First Baptist Church of Glenarden Women’s Ministry Volume 8, Issue 2 Special Edition
Magazine By Women for Women Grace
Turning ObstaclesInto Opportunities
Director Family Life Ministries Department & Women’s Ministry Group: First Lady Trina Jenkins
Editorial Director: Barbara Holt Streeter
Managing Editors: Magazine Keisha White and Gervonna Williams By Women for Women Department Writers: Jessica Davis, Mary Davisson Norma L.Day-Vines, Sade Dennis, Denita Johnson, Connie Pulliam, Michelle Singletary, Mildred Stokes, GraceFeatures Barbara Holt Streeter and Mia Waldron Contributing Writers: The Invisible Family...... 10 Ebonee Davis, Felicia Johnson, Stacey Mays Smith, Jackie Tilghman and Marion Ann Wright
When Your Major Becomes a Major Problem...... 16 Lead Copy Editor: Verna Smith
Copy Editors: Marguerite Brown and Overcoming Depression...... 22 LaLeeta Hackett-Taylor
Lead Editor: Marilyn Stackhouse
Editors: Latrice Davis, Cassandra Logan, Marilyn Mapp, Judy Mitchell, Gloria Nelson and Takea Norris
Departments Proofreaders: First Lady’s Touch...... 2 Mary Brown, Veronica Collins, Sandra Davis, Nicole Irby, Iris Perry and Add Your Money Wisely...... 3 Mia Waldron It’s Tea Time...... 4 Financial/Production Coordinator Relationships...... 7 Keisha White
Beauty From the Inside Out...... 8 Creative Director: Darlene Jones Powell Health...... 9 Entrepreneur...... 11 Photography FBCG Photography Ministry Youth/Young Adult...... 12 Darlene Jones Powell
Inspirational ...... 14 Photography Editor Parenting...... 15 Sade Dennis Hagar Ministry Outreach...... 19 Contact Grace at [email protected] Women’s Ministry Focus Studies...... 20 Ministry Statement: Grace Magazine is a Women’s Ministry at a Glance...... 21 lifestyle Christian women’s publication pro- duced by First Baptist Church of Glenarden’s Did You Know?...... 23 Women’s Ministry. The magazine features inspiring articles, ministry spotlights and information to empower women in every sea- son of their lives.
Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 1 Grace FIRST LADY’S
Turning Obstacles Into Opportunities
The one thing that is certain in our Christian walk is that as long as we live, there will be obstacles to overcome, challenges to face and hurdles to climb. We can be sure that every day problems will exist and will require every day solutions. Faith the size of a mustard seed, that when exercised with actions, has proven results.
In this special edition issue of Grace Magazine, we provide real-life examples of our sisters and brothers in Christ who are exercising their faith to tackle life’s issues and finding ways to turn obstacles into opportunities.
They are working through the issues of depression, learning how to live life or being unfulfilled because they aren’t working in their field. Each of them has his or her own experience. Some of them are overcomers and others are working around their roadblocks.
The success stories from women who have survived breast cancer, the death of a husband, the journey as a teenage mom and overcoming low self-esteem should provide hope for you to show that God’s unconditional love never fails.
You will gather tips on managing teen pregnancy and setting balance and boundar- ies with children who are obsessed with texting and social media. You will also see what it takes to prevail as a parent of a child with mental or medical challenges and why we should always consider their needs for inclusion.
We must remember that God is in the midst of every situation. Even though we may stumble, trip and sometimes fall, He is always there. However, we must execute our power to move mountains, to choose the right path to divert danger, to steer the other way from oncoming trouble or to face the problems head on.
Don’t let obstacles weigh you down. Live life a bit lighter by turning them into opportunities!
First Lady Trina Jenkins
2 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace ADD YOUR MONEY WISELY Campus Debit Cards Can Carry Downsides
By Michelle Singletary
I like debit cards. They are better in ❒ One bank charges a $28 overdraft are virtually free to use,” the report many ways than credit cards, but you fee for each day an account is says. can still quickly get into trouble if overdrawn, for up to 14 days. you’re not careful. Now comes word Students can often opt to have their that college students get debit cards ❒ Students using prepaid debit cards financial aid directly deposited into an through their school’s partnerships can be charged for reloading or account not affiliated with a financial with financial companies and are pay- depositing money on the cards at institution working with their college. ing numerous fees as a result. Some- ATMs. At one school, the reload They can get a paper check. But iner- times these fees eat into their financial fee is $4.95. tia and heavy marketing by the finan- aid. cial companies often result in students ❒ One company charges students 50 choosing the cards being pushed under Consumer advocates have long cents if they swipe a card with a the college-backed partnerships. criticized the amount of fees associ- MasterCard logo, choose the debit ated with debit cards. Most recently, a option and enter their personal “Students are not necessarily mak- report by the U.S. Public Interest Re- identification number. They don’t ing their financial choices freely,” the search Group Education Fund found get charged the fee if they use the report says. “When the college has that hundreds of colleges have part- credit option and sign the receipt. selected a student ID vendor that ‘in- nerships with financial companies to This type of fee has been par- cidentally’ offers additional banking put a student’s financial aid on debit ticularly controversial. Students services on the college-mascot-embel- or prepaid cards that carry hefty fees. at Portland State University and lished card, the student’s choices are Under some of these deals, official Southern Oregon University pro- limited and the student is under the student photo ID cards can double as tested the fee and had it removed. presumption that the college endorses debit cards. the provider.” ❒ Under one deal, a student debit U.S. PIRG said it has found almost cardholder can be charged a $10 These deals, many of which are not 900 card partnerships between colleg- fee if another person tries to load publicly disclosed, raise questions that es and banks or other financial compa- money onto the student’s card demand answers. If students are getting nies. Many of the schools have experi- electronically but the transaction precious grant aid or loans loaded on enced major cutbacks in state funding, is canceled because the other per- to their debit cards, they shouldn’t be so the deals bring in needed funds. It son’s bank account has insufficient nickel-and-dimed to death with fees. can also help the school reduce the funds. cost of distributing financial aid to stu- U.S. PIRG recommends that students dents by outsourcing that service. But ❒ Students can be assessed a fee be presented with options to receive fi- the arrangements aren’t always in the when they check their balance at nancial aid. They should also be able to best interest of students, said Rich Wil- an ATM. One institution charges easily opt out of the university-spon- liams, co-author of the report and high- 60 cents per inquiry. This does sored debit-card program through the er-education advocate for U.S. PIRG. not include charges potentially as- campus itself, rather than having to go sessed by the ATM owner. to a website or through other hurdles. “Campus debit cards are wolves in sheep’s clothing,” Williams said. “Stu- “Supporters of the fee structures on I see another investigation for the dents think they can access their dol- these campus card products insist fees Consumer Financial Protection Bu- lars freely, but instead their aid is being are a natural consequence of electronic reau. Although debit cards help make eaten up in fees.” banking. However, students can easily getting money easier, we need to make find checking accounts available to the sure students, many new to banking, Let’s look at some of the fees high- general public in the marketplace that aren’t paying more than they need to lighted by the report: access to their money. |G| Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 3 Grace Turning Obstacles into Opportunities
By Mary Davisson
What does it mean to be great? In and given six months or less to live, I Dr. Owens: I learned to trust in God pondering this question and reflecting saw it as an obstacle. But quickly I be- for everything and to appreciate life on men and women who’ve become gan to see it as an opportunity. more. I also grew tremendously in my great, I have discovered that they aren’t faith. really extraordinary people. Instead, Goodwyn: Little did I know, I was they are merely people who've made about to experience a life-changing Minister Lassiter: I’ve learned that extraordinary choices when faced with obstacle concerning my beloved moth- ‘life’ happens to everyone and Chris- mounting opposition. er. As I sat next to my mom’s hospital tians are not exempt. The trials, which bed and laid my head on her lap, she are the most devastating to us, serve a Grace asked five amazing women took her last breath. Moments after she significant role in our spiritual growth Linda Baldwin, 53; Trudie Bennett, passed, I was hit with indescribable and confirm that our faith in God is 47; Monica J. Goodwyn, 49; Min- feelings of true loneliness and sadness. genuine. ister Veronica Lassiter, 48; Carolyn How could I survive without someone O’Bryant, 44; and Dr. Celeste Owens, who was the core of who I was? She Bennett: With no means of income to 41, to share with us how they turned had been there for me. Now she was support my family and little to no help life-changing obstacles into remark- gone! from family and friends, I learned how able opportunities. Their testimonies to depend on God for strength and to illustrate how they could have allowed O’Bryant: My obstacle was I was at endure the grueling, long days ahead. their circumstance to become a stum- the height of my career (making six I remember going to bed each night bling block. However, they chose to figures), financially stable and actively praying for God to give me the ability seize the moment and use their “obsta- involved in ministry. Then I found out to endure just one more day. cle” as an opportunity to become great, that I was pregnant again, but this time phenomenal women. with twins after having an abortion Goodwyn: I learned that I was not five months earlier. alone. Despite my situation and my Grace: Ladies, take us back to that hardened heart, God was able to reach moment when you faced a tremen- Minister Lassiter: I initially viewed me. This was a life-changing moment dous challenge, perhaps a “do-or- my situation as an opportunity. Even as for me. As I opened my heart, God die” situation. Did you initially see my marriage continued to spiral down- gave me a sense of peace and comfort it as an obstacle or an opportunity? ward, I remained hopeful that it would I had not known. survive. The question I kept asking my- Dr. Owens: In 2007, I was diagnosed self was, ‘How did I get here?’ When I Baldwin: The main lesson for me was with breast cancer. The initial call from entered into holy matrimony, my inten- that I was in spiritual warfare. Some- the doctor explaining my diagnosis was tions were sincere and I was prepared times it isn’t people we fight; it’s the a shock. I was only 37 with no family to do the work to sustain my marriage. spirit behind the person orchestrating history of breast cancer. Thankfully, I Despite the circumstances, I remained the events. Pastor’s [John K. Jenkins have a mother who knows how to hear hopeful and stayed in the face of God. Sr.] spiritual warfare sermons were in- from God. Shortly after my diagno- I even refrained from sharing intimate strumental in helping me in this pro- sis, she prophesied, ʻThis is not unto details of my situation, because I be- cess. death.ʼ From that moment on, I saw lieved at some point things would turn my situation as an opportunity to be around. O’Bryant: What’s done in the dark a witness to the doctors, nurses, other will come to light. The choices we patients, family members and friends. Grace: What was one of the lessons make that we think we can hide will learned during this time? come full circle. Bennett: Initially, when my husband was diagnosed with a terminal illness
4 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace Tea Time
Bennett: Failure was not an option for me. My husband had been a wonder- ful, loving and supportive husband, and an excellent father to our children. My heart would not let me abandon him. How would my two sons view me? Failure was certainly not an op- tion for me.
Goodwyn: Although I sank into a deep depression and my life continued to spiral downward, the only thing I had to hold onto was my faith and my spiri- tual upbringing. All I can say is, ‘God kept me so I wouldn’t let go.’ I came to know God and His voice like never be- fore. He was there to fill the void that I had reserved for others. Failure and defeat were NOT an option!
Baldwin: I made up in my mind to not let the enemy win.
O’Bryant: I decided to face my chal- lenges head-on by embracing the fact that God is forgiving and gives second Standing left to right: Monica Goodwyn, Linda Baldwin, Carolyn O'Bryant and chances. I believe God gave me an- Trudie Bennett. Sitting left to right: Dr. Celeste Owens, Mary Davisson and Minis- other opportunity by blessing me with ter Veronica Lassister. twins.
Grace: As a result of this experi- Grace: “Never let failure become Minister Lassiter: For so long, the ence how have you changed and/or an option.” How does this saying tie idea of failing and being judged by matured? into you deciding to face your chal- others haunted me. As a result, I ar- lenge head-on? duously labored to do what I could Dr. Owens: From this experience, I for my marriage. Instead of it getting have grown in my faith. I can now say Dr. Owens: Failure for me would have better, it became worse. This is when I without a shadow of a doubt that with been to stop my life and wait until the decided to seek professional Christian God all things are possible! cancer was all gone. Had I done that, counseling regarding my situation. I would have missed the opportunity They provided a new perspective and Minister Lassiter: I have become to be a mouthpiece and vessel for God administered what was needed to heal more sensitive in how I minister and to use during that experience. Instead and move on. The spiritual care and in- of being depressed, which would have sight I received has released me from been my normal response, I willed my fears, and thus is enabling me to continued on next page myself to be grateful and thanked God move forward with Godʼs grace. anyhow. Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 5 Grace Tea Time continued from previous page
Carolyn O'Bryant Dr. Celeste Owens, Monica Goodwyn and Trudie Bennett
interact with others when they are go- tired of the lifestyle I was living and Baldwin: God, through Pastor’s ser- ing through a crises. realized that what I was longing for mons, spoke directly to my situation. could be found only in Christ. Through Sermons such as “How to Handle the Bennett: I don’t sweat the small stuff the teachings at First Baptist, I learned Bitter Waters of Life” and “Moving anymore. I know that God is able to that I must be content and not seek ful- Forward” (learning to forget my past; do more than we can imagine and that fillment in others. I am celibate now pursue God with passion). Also, so I there is nothing for which we can’t be- because I understand I must be an ex- wouldn’t waiver He gave me, “Don’t lieve God. ample to teens. Look Back” and “I Have the Victory.” I just needed to be still and listen. Goodwyn: He brought me from the Grace: Share your “aha moment,” weakest and lowest points in my life to when you saw God turning your sit- O’Bryant: When I became a youth where He is at the center of my life and uation around. advisor facilitating youth Bible study, all I do. I am also stronger in my faith a pregnant 15-year-old who was con- and now I have a true relationship with Dr. Owens: After my first round of templating abortion approached me. Him. That whisper that I’ve always chemotherapy, the tumor, which ini- Because I had experienced the effects heard in my head was my mother’s tially was six cm, shrank dramatically. of an abortion, I was able to share my voice. Now it’s God’s voice. I now live I remember the doctor’s surprise after story of why abortion was not an op- to please Him! examining me. I knew then, more than tion. That child is now six years of age. I had ever known before, that God was Baldwin: I realize that I can’t control in control. Grace: Tell us where you are now in anybody but myself. I had to learn to spite of what’s happened. love people right where they are and Bennett: After the death of my hus- not where I want them to be. My ma- band, God blessed me with a new Dr. Owens: I am stronger and wiser. turity, as a result, has made me become home, a new car and a much better job. In fact, I have written a book that chal- more humble. The people who had abandoned me lenges readers to give God 40 days and thought I had received a large insur- watch Him do the impossible. I am O’Bryant: I use to have low self- ance settlement. They didn’t know my also seeing the fulfillment of promises worth and I had searched for love in husband didn’t have a life insur-ance God made to me many years ago. all the wrong places. I went from one policy. It was God! There is nothing continued on page 17 relationship to another. One day I got like experiencing God for yourself! 6 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace relationships The Obstacle of Communication
By Jessica Davis
Are men really from Mars and wom- my husband while he is speaking is ex- en from Venus? Is it true that a man tremely disrespectful. Rolling my eyes sees things through a blue lens, but a while my husband is talking to me cer- woman's lens is pink? I love my hus- tainly communicates disrespect. band deeply, and there is no doubt in my mind that he is the man God cre- I must remember that I am in con- ated just for me. But the reality is that trol of my actions, not my husband. He he is a man and I am a woman, so does not make me raise my voice or sometimes it feels like we are just not point my finger; I do that on my own. speaking the same language. My intent is never to hurt my husband, so when my actions do not match my Dr. Deborah Tannen, professor of heart, it is worth me acknowledging linguistics at Georgetown University, that and making some changes. What has spent decades studying how we I am learning to do is, in the moment, communicate. She says, "There are now understand that it takes constant pray and ask God to take control. I ask different patterns of communication, and deliberate effort to communicate Him to remind me of the commitment and when those patterns clash, it can well. Consequently, we are committed I made to my husband and the reason I wreak havoc on our relationships." to working hard on improving our rela- made that commitment. tionship through effective communica- My husband and I have had our tion, since it is a vital component to a I made a commitment to my hus- share of breakdowns in communica- successful marriage. band because I believed it was God's tion. When the intensity of a conversa- plan for my life. When I take a step tion rises, there have been times when One of the most helpful books that back and realize the big picture is all it is difficult to rein ourselves in and we read together and often refer to is about God, not my husband or me, it is not let the conversation escalate to a "Love & Respect: The Love She Most much easier to let God take over. My place where all rules and biblical prin- Desires, The Respect He Desperately husband and I may struggle to commu- ciples go out the window. During our Needs" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. nicate effectively, and at times we may "intense fellowship," as Pastor John The book is based on a very familiar have difficulty loving and respecting K. Jenkins Sr. likes to call it, I have Scripture, "Nevertheless let each one one another, but our heart's desire is al- realized a few things often happen: I of you in particular so love his own ways to please God. So while intense am disrespectful, my husband is not wife as himself, and let the wife see fellowship is never where we want loving and both of us are not pleasing that she respects her husband" (Ephe- to go, we are learning to take those God. sians 5:33). conversations and turn them into op- portunities to bring us closer to God, Before we got married, my husband The most powerful lesson I learned which in turn brings us closer together. and I recognized that we did not com- from this book is that God commands It takes maturity to do that, but most of municate well during intense fellow- wives to respect their husbands. There- all it takes someone who is truly after ship. Because of that, we spent a lot of fore, when a conversation is rising to a God's own heart. time working on our communication. level it should not, I have discovered We found that reading books helped that I need to take a moment to exam- When my husband and I are commu- guide us and taught us how to commu- ine not just what I am saying but how nicating effectively and intentionally nicate better. Although we put a lot of I am saying it. Are my words demean- loving and respecting one another, we effort into finding ways to improve our ing or condescending? Is my body lan- communication, we still struggle. We guage off putting? Turning my back to continued on page 18
Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 7 Grace Beauty from the inside out — ENHANCE YOURS Triumphing Over Health Challenges Yet Still Feeling Beautiful
By Sade Dennis
Let’s face it, if you’ve been chal- to the emergency room where the doc- Treat Yourself lenged with health conditions at any tor treated my wounds with bandages. time in your life, feeling beautiful may I endured a very painful bruise for a It’s okay to treat and pamper your- have been difficult. Whether you suf- couple of weeks, however, every time self. Take the extra time to enjoy you! For instance, nourish your skin with fered from the flu, had a broken limb, I looked in the mirror and saw my scar, dealt with a chronic illness or a life- your favorite body moisturizer; paint it reminded me of the strength I had to threatening condition, feelings about your toes a new, chic color; or enjoy overcome. your inner and outer beauty could have a steaming cup of tea or coffee in a taken a hit. relaxing area. Try this: the next time you’re at the mall, go to the cosmetic Although women and men can have Embrace Your New “Normal” counter and ask for a makeover or go many of the health issues mentioned, to a perfume shop to purchase yourself Triumphing over health challenges it can affect women differently. This a gift. can sometimes mean that life as you is especially true when it comes to feeling beautiful. Maybe you were a knew it no longer exists. It’s important It is important to know that despite long-time smoker who quit. Perhaps to come to terms with your present sit- health challenges, you are still beau- you made a full recovery from a severe uation and create a new, enhanced life tiful. In fact, God Himself calls you stroke or have beaten cancer more than plan that will help bring peace back beautiful: “Listen, O daughter, consid- once. Although your health may have into your life. You may find that you er and incline your ear … so the King thrown you a curve ball, don’t let it gain an enhanced appreciation for life will greatly desire your beauty; be- hold you back from feeling beautiful. and true beauty. Your new outlook will cause He is your Lord, worship Him” (Psalm 45:10-11). The Word also says undoubtedly resonate throughout and " … the Lord does not see as man sees; will be visible to those around you. Realize That You Have Already for man looks at the outward appear- Made it Through Your Health ance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). Challenge Spend Time With Encouraging Let your recovery be a reminder that and Loving Friends and Family If you have triumphed over obstacles you are a woman of strength and resil- or are in the process of overcoming ience.The fact that you have endured a There’s nothing like spending quali- health challenges, you are still beau- health crises will not only be a remind- ty time with loved ones who have faith tiful inside and out. Life is what you er to you, but also inspiration to others. and speak life, not death. They remind make of it. If you purpose in your heart For example, I remember how devas- you of positive things and want you to and mind to feel beautiful and trust in tated I felt after getting into an accident know that you are truly beautiful. God’s Word, you will live your life to in which the entire left side of my face the fullest and in the most beautiful was hit by a wall beam. I drove myself way! |G|
8 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace Health Department Sun Safety: Fact vs. Myth
By Connie Pulliam
Well, before you take in the sun- Fact: Ethnic skin tones do need sun- Fact: Whenever exposed to the sun shine, have you brushed up on your screen. Although lighter or darker skin you should wear sunscreen. The sun is sun safety and sunscreen rules? There types may be at a lower risk of getting at its peak or most intense between 10 are so many stories about what to do skin cancer, this does not mean the risk a.m. and 3 p.m. Although the sun may and not do when it comes to sun ex- is not there. not be out and shining, there are rays posure. How does one determine what that are reaching our skin, so it is im- is fact or fiction for sun safety? Let’s Myth: As long as my skin is covered, I portant to apply sunscreen if you will look at the facts and myths about sun don’t need to worry. be out for a long period. safety and sunscreen. Fact: Although your skin is covered, Myth: Kids do not need sunscreen. Myth: I will only be out in the sun for the sun can damage your hair. Signs of a little while; I will not burn. damage could be dry and brittle hair. Fact: Sunscreen should be applied The color of your hair could begin to from ages six months and older. New- Fact: Everyone is different. There is fade. A hat should be worn to cover borns should be kept out of the sun as no absolute time one can be exposed the hair when exposed to the sun. If a much as possible. to the sun without experiencing sun hat can’t be worn, there are products damage. The rule of thumb should be geared to protect your hair from the Myth: Sunscreen only needs to be ap- if you are going to be out in the sun, sun. plied once. sunscreen should be applied to ex- posed skin at least 15 minutes prior to Myth: I don’t need sunscreen early in Fact: If your sunscreen is not water- exposure. the morning and late in the evening and/or sweat-proof, it must be reap- because the sun is not as hot during plied after the skin has been wet. Myth: Ethnic skin types do not need those times. sunscreen. Facts about sunscreen use and expo- sure to the sun:
It is important to use a broad-spec- trum sunscreen (protect against ultra- violet A and ultraviolet B rays) with a sun protection factor of 15 or higher every day. For extended outdoor activ- ity, use a water-resistant, broad-spec- trum (UVA/UVB) sunscreen with a SPF of 30 or higher.
According to the Cancer Treatment Centers of America, melanoma is a form of cancer that begins in mela- nocytes. These specialized skill cells produce the brown pigment known as melanin. Melanoma cancer accounts for approximately 5 percent of all skin cancers. The lifetime risk of develop-
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Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 9 Grace the Invisible By Jackie Tilghman family
“The ultimate measure of a man is physical/medical, intellectual develop- 4. It is important for parents to be an not where he stands in moments of mental and/or emotional disabilities advocate for your child's not only comfort and convenience, but where attending First Baptist and residing your child's medical details, but he stands at times of challenge and in the surrounding community for the information on resources, gov- controversy.” glory of God. ernment programs, educational and recreational opportunities. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. People with disabilities are individu- als with families, jobs, hobbies, likes Set up a support system of both spir- The daily reality of life for children and dislikes, as well as problems and itual and emotional support that con- with disabilities and their families is joys. While the disability can be an sists of family members, friends and frequently one of discrimination and integral part of who the person is, it clergy to help with day-to-day duties exclusion. The discrimination they en- alone does not define them. and unanticipated crises. Our undeni- dure is often direct, indirect or a com- able Creator is standing beside you bination of the two. Yet the barriers Let’s keep in mind that: this very moment. for He has said, “I they face are more frequently a result will never leave thee, nor forsake you” of the environment in which they live 1. Caring for a child is demanding (Hebrews 13:5). Remember that two than because of their impairment. Of- under any circumstances, but car- are better than one. God said it, so be- ten parents are faced with obstacles ing for one with special needs is lieve it! You are never ever alone. that are excluded from various activi- often difficult and demands more ties and events. than just time and patience. Encourage yourself in the Lord as David did! (1 Samuel 30:6) To be cast down by the world is one 2. Persons with disabilities them- thing, but we, the church, should em- selves are the experts – nobody If you are a person with a disability brace anyone with a disability with understands the impact of exclu- or know of person with a disability arms stretched wide. Recently, First sion better than those who experi- (regardless of age) who may need Baptist Church of Glenarden created ence it. special assistance to participate in the P.R.A.I.S.E. Ministry, under the church ministry and related activities, direction of Minister Sylvia Taylor, to 3. Children with no voice are vul- please contact Minister Sylvia Taylor at [email protected] or 301-773- facilitate the full inclusion of persons nerable to abuse, violence and exploitation since they have no 3600. Also, if you would like to serve as with disabilities into our church pro- a team member, your gift is needed. grams and services. The purpose is to means of challenging this oppres- serve all persons (birth to elderly) with sion.
10 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace entrepreneur More Than a PR Company
By Cathy E. Smith
“What would you say if you found PRProtocol. “I love to empower and yourself in an elevator with the head help entrepreneurs build their reputa- of a law firm for which you want to tion so they can see the best in them- work?” asked Barbara Holt Streeter to selves and move forward in their busi- a roomful of Howard University Law nesses.” School students. “You have 30 sec- onds, now sell yourself.” Holt Streeter, a former marketing company owner, has more than 15 Several students took turns coming years of public relations and protocol to the front of the room to demonstrate experience working for the govern- their “elevator pitch,” a succinct mes- ment, private industry and celebrity sage that they could give in the course artists. She recently returned to serve of an elevator ride. Though normally as community relations liaison for the articulate, several stuttered and stam- First Baptist Church of Glenarden. A mered when forced to speak without highlight of her career was working prepared remarks. However, by the in the role of protocol specialist. She Barbara Holt Streeter with President end of the hour-long session, several served at two events that featured Pres- Barack Obama and Vice President students had polished their pitch and idents Barack Obama and George W. Joe Biden. become more comfortable with selling Bush as the guest speakers. Her coun- themselves to a potential employer. sel has helped clients prepare for inter- be sure the person understands me. I The history of the “elevator pitch” was views with national media, shy people have been using her advice since that designed to teach individuals how to become confident and entrepreneurs event when speaking to people.” pitch/sell their idea to someone in 30 move forward in business ventures. seconds or the time of an elevator ride. Holt Streeter says lessons she learned This workshop helped law students Gabrielle Williams, an 11-year-old as a child have proved valuable in her think about how to handle unexpected entrepreneur, received an impromptu professional life. Her mother, always meetings that might occur at a net- coaching session from Holt Streeter a stickler for proper table etiquette, working event, in an interview or even at a networking event that convinced helped instill the importance of social in an elevator. the budding business owner to ap- graces. Her father, who never met a proach Cathy Hughes, owner of Radio stranger, showed her how kind words The workshop, which introduced 25 One. She encouraged Williams to give and a smile could help move moun- law students to some of the core assets Hughes one of her books and have her tains. “Those early experiences were necessary for the business world, is picture taken with her. Later, Hughes, invaluable and have shaped me into the just one of the many services offered who was the featured speaker for the woman I am today,” she said. by Holt Streeter’s company, The PR & event, acknowledged the youngster be- Protocol Group. The protocol and pub- fore a room of more than 200 business However, the public relations firm lic relations company provides servic- owners. is not her only business. Two years es that launch, build and maintain cli- ago, Holt Streeter launched a T-shirt ents’ images and reputations through Williams said: “Mrs. Barbara told line called “I AM…Validated.” The public relations, etiquette training, me how to approach Ms. Hughes — shirts, designed to help improve girls event management, one-on-one coach- make eye contact and extend my hand and women’s self-esteem, are imprint- ing and motivational speaking. for a hand shake. Whether talking to ed with a variety of different affirma- Hughes or anyone else, she advised me tions, including “I AM…Beautiful,” “I truly have a passion for people,” to always give a full-length response “I AM …Empowered by Grace” and said Holt Streeter, also known as Mrs. and, when engaging in conversation, continued on page 13
Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 11 Grace YOUTH/young adult Insight From Teen Moms
By Denita Johnson
Teenage pregnancy may be one of tention they are not getting at home to nancies if sex education programs are the most difficult experiences a young feel loved; and because their friends enforced. lady might ever face in life, especially are doing it and because they believe if it interrupts her academic career or it will bring them closer to that person. Grace: What programs or classes other future aspirations. Most teen- did you take to help you through age girls don't plan to get pregnant, but Brittany: Some feel more peer pres- your time of being a teen mom? many do. Pregnant teens often experi- sure while others do it because they ence a myriad of emotions, including think that's whatʼs in. And because Antionette: When I was a teen mom, shame, fear and the daunting stress of everyone is doing it, they think they they didn't have a lot of programs in breaking the news to their parents. should, too. Prince George's County to help teen moms. I had to take the advice my par- Antionette Benitez, 24, and Brittany Grace: What are some of the ways ents gave me as well as learn on my Naiden, 23, shared their experiences of that you had to deal with your new- own. becoming parents at an early age and found parenthood? how their lives changed. Both ladies Brittany: I really didn't take any class- received guidance and love when they Antionette: I hustled in order to get es. I had my family help me through it. were members of the Hagar Ministry my child what she needed. There was under the direction of Ms. Carolyn a time when I was working three jobs. Grace: Did you have any help or O'Bryant. I had to learn how to be responsible support from other sources? and accept that I couldn't do things that Grace: At what age did you become other 15 year olds were doing. Antionette: I had my parentsʼ support, a teen mom? but the more children I had, the harder Brittany: Giving up my teen life to it became. Antionette: I was 15 when I got preg- be a mom, not being able to go away nant. for school and doing other things that Brittany: Yes, my family, my men- teens did, I had to sacrifice a lot to be tor, Ms. Carolyn O’Bryant, director of Brittany: I was 17 when I became a a mom. the Hagar Ministry, and close friends teen mom. helped and supported me. I'm very Grace: Do you think having a com- grateful for that because a lot of people Grace: How did you deal with find- prehensive sex education program don't have that support system to back ing out you were pregnant? has some effect on teen pregnancy? them up and I'm glad I did.
Antionette: I dealt with my personal Antionette: I don't think sex educa- Grace: What positive things are you situation fine because the father was tion helps prevent pregnancy because doing in your life to keep you on supportive. regardless of what you know or have track of being a mom? learned, when you are in the moment, Brittany: I was shocked and surprised you are not thinking about that. Real- Antionette: I am a single mom of five that it happened. But I've accepted it, ity doesn't set in until you experience and I am working and studying to get and my parents dealt with the situation the consequence behind your action. my GED. By my senior year, I had as it came to us. three children, so I was never able to Brittany: Yes and no. Some teens will obtain a high school diploma. After I Grace: What are some of the reasons take heed, while others might be rebel- receive my GED, I want to go to school that teens have sex before marriage? lious and still want to do it. I think it to become a social worker. will help cut back on a lot of teen preg- Antionette: Teens have sex before marriage because they want male at- 12 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace Entrepreneur continued from page 11
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The T-shirts have been a platform for her to share her testimony of suf- fering from low self-esteem, which You have to work hard for what you want to achieve, because no caused her to feel ugly and search for one is going to give it to you, regardless of your situation. validation from men. Prayer and fast- ing helped lift her from those dark mo- Brittany: Focusing on doing for my- Brittany: I would tell them your life ments. When she shared her personal self, so I can do better for my child. is not over now. More importantly, it's travails with First Lady Trina Jenkins, Working and attending school in the not just your life to live anymore. You she told Holt Streeter that through her fall, so my daughter and I can live have someone else to live for who is challenges, she had a gift to help hurt- comfortably. My daughter is my focus depending on you. Look at your child ing women. Holt Streeter concluded and my motivation to do better. as motivation. You want to do better so that one way for women to feel vali- you and your child can have the world. dated is to wear something that helps Grace: What advice can you give to them feel empowered. Thus the T-shirt teen moms now? Grace: In closing, our teen moms line was born. shared that it's not easy being a child Antionette: I would tell them not to yourself while raising a child. It's defi- Using humor, audience interaction have any more children after the first nitely a challenge, but it makes you and music, Holt Streeter’s mission is one. The more children you have, the mature and you grow up quickly. The to empower, educate and equip her harder it gets. All my children have the teen moms shared that their advice audience to believe in themselves same father. We were married, but now to other teen moms is to enjoy your and fulfill their purpose. She is work- we are going through a divorce. teenage years because you'll never get ing toward her goal to launch the them back. You have your whole life I AM… Validated non-profit organiza- Having your education is so important. ahead of you, so live it to the fullest. tion, which will provide resources to Things may seem hard now, but it will God has wrapped His arms around the empower girls and women to believe, get better. You have to work hard for young ladies and with support from accept and understand their self-worth. what you want to achieve, because family and friends, their lives and their no one is going to give it to you, re- children's lives will be stronger. We gardless of your situation. Set goals For more information, you can reach hope their testimonies will bless oth- Mrs.PRProtocol at mrsprprotocol@ for yourself because with hard work, ers. |G| gmail.com, www.mrsprprotocol.com or dedication and determination, you can 240-882-8544. do it.
Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 13 Grace inspirational Walk in Your Integrity!
By Mildred Stokes
In my early Christian experience, I tance of moving out of one’s comfort at the time of the fall (Isaiah 14:12- would hear saints say, “The road ahead zone and abandoning self in order to 15). The falling away brought about a is not easy. Girl, you’ve got to walk in serve others unselfishly. For example, perpetual separation between created your integrity!” a lesson is given in John 13:1-17, with man and Creator God. Redemption Jesus washing the feet of His disciples. could only be achieved by the atone- Initially, I knew little about the deep- This act showed humility and obedi- ment found through the crucifixion, er meaning and requirements associat- ence to the Father. Another example is death and resurrection of Christ Jesus, ed with establishing my integrity. Not in Luke 10:38-42, where Jesus placed our Lord. to mention being able to “walk in it.” priority on being still so that we may As an early convert, I believed it had learn of Him. In the passage, Mary sits Pride in fallen man is evident in all everything to do with just holding your at the feet of Jesus seeking intensely areas of life. It is a stronghold that hin- head up and walking tall in the name to understand His character, His mes- ders our walk in the will of God. Pride of Jesus. However, as I continued my sage and the wisdom He taught. Her deceives and hides itself in attractive walk, I realized that more understand- act of devotion demonstrated how our garments that appeal to our affections ing was required. praise and worship greatly exceeds im- and passions to become “divas” of portance in the busyness of day-to-day the world. But Jesus admonished us The Bible teaches that King He- distractions. to come out of the world; to be in the zekiah, in his affliction, prayed and world, yes, but not of the world. reminding God that he has “walked As we mature spiritually, we grow in before [Him] in truth and with a loyal humility and love for our sisters so that The obstacles thrown at us along the heart, and have done what was good in pride does not have its way in us. In his journey are sometimes overwhelming [His] sight” (II Kings 20:3). In the end, book, “Humility: The Beauty of Holi- and can leave us questioning God’s his petition won favor with the Lord. I ness,” author Andrew Murray discuss- presence — even His very existence. searched more diligently in Colossians es the uprightness and completion of But we must respond with a swift re- and found the words of apostle Paul to integrity. Murray unveiled how pride call of how we are co-heirs in God’s the church of Colosse concerning this works its way into the heart of every economy. We are indeed blessed to ex- matter. In Colossians 2:6-7, believers believer. Pride seeks to gain advan- perience a renewed mind in Christ as are reminded “[to] walk in [Christ], tage over the power of a contrite and we diligently seek the righteousness of rooted and built up in Him and estab- repentant spirit, fighting to keep the God. lished in the faith … abounding with embrace of Christ’s holiness far from thanksgiving.” This wisdom shed light us. It attempts to cause us to settle for In His wisdom and lowliness of on how the believer strives to represent self-promotion, rather than the remem- heart, Jesus modeled the thought life the fullness of having received Christ’s brance of our lowly Jesus whom “God that we are to imitate while learning to gift of salvation. Our aim must be to has highly exalted … and given Him grow in Him. The benefits we receive submit to the very character and mind the name which is above every name” when we embrace humility completely of Christ, move into a higher comple- (Philippians 2:9). and the integrity that comes with it are tion in Christ, and allow our life pur- numerous. In Proverbs 11:2-3, believ- pose to rest in living out true servant- We must understand how pride is the ers can expect to gain wisdom. We can hood God’s way. weapon of choice that Satan uses to experience the removal of shame and discredit the truth of the gospel and to the presence of divine guidance, which In these present times, the presence destroy the believer. This once prized preserves us for what God has in store. of God is with us and empowers believ- angel called Lucifer rebelled against The walk of integrity encompasses the ers to take on the attitude of lowliness the Creator and suffered expulsion. He prize of the high calling, the promise of of heart. Jesus demonstrated the impor- transferred his envy and pride to man continued on page 18
14 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace parenting Establishing Boundaries With Your Children
By Norma L. Day-Vines, Ph.D.
Years of traveling have taught me that packing in advance can reduce the chance of forgetting personal pos- A study cited by Childhelp.org, reported that 20 percent of sessions. Because experience is often the best teacher, neither my husband children ages 8 to 17 reported that their parents would not nor I made an issue of our daughter's approve of their online activity. decision not to pack. Of course, my daughter decided that she did not need to, posting unwelcome information, • to pack that night. Needless to say, two Agree on what children can embarrassing rumors, publicizing pri- weeks later when we returned to North download vate communications or cyberprank- Carolina, my daughter made sure that ing. Disturbingly, almost 60 percent of • Set limits on the amount of time her school coat was in tow on the re- students don’t think posting personal children can spend online turn trip to Maryland. Natural conse- photos or information online as un- quences are such a powerful parenting safe. The website www.startsathome. • Discourage the use of electronics tool. Wouldn’t it be nice if all parent- org noted that 79 percent of youth’s in the bedroom ing were quite that simple? exposure to pornography occurs in the • Establish places where children Proverbs 22:15 says, “Foolishness is home. can use the Internet (preferably bound in the heart of a child; but the In their book titled, Boundaries: in community places such as the rod of correction shall drive it far from When to Say Yes, How to Say No, Hen- kitchen or family room that are him.” The rod of correction can take ry Cloud and John Townsend identify within the direct purview of other many forms, from/including: lectur- strategies for implementing biblically family members) ing, nagging, punishing, spanking and/ based principles for setting limits. or natural consequences. I imagine www.commonsensemedia.org outlines • Store electronic devices on a most parents use some combination of the following guidelines for helping charging station in the kitchen these disciplinary forms to help chil- families make wise online safety deci- when not in use dren recognize the error of their ways. sions: However, as children approach ado- • Discuss issues of privacy lescence, the boundaries they negoti- • Agree upon websites children ate can be much more harmful to their can and cannot visit • Encourage children to report in- well-being. appropriate behavior • Help children think critically Consider social media such as about what they find online • Create family rituals and tradi- Facebook, Twitter, Skype, FaceTime, tions that engage family mem- texting and sexting. A study cited by • Do not allow your children to bers in joint activities www.childhelp.org reported that 20 chat with strangers percent of children ages 8 to 17 report- • Utilize parental controls provided ed that their parents would not approve • Talk to children about their on- by your service provider and/or of their online activity. This finding is line friends and activities blocking software particularly critical given that children spend an increasing amount of time • Remind children that if they Verity Parental Control Software is online and often without adult supervi- wouldn’t do something in real a free software package that permits sion. Additionally, 20 percent of teens life they shouldn’t do it online parents to monitor their child’s com- have engaged in cyberbullying behav- iors, which include, but are not limited continued on page 18 Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 15 Grace When Your Major Becomes a MajorProblem By Stacey Mays Smith
We live in a day and age where graduates it’s important to secure any background working as a teller, she it seems a college education is vi- job to start making payments on edu- was one of the most attractive candi- tal. Some might even say that without cation loans, as well as cover everyday dates for the position. it you cannot compete in the current living expenses, especially if you’re job market. Whether you earn a bach- starting a family. Although today’s cir- Like many others, I don’t work in elor’s degree or take the extra time cumstances may get recent graduates my field of study. But I can say that and cost to get a master’s or Ph.D. down, there are ways to overcome. God is ordering my steps everyday. I degree, nowadays it does not seem to know His time is not our time. And matter. What seems to be important is My friend, Pamela, has a law de- what we think God has for us isn’t al- whom you know. gree and a master’s degree in busi- ways what God has in mind. What we ness administration. After graduation, can see with our eyes and hear with Many recent graduates, like me, en- she moved to Washington, D.C. and our ears, He is so much beyond our counter several pitfalls. For instance, struggled to find work in the legal thinking. I think if I landed my “dream because of limited opportunities many field. She was overqualified for most career,” I wouldn’t be writing this arti- of us don’t have experience in the job of the positions for which she applied cle. I wouldn’t possess the hunger and market. This is due to a scarcity of and finally took a position as a bank passion to write and eventually join internship positions available and be- teller at a financial institution. She be- Grace Magazine Ministry. This min- cause some had to work in non-related gan to feel that her schooling was in istry is allowing me to do what I love fields of study while attending college vain. There was no gratification for and what I studied in college. I earned to stay in school. This can hinder their her in the constant and repetitive daily a Bachelor of Arts in English with a qualifications on paper when applying routine. She soon realized that God concentration in creative writing. I for a job after graduation. As a result, put her there for a reason, and looked feel I have turned my major problem many graduates are working in posi- into corporate positions at the finan- into a way to serve at my church and tions that they are overqualified for or cial institution. Within 18 months she for the kingdom of God. |G| in jobs that don’t require the skills and landed a position in the company’s studies learned in college. For many legal department and, because of her
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Bennett: I still believe and trust God for everything, knowing that He has a purpose and plan for my life. It’s com- forting to know that God will never leave me nor forsake me even when everyone else seems to walk away.
Baldwin: This journey has taken me to the next level and strengthened my walk with God. I have a TRUE testi- mony now about how God can change, Minister Veronica Lassister and Linda Baldwin as Pastor says, ‘Your mess into a message.ʼ attitude of gratitude it allows God to tion. Some of us are too proud to ask step in to carry the burden for us, and for help because we are afraid that O’Bryant: I am the director of First then we get to witness His power. someone will judge us. Remember, Baptist’s Hagar Ministry, which minis- God’s opinion is the only one that mat- ters to expecting teens and teen moms. Minister Lassiter: It’s imperative that ters. We instill in them the importance of we view obstacles as opportunities. values and to remain pure even after They confirm for us and demonstrate Baldwin: Pray, examine yourself, having a child out of wedlock and/or to others in whom our faith really lies. learn how to listen to the voice of God after having an abortion. I want teens Also, obstacles serve as a constant re- and then incorporate in your life the to understand the significance of absti- minder that even though life is full of necessary steps to obey Him. nence until marriage. uncertainties, twist and turns, God is still in control. O’Bryant: Solely depend on God and Grace: What advice would you give Him alone and recognize that: readers when facing a challenge that Bennett: I believe that the best advice looks like an obstacle, but could I could give to anyone facing an obsta- • One bad decision can cause a be an opportunity or a blessing in cle is to fully, wholly, trust and depend lifetime of pain. disguise? on God for EVERYTHING, whether great or small – not family, not friends, • There are consequences for your Dr. Owens: I would encourage them to not co-workers, but God! actions. remember the Scripture, ‘In all things give thanks.ʼ This just doesn’t mean Goodwyn: Don’t try to go through • Do the right thing. God honors the good things, but to also give thanks your situation alone. Hold on tightly to our obedience. in challenges, too. When we have an Him as you work through your situa- • Lean not to your own understand- ing, but in all thy ways acknowl- Monica Goodwyn and Trudie Bennett edge God to direct your path.
Grace: In life, we will deal with com- plex situations and circumstances beyond our control. However, I be- lieve in the middle of difficulties lies opportunities for greatness to emerge. Choose to view your ob- stacles as an opportunity to be an overcomer, achiever and a thriver. Viewing life from this perspective will cause you to be unstoppable and among the “cream of the crop” achievers! |G| Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 17 Grace Parenting Relationships sits in the victory God will grant or be- continued from page 15 continued from page 7 stow in the presence of your enemies at His appointed time. puter activity and block websites. For are being obedient to God. As a result, Our walk in integrity demands that a small monthly fee, several other He moves us forward and places us in we gird ourselves with a humble and companies such as X3WATCH PRO, prosperity. "Now it shall come to pass, willing heart to patiently serve, to netnanny.com and www.internetsafety. if you diligently obey the voice of the comfort, and to edify one another in com provide protection for children. Lord your God, to observe carefully peace and love. Our walk reflects that all of His commandments which I com- which is mutually bountiful — for self Although we can easily use paid mand you today, that the Lord your and others — in the sight of the Lord. programs to provide online surveil- God will set you high above all nations May we bind together in love and re- lance of our children, we can also of the earth." (Deuteronomy 28:1). cultivate trust in our children by estab- member Proverbs 13:10, “By pride lishing early and consistent boundar- While I do believe that men just comes nothing but strife, but with the well-advised is wisdom.” ies. Whether or not our children agree might, in fact, be from Mars and wom- |G| with our decisions and authority as en from Venus, I also believe that it is parents, we have a religious, spiritual important to be conscientious about and moral obligation to teach them the communicating effectively, even if that importance of obedience and engag- means learning to speak your spouse's ing in conduct that God approves. In foreign language. In those moments Colossians 3:20, the apostle Paul en- when your husband is seeing blue and couraged children to obey their parents you are seeing pink, stand on the Word Magazine because “This pleases the Lord.” of God and look to Him for an answer. No matter the color of your lens, the Grace To become Christians that are more Bible never changes and God’s prom- Needs You! effective we have to follow the dictates ises always remain the same. G of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. | | Attention all Production As such, God has given us the Ten Commandments that provide us with Artists and Graphic timeless instructions, even for modern Inspirational Designers! living. The Ten Commandments give continued from page 14 us boundaries, which are like fences that shield us from danger, help us Do you have identify who we are as believers, set heaven’s eternity and the Great Com- limits and differentiate us from non- mission every believer is called to do. experience with believers. The natural consequence for Women of faith, in the face of wor- Adobe InDesign? disobedience is a harsh reminder from risome situations or when people de- God that we have disregarded and dis- spitefully use you, remember to take honored Him. Do you have an authority over your thoughts and give interest in becoming a Remember the supernatural con- a defense that glorifies God. When ad- sequence for Jonah’s refusal to go to versity strikes, expect that pride will part of the Grace rear its sinful presence to thwart the Ninevah and preach to the people as Creative Team? God instructed. Jonah had to be con- plans of God. But know that a pride- sumed by the whale before he gave ful heart is not of God, for it sets up a God his complete attention. Our con- stumbling that is infectious in our rela- Well, join the Grace tinual struggle as parents is to help tionships. Proverbs 16:28 reminds us Magazine Ministry. our children recognize the relation- that “ … a whisperer separates the best ship between obedience and Christian of friends.” Therefore, we are wise to guard our tongue and avoid tainting maturity. Please contact grace@ |G| the reputation of others through loose gossip and slanderous speech. Your fbcglenarden.org. promotion, because of your obedience,
18 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace Women’s Ministry Group at a Glance
Hagar Ministry Outreach at CHARLES H. FLOWERS HIGH SCHOOL
Members of the Hagar Ministry Q. How many of you think you can spoke to the family life class at Charles raise a child today? H. Flowers High School in Spring- dale, Md., to educate the students on A. Three students raised their hand. teen parent United States statistics, the risks and consequences of unpro- Q. How many of you are aware of tected sex and the challenges of teen the financial responsibility? parents. The students heard real life stories from panelists that consisted of A. One student responded yes. males and females ranging in age from A female panelist shared her story 21 to 88 years old. Panelists shared the of how she was having unprotected following statistics: (from Under Pres- sex with a gentleman she thought was sure: What African American Teens committed only to her. She became Aren't Telling You About Sex, Love and pregnant and later found out that two Relationships:) other young ladies were pregnant by the same young man at the same time. • Fifty percent of Black females get pregnant at least once by age Unfortunately, she hasn’t heard from 20 her child’s father since announcing her pregnancy. One of the male panelists • Overall, two out of three teen talked about the realities of parenting, pregnancies in the U.S. are 18 to such as the costs of day care, health 19 year olds had sex, compared with 67 per- insurance, clothing and food. He also cent of Whites and 61 percent of spoke about the challenges of raising • In 2007, Black high school stu- Hispanic students. a child in two separate households and dents (67 percent) were more the emotional impact of being separat- likely than Hispanic students (52 Students were asked the following ed from your child on important days percent) and White students (44 questions: like Christmas. The panelists also of- percent) to report having ever had fered students a glimpse of their life by sex. Q. How many of you are having sex comparing their life before and after today? becoming a parent. • In 2009, 34 percent of high school students had been sexually ac- A. Most of the students raised their The students’ faces showed that they tive within the last three months. hand. were unaware of the realities of being (Fast Fact on The National Cam- a teen parent. By the end of the discus- paign.org — Teen Sexual Behav- Q. How many of you are having un- sion, many of the students had decided ior and Contraceptive Use: Data protected sex? to practice safe sex and use protection. From the Youth Risk Behavior Survey, 2009) A. Most of the students raised their Panelists encouraged the students to hand. stay in school, complete their educa- • Black youth are more likely than tion and wait until marriage to start a other youth to use condoms when Q.: How many of you have had a family. they have sex 67 percent of Black pregnancy scare? high school students reported us- Feedback from the teacher and stu- ing a condom the last time they A. Three students raised their hand. dents after the presentation included: continued on page 24
Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 19 Grace Women’s Ministry Focus Studies Fall 2012
APPLE OF HIS EYE – Part 2 Book: Longing for Daddy: Healing MADE TO CRAVE Facilitators: Aubray Robinson & from the Pain of an Absent or Emo- Facilitator: Pamela Jordan tionally Distant Father by Monique Mary Davisson Dates: Saturday 9/1 – 10/27 Robinson Dates: Saturday 9/8 – 10/20 Time: 9 a.m. – 11 a.m. Time: 10 a.m. – noon Book: Made to Crave Purpose/Overview: Every little girl Book: Sapphires (Book and Journal) by Lysa TerKeurst yearns to be “Daddy’s Girl.” No rela- by Terri McFadden tionship is more pivotal to a woman’s emotional development and identity Purpose/Overview: Craving isn’t a bad Purpose/Overview: This six-week than her relationship with her father. thing! Has food become more about study empowers women of all ages to For those women who know the pain frustration than fulfillment? Made to develop a firm sense of self, based on of having been wounded or rejected by Crave is the missing link between a who they are in Christ Jesus, through their fathers, we will help you to un- woman’s desire to be healthy and the discipleship. If you suffer from low lock the door that leads to understand- spiritual empowerment necessary to self-esteem, this study is just what the ing, healing, forgiveness and restora- make that happen. Join us during this Lord has ordered for you. tion. This six-week study is just what seven-week study and use it as a help- your heavenly Daddy ordered. ful companion alongside your healthy eating approaches. BEDROOM SECRETS Facilitator: Minister Deborah Leaner JONAH MARRIAGE FROM A-Z Dates: Wednesday 9/12 – 10/24 Facilitator: Minister Kim Henderson Facilitator: Carolyn Tatem Time: 7 p.m. – 9 p.m. Dates: Thursday 9/27 – 11/15 Dates: Saturday 9/8 –10/20 Book: Bedroom Secrets Time: 7 p.m. – 9 p.m. by Deborah Leaner Book: Jonah: Navigating a Life Time: 10 a.m. – noon Interrupted by Priscilla Shirer Book: Marriage from A-Z by Carolyn Tatem Purpose/Overview: Marriages are be- ing attacked by attitudes of confusion, Purpose/Overview: An interrupted life brokenness and bitterness which seek is probably an accurate descriptor for Purpose/Overview: This six-week to steal, kill and destroy. Bedroom Se- all of us, don’t you think? Your inter- study will give you godly principles crets seeks to heal the brokenhearted ruptions may differ from mine. Yet for a successful marriage. The writ- and create a pathway to forgiveness interruptions can be difficult to man- er’s vulnerability about the challenges through frank and open discussions age, no matter what or whose they are. in her marriage, blended with bibli- about real issues affecting marriages Another year of singleness, a spouse’s cal truth, will engage and enable you and sexuality. In this six-week study secret revealed, a heartbreaking en- to identify. This focus study is for sin- women will learn to “speak life” into counter, a burst of success in business, gle women who desire to someday be their marriages and relationships be- redirection in ministry or a new baby or married. fore major problems occur. two. Though we wish to avoid them, every season of life seems to include RAISING GODLY CHILDREN a few. They shock us; they shake us; DADDY PAIN they compel us to change. So welcome Facilitator: Tyra Lane-Kingsland Facilitators: Wanda Davis & to Jonah, a seven-week focus study. Jo- Dates: Saturday 9/22 – 11/17 Millicent Alexander nah knows how life interrupted feels, Time: 10 a.m. – noon Dates: Thursday 10/11 – 11/15 and he’s got a firsthand account of how Book: None Time: 7 p.m. – 8:30 p.m. yielding to God is the best decision after all.
20 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace Women’s Ministry Group at a Glance Purpose/Overview: This six-week fo- White & Geneva Pearson Purpose/Overview Have you been the cus study helps women understand Dates: Saturday 10/13 – 11/17 married man’s other woman or has God’s purpose and plan for raising your spouse been unfaithful to you? Time: 11 a.m. – 12:30 p.m. godly children. Women will also un- If so, this eight-week focus study is derstand their high calling of mother- Book: The Excellent Wife designed to bring healing from those hood as they raise godly seeds. by Martha Peace ungodly relationships by helping you Purpose/Overview: This six-week understand that you are loved by God. study teaches women what it really Allow God to transform your life and SPIRITUAL AND PRACTICAL means to be a godly wife, which is an make you whole again. LIFE ISSUES FOR SENIORS excellent crown to her husband (Prov- Facilitator: Deaconess Betty Green erbs 12:4). The study is designed to WISDOM FOR WORKING Dates: Saturday 10/13 – 11/17 provide wives with practical tools and WOMEN Time: 11 a.m. – 1 p.m. biblical insight to maintain and/or de- velop a healthy and vibrant relation- Facilitator: Minister Beverly Little Book: None ship with their spouse regardless of Dates: Wednesday 10/10 – 11/14 the issues they face. Not only will the Time: 6:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m. Purpose/Overview This six-week fo- women learn what God requires of a Book: None cus study will help women view and Christian wife, but they will learn how understand aging as an opportunity to obey God’s commandments in order for growth and fulfillment, despite its to become that wife. Purpose/Overview: This six-week challenges. It will encourage women study is designed to assist women with to live out their lives fully for the king- balancing life’s demands God’s way THE HOME EXPERIENCE dom by using their God-given gifts by providing biblical principles for and talents, wisdom and experiences, Facilitator: Jackie Parker workplace success. while simultaneously receiving, giving Dates: Saturday 9/1 – 11/17 and serving. Time: 10 a.m. – noon REGISTER Prior to the Focus Study Book: The Home Experience: Making Start Date THE BLESSING OF Your Home a Sanctuary of Love and 1. In Person at the Ministry Center ADVERSITIES a Haven of Peace by Devi Titus and Women’s Fellowship (Sept.1 and Facilitator: Reverend Annie B. Darden Marilyn Weiher Oct. 6, 2012); Dates: Saturday 9/29 – 11/17 2. In Person at Women’s Conference Time: 10 a.m. – 11:30 a.m. Purpose/Overview: This 10-week in- (Oct. 7, 2012); tensive study is designed to train, dis- Book: None 3. Email focusstudies@fbcglenarden. ciple, discipline and encourage women org beginning now (when registering that their homes are a sanctuary of by email please include your name, Purpose/Overview This seven-week love, a haven of peace and where min- email address and phone number focus study provides practical and istry takes place. Married and single inside the body of the email); or spiritual tools for women to handle women will learn how to draw the difficult and stressful times. These ses- women’s heart back towards home. 4. Call 301-773-3600 sions will help every woman to be pre- pared for those inevitable times called THE OTHER WOMAN “trouble” and not lose their temper or hair. Facilitator: Yvette Haley Dates: Wednesday 9/12 – 11/14 THE EXCELLENT WIFE Time: 7 p.m. – 9 p.m. Facilitators: Constance Nwosu, Maria Book: None
Magazine | www.fbcglenarden.org 21 Grace There are moments in life when situ- • Significant weight loss or gain (a ations can be so overwhelming that it change of more than five percent causes us to shut down. Sad days can of body weight in a month) start overtaking happy days until sud- denly we realize we are in a state of de- ”So the ransomed of the Lord shall pression. It seems when you’re taking return, And come to Zion with singing, the initiative to move forward, some- With everlasting joy on their heads. thing holds you back. The things once They shall obtain joy and gladness; enjoyed are no longer enjoyable and Sorrow and sighing shall flee away” Overcoming your communication with friends and (Isaiah 51:11). Depression family have ceased. Although, com- mon things occur during depression, There are various things that may we must remember that God will never lead to depression such as losing a job, put more on us than we can bear. being stressed at work or even losing a loved one. During the woes of our ”Fear not, for I am with you; Be not economy, many people have become dismayed, for I am your God. I will financially depressed. Whether we strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, want to admit it or not, depression is I will uphold you with My righteous considered a mental illness. Thankful- right hand” (Isaiah 41:10). ly, there are helpful ways to maintain happiness through Christ. According to the Diagnostic and Sta- tistical Manual of Mental Disorders, • Pray, Pray, and Pray – Although depression occurs when you have at this may seem to be a cliché, least five of the following nine symp- prayer works. Whatever your toms: situation may be, you must first admit to God that you need help. • Depressed mood during most of In everything you go through, the day, particularly in the morn- you always need the strength and ing power of Christ to overcome your battles. • Fatigue or loss of energy almost every day • Seek Psychological Counseling or Therapy – It is critical that • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt you communicate with a mental almost every day health professional. There are various psychological doctors or • Impaired concentration and inde- counselors who can assist by talk- cisiveness ing with you about the problems that led to your depression. Some • Insomnia (inability to sleep) or doctors may prescribe medica- hypersomnia (excessive sleep- tions to treat your illness. ing) almost every day • Maintain a Healthy Lifestyle • Markedly diminished interest or – When depression occurs your pleasure in almost all activities physical abilities may start to de- nearly every day cline. Staying physically fit will help you gain more strength and • Recurring thoughts of death or energy. Exercise daily, eat bal- suicide (not just fearing death) anced and nutritious meals and maintain proper sleep habits. You • Sense of restlessness (known as will be surprised at how much psychomotor agitation) or being you can physically achieve when By Felicia Johnson slowed down living a healthy lifestyle.
22 Magazine | By Women for Women Grace • Join a Support Ministry – It is Did You Know? important to have the support of your fellow sisters to encourage By Ceol Tilghman you during difficult times in your life. You are not alone. Commu- nicating with others who have dealt with depression will help March 19, 2011, Anthony Robles In 2011 at the NCAA Wrestling you realize that spiritual fellow- was the first black man to win the Championship, Robles demonstrated ship is a strong element in your NCAA Individual Wrestling Cham- that it’s not what you don’t have that healing process. pionship. What made this event so matters. What you do with what you amazing was that Robles won it with have, and turning your obstacles into • Don’t look back, MOVE FOR- one leg. Anyone who knows wrest- opportunity is what really matters. WARD – After you have fol- lin, knows that you need all of your Jesus told the disciples “These things lowed the above steps to fight limbs to become a champion. Not I have spoken to you, that in ME you your depression, continue to so, according to Robles. He was may have peace. In the world you keep moving forward in a posi- born with one leg and as a child of- will have tribulation; but be of good tive manner. Believe that you are ten questioned his mother, “Why cheer, I have overcome the world. more than a conqueror in Christ did God make him this way?” His You are of God, little children, and Jesus. No matter how hard or mother responded by saying, “God have overcome them, because He overwhelming your trials may has something very special in mind who is in you is greater than he who be, do not let your past hold for you.” is in the world (John 16:33 and 1 you back from achieving greater John 4:4). |G| things in your life. As you con- tinue to move forward, God will reveal the wonderful blessings He has in store for you.
“Beloved, do not think it strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened to you; but rejoice to the ex- tent that you partake of Christ's suffer- ings, that when His glory is revealed, you may also be glad with exceeding joy” (I Peter 4:12-13).
Trouble doesn’t last always, but the love and comfort of Jesus will last for- ever. Allow Christ to comfort you if you’re feeling hurt. Many have expe- rienced some type of depression, but understand that the best way to get rid of it is to fight back. Life is too short for God’s blessings to pass you. Con- tinue to stand strong in everything that comes your way. Each day will get bet- ter as you stay motivated in MOVING FORWARD.
If you experience continual suicidal thoughts, please consult a medical professional immediately.
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ing melanoma is highest in Caucasians (1 in 50), while approximately one in 1,000 Blacks and one in 200 Hispan- ics will develop this disease. While the Hagar Ministry’s mission, risk of melanoma cancer increases with vision and target audience: age, it can occur in younger people and is one of the more common cancers in young adults. Melanoma is highly cur- Mission – Provide teen parents able if caught early, but is much more encouragement, guidance and on- likely than other forms of skin cancer going support through hands-on to spread if left untreated. “My students have been coming experience, training, education and positive role models in a mentoring These facts and additional infor- back throughout the day to tell me how relationship. mation can be found: http://ods. much they were moved by the speakers and enjoyed the presentations.” od.nih.gov/factsheets/vitamind- Vision – Empowering and equip- quickfacts/#h4; www.doctoroz.com; Mrs. N. Donkor, Health Educator, C.H. Flowers High School ping teen parents to be powerful, and http://www.cancercenter.com/mel positive and practical parents. anoma/melanoma-information.cfm “I loved everything. They all made me feel comfortable, and they are all Target Audience – Pregnant The body produces vitamin D when teens and teen moms from all back- the skin is directly exposed to the sun, wise people.” Student grounds, both churched and non- and most people meet at least some of churched. their vitamin D needs this way. Skin “I liked the fact that they were hon- exposed to sunshine through a win- est and real about how hard it can be Resources: http://www.thenational dow while indoors will not produce with or without support. “Everyone did a great job.” campaign.org/resources/pdf/ vitamin D. Cloudy days, shade or hav- FastFacts_YRBS2009.pdf ing dark-colored skin also cuts down Student on the amount of vitamin D the skin “What did I like most about the ses- makes. According to an article written http://www.thenationalcampaign. and posted on www.medicine.net by sion? “I liked the enthusiasm of the org/underpressure/PDF/under- Melissa Conrad Stoppler, M.D, vita- presenters.” pressure.pdf min D deficiency is easy to treat with Student supplements. Dr. Stoppler advises that high doses of vitamin D can be toxic. Therefore, as with any other change in exercise or diet, treating a deficiency in vitamin D should be discussed with your doctor. Go out and have some fun in the Moving Forward sun, but do not forget the sunscreen!
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