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VOL 9, NO 50 ■ DECEMBER 17, 2010 / 10 TEVET, 5771 WWW.THEJEWISHSTAR.COM Rally at the White Shul Life after ‘Candlelight?’ Efforts for Can the Maccabeats miracle last more than eight days? Rubashkin By Michael Orbach dressed women — to images of the band CBS Early Show, as well as fi elding calls members singing and playing dreidel. from the late night television shows. The It was a pretty good Chanukah for the The response was almost immediate. question facing the group is, What comes Maccabeats. Views of the video skyrocketed, after Chanukah? go local Weekeeks before,before, thehe 1144-member-member a cap-cap- hihittingtting over 3 mmillion,illion, OOnn thhee llastast nnightight ooff thhee hholidaolidayy,, DDec.ec. pellaella grgrooupup composedposed ofof Yeshiva Univer- makinmakingg the clean-cut 2, 10 ooff the 14 band members ppererfforormed sityity students had been virtualltuallyy unknown banbandd mmembersembers rrela-ela- at Day School in front of a sev- By Michael Orbach outsideutside ooff the insular JJewishewish music tive celebrities ((atat eral hundreds in a sold-out shshooww.. TheTheyy wwoorrld. Then ththee group released their sisin-n- lleasteast fforor ththee JJeeww-- didn’t seem too bothered byby the holiday’sy’s The campaign to free gle,le, “Candleli“Candlelight,ght,”” a cover of Taio Cruz’s iishsh worlrld).d). TheTheyy end.end. MinutMinutes beforebefore will be coming to the Five Towns and Far “DynamitDynamite,” as a YoYoutubeutube video on the hhaavvee aappearedppeared ththee MaccabMaccabeatseats Rockaway area. fi rstrst night ooff CChanukah.hanukah. The band’s on CCNN,NN, Fox wewentnt on sstagtage, On Dec. 22, the Pidyun Shvuim Fund, an veersion of the sonsongg totoldld over the Newwss anandd ththee ththee banbandd mmem-em- informal organization that pays for Rubash- sttory ooff Chanukah, chanhangingging bers sat together kin’s defense fund, will host a rally at Con- lyryrics lilikkee “ your hands in iinn ththee sscchhoolool gregation Knesseth , the White Shul, in thhee air,” to “I throw mmyy latkes Continued on Far Rockaway. Rubashkin, the former vice inn the air,” and altering Cruz’s ppagage 3 president of the Iowa-based Agriprocessor, videoideo — larggeellyy the sinsingger in was sentenced to 27 years in prison in June frontront ooff dozens ooff pparartialltiallyy for 86 charges of bank fraud. “No matter Defendant’s motive, he de- frauded the victim banks out of millions,” Judge Linda Reade explained in her sentenc- ing memorandum. “He unlawfully placed his family business’s interest above the victim banks’ interest. His family business and he personally benefi ted at the expense of all the victim banks’ innocent shareholders.” The sentence has caused a widespread outcry in the Jewish community. “I think people are bothered by what they perceive to be the unfairness of the trial and the disparity in the sentencing for a fi rst time offender,” explained Pinchos Lip- schutz, the editor of Yated Ne’eman newspa- per and the man largely responsible for the effort. The organization has held similar rallies in Monsey, Borough Park, Flatbush and Mi- ami and raised close to $2 million. The rea- son for the rally in this area is simple, accord- ing to Rabbi Lipschutz. “We’re at the bottom of the barrel,” said Michael Orbach by to Pho Continued on page 2

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was successful at reaching the CKCA’s event the three contestants launched themselves at the Next Great Kosher Chef’s host made the December 17, 2010 10 TEVET 5771 At 10:45 on Sunday morning, Dec. 12, I sat coordinator who gave us instructions on how their tasks with enthusiasm. Through hercu- whole event seem somewhat off. in the SUV of the Head Chef of Etceterea Et- to get inside. Once there I stood in a large lean effort, they managed to conquer the fi rst However, as I said before, this was a bril- cetera, Seth Warshaw, wondering what I had kitchen set up as a culinary gauntlet and at table. It was at the second table where the liantly conceived contest. The CKCA had done to deserve this. I had arrived promptly the center were three eager contestants. problems began. Mandolins are razor sharp created a great concept and what I was wit- at 10:00 at the building that housed the Cen- The concept behind the Next Great Ko- cutting tools that are made to increase the nessing was the process of ironing out the ter for Kosher Culinary Arts (CKCA). There sher Chef competition was to test fi ve key ease and speed you are wrinkles. Though live the I expected to fi nd three elements necessary in professional cook- able to slice fruits and Next Great Kosher Chef hobbyist chefs compet- ing: culinary IQ, stamina, palate, speed and vegetables. To keep from may not have been thrill- ing for a scholarship to creativity. To do this the CKCA had set up a injury many trained chefs ing, I know from my years the CKCA and the title number of challenges geared towards each use dish towels, hand as a video producer, that of Next Great Kosher of these skills. These challenges would all be guards and even Kevlar once edited it will make for Chef. Instead I found fi lmed and later compiled into a video. gloves to protect them- amazing television and the a very sturdy security After taking a written test to determine selves. The contestants value of a viable and inter- gate covering the build- their culinary IQ the contestants faced their who were not trained esting kosher cooking show ing’s door. Then the sky fi rst physical challenge. Four tables had been chefs were given none is immeasurable. No one is opened up and a great set up, each with a different set of tools and of these. I watched these more suited then the CKCA deluge began. ingredients. At the fi rst table there were three brave hobby chefs knowing that disas- to provide this service. It was apparent from I wandered the eggs, bowls and whisks. At this table the ter was coming; it was only a matter of time. the Next Great Kosher Chef competition that block looking for an- hobby chefs needed to separate a dozen eggs 45 seconds to be exact. Contestant Josh the CKCA possess both the creativity and pro- Zechariah Mehler other way into the and then whip the egg whites by hand into Pashman removed a sizable chunk of his left gressive thinking that the kosher world needs building. It was after stiff peaks. The second table had slicing tools pinky. With no fi rst aid on-site, Josh put on a to bring kosher food into the mainstream. a half-hour of wander- called mandolins. Using these mandolins the latex glove to cover the wound and powered Despite the rain I was glad that I could ing that Chef Warshaw contestants were told to slice three carrots through to the other tables. By the forth ta- be a part of what I feel is the fi rst step in a found me, soggy and muttering. He assured apiece. The third table had piping bags that ble, Josh’s glove looked like a water balloon concept that I think will go very far. I was me that as one of the judges of The Next Great were to be fi lled with butter cream and then fi lled with B negative and I couldn’t help but happy to see contestant Jasmine Einalhori Kosher Chef he had been given the same lo- used to write the name of the CKCA four admire his tenacity. win the contest and an education that would cation as I was and was equally baffl ed. He times on a pan. On the fourth and fi nal ta- As I watched the other challenges I be provided by an amazingly talented staff was good enough to invite me into his car ble was a black sea bass that the contestants thought of a quote from Moliere, “Long is of chefs. Mostly I look forward to next year while we sorted things out. Unable to reach were supposed to scale, gut and fi let. For this the road between conception and comple- when I hope the CKCA will hold this competi- anyone at the Center, Chef Warshaw and I challenge they were given 15 minutes. tion.” This was true of the contest. It was tion again. 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Alan Jay Gerber, his hen I was studying in yeshiva, I passage in Taanit. Yaakov did not die… but December 17, 2010 10 TEVET 5771 wife, Helene, his daugh- asked one of the rabbis if there was Yisrael did. ter, Devorah and her fi - W a specifi c reason why the Torah oc- In a lengthy passage (47:29) Rabbenu ance, Joey Schmeltz. casionally refers to Yaakov by his name and Bachaye spells out his theory of the inter- other times as Yisrael. changeability of the two names. On a sim- Photo by Penny Frondelli The rabbi was of the opinion that the ple level, the Torah switches off between name Yisrael is used in a context that has the names — sometimes he is Yaakov and national and historical signifi cance, while sometimes Yisrael. Yisrael is simply his The Kosher Bookworm Yaakov is used when referring to the specif- main name since it was given to him by ic family of the patriarch and their personal G-d. experiences. But logic dictates that the choices the How students saved the Jewish people This theory is nice, but on close exami- Torah makes, sometimes Yisrael and some- he pride evinced by Dr. David Golinkin about Hindsight proved the students to be correct in their nation it does not hold water. times Yaakov, are deliberate. Yaakov refers the legacy of his father, Rabbi Golinkin, goals, but their limited resources doomed their ef- In chapter 48 of this week’s parsha, for to physical issues of this world, while Yis- T should serve as a model for all of us who cher- forts. The brave activities as detailed in this book example, Yaakov is almost entirely referred rael refers to his spiritual characteristics. ish the roles that our parents and grandparents demonstrate the perfi dy of those that partnered in to as Yisrael, and much of the text relates to While spiritual pursuits should be one’s played in the preservation of our people’s legacy in the New Deal political agenda and whose fealty to the man himself and complete focus, it is impossible to get rid of the last century. the Roosevelt administration took priority over sav- his personal experi- the physical component of one’s existence. “The Student Struggle Against the Holocaust,” by ing the lives of Jews in Europe. ence. Some of this Therefore spirituality should be the main Dr. Rafael Medoff and Dr. Golinkin, is a recently pub- Eventually the youthful enthusiasm that initially may have historical goal while the physical should be second- lished book that details the lives of three very brave inspired Noah gave way to a pall of hopelessness. At signifi cance, but it is ary. He brings Isaiah 43:1 as proof to this and dedicated rabbinical students of the Jewish Theo- every step of the way their paths were blocked by not exhaustively so, idea, when Yaakov is associated with “bri- logical Seminary who, during the Holocaust, actively indifference and shear obstinacy. Those that could and the theory re- ah” (creating a physical world from noth- fermented public opposition to Nazi tyranny within have helped oppose the Nazi machine refused to do mains inconclusive. ing), while Yisrael is connected to “y’tzirah” the Jewish community. These three students were so and millions were murdered. In the book, names The (utilizing materials to create a higher form). Jerome Lipnick, Buddy Sacks and Noah Golinkin. are named, events are detailed, and the blame is cast. (Taanit 5b) makes This also explains the fi rst two verses of Given my personal friendship with Dr. Golinkin this History has a way of serving as a model for future the bold claim that the parsha. “Yaakov lived… and the days brief review of this excellent work will focus upon his activity. Noah Golinkin and his cohorts were an ef- “Yaakov avinu lo of Yaakov were 147…” because this refers father’s activities. fective inspiration for the student struggle that took met — Yaakov our to his physical life. But “the days of Yisrael Noah Golinkin arrived place in the 1960s on behalf of the Jews trapped in Rabbi Avi Billet forefather did not came closer to their end” because the end on these shores in 1938, a Communist Russia. It was to be American students, die.” The premise of the physical life is the beginning of the step ahead of the oncoming this time led by a charismatic Birnbaum, who of this statement is soul’s journey through the World to Come. Holocaust. He attended the reset the agenda of American Jewish leadership. And that while different This is why the focus of his death utilizes Jewish Theological Seminary this time, through their determined and focused ef- terms refer to the end of his life, the term the name Yisrael. and eventually entered the fort, the students succeeded where their predecessors “mitah,” which would refer to death, does Abravanel also mentions that the name American rabbinate where had failed. As irony would have it, Noah Golinkin, not appear when the Torah talks about his Yaakov becomes secondary while Yisrael he served, with distinction, this time as a congregational rabbi, was to play a very death. becomes the more important name. But in for six decades. Nevertheless, active role in this struggle too, by participating with If we look carefully at the appearance his interpretation, the Talmudic statement there was to be two years that his congregants in many protests on behalf of Soviet of Yaakov in Parshat Vaychi, an interesting that “Yaakov did not die” means that when defi ned the parameters of his Jewry. point emerges. “Yaakov” remains a symbol he was given the name Yisrael, the Yaakov Alan Jay Gerber moral compass for all time: This time the results for both the activities and of strength — recall it was Yaakov who component of his existence was not buried his battle against tyranny and their outcomes would witness a success that would struggled with Lavan, and later with the — as was Avram when his name changed injustice. dazzle the world, leading ultimately to the fall of the angel who changed his name after their to Avraham. The accounts in the book Soviet Empire in Europe through peaceful means, encounter. “Yisrael,” on the other hand, is In a morose twist, we can certainly take about young Noah Golinkin go into great detail de- and the complete liberation of the Jews long held the side of him that puts his house in order. the message that death brings with it the scribing the horrid and derelict leadership of the captive there. While Yaakov lived in for 17 years, beginning of spiritual ecstasy. American Jewish community during that era. The Jacob Birnbaum’s legacy was detailed in the Yisrael is the one who is getting ready to But as we are still living, we can instead leadership sought to downplay the murder of Euro- spring 2004 issue of Azure in an article titled, “Jacob die. Yisrael’s eyes are getting old and weak. embrace the two aspects of Yaakov’s exis- pean Jewry by deliberate misinforming the Ameri- Birnbaum and the Struggle for Soviet Jewry,” written Yisrael blesses Yosef, Yosef’s sons, and later tence. Sometimes we live with our focus can Jewish public. In their small yet determined by journalist Yossi Klein Halevi. This essay deserves his own sons (Yaakov calls them together, on the physical world. Sometimes we focus way Noah and his two rabbinic colleagues launched your attention.Taken together with the book, you will but Yisrael blesses them). Even when the our entire essence in spiritual pursuits. This a movement to counter the conspiracy of silence by get a clear and accurate picture as to what students Torah describes the end of his life, we are is the challenge every Jews faces daily, and informing students at other theological seminaries, can do to fi ght hate, murder and tyranny. told “Yaakov concluded his instructions, the balance of the two is what our lives are such as Yeshiva College, the Jewish Institute of Reli- In this effort to preserve this history much credit drew his feet onto the bed, breathed his last all about. In the real world, we are Yaakov gion and several Christian seminaries, of the true na- is due to The David Wyman Institute, The Schech- and was gathered to his people.” (49:33) and we must take care that Yaakov does ture of the Holocaust playing out in war-torn Europe. ter Institute of Jewish Studies in Jerusalem and the Yosef begins his mourning and instructs not die. At the same time, it is Yaakov that This student-based movement faced a determined Targum Shlishi Rubin Foundation for producing this his servants and physicians to embalm his must fuel our spiritual side of Yisrael. That opposition by those that believed silence would be a valuable research. It is my hope that a new genera- father, and “the physicians embalmed Yis- is what will ultimately bring us to heavenly more effective means in the battle against Nazism. tion of students will learn and act accordingly. rael.” Perhaps this is the meaning of the spiritual bliss.

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I believe in the short term the most distinct possibility. run, the Israeli defense establishment realized effective thing to do is carefully marginalize Michael Orbach: Why is Hezbollah is so MO: Was the second Lebanon War a vic- a lot of dangerous mistakes and engaged in vi- Hezbollah in the Arab world and put it in the dangerous? tory for Israel? tal reform that have now made Israel safer and place it did this August during the border in- Thanassis Cambanis: I’m torn between feel- TS: That’s something people tell me when restored its deterrent power and military ma- cident when an Israeli offi cer was murdered ing like I’m exaggerating or that people are not I go out and give talks, but the simple bottom neuver capacity. That doesn’t make it a victory, by a sniper from the Lebanese side. This was realizing what’s scary about Hezbollah. What I line is that in terms of war, Israel had a series if that’s true it makes it a lesson well-learned. a great example of putting Hezbollah on the have emphasized and what I found exception- of stated war aims, including the elimination of MO: How can Israel defeat Hezbollah? defensive. Hezbollah wanted an excuse to have able is how compelling their idea is for their Hezbollah rockets, and it accomplished none. TS: It can’t. The question is, can it contain another war and the best thing Israel can do is own followers and their audience — that gives Hezbollah had a series of war demands and it the threat posed by Hezbollah? Whatever hap- force them to attack fi rst, because in the long them their political momentum. We focus too achieved them. In terms of who won and who pens Hezbollah will still exist and be a major run that discredits Hezbollah with its followers. much on terrorist attack spectacles and we don’t pay attention to where the rest of the THE JEWISH STAR THE JEWISH 5771 10 TEVET 2010 17, December world is in terms of thinking and their views of America and Israel. When I say that Hezbollah This year Chai Lifeline will touch the lives of more than 4,300 sick children and families around the corner and across the globe. is the most dangerous group out there, it isn’t Become a partner. See how much more we can do together. necessarily because they’re going to kill the most people in the next year or in the next fi ve years, but unlike Al Qaeda, they are going to be a growing and vital part of our landscape and nothing we do can make them smaller or less Please join us for a very infl uential. That’s why I say they are far more special evening that dangerous than the threats of the day we speak about. brings hope and help to MO: Why are they such a threat to Israel? CHAI LIFELINE’S TS: The reason why they are the most im- portant threat to Israel, in my view, is they children and families are convinced that Israel can be defeated by force. This is an old idea that was somewhat around the world. discredited by the 1967 war and many people in the governments in the region that did not like Israel fi gured they would have to accept the Jewish state in years of their midst, re- 25 gardless of how they felt. From Israel’s point of view, this looked like progress. Hezbollah has worked for three 255 decades to put back into circu- lation the notion that resistance against Israel can work. This is not INAUGURAL LEGACY AWARD CHAI HERITAGE AWARD HAKARAS HATOV AWARD KETER SHEM TOV AWARD symbolic resistance; this is real military resis- DRS. PETER & LAUREL BRUCE & SANDY MOSHE & DEVORY DOUGLAS tance whose organizers believe this can lead to STEINHERZ LILKER BENENFELD SOCLOF a military victory. From Israel’s perspective this is very very dangerous. It not only creates a lit- eral military threat, but it creates a whole new MEMORIAL TRIBUTE TO wave of momentum for individuals and mili- REANA GREENFIELD ESTABLISHING THE CHAI LIFELINE tant factions and down the road, governments, REANA GREENFIELD who will believe that with adequate resources CHESED FUND 2 0 1 0 TRIBUTE DINNER and perseverance they can end the presence of the Jewish state in the Mid-East. MO: What about the organization makes it so effective? TUESDAY, DECEMBER 21, 2010 TS: Compelling ideas and unlimited re- sources. What the West is missing is the com- pelling idea. Hezbollah has got this two-word DINNER CHAIRS DINNER CHAIRMAN MARRIOTT YEHUDA & NURIT MOSHE message: Islamic Resistance. 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THE JEWISH STAR THE JEWISH 5771 10 TEVET 2010 17, December After only being you think that tichels look beautiful. That’s weeks later with a small box from Amazon. open for a week, very good. I’m happy to hear that you are “Watch out for fl y paper,” he warned as his the Levi Yitzchak wearing something that you think looks wife opened her new pair of trendy shades. Library already good. And here I would say, “To heck with So again, you can be comfy as long as you what your friends say!” If you feel comfort- also like the look and feel beautiful in what has over 1,240 you are wearing. members and over able and beautiful, then it’s a winner in my book. (Plus, I love the gypsy/moshav look.) Your letter is somewhat related to another 700 books have Now on to snoods. So, according to you, letter that I had received a few months ago. been borrowed. some are ugly and some are pretty. The ques- Someone had written regarding my column The library is open tion begs: Which ones are you wearing? I that was about a religious restaurant worker on Sundays from hope your answer is “The pretty ones, duh!” who fl irts with a sheitel-wearing married 11-5, Mondays for And now, I hope you donate the ugly ones woman. The reader’s feeling was that it was groups and special that you own and vow to stop buying things likely that the woman was provoking this programs, Tuesday that you think are ugly. Why? Because if you inappropriate behavior by dressing too pro- - Thursday from are wearing something that you think is ugly vocatively, particularly “due to [the sheitel’s] (even if the comfort level far outweighs the impossibly long lush look that almost no one 11-7, and closed Fri- can achieve naturally.” Now, I think that this days in the winter. look factor), you will begin to associate your- self with this ugly item. And if your friends reader is playing a very dangerous game of For more informa- think your ugly snood actually is pretty, you “blame the victim”. And I defi nitely don’t rec- tion please visit still should not be wearing it if you think it’s ommend participating in such sport. What I our website: www. ugly. Our outsides affect our insides. If the do recommend is for us all to just check-in lylibrary.org. worth of your snood equals ugly, then your with ourselves. Do we look better at work self-worth wouldn’t lag that far behind. than we do when we reunite with our spouse And the opposite is true as well. If you are back at home? Yes, we are supposed to be wearing something that you deem beauti- comfortable in the secure environment of our ful, it will be mirrored by how you feel when home. But if a neighbor dropped by, would you wear it. And this is still true even if your we be mortifi ed by our frizz and smelly PJs? friends say that it is ugly. After we unwind, it is very important for Oh, and before I move on, I just have to both spouses to make an effort to look in a ask: Is it your husband who is telling you that way that would, dare I say, impress the other. these things are ugly? And if he is the one Otherwise you are exposed to well-dressed who is expressing it, does he go the next step associates and strangers outside of the house and tell you that you cannot wear them? I and you are consistently greeted at home by hope this is not the case, because that would a rumpled, disheveled mate. Hmm…without worry me greatly. If your husband tells you morals, what do you think this is a recipe for? that he doesn’t like something, (or even hates As for my moral: Buy things that look something), that is fi ne. As long as he doesn’t pretty to you. And save the prettiest things personally attack you (“You’re so ugly in that for after work. shirt. You look like a cow.”), or force you not -Aviva to wear it (“If you wear that, I am not going out with you tonight.”). If he respectfully lets Aviva Rizel is a Marriage and Family Ther- you know that he’s not into a particular ar- apist in private practice who can be reached at ticle, it would behoove you to shy away from [email protected]. that item on days when you will be spending

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Bernie Madoff the abuser? December 17, 2010 10 TEVET 5771 wo years to the day that Bernard Madoff cades and they suffer these symptoms of abuse was arrested for his decades long, billion- now. T dollar Ponzi scheme, Mark, one of his two Abusers develop a sense of invincibility. sons committed suicide. This was not the fi rst People who physically, emotionally or sexually person Madoff destroyed — according to the abuse do not target only one person or only New York Post at least three others affected by one type of person. It is a well-known fact that Madoff committed suicide — and Mark is not abusers tend to abuse as many as 50 or more likely the last. The lives Bernie Madoff shat- people over the course of time that they are tered number in the thousands. Many very active. Abusers grow to believe that they will smart people who invested in Madoff funds never be caught. Bernie Madoff followed this lost all their money, some lost their retirement pattern as well with the thousands of individu- funds, some their homes als and hundreds of organizations and funds and some their entire that he defrauded. IN MY VIEW fi nancial future. There Bernie’s older son turned his father in to the are Madoff investors authorities. A reasonable conjecture as to why who have had their lives his son who may have prospered off of their fa- courtesy of Yeshiva University terribly disrupted from ther’s thievery reported Bernie to the SEC may broken hearts and now have something to do with the pattern of abuse. Sephardic Chief Rabbi visits YU it is becoming clear that At some point people who are abused often put Rabbi Shlomo Amar, the Sephardi Chief Rabbi of Israel, paid a visit some are losing their a stop to their abuser. They walk away from to Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary (RIETS), an affi liate of Ye- lives. the abuse or assertively demand that it stop. shiva University on December 9, the last day of Chanukah. The chief rabbi, A distant relative of Perhaps that is what Mark did with his father. also known as the Rishon LeZion, delivered a shiur [lecture] to RIETS stu- mine recently passed He told him that he had to stop the abuse and dents, met with various roshei yeshiva and members of the YU faculty and away. He, an individual then took action to make sure that he did stop. in his 80s had been a Unfortunately, the abused person carries the administration, and held a private question and answer session with - healthy, active working sequalea of the abuse, sometimes for the rest bers of the RIETS Kollel Elyon. Above, Rabbi Amar meeting with Rabbi Dr. Michael J. man until the scheme of their lives. The pain of the abuse does not Norman Lamm, the Chancellor at Yeshiva University. Below, Rabbi Amar Salamon, Ph.D. took all his and his cli- go away without professional care and is often held a question and answer session with the RIETS Kollel Elyon. ents’ money. For over a exhibited by acts of self harm, the penultimate year he actively fought of which is suicide. Mark Madoff was but one to return some of the funds and go on with his of the survivors of his father’s overwhelmingly life. Three days after his cardiologist told him abusive con but he did not survive the results that he was physically well he passed away. Ac- of that abuse on his emotional well-being. He, cording to his physician it was due to a broken like others, died as a result. heart. Dr. Salamon, a Fellow of the American - The person who turned Bernie Madoff in to chological Association, is the founder and direc- the authorities in 2009 was his elder son Mark, tor of the ADC Psychological Services, PLLC in the same son who was found hanging from a Hewlett, NY and a Board member of The Aware- dog leash. Mark was not the subject of a crimi- ness Center. He is the author of numerous articles nal investigation nor was he considered a sus- and several psychological tests. His recent books pect in devising or carrying out the largest fi - include, The Shidduch Crisis: Causes and Cures, nancial scam in United States history. Although published by Urim Publications and Every Pot both he and his brother were named in civil Has a Cover: A Proven Guide to Finding, Keeping suits because they allegedly profi ted from their and Enhancing the Ideal Relationship, published father’s fi nancial sins no rulings were expect- by Rowman & Littlefi eld. ed. Many are speculating about Mark Madoff’s motivation to follow through with so horrible an act of desperation but one thing seems clear — Mark was more ethical than his father and simply could not live with the shame that his father brought to the family name. There is one additional factor that may have acted as a very powerful motivator for Mark: revenge. Bernard Madoff abused many people by stealing their money and violating some of the basic rules of trust in the fi nancial industry. There is, however, no clear evidence that Ber- nard Madoff was an abusive parent except for the self-destructive actions of his son. He may not have hit his sons, not even verbally abused them, but by setting so poor an example of ba- sic humanity Bernie set his sons up for a life- time of fear, neglect and even abuse. There are different types of abuse most of them silent, hidden from the public, but not from those around the abuser. There are pat- terns that abusers follow and some can be found in Bernie Madoff. Bernie met with many investors and wooed them with the promise of a return on their investments that could never be expected. Like children who are abused they wanted to believe their abuser and basked in the false quarterly reports he manufactured. He groomed them as an abuser would, to trust him with their private fi nancial goals and he battered that trust, using their money for his own benefi t. People who are abused lose their sense of confi dence, they become depressed and anxious, can’t sleep, lose their desire to socialize and they even abuse themselves. The Madoff fund did this silently to people for de- 12 December 17, 2010 10 TEVET 5771 THE JEWISH STAR tures fromitt t t by of Rabbi Ahar Rabbi MichaelBr Rabbi A Opinion w is r er widespr

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When Harry sued Sally December 17, 2010 10 TEVET 5771 he following legal question was presented connected to the offer Sally made. real pain will be measured in terms of how his derful child-like excitement and passion for life in law school. Sally offers $5,000 for a rare So how much does Sally owe Harry? One victims and how Madoff’s family will ultimate- and . T collection of 10 books. Harry, unaware of could argue that $5,000 divided by 10 volumes ly be able to survive. What he has given us cannot be reduced to her offer, gives her nine of those books as a is $500 per volume. Therefore Sally owes Harry I didn’t imagine that the pain would culmi- writing. Maybe one day I’ll write a set of 10 pre- present. Harry then fi nds out about her $5,000 only 500 for the 10th and fi nal book. No pay- nate in Mark Madoff killing himself, cheating cious volumes about him, but in the meantime, offer and tracks down the 10th volume and de- ment would be due for the fi rst nine volumes his children who invested in their future with I’ll refl ect and replay the over 50 years of mem- mands the fee. Sally refuses to pay. If Harry because Harry was unaware of any payment of- him. Life became so unbearable for Madoff that ories of him walking to and fro in Ohio on Rosh would sue Sally what fer for the books when he initially acted. Such a there were no previous volumes. There was no Hashanah to make sure those who couldn’t would the outcome be? ruling would be in accordance with fundamen- value to any of his life. There was no set unless make it to shul could hear the shofar. I’ll refl ect FROM THE OTHER The general law of tal precepts of contract law. all 10 volumes were accounted for, unless all in and replay memories of Shabbos and Yom Tov. SIDE OF THE contracts provides that On the other hand, one could argue that his life was okay. He couldn’t separate the plea- I’ll refl ect and replay the sporting events he took BENCH one cannot legally ac- nine volumes are worthless and have no value sure that his children provided him from the us to, the drive-in movies on Saturday nights cept an offer that he until the 10th volume is included. Analyzed that pain that his father caused him. What a shame. and the Jewish education he provided to us by does not know exists. way, Sally would owe Harry the full $5,000 as What a tragedy. working nights and weekends. Since Harry delivered the meaningful action on Harry’s part occurred We all know people that are suffering and I’ll refl ect and replay over 50 years of memo- the books without only after he became aware of the $5,000 of- we can’t stand idly by as their pain envelopes ries of my father fi nding the humor in every- knowledge of the offer, fer. Until the last volume was supplied, the indi- them. I see it sometimes in the personal injury thing because he knew that one smile and one he cannot receive the vidual books had no value. The totality of their cases that I deal with, sometimes in the busi- laugh could change a person’s life payment. Similarly, if value was only realized after Harry became ness law cases that I handle, but most often in For the time being, I’ll refl ect and internalize one provides informa- aware of the contractual offer, which was an the divorce cases. There are far too many divor- what I believe to be the most profound lesson tion regarding a crime offer he accepted. Nine books are worth nada cees in our neighborhood and children whose my father instilled in me and my siblings: nice without knowing of a and the set of 10, and only all 10 together, are ability to smile has been lost. Reaching out to guys don’t fi nish last. Rather, nice guys, nice reward that has been of- worth $5,000. them could literally redirect, if not save, a life. men and nice fathers fi nish for themselves and fered for such informa- And while the above analysis works for rare On the opposite end of the spectrum is the fi nish for others. I’ll open my eyes and thank tion, he is out of luck. books, that’s not how we view life. We do not recognition of those that have provided endless him for providing our family with a complete David Seidemann The aforementioned say if part is bad, all is bad. We do not live by years of joy and security. set of the books of life, all the precious volumes scenario with Harry and the credo that one bad apple spoils the whole This coming Sunday, my seven siblings and of the greatest gift, a family. Sally however is a bit dif- bunch. We must compartmentalize and woe is our spouses, children and grandchildren, will ferent and a bit nuanced. In our case, Harry did man when things are so bad that he can’t; when converge in New Jersey and celebrate my fa- David Seidemann is a partner with the law not know of the offer when he delivered the the pain has so overtaken the pleasure, that all ther’s 83rd birthday. There is a custom in our fi rm of Seidemann & Mermelstein. He can be fi rst nine volumes of the treasured books. But one feels is pain. heritage to make a second bar mitzvah for a reached at (718) 692-1013 and at ds@lawof- he did know of the offer and was spurred into To be sure, Bernie Madoff caused a lot of man when he turns 83, 13 years after his 70th fi cesm.com action after acquiring knowledge of the offer. pain. When the story broke two years ago, I re- birthday. In my father’s case it is so appropriate The delivery of the 10th volume was directly marked that the real pain is years away. The because, in many ways, he still exudes a won-

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Just today, someone on the radio wished played one day last week and I quickly had to More informative than December 17, 2010 10 TEVET 5771 the front man of a particular band a happy text my friend who was at work that it was birthday as he turned 35. “I think that’s con- on the radio. “Billy Jean” had even been on sidered middle age, right?” The DJ asked, as earlier in the day. I even got to “Wake Me Up he laughed like a hyena at his own witty re- Before You Go-Go” before the day had been a trip to the mikva mark. Ouch, I said to myself. That’s harsh. over. That was a great day to sing out loud in If that’s middle age, then I guess my AARP my car at the top of my lungs. membership card should be arriving any day I did not own a “Frankie Says Relax” t- now. shirt and I did not have big, teased hair. I did “Intelligent Radio stations have changed over the dream of being Jo on “The Facts of Life” and talk radio” years. When I was in high school, I listened wished I had a yellow Sony Sports walkman. Alan Dershowitz “A heck of a religiously to 92.7 FM, WDRE, which was an I was not allowed to watch “Family Feud.” I good show” 334554 alternative rock station. Alphaville, Depeche owned a neon sweatshirt and had two pairs Ed Koch Mode, The Cure and Erasure were all part of of Jordache jeans, which are now being sold my repertoire. Then I came home after va- as vintage. I would have loved to lunch with “I’m watching the cation one year to fi nd that the station had Abe Froman, the sausage king of Chicago. Zev Brenner show” gone Latino. As I adjusted the knob in the Molly Ringwald was pretty in pink and we Jackie Mason car a couple more times (yes, you heard right all felt the need —– the need for speed. I re- — adjusted the knob), I realized that it was member the ’84 summer Olympics and too not a bad dream: as if without warning, my many guys thought they could dance like station was gone. Kevin Bacon. Being a child of the 80s was The 80s were good — maybe not for fash- not a bad thing and now my Keds are even Saturday Night 12 Midnight-2 AM WMCA 570 AM Mon-Thurs 9-10 PM WSNR 620 AM ion, but they were for music. Listening to back in style. Who knew? Radio Sunday 11 PM-Midnight WRNN Ch. 48 Metro NY (Cablevision Ch. 19 (LI Ch. 48), Time Warner Ch. 91, 80s music now seems like a guilty pleasure. At a school Chanukah chagiga at the RCN Ch. 16, Direct TV Ch. 62, Dish TV Ch. 8116) It’s okay to admit you like it — the Broad- home of one of her teachers, my daughter Sunday 9-10 PM, 11 PM-Midnight, 1-2 AM JLTV Nationwide (Time Warner NY Ch. 120, Time Warner S. CA (incl. LA) Ch. 177, Direct TV Ch. 36, way musical “Rock of Ages” is such a success and her fellow seventh grade girls partici- Comcast Cable of S. Florida Ch. 239 TV Sunday 9-10 AM & 3-4 PM Time Warner Manhattan because you and I are not alone. There are pated in a grab bag. Before one of the girls Ch. 35 Friday 11AM-12 Noon Time Warner Manhattan plenty of others like us. I took my daughter was allowed to stick her hand in the bag and Catch more Ch. 35 to a Journey concert last year and I told my pull out a gift, she had to share something TCN brother-in-law about it. Knowing my monog- about herself that no one of barely anyone programming amous relationship with classic rock, he was else knew. One by one, the girls shared dif- Weeknights...... 7 PM - 1 AM Friday ...... 8 AM-12 noon Listen online anytime: www.talklinecommunications.com shocked. “YOU took her to a Journeys con- ferent details and nothing was that exciting on Time Warner Man. Saturday ...... 10 PM -3 AM www.Facebook.com/pages/Talkline-with-Zev-Brenner www.Twitter.com/TalkLineNetwork cert?” He asked. Um, no, I said. “Journey — until one girl got up and shared her intimate Sunday: ...... 2-5 PM not Journeys.” He was relieved. That made secret. Looking sheepishly at the ground, as much more sense. The world would once if too embarrassed to see anyone’s reaction, To advertise on Talkline with Zev Brenner, contact us at 212-769-1925, 866-JEWISH RADIO or e-mail [email protected] again return to spinning on its axis. she began her confession. As a kid, 101.1 WCBS-FM represented “Secretly,” she said in a barely audible in my mind very old fashioned music with voice, “I really like 80s music.” The room which I could never identify. I would not be broke out in laughter. MAKE YOUR MOMENT AT SOUTH SHORE PORSCHE caught dead even surfi ng through that chan- Don’t worry, honey. Girls just wanna have nel. Now I fi nd myself checking it out all the fun. † time — and knowing all of the music they play. Michael Jackson’s “Thriller” was being MLW WITH 1.9% APR FINANCING! 2010 Cayenne 2011 Panamera

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