the mission of mar- sation is marriage and family. On many of these oc- ment position, or becoming a citizen, for instance, all riage as God has laid it out. Humanae Vitae says, “Let casions, my friends bring up a fear about the commit- require oaths. This is because we consider the mis- Christian husbands and wives be mindful of their vo- ment of marriage. “Will I be able to love this person sion to be so crucial that it requires a solemn com- cation to the Christian life, a vocation which, deriv- no matter what happens? What if I marry the ‘wrong’ mitment and accountability to faithfulness. Marriage ing from their Baptism, has been confirmed anew and person?” These fears, while understandable, also are vows are even more binding. These do not promise a made more explicit by the Sacrament of Matrimony. promoted by our culture. In a world flooded with end- service or a course of action, but a gift of self. “Till For by this sacrament they are strengthened and, one less options, what makes my choice of one man and death,” not “for the next four years.” The mission is might almost say, consecrated to the faithful fulfill- my words of promise to him forever binding? important enough to require the commitment of a ment of their duties” (HV 25). vow binding us to it. I have come to appreciate the clarity the Church Marriage concretely fuses your daily life with your provides about these most pressing questions of our If marriage isn’t this covenant commitment, but call to holiness. You are sent from the altar to your lives. The recent popes in particular have articulated merely an association of two human beings, love ends family and friends as a living icon of God’s reliable marriage in beautiful detail in Humanae Vitae and up being the sum of our changing impulses … which love. And God is also faithful to your vows by con- Theology of the Body. will fade. tinuing to bless your marriage. When I experience couples living out this reliance on God’s faithfulness I have noticed that these writings speak hope into The good news is that true love – a gift of self – is the anxiety about marriage floating around us. Both to their marriage, it renews my confidence in God’s possible. Jesus knows the difficulties we have with sin relentless grace for married couples. documents actually define marriage with the same in our lives and marriages, making faithfulness dif- four words: free, total, faithful, and fruitful. ficult. So He came to restore us as new people. By This is the Good News about marriage that our Faithfulness is essential to marriage because the renewing our relationship with Him, He elevates our world needs to hear. marriage vows form a covenant. Covenant love is a marriages. giving them a share in His covenant with Catherine Suprenant is marriage preparation gift of the whole person, without conditions or a time us. In the face of such a gift, we are invited to deeper coordinator for the diocesan Office of limit, and thus enduring. faithfulness to God and to our marriages. Marriage & Family Life. 16 Catholic Times February 11, 2018 Living God’s design for marital love By Jennifer Fullin Worldwide Marriage Encounter: Married love offers a matchless privilege to a husband and wife. After prom- Making good marriages better ising committed love in their wedding By Clint and Mary Ann Lingel vows, spouses give themselves fully to Mount Vernon St. Vincent de Paul Church each other in a bodily expression of total love. Through this “one-flesh” union of Three years ago, we attended our first Worldwide Marriage Encoun- two persons, husband and wife are pow- ter weekend after hearing about it through a school posting several erfully bound together. So potent is this months earlier. Since then, our continued involvement in the pro- love that nine months later, they give it gram has renewed and improved our love for each other and brought a name! us greater appreciation of our own marriage and the Sacrament of Marriage as a whole. In the image of the love of God, the love of husband and wife is intended Worldwide Marriage Encounter is the world’s largest pro-mar- to be free, total, faithful, and fruitful. riage organization and promotes weekend experiences for couples With God’s grace, the married love of who want to make their marriages even better. It offers married a man and a woman is multiplied and couples an opportunity to learn a technique of loving communica- overflows beyond each other – bringing tion that will be useful for the rest of their lives. The weekend forth new life. provides a chance to look deeply into a couple’s relationship with In his encyclical letter Humanae Vitae, each other and with God. Priests also are welcome, and a weekend Blessed Pope Paul VI writes that God can enrich their relationship with the Church and with the married entrusts to spouses the mission of trans- couples a priest serves. mitting human life (HV 1). Husband The emphasis of the Marriage Encounter weekend is communica- and wife are invited to cooperate with tion between husbands and wives. The weekend provides time for God in responsible parenthood, which couples to be together, away from the distractions of everyday life, prudently considers their duties to God, while encouraging them to focus on communicating. It is not a mar- themselves, and to children they al- riage clinic, group sensitivity training, or a substitute for counsel- ready may have. Couples shouldn’t ing. It is a unique approach to revitalize marriage. It truly is a mar- make arbitrary decisions about becom- periencing infertility can turn to natural riage enrichment program. Worldwide Marriage Encounter teaches ing parents, but should prayerfully seek procreative technology (NaPro Tech- a communication tool through a series of presentations given by a God’s wisdom (HV 10). nology) for morally sound and effective team of Catholic couples and a priest. Interwoven in responsible parenthood surgical and medical means to diagnose We had been married for 15 years at the time of our initial is the understanding that the love-giving and treat underlying causes. Marriage Encounter weekend experience in February 2015. Some and life-giving aspects of the marital act It is a marvelous thing to be able to of our friends and family frequently attended marriage retreats never should be separated. Spouses who give life to a unique being, yet spouses through their churches, and we had talked about trying one out use contraception and sterilization, even not gifted with children also can have to see what it was all about. This was not because of a desire to for a short period of time, reject God’s a married life full of love and mean- find help or to improve anything in our marriage; rather, it gave us gift of fertility and harm their unity. ing. Some couples may be called to a chance to get away from the stresses of daily life for a weekend They cannot give themselves fully to adot a child, while others may have a and spend time focusing on each other. each other in total love if they are with- vocation that does not involve raising holding an essential part of themselves. The experience was fun, enjoyable, and educational, and it signifi- children. Their love is complete and cantly changed our lives. We learned a new way to communicate Couples with good reason to avoid fruitful when it is open to others, to the having a child at the time may instead that we use to this day. Since our weekend, we have begun dis- needs of their community, and to the cussing our differences in a more loving and understanding way. practice natural family planning (NFP), needs of the world. choosing to refrain from sexual union It also improved our understanding of what a Catholic marriage Living God’s design for marital love during the woman’s fertile time rather should be. than distort the twofold meaning of the is a beautiful and challenging task. God This weekend experience is a valuable resource for married couples. marital act. offers married couples His grace, given Although it is based on Catholic teachings, it is not just for Catholic through the Sacrament of Matrimony, When a couple marries, they promise couples. It had a positive effect on us and will have a positive effect to strengthen them so that they may on your marriage, too. We invite married couples and priests to at- to receive children lovingly into their joyfully fulfill their mission to transmit family. However, their spousal mission tend a weekend. The next Worldwide Marriage Encounter weekends the gift of God’s fruitful love through in central Ohio for which spaces are available are July 13-15 at the to transmit life doesn’t demand that their union. they have a certain number of children Church of the Resurrection in New Albany (no overnight stay) and or that they leave their family size to For information about natural family Sept. 14-16 at St. Therese’s Retreat Center in Columbus. The week- chance. Natural family planning can planning and NaPro Technology, contact ends begin at 8 p.m. Friday and go through 4 p.m. Sunday. be used effectively for postponing preg- the diocesan Marriage & Family Life For more information, contact Paul and Marilou Clouse at (614) 834- nancy when a couple discerns a need Office at familylife@columbuscatholic. 6880 or visit our website at www.wwmecolumbus.org. org or (614) 241-2560. to avoid having a baby for a while or “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper and even for an indefinite period. Natural Jennifer Fullin is natural family not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11). family planning also can assist couples planning coordinator for the diocesan who desire to have a child. Couples ex- Office of Marriage & milyFa Life. February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 17 Marriage: The love of Christ made visible By John S. Grabowski tion, kindness, forgive- Catholic News Service ness, physical touch, Marriage podcast “What’s love got to do working through conflict Catholic News Agency or crises in nondestruc- with it?” Tina Turner sang Made for Love is a new pod- in her famous song by the tive ways, and sharing their lives of faith. These cast that aims to convey the truth same name. If her ques- about marriage and families by tion is about the Catholic various kinds of intimacy form the backdrop and helping Catholics tell stories of understanding of mar- God’s work in their lives. riage, then the answer is context for passion and both “not much” and “vir- sexual expression in mar- Hosted by Sara Perla, a pro- tually everything.” riage (Nos. 142-52). gram specialist for the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops, The first answer is especially true if you un- All of this is equally true of the marriage covenant, whether it is found in a natural or a Made for Love is under the aegis of Marriage: Unique derstand love as Turner’s song described it -- an for a Reason, an initiative of the bishops’ conference. emotional response based on physical attrac- sacramental marriage. The church understands tion. Marriage, as the church understands it, that a merely natural marriage cannot exist One of the future episodes will feature Stephanie does not require these kinds of feelings of love. between two baptized persons. They can only Rapp, director of the Marriage and Family Life Office for the Diocese of Columbus, and her husband Craig. Instead, marital consent is based on a free deci- have a sacramental marriage (see the Code of sion of the will on the part of a man and a woman Canon Law, Canon 1055.2). While the podcast is focused on people “living out to give themselves irrevocably to another. In the understanding of the Western (Latin) the call to love,” it is not afraid to explore the less-rosy forms of “love” in the world. During the show, Perla A couple promises sexual fidelity and open- church, it is the couple themselves who act as ministers and confer the sacrament on one speaks with guests about each episode’s theme, while ness to the gift of children before God and (typi- also narrating a framework of what the episode is about. cally) human witnesses. This brings into being another (see the Catechism of the Catholic the covenant of marriage. Sacramental and even Church, No. 1623). The presence of a bishop, In the series’ first three episodes, Perla discusses the nonsacramental marriages are characterized by priest, or deacon (required for Catholics) is relatively unique phenomenon of a priest who is able unity (which Scripture describes as being “one necessary to have an official witness on behalf to baptize his own parents; a woman who had to care flesh” -- Genesis 2:24) and indissolubility. of the church. for her terminally ill spouse during the majority of When a couple exchanges valid consent that their marriage; and a woman who sought a declara- In biblical times and in some cultures today, tion of nullity for her marriage. families might help to arrange a marriage be- is properly witnessed and sexually consum- tween individuals who do not know one anoth- mates their marriage, it is absolutely indissolu- While these topics may seem dicey, or even dark, er well -- let alone experience being “in love” ble. No human power -- whether of the church Perla told Catholic News Agency she thought it im- with each other. or the state -- can dissolve or nullify it. portant to share these stories, and she thinks her lis- The sacrament creates a bond between the teners can be helped by hearing what others have For such a marriage to be valid, the couple gone through. must give their free consent -- to give them- couple, which serves as an ongoing source of selves to each other in the way specified by the grace. It is not as if they simply receive a one “I do think it’s important to get real about the chal- goods of faithfulness and children. Feelings of time “injection” of grace on their wedding day. lenges that people face, and that we all benefit from love are not a legal or theological requirement. The bond gives them power throughout the seeing how other people get through hard times,” Perla said. She continued, saying that when people Certainly, over time, as such couples come to whole of their lives to love, serve, forgive, and care for each other and to welcome and form have suffered through a trying situation, they can use know each other and live together, they come to what they’ve learned to help others. recognize love at the heart of their relationship. their children. This stream of grace is continu- “When you’ve suffered in a dramatic way, had time Think of Tevye and Golde in Fiddler on the ally strengthened and refreshed in the sacraments of reconciliation and the Eucharist -- the to process that, and come to a place where you are Roof, confronted with their daughters falling ready to speak about it, others can benefit from the in love, one after the other, asking each other, “source and summit” of their Christian life and love, as the catechism states (No. 1324). lessons that the Lord taught you through that experi- “Do you love me?” after 25 years of marriage. ence,” she said. Their love is deeper than mere attraction or Christian marriage takes all of the human emotion -- it is a love embodied in lives of mu- dimensions of attraction, emotion, friendship Perla hopes the podcast is able to reach Catholics tual service and care. and sacrificial service spoken by the couple in who may feel alone in their faith or who might need encouragement. She also hopes that she’s able to Like Tevye and Golde’s daughters, it is more their daily life together and makes them a language that communicates the nuptial love of reach non-Catholics with the podcast, and is able to common in our current Western culture for convey successfully the beauty of the faith. people to marry for love. Pope Francis acknowl- Christ for the church (Ephesians 5:32). edges this in his apostolic exhortation on the joy This “language of the body,” first spoken in “If I do my job well, the podcast will inform people of love, Amoris Laetitia (Nos. 131-32). the couple’s vows, becomes a prophecy of the of the ‘whys’ of Catholic teaching and expose them to resources they may not have known were out there,” But this love is more than feelings of emo- whole of their life together. In this sense, marriage is “the sacrament of love” and a Christian Perla said. “I think it could be a useful tool for teach- tional closeness or attraction that wax and ers and catechists as well.” wane over time. This is one reason why Pope couple is its icon in the world. Francis goes on to recommend in the docu- So, “what’s love got to do with it”? Every- Perla hopes to publish at least two episodes a month. ment that couples must work to protect their thing! Upcoming episodes will be coordinated with various awareness weeks, such as National Marriage Week. marriage from dangers such as busyness, re- Grabowksi is associate professor of moral sentments, jealousy or infidelity. theology and ethics at The Catholic Univer- Made for Love also can be streamed on iTunes. This deeper love is fostered by communica- sity of America. 18 Catholic Times February 11, 2018 Sixth Sunday in Ordinary Time (Cycle B) The Weekday Bible Readings A leper is cleansed, followed by a stern warning MONDAY James 1:1-11 Psalm 119:67-68,71-7,75-76 therefore required to live outside the camp. Modern Mark 8:11-13 studies suggest that any kind of skin affliction which turned the skin scaly or raised eruptions on the skin fell TUESDAY James 1:12-18 Father into the category of leprosy. That would include cases of Psalm 94:12-15,18-19 acne, psoriasis, and many other skin issues. Obviously, Mark 8:14-21 Lawrence L. Hummer the stigma attached to these afflictions carried over into WEDNESDAY the New Testament period. Joel 2:12-18 This is the Old Testament background for the Gos- Psalm 51:3-6a,12-14,17 2 Corinthians 5:20-6:2 Leviticus 13:1-2,44-46; pel for Sunday. Generally, a leper would not approach Matthew 6:1-6,16-18 people, given the requirement to live away from 1 Corinthians 10:31-11:1; people. This leper approaches Jesus, kneeling and THURSDAY Deuteronomy 30:15-20 Mark 1:40-45 laying before Jesus in what is as much of a dare as Psalm 1:1-4,6 a request: “If you want, you are able to cleanse me.” Luke 9:22-25 What appears in the Leviticus reading as leprosy is Jesus is moved to his innards, stretches out his hand FRIDAY not what we know as Hansen’s disease, which attacks and touches the man, and says to him, “I do will it, Isaiah 58:1-9a nerves, skin, eyes, and noses, eventually leading to be cleansed!” Immediately, the leprosy leaves the man Psalm 51:3-6a,18-19 the loss of digits and limbs if left untreated for long and he is cleansed. Matthew 9:14-15 periods. Casual contact with people so infected does After the cleansing, Jesus, warning him sternly, dis- SATURDAY not cause one to become infected. That disease is also misses the man at once. The verb for “warning him Isaiah 58:9b-14 treatable. The biblical references to “leprosy” were Psalm 86:1-6 sternly” is rare in the New Testament. It is used twice Luke 5:27-32 to any of a number of rashes and other skin ailments in Mark, once in Matthew, and twice in John. Both oc- which likely originated in nomadic living, where an currences in John are in the highly emotional scene of entire camp could be infected, which led to such peo- Jesus dealing with the death of his friend Lazarus. The ple being isolated. sternness referred to in this scene in Mark is probably The priests were not healers, but because of their because there is need for the leper, now cleansed, to DIOCESAN WEEKLY RADIO AND own need to be ritually clean, they acted as judges have to show himself to the priest. A religious system TELEVISION MASS SCHEDULE to determine whether a person had something con- which would penalize people for such illnesses may WEEK OF FEBRUARY 11, 2018 sidered to be contagious. If so, they were declared have been what upset Jesus, as demonstrated by his fi- unclean and were required to be excluded from oth- nal line: “That should be a proof for them.” All we can SUNDAY MASS say for certain is that Mark used a very strong word 10:30 a.m. Mass from Columbus St. Joseph ers. When declared to be unclean, such people had Cathedral on St. Gabriel Radio (AM 820), Co- to tear their garments and make it clear to all who here (embrimaomai, in Greek) which contains strong lumbus, and at www.stgabrielradio.com. came near them that they risked becoming unclean emotion in its usage. Mass with the Passionist Fathers at themselves through contact with the unclean person. Here, again, Jesus warns someone not to tell anyone 7:30 a.m. on WWHO-TV (the CW), Channel 53, Columbus. Dwelling outside the camp was a stigma to be en- and 10:30 a.m. on WHIZ-TV, Chan- what he has done. This is likely part of Mark’s dra- nel 18, Zanesville. Check local cable system dured until such a person could be declared free of matic style, preserving the identity of Jesus until he for cable channel listing. the cause of the uncleanness. is ready to reveal it totally, which comes only with Mass from Our Lady of the Angels Monastery, Birming- In some cases, the skin of such “outcasts” turned white, his death and resurrection. Instead, in compliance ham, Ala., at 8 a.m. on EWTN (Spectrum Channel 385, with Leviticus, Jesus sends the man to the priest to be Insight Channel 382, which to Semitic people, whose skin is usually darker, or WOW Channel 378). was a sign of some kind of affliction. It is an irony of declared clean and to offer what is prescribed for the (Encores at noon, 7 p.m., and midnight). history that lily-white-skinned people often cast asper- cleansing. Mass from the Archdiocese of Milwaukee at sions at darker-skinned people for the color of their skin. Father Lawrence Hummer, pastor of 6:30 a.m. on ION TV (AT&T U-verse Channel Biblically speaking, it is the other way around. People Chillicothe St. Mary Church, can be 195, Dish Network Channel 250, or DirecTV Channel 305). with whitened skin were the ones rendered unclean and reached at [email protected]. Mass from Massillon St. Mary Church at 10:30 a.m. on WILB radio (AM 1060, FM 94.5 and 89.5), Canton, heard in Tuscarawas, Holmes, and Coshocton counties.

Grief support group forming at St. Matthew DAILY MASS A GriefShare support group will side each other through one of life’s 8 a.m., Our Lady of the Angels Monastery in Birming- ham, Ala. (Encores at noon, 7 p.m. and midnight). See be forming at Gahanna St. Matthew most difficult experiences, the loss of EWTN above; and on I-Lifetv Church and will meet for 11 weeks a loved one. The group will be led by (Channel 113 in Ada, Logan, Millersburg, Mur- from Sunday, Feb. 25 to Sunday, May people who understand what partici- ray City and Washington C.H.; Channel 125 in Marion, 20. There will be no meetings on Palm pants are going through and want to Newark, Newcomerstown and New Sunday, March 25, or Easter Sunday, help. Philadelphia; and Channel 207 in Zanesville); 8 p.m., St. Gabriel Radio (AM 820), Columbus, April 1. The group will gather in the There is a one-time charge of $30, and at www.stgabrielradio.com. church’s St. Raphael Room from 1:30 which includes the workbook. For to 3:30 p.m. more information or to register, con- We pray Week II, Seasonal Proper GriefShare is a friendly, caring tact Mary Lager at mary0613@hot- Pray the Rosary of the Liturgy of the Hours group of people who will walk along- mail.com. February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 19 Men without conviction; churches without people Europe’s wholesale abandonment of its Christian If ministers of the Gospel indulge in gratuitous faith is often explained as the inevitable by-product virtue-signaling by promoting the worst of black of modern social, economic, and political life. But legends, as if the sum total of Christianity’s impact there is far more to the story of Euro-secularization THE CATHOLIC on world history is embodied by “the Crusades and than that, as three ecclesiastics – a Presbyterian min- the Spanish Inquisition,” why would anyone come ister and two Italian priests – demonstrated this past DIFFERENCE to their churches or listen to whatever’s being of- Christmas. George Weigel fered there by way of I’m-OK-You’re-OK therapeu- The minister in question was the moderator of the tic balm? Church of Scotland, the Rt. Rev. Dr. Derek Browning. If ministers of the Gospel cannot challenge the In his Yuletide message to his disappearing flock, Dr. blica, that he had canceled his parish Masses for world’s distortions of the Gospel with the truth of the Browning confessed that in his “darker moments,” Jan. 1 (the Octave of Christmas and the Solemnity Gospel, but fall back instead on penny-ante pseudo- he sometimes wondered whether “... the world would of Mary, Mother of God) and Jan. 6 (the Epiphany). Marxist clichés, is it any wonder that their church have been a better place without (Jesus). If there was Why? Because, according to Don Paolo, Christmas pews are empty? no Jesus, and therefore no Christianity, would there is now “a fairy tale from the nativity scene with lul- Christianity is dying in western Europe. There are have been no Crusades? Would there have been no labies and bagpipes, the exclusive support of a capi- many reasons for that, including the complicity of Spanish Inquisition?” (Dr. Browning didn’t contem- talist and consumerist economy, transforming the many churchmen in the ideological awfulness that plate the possibility that, without Jesus, there would whole of Christianity into civil religion.” turned mid-20th century Europe into a slaughter- have been no iconoclastic destruction of Scotland’s So there. No Mass. house. But the Gospel has power, and those who ancient and beautiful Catholic churches, or no mass believe that, and preach it in the conviction that it burnings of “witches” by his forebears in the kirk; These three episodes illustrate a larger point: “sec- can transform and ennoble lives, can still get a hear- but that, perhaps, would have been cutting a bit too ularization” is not something that just happened to ing. Indeed, as post-modernity decomposes into ever close to the bone.) western Europe, like the Black Death. The radical more bizarre forms of irrationality, the cleansing, Then there was Father Fredo Olivero of the Church secularization that has transformed Christianity’s liberating truth of the Gospel and the vision of life of San Rocco di Torino in the Archdiocese of Turin. heartland into the most religiously arid half-conti- well-lived found in the Beatitudes ought to be a com- At Christmas midnight Mass, Don Fredo substituted nent on the planet has at least as much to do with the pelling offer. the syrupy Italian pop-religious tune, Dolce Sentire, craven surrender of ministers of the Gospel to theo- But the offer must be made. And it won’t be made for the Creed, explaining, “Do you know why I do logical and political fads, and their consequent loss by churchmen who wonder aloud whether the world not say the Creed? Because I do not believe it. ... of faith, as it does with the impact of urbanization, wouldn’t have been better off without Jesus, or who after many years I understood that it was something mass education, and the industrial revolution on Eu- substitute treacle for the Creed, or who throw public I did not understand and that I could not accept. ropeans’ understanding of themselves. hissy-fits rather than celebrating the Eucharist. So let’s sing something else that says the essential If the Gospel is not preached with conviction – the George Weigel is Distinguished Senior Fellow things of life.” convictions that humanity is in need of salvation and of the Ethics and Public Policy Center in Which, evidently, do not include the confession of that Jesus is the Savior who liberates us into the full- Washington, D.C. faith that Jesus is Lord and Savior. ness of our humanity Not to be outdone by those uppity Piedmontese in and gives us eternal life Turin, a priest of Genoa, Father Paolo Farinella, an- – then the Gospel will English, Spanish missions at St. James the Less nounced in the leftist Italian newspaper, La Repub- not be believed. Columbus St. James the Less Church, Community).” It will be led by Sister 1652 Oakland Park Ave., will have Doris Regan, OP, and Sister Germaine Lenten parish missions in both English Conroy, OP. Bookkeeper Position and Spanish this year. The mission in English will be led by The Spanish mission, at 7 p.m. Mon- Sister Louis Mary Passeri, OP, and Sis- Saint Andrew Parish is seeking a part-time Bookkeeper who, under the di- day to Wednesday, Feb. 19 to 21, will ter Shirley Bodisch, OP, at 7 p.m. Tues- rect supervision of the Business Administrator, will be responsible for per- be titled “Dios Esta Aqui – Caminamos day to Thursday, Feb. 27 to March 1. Its forming routine and repetitive bookkeeping and accounting duties in the areas Hacia La Pasuca Como Familia y Co- theme will be “God’s Presence Within of Accounts Payable, General Ledger entry and Census contribution entry. munidad (God Is Here – Walking To- the Human Family: What Makes a Fam- The ideal applicant would possess a college degree (preferred) in a related gether Toward Easter With Family and ily Holy?” field and a minimum of three years prior experience. Ongoing working knowledge of Microsoft Office programs and ability to learn ACS accounting system is required. The candidate should be self-motivated to complete the responsibilities of the job with minimum supervision; have the ability to communicate effectively, multi-task and establish priorities. Job offer is contingent on the successful passing of the mandatory back- Prices starting at $2,499 ~ with Airfare Included in this price from anywhere in the USA ground screening and completion of the VIRTUS “Protecting God’s Chil- Several trips to different destinations: the Holy Land; Italy; France, Portugal, & Spain; Poland; dren” course. Compensation is commensurate with candidate’s education Medjugorje, Lourdes, & Fatima; Ireland & Scotland; England; Austria, Germany, & and experience. All benefits are according to Diocesan policy. Switzerland; Greece & Turkey; El Camino de Santiago; Viking Cruises; Caribbean Cruises; Budapest; Prague; Our Lady of Guadalupe; Colombia; Brazil; Argentina; Domestic Send cover letter, resume, salary requirement and references by Friday, Destinations; etc.... February 23, 2018 to Ann Whiteman, Parish Business Administrator at www.proximotravel.com 440-457-7033 [email protected] Hablamos Espanol 855-842-8001 [email protected] Call us 24/7 20 Catholic Times February 11, 2018 Pray for our dead

ADAMKOSKY, Mary V. (Doherty), 96, Feb. 3 CHEESEMAN, Dominic, 24, Feb. 1 GALLO, Francis T. “Bo,” 97, Feb. 1 OZIMOK, Priscilla (Romosier), 91, Feb. 1 St. Catharine Church, Columbus St. Patrick Church, Columbus St. Andrew Church, Columbus St. James the Less Church, Columbus BARTOS, John A., 69, formerly of Reynolds- COSS, Elaine C. (Bayly), 62, Feb. 1 GESNER, John O., 59, Jan. 24 PARKER, Ann R. (Franklin), 99, Feb. 3 burg, Jan. 13 Christ the King Church, Columbus St. Catharine Church, Columbus St. Mary Church, Delaware St. Ann Church, Haines City, Fla. DAVIS, Jeannine S. (Koch), 89, Feb. 2 RICE, Ruth H. (Webb), 84, Jan. 21 St. Timothy Church, Columbus HARPER, Edward P., 24, Jan. 25 BAUMEISTER, John, 84, Jan. 27 Holy Family Church, Columbus St. Bernadette Church, Lancaster St. Brendan Church, Hilliard DAVIS, Joan M. (Finnegan), 77, Jan. 28 ROBINSON, Marvin D., 77, Feb. 2 HOLLERN, M. Carole (Mohney), 74, Feb. 2 BEEMILLER, John J., 77, of Canal Winchester, Our Mother of Sorrows Chapel, Columbus St. Cecilia Church, Columbus St. Mary Church, Delaware Jan. 27 DELEWESE, Lilda M., 100, Feb. 2 SCHWAB, Rudy H., 78, Jan. 26 St. Mary Church, Chardon St. Margaret of Cortona Church, Columbus HULL, Carmen A. (Thompson), 84, Jan. 30 Our Lady of Perpetual Help Church, Grove St. Leonard Church, Heath BLAKE, Richard M., 84, Jan. 30 DONAHUE, William J. “Bookie,” 95, Feb. 2 City St. Brigid of Kildare Church, Dublin Immaculate Conception Church, Columbus KUBAT, Laurence J., 79, Feb. 1 SEVIGNY, Leon, 87, Jan. 29 CARR, Suzanne (Ramey), 90, Feb. 2 FOX, Lawrence L., 68, Jan. 28 St. Joan of Arc Church, Powell St. Bernadette Church, Lancaster St. Catharine Church, Columbus St. Pius X Church, Reynoldsburg MANN, Ada G. (Zari), 95, Jan. 30 STEINER, Albert III, 73, Jan. 22 St. James the Less Church, Columbus St. Mary Church, Lancaster CLASSIFIED McMAHON, Barry, 63, Feb. 1 SUMMERS, Paul A., 67, Jan. 28 Our Lady of Peace Church, Columbus Our Lady of Peace Church, Columbus ST St. Christopher Church 51 ANNUAL SPAGHETTI DINNER MILLER, Patricia (Callanan), 83, Jan. 27 WIEWALL, Keith P., 58, Jan. 24 St. Anthony Parish LENTEN PASTA DINNER Our Lady of Victory Church, Columbus St. Mary, Mother of God Church, Columbus Sunday, February 25 ~ 12:00 – 6:30 pm 1420 Grandview Ave./Trinity School Cafeteria Dine-in or Carryout Fridays - 2/16 - 3/23 • 5 - 7 PM 1300 Urban Drive ~ Columbus, Ohio $8/Adults, $5/Kids, $30/Family [email protected] Meatless sauce provided by local area restaurants February 16 - Dempseys Restaurant St. Patrick Church Friday Fish Fries February 23 - Z Cucina Ristorante All Fridays of Lent (except March 16) 5 pm to 7 pm Dinner consisting of baked pollack almondine or St. Catharine’s K of C Fish Fry fried battered cod, choice of fresh fries, 500 S Gould Rd, Columbus baked potato (white or sweet), macaroni & cheese, Friday, Feb. 16, 23 & March 16, 23, beverage, and dessert 4:30-7:30 pm Stations of the Cross in the Church ALL YOU CAN EAT immediately after dinner Dine-in, Carry-out & Drive-thru Adults: $9; Students/Seniors: $8 Adults $10; Seniors (65+) $8 Family Discounts too! • Takeouts available Children (under 12) $5; Under 5 Free Fried Ocean Perch, Baked Cod, Fries, Mac&cheese, FISH FRY – Knights of Columbus Coleslaw, Applesauce, Rolls, Dessert & Beverage ST. JOAN OF ARC PARISH, Powell Beer and wine available for purchase All you can eat meal includes Baked & Fried Fish, French Fries St. Margaret of Cortona Church Mac & Cheese, Green Beans, Cole Slaw, Rolls, 1600 N. Hague Ave, Columbus Soft Drinks 20th Annual Adults: $10, Children: $5, Seniors: $9, “Best Fish Fry Dinner in Town!” Carry-out: $9. Cash or Check only Fridays during Lent, Feb. 16 - March 23, FRIDAY Feb 16 – March 23, 5:00 – 7:30 PM 4:30 - 7:30 PM www.bestfishfry.com Fried Ocean Perch or Baked Cod, with French Fries, Baked Potato, Macaroni & Cheese, Cole Slaw, LENTEN FISH FRY Applesauce, Roll & Butter, and St. Michael Church homemade Desserts. 5750 N. High St., Worthington Free coffee! All Fridays in Lent ~ 5 - 8 PM Adults - $10; Seniors - $9.50; Fish Dinner: Regular $9, Small $7 Children age 10 & under - $5 Free under 3 Macaroni-Cheese Dinner: $7 Pop, Beer, Seconds & Carryouts available. Meal: Meal: Fish (or Mac/Cheese), Fries, Roll, Info: 279-1690 Cole Slaw (or Apple Sauce), and Beverage Sides:(Clam Chowder, Mac/Cheese) - $2.00, To advertise you fish fry event, write Desserts - $1.00 to [email protected] February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 21 H A P P E N I N G S

Speaker: Local Catholic author and radio personality Em- diocesan Office of Marriage & Family Life. Speaker: Dr. followed by meeting of parish Holy Name and Junior FEBRUARY ily Jaminet. 614-486-4293 Perry Cahall, dean of the Pontifical ollegeC Josephinum Holy Name societies, with refreshments. 614-221-4323 Peace Concert at Ohio Dominican school of theology. Subject: “The Vocation of Marriage: Eucharistic Holy Hour at Sacred Heart 8, THURSDAY 7 to 8 p.m., Christ the King Chapel, Sansbury Hall, Ohio A Supernatural Calling.” 614-241-2560 7 p.m., Sacred Heart Church, 893 Hamlet St., Columbus. Cenacle at Holy Name Dominican University, 1215 Sunbury Road, Columbus. Con- Ohio Trombone Quartet Concert at Marysville Eucharistic Holy Hour with the intention of deepened 6 p.m., Holy Name Church, 154 E. Patterson Ave., Colum- cert to pray for peace, with E. Louis Canter and Jim Hughes, 3 p.m., Our Lady of Lourdes Church, 1033 W. 5th St., Marys- holiness and an increase in the virtue of fortitude for the bus. Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament, with prayers in music directors from the Diocese of Orlando, Florida. ville. Ohio Trombone Quartet concert. 937-644-6020 Holy Father, bishops, and priests, concluding with Bene- the Cenacle format of the Marian Movement of Priests. 614-251-4563 ‘Awaken!’ Series at St. Michael diction, social period, and refreshments. 614-372-5249 Back in His Arms Again Dinner 9-11, FRIDAY-SUNDAY 4:30 to 5:45 p.m., St. Michael Church, 5750 N. High St., Abortion Recovery Network Group 6:45 p.m., Nugent Hall, St. Andrew Church, 1899 McCoy Worthington. Second talk in five-part “Awaken!” series 7 to 8 p.m., Gateway Center, 2670 N. Columbus St., Lan- Road, Columbus. Annual dinner benefiting Back in His Weekend Retreat at St. Therese’s focused on empowering parents to a renewed personal caster. Abortion recovery network group meeting for Arms Again ministry for people dealing with the loss of a St. Therese’s Retreat Center, 5277 E. Broad St., Columbus. relationship with the Trinity and equipping them with anyone interested in recovering from abortion or who child. Tickets $40. 614-906-3115 Retreat led by Sister Louis Mary Passeri, OP, and Do- the tools to spread the Good News. Topic: “Who Is Je- has been through a recovery program, and wants to stay Theology on Tap Meeting minican Associates Mary Reichley and Anita Davidson. sus?” with lay missionary Monica Richards. 614-888-5384 connected. 614-721-2100 7 p.m., St. Therese’s Retreat Center, 5277 E. Broad St., Co- Theme: “All Will Be Well -- No Matter What.” Prayer Group Meeting at Christ the King Frassati Society Meeting at Columbus St. Patrick lumbus. Theology on Tap discussion and social group for 614-866-1611 5 to 7 p.m., Christ the King Church, 2777 E. Livingston 7 p.m., Aquinas Hall, St. Patrick Church, 280 N. Grant young Catholics, with Matt Palmer of The Joseph Group 10, SATURDAY Ave., Columbus (enter at daily Mass entrance). Weekly Ave., Columbus. Meeting of parish’s Frassati Soci- capital management organization speaking on “Living Life and Mercy Mass in Plain City parish prayer group meets for praise, worship, ministry, ety for young adults. “Mass and a Meal” monthly Our Faith in the Workplace.” RSVP to cbustheologyon- 9 a.m. Mass, St. Joseph Church, 140 West Ave., Plain City. and teaching. 614-237-0401 event. Bring side dishes, desserts, or beverages. [email protected] or Columbus Theology on Tap Facebook Saturday Life and Mercy Mass, followed by rosary and Spanish Mass at Columbus St. Peter 614-224-9522 page. confession. 7 p.m., St. Peter Church, 6899 Smoky Row Road, Colum- National Security Talk at Ohio Dominican Eucharistic Holy Hour at Sacred Heart Citywide Prayer Gathering at Church of Our Lady bus. Mass in Spanish. 706-761-4054 7 p.m., Rooms 258-260, Bishop Griffin Center, Ohio 7 p.m., Sacred Heart Church, 893 Hamlet St., Columbus. 9 a.m. to noon, Our Lady of the Miraculous Medal Church, Dominican University, 1216 Sunbury Road, Co- Eucharistic Holy Hour with the intention of deepened 5225 Refugee Road, Columbus. Citywide prayer gather- lumbus. Talk on “National Security in the Age holiness and an increase in the virtue of fortitude for the 12, MONDAY ing sponsored by Columbus Catholic Renewal, with Mass of Trump” with Lawrence Wilkerson, former Holy Father, bishops, and priests, concluding with Bene- Bethesda Post-Abortion Healing Ministry celebrated by Father James Coleman, followed by break- chief of staff to Secretary of State Colin Powell. diction, social period, and refreshments. 614-372-5249 6:30 p.m., support group meeting, 2744 Dover Road, Co- fast, Reconciliation, adoration with worship music led by lumbus (Christ the King convent, first building west of the 614-251-4453 ‘Theology of the Common Good’ Talk at ODU Living Stones, prayer ministry, and teaching on “Awe and 7 p.m., Community Room, Alumni Hall, Ohio Do- church). 614-718-0277, 614-309-2651, 614-309-0157 15-18, THURSDAY-SUNDAY Wonder” by Patrick Shroyer. Babysitting available; bring a Our Lady of Peace Men’s Bible Study Bishop Hartley Presents ‘Once on This Island’ minican University, 1216 Sunbury Road, Columbus. breakfast dish to share. 614-582-1721 Talk on “Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Bound- 7 p.m., Our Lady of Peace Church, 20 E. Dominion Blvd., 7:30 p.m. Thursday-Saturday, 2:30 p.m. Sunday, Shedd The- ‘Last Things’ Workshop at Columbus St. Patrick Columbus. Bible study of Sunday Scripture readings. ater, Columbus Performing Arts Center, 549 Franklin Ave., less Compassion” with Father Gregory Boyle, SJ. 9 a.m., Social hall, St. Patrick Church, 280 N. Grant Ave., 614-251-4453 Columbus. Bishop Hartley High School drama depart- Columbus. “Into the Light: A Workshop Designed to Il- 13, TUESDAY ment presents “Once on This Island,” a one-act musical. 9, FRIDAY luminate Your Approach Toward Last Things,” with Father Downtown Columbus Serra Club Meeting Calix Society Meeting Tickets $12 adults, $10 seniors and students. 614-237-5421 Thomas More Garrett, OP, and specialists in various fields 6 p.m., Panera restaurant, 4519 N. High St., Columbus. Noon, St. Charles Preparatory School, 2010 E. Broad St., related to end-of-life issues. 614-224-9522 16, FRIDAY Columbus. Downtown Columbus Serra club meeting. Monthly meeting of the Calix Society, an association of ‘Renewal’ Labyrinth Walk at Shepherd’s Corner Catholic alcoholics. Preceded by 5:30 p.m. Mass at Our Soup Supper at Ada Our Lady of Lourdes 2 to 3:30 p.m., Shepherd’s Corner Ecology Center, 987 Lady of Peace Church, across street from meeting site. 5 p.m., Our Lady of Lourdes Church, 222 E. Highland Ave., N. Waggoner Road, Blacklick. Labyrinth walk led by Ada. Lenten soup supper, followed by Stations of the All fund-raising events (festivals, Mass, Palm Burning at Dover St. Joseph musician Barbara Hamilton. Theme: “Renewal.” Sug- 6 p.m., St. Joseph Church, 613 N. Tuscarawas Ave., Dover. Cross at 6. 419-634-2626 bazaars, spaghetti dinners, fish fries, gested donation $5. Registration deadline Feb. 8. Mass, followed by palm burning prayer service. Soup Supper at Corpus Christi bake sales, pizza/sub sales, candy 614-866-4302 330-364-6661 5:30 p.m., Corpus Christi Church, 1111 E. Stewart Ave., Co- Family Honor Anniversary Dinner lumbus. Lenten soup supper, followed by Stations of the sales, etc.) will be placed in the “Fund- Holy Hour at Columbus St. Francis of Assisi 6 to 9 p.m., Patrick Hall, St. Patrick Church, 280 N. Grant St. Francis of Assisi Church, 386 Buttles Ave., Columbus. Cross at 7. 614-443-2828 Raising Guide.” Ave., Columbus. Dinner honoring 30th anniversary of Monthly Holy Hour following 6 p.m. Mass. 614-299-5781 Soup Supper at Groveport St. Mary An entry into the Guide will be $18.50 Family Honor chastity education group and 15th anni- Rosary for Life at St. Joan of Arc 6 p.m., St. Mary Church, 5684 Groveport Road, Groveport. versary of its Columbus affiliate. Speakers: Dr. Michael Lenten soup supper, followed by Stations of the Cross at for the first six lines, and $2.65 for Following 6:15 p.m. Mass, St. Joan of Arc Church, 10700 Fagge, Columbus St. Charles Preparatory School theology Liberty Road, Powell. Recital of Rosary for Life, spon- 7. 614-497-1324 each additional line. teacher, and Greg Schutte of Marriage Works! Ohio. Cost sored by church’s respect life committee. Soup Supper at Holy Redeemer For more information, $10 individual, $15 couples, $50 for table of six. EnCourage Ministry Monthly Meeting 6:30 p.m., Holy Redeemer Church, 1325 Gallia St., Ports- 614-406-3507 mouth. Lenten soup supper, preceded by Stations of the call Doug Bean at 614-224-5195. 6:30 p.m., EnCourage, an approved diocesan ministry 11, SUNDAY dedicated to families and friends of persons who experi- Cross at 6. 740-354-2716 Order of Malta Mass for Anointing of the Sick ence same-sex attraction. EnCourage respects the digni- 17, SATURDAY 9:30 a.m., Holy Rosary-St. John Church, 648 S. Ohio Ave., ty of every person, promotes the truth of God’s plan for Columbus Catholic Women’s Conference Columbus. Order of Malta Columbus Region’s annual each of us, and focuses on sharing our love. Confidential- 8 a.m., Cardinal Building, State Fairgrounds, 717 E. 17th Mass for Anointing of the Sick. The Sacrament of Anoint- ‘Happenings’ submissions ity is maintained. Call for site. 614-296-7404 Ave., Columbus. 11th annual Columbus Catholic Women’s ing of the Sick will be available. Followed by reception Conference, with talks by Lisa Hendey, Obianuju Ekeocha, Notices for items of Catholic interest must and talk in parish hall with Christian James speaking of his 14, WEDNESDAY and Matt and Kristin Laboda, Mass with Bishop Frederick be received at least 12 days before ex- experience with the order’s pilgrimage to Lourdes. Turning Leaves and Tea Leaves Campbell, Adoration, Benediction, and lunch. pected publication date. We will print them St. Agatha Adult Education 2 to 3:30 p.m., Martin de Porres Center, 2330 Airport Drive, 614-398-2292 9:30 a.m., St. Agatha Church, 1860 Northam Road, Co- as space permits. Columbus. Turning Leaves and Tea Leaves book club with Life and Mercy Mass in Plain City Items not received before this deadline may lumbus. “The Gospel According to Matthew,” part 2 of Dominican Sisters Marialein Anzenberger and Colleen 9 a.m. Mass, St. Joseph Church, 140 West Ave., Plain City. not be published. four-part series on the Gospels with Father Edmund Hus- Gallagher. 614-416-1910 Saturday Life and Mercy Mass, followed by rosary and Listings cannot be taken by phone. sey. 614-488-6149 15, THURSDAY confession. Mail to Catholic Times Happenings, Lay Fraternities of St. Dominic Meeting Cenacle at Holy Name 197 E. Gay St., Columbus OH 43215 1:30 p.m., St. Patrick Church, 280 N. Grant Ave., Columbus. 6 p.m., Holy Name Church, 154 E. Patterson Ave., Colum- 18, SUNDAY Fax to 614-241-2518 Meeting of St. Catherine of Siena chapter, Lay Fraternities bus. Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament, with prayers in St. Agatha Adult Education E-mail as text to of St. Dominic. the Cenacle format of the Marian Movement of Priests. 9:30 a.m., St. Agatha Church, 1860 Northam Road, Colum- [email protected] World Marriage Day Program at Seton Parish Holy Hour at Holy Family bus. “The Gospel According to Luke,” part 3 of four-part 2 p.m., St. Elizabeth Seton Parish, 600 Hill Road North, 6 to 7 p.m., Holy Family Church, 584 W. Broad St., Colum- series on the Gospels with Father Edmund Hussey. Pickerington. World Marriage Day program sponsored by bus. Holy Hour of Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament, 614-488-6149

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Book review Real Love is for Real By Doug Bean, Catholic Times Editor The short chapters are easy to read. Each one ends with two questions to ponder. Those are meant to be “Real Love is ‘for Real’” by Pam Heil. Balboa Press conversation starters to prompt dialogue about topics Bloomington, Indiana, 2017). 155 pages, $13.99. that sometimes are difficult to discuss, particularly -be For a long time, Pam Heil has spoken to and coun- tween teens and parents. seled young people and parents about the true mean- “You can say things like ‘Is this what you’re experi- ing of love and sexuality through her Empowered to encing?’ Or ‘Do you believe this? Is this what you’re Love ministry. hearing?’ Just take one or two questions in a chapter Heil is a national speaker and a former campus min- and talk about it with your middle school kid or high ister at Columbus St. Francis DeSales High School and school kid,” she suggested. youth minister at Dublin St. Brigid of Kildare Church. “They have a means to communicate about sex, After some of Heil’s talks, teens will approach her and say they wish they had heard her message before So it seemed only natural that she would compile all which is a difficult conversation for a lot of people. going too far in a casual relationship. of the wisdom she has imparted through the years in But it’s not a difficult conversation if you do it within her presentations and put it into a book. the context of love. The need is there to open dialogue “Even good kids are sexting each other routinely,” within the family on healthy dating relationships, sex- Heil said. “They just think it’s part of growing up. The result is Real Love is ‘for Real’, published in uality, and love. Taking any of those things about of a November by Balboa Press. Her hope is that the book They have no connection between love and sex. connection with God is not truthful, it’s not fulfilling. “I’ve learned in the last five years of my ministry will help foster conversations among families about It’s awkward, uneasy, and ineffective.” the meaning of true love in a world saturated with how separate love is from sex. It doesn’t even enter Heil effectively intersperses examples and shares misconceptions, misunderstandings, and misinforma- the realm of connection. It’s like this is what we do, relatable anecdotes from her years of working with tion about feelings. we want to get it over with. When are you going to do young adults to bring real-world situations into focus. The ultimate object, she writes in the introduction, is it, how old are you going to do it? You’ve just got to Even teens who don’t like to read books will find it easy do it. That breaks my heart.” to “empower teens to choose chastity, formulating a to identify with the stories that are part of their world. morality based on love, not sex.” Heil also shared her concern about sex education “It was written that a high school kid could sit and programs for teens because they fail to mention love. She sets the stage before launching into Chapter 1 read it and get a whole lot out of it,” Heil said. “Mid- with a scripture passage from 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 dle school kids and elementary kids. (Parents can) use “Kids are being exposed to stuff and they don’t know that’s popular at weddings: each little snippet and read it with your kids, ask ques- what to do with it unless we empower parents and “Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) tions. Say we’re going to read it together and we’re churches to basically communicate where basically is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does going to talk about it together. I think that’s how it’s we are presenting an ideal and helping kids understand not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, going to end up as a viable tool.” what they have to gain and what they have to lose,” she it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over Some of the stories are sad. Others have happy end- said. “That the core of who we are and the whole need wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all ings. Whatever the results, Heil finds a way to convey for basic existence is to love and to be loved. things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures a positive outcome. “You hear those stories of kids and the heartbreak all things. Love never fails.” “If a kid reads it from beginning to end, I know that it and the emptiness, and they’re really just searching The book is divided into three sections: the Ideal (what will impact them,” Heil said. “I know from the kids that for love, except the kids that are just searching for love should be), the Struggle (the obstacles to genuine have read it from beginning to end that it impacts them. sex. Most kids aren’t connecting the two. We’ve got love in today’s culture), and the Plan (how to get there). The problem is that many kids don’t read books. But to make the connection that our bodies are sacred and “My focus is on the ideal because if we don’t have mothers (who read the book) are getting a viewpoint by worthy of respect. That’s my whole purpose.” the ideal, how can we strive for anything?” Heil said which they can address sexuality with their kids.” The final section offers practical steps for healthy in an interview with Catholic Times. “You’ve got to In today’s media culture, young people are exposed dating and relationships and finding the right person believe in something before it happens. to information about sex and pornography in their to marry. “The struggle is a lot of the stories. I was thinking when elementary school years. By the time they reach ju- She ends with simple advice: Love God, practice I was writing that teenagers and young adults would nior high and high school, there face a hookup cul- your faith, ask for help, believe in and love yourself, benefit from the book and the whole discernment pro- ture that puts pressure on teens to engage in sexual set goals, work hard, and be responsible. cess between sex and love and the morals they choose, relationships in which love or morality doesn’t enter whether it’s going to be recreation or committal.” into their thought process. See LOVE, Page 23 February 11, 2018 Catholic Times 23 Study suggests teenage girls don’t have tools to navigate pressure for sexting Catholic News Agency However, the study was able to high- Of the girls who refused, 31 percent In a recent study, teenage girls were light a number of adolescent girls’ said there were repercussions for not found to feel powerless when asked for struggles when faced with requests for engaging in sexting or sending nude a nude image of themselves from young nude photos. Most of them reported images, such as “having the boy get an- men, most often feeling trapped, bom- that they did not want to send the im- gry, break up with them, or make more barded, coerced, and confused when ages. Also noteworthy was the most requests despite their refusal.” confronted with “sexting” requests. common reaction among the girls when In addition, a number of the girls ex- asked for photos: “What should I do?” Perhaps even more alarming is that pressed a level of normalcy in being most of the young women in the study “Teenage girls know the potential risks asked to provide nude images or engage reported that the pressure to take part and are disinclined to (sext), yet they in sexting. They also did not describe in sexting was normal and that they ac- continue to share their images anyway. their male counterparts as blamewor- cepted boys’ aggressive behavior as ac- They struggle to say ‘No,’” Thomas said thy, but instead described themselves as ceptable. Even more, the only negative focused on 462 stories in which girls re- in an interview with Northwestern Now. “weak,” “pathetic,” having “ridiculously language the girls used was not against ported sexting, sending nude photos, and Thomas also noted that the girls low self-esteem,” or a “horrible person.” their male counterparts, but instead to related experiences from the years 2010- seemed to be ill-equipped with the re- When not describing themselves, the describe themselves or other girls. 2016. The average age of the girls was 15. sources and tools necessary to face girls sometimes used negative language The study, What Should I Do?: Young Thomas noted the study’s limitations, pressured requests from young men. against other girls, calling those who Women’s Reported Dilemmas With saying that the shared experiences were Of the girls who sent nude photos, did not send nude images “prudes.” Nude Photographs, was conducted by “more than 90 percent … engaged in published on an anonymous online Thomas concluded that her study was Sara E. Thomas, a doctoral student at what could be considered unwanted but platform which neglected to include “not meant to suggest that all young Northwestern University, and was pub- important information such as the girls’ consensual sexting to either prove their women struggle with immediate day lished by Springer Science and Busi- demographic backgrounds and may not affections or avoid reproach or conflict to day pressures, to represent all young ness Media in December 2017. It study be indicative of all young women’s ex- with their partners,” the study reported. women as victims of coercive tactics, looked at 7,000 stories from girls who periences. Most of the girls were adoles- The study also noted that none of the or to represent all young men as coer- posted their experience on the online cents and there was no information given girls who sent nude photos felt relieved cive or threatening.” platform A Thin Line. about the male counterparts who report- or good about their choice. In addition, Among the 7,000 experiences, Thomas edly pressured the girls into sexting. 40 percent said their nude photos were “Rather, it is the aim of this study to sent to unintended audiences. One girl explore the struggles young women reported that her nude image ended up experience and to elaborate on our cur- on the personal phones of more than rent understanding of young women’s 300 people. dilemmas as they develop romantic and “It appears that a desire for status, sexual relationships in this digital era.” love or pressure from boys to be Thomas also added that young wom- ‘good girlfriends,’ threats, anger or en need support and information on relational consequences compel them how to navigate pressuring situations to consider sending photographs,” the from males, while there is also an over- study said of the girls who were asked whelming need for males to act with to send nude images. respect and boundary acceptance.

LOVE, continued from Page 22 “My objective is to help people be National Catholic Youth Conference, better at living the greatest command- Theology on Tap, Newman centers, ment -- basically loving God with their Gospel Road, youth rallies, youth con- whole mind, body, soul, and strength ferences, mom’s groups, and parenting and loving your neighbor as yourself,” seminars. Heil said. She has been involved with confirma- Heil has been a frequent speaker at the tion retreats and faculty retreats and will be conducting this year’s Earn your MBA at ODU Christ Child retreats. Her talks with eighth-graders • Attend class 100% online or on campus during the evening. TOURTOUR toto ITALYITALY preparing for confirma- • Complete your MBA in as few as 16 months. it goes to tion and their parents are • Concentrations available in Data Analytics, Risk Management, Sicily • Calabria • Puglia • Abruzzo popular presentations at Finance, Accounting, Leadership, and Sport Management. 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Her life was a mess until than others (the rate is 28 percent, accord- City Our Lady of Perpetual Help Church she encountered Jesus. ing to Georgetown University’s Center began offering a 12-week support- pro On a particular day, she went if Jesus’ kindness would cease when the truth was revealed. for Applied Research in the Apostolate). gram titled Surviving Divorce: Hope and to her town’s well at noon. Why That said, divorce remains significant, for Healing for the Catholic Family. This did she not go in the morning? She must have wondered “Will He be angry? Will He leave? the nation has approximately 11 million program was created by Rose Sweet, a na- Maybe she did, and just needed divorced Catholics. tionally known Catholic educator and au- Will He think I am worthless?” extra water that day. To say it is difficult and painful to go thor on the topics of divorce, annulment, If you have the same anxiet- Or maybe she wanted to avoid through the end of a marriage, especially and remarriage. She herself has been civ- ies, pay attention. other women. Walking un- one of many years with children involved, illy divorced. der the hot summer sun was “You are right. You don’t have is a great understatement. Anyone who In 2015, other central Ohio Catholics a small price to pay to escape any husband. The man you are has experienced this situation, whether it joined with those at Our Lady of Perpet- their sharp tongues. living with now is not your occurred 10 days or 10 years ago, will tell ual Help to create an apostolate designed So she came to the well at noon. husband,” Jesus said. you it is a trauma that cannot be imagined to promote and foster the Surviving Di- She expected silence and soli- No criticism. No anger. No and is never forgotten. vorce program at other parishes. This tude. Instead, she found Jesus. “what-kind-of-mess-have-you- While it is painful go to through any di- pastoral community of Catholic men and Jesus asked her for water. made-of-your-life” lecture. No. vorce; it is often even more painful to en- women, lay leaders and clergy, known But she was too streetwise to It was not perfection that Jesus dure it as a Catholic. This is because the as Non Solum Columbus (Latin for “not think that all Jesus wanted was was seeking. It was honesty. Church holds marriage on a level much alone”), also aims to provide other means a drink. “Since when does a The woman was amazed. higher than does the rest the culture, in- of support, love, and encouragement for Jew like you ask a woman like “There is something different cluding our Protestant Christian brothers Catholics experiencing marital separation me for water?” she asked. She about you. Do you mind if I ask and sisters. and/or divorce. This includes guidance on wanted to know what Jesus re- you something?” she said. In our culture, marriage is a contract; in seeking annulments for those Catholics who are civilly divorced. ally had in mind. She was right: Then she asked the question the Church, it is a covenant. What’s the Jesus was interested in more that revealed the big hole in her difference? I was taught in school that In addition to Our Lady of Perpetual than water. Jesus was interest- soul: “Where is God? My peo- there is a very significant difference- be Help, the program is being offered at Co- ed in her heart. ple say He is on the mountain. tween the two: a contract says “I will do lumbus St. Catharine, Powell St. Joan of Arc, Worthington St. Michael, Chillicothe They talked. She could not re- Your people say He is in Jeru- my part, if you do yours,” while a cov- St. Peter, and Zanesville St. Nicholas member the last time a man had salem. I do not know where He enant says “I will do my part, whether or churches. spoken to her with respect. Jesus is.” not you do yours.” told her about a spring of water Can you imagine the expres- That is the example Christ gave us. He The Church is the messenger of truth, re- that would quench the thirst not sion on Jesus’ face when He does His part lovingly and willingly, even vealed to us by God. Sometimes that truth of the throat, but of the soul. heard the question? Of all the when we fail to do ours. We are called to is difficult to hear, and sometimes we don’t want to hear it. But Christ intended for us That intrigued her. “Sir, give places to find a hungry heart – model that level of love and commitment to speak that truth with love and mercy. me this water so that I won’t get Samaria. Of all the Samaritans when we enter into a marriage covenant We hope that Non Solum Columbus will thirsty and have to keep com- searching for God – a woman. with another, and with God as a third part- foster emotional and spiritual healing and ing here to draw water,” she Of all women hungry for God – ner. When that covenant is not valid, or bring the “lost sheep” closer to Christ, said. “Go call your husband and a five-time divorcee. when a valid marriage fails, it makes for an even heavier cross to bear. His Church, and the truth it delivers. come back,” Jesus told her. And of all the people chosen Anyone who would like updates on Sur- Her heart must have sank. Here to personally receive the secret Divorce is one of the most significant fac- viving Divorce program offerings may was a man with a gentleness she of the ages – an outcast among tors that drive Catholics away from the visit the apostolate’s website. Non Solum never had seen before. And now outcasts, the most insignificant Church. Many Catholics don’t fully under- also offers a free downloadable report ti- He was asking her about her stand what the Church really teaches about person in the region. tled Thirteen Myths of Marriage, Divorce h u s b a n d . A n y t h i n g b u t t h a t . love, sex, marriage, divorce, annulment, Jesus did not reveal the secret or remarriage. Many myths and misunder- & Annulments in The Catholic Church. Maybe she considered lying to King Herod. He did not re- standings about the Church’s teachings can Both may be found online at Divorced- or changing the subject. Per- veal it to the Sanhedrin. It was cause frustration, anger, and, sometimes, CatholicColumbus.org. haps she wanted to leave – but not in the colonnades of a Ro- a profound sense of abandonment from she stayed and told the truth. man court that He announced Keith F. Luscher is the father of four the Church. As a result, people without a children and returned to the Church “I have no husband,” she said. His identity. clear knowledge of the authentic Catholic following a 25-year absence. He is a Kindness has a way of inviting No. He revealed it in the shade position on these matters leave the Church. member of Columbus St. Catharine honesty. You know the rest of of a well in a rejected land to They become “lost sheep.” Church and a co-founder of Non Solum the story. an ostracized woman. Jesus’ As Catholics, it is our job to model Columbus. He may be reached at keith. The woman must have won- eyes must have danced as He Christ’s example of divine mercy; go and [email protected] or (614) 205-0830. dered what Jesus would do whispered the secret: “I am the next. She must have wondered Messiah!”