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Issue #58 Table of Contents November-December, 2016

Parenting with a Soul – The Race to Catch My Flight...... 8 CHAZAQ 10 Year Anniversary Gala Legacy Dinner...... 30

Beth Midrash Program ...... 11 Recipes –Pumpkin Muffins...... 33

The Coaching Corner- Chanuka...Al Pi Darko...... 37 A Time to Laugh and Listen– Tefillah: It’s Not Just Three Times a Day. 13 Orthodontics- Orthodontic Care...... 40 Chazaq hosts Rav Shimon Ba'adani in Queens ...... 16 Fun Page...... 43 Recent CHAZAQ Programs...... 18 Mazal Tov...... 45 Halacha Insights- Laws of Chanukah...... 19 Chanukah Quiz...... 47

Seize the Day- Living with Patience, Perseverance, and Purpose...... 25 Health Section –One Day at a Time...... 51

The Shmuz- The Bais Hamikdash...... 29 Directory of Advertisers...... 58

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Parenting with a Soul By Slovie Jungreis-Wolff The Race to Catch My Flight

unning as fast as I could as the final call open. I jumped in. I didn’t even know if this Rblared, I realized I had lost my handbag. was the right train. I searched the signs Nothing prepared me for the security line above. I turned to the person next to me. that greeted me at the airport after a recent As I looked at her I gasped. She was hold- lecture that I gave. I knew that I was in one ing her hand luggage and I was not! Oh no! I of America’s busiest airports trying to return realized with a sinking feeling that I left my to New York, but I didn’t know that this was hand luggage upstairs at security. What was ‘cheerleader’s competition week’. Thousands I thinking? of excited preteens and teens were also trying I wasn’t. to get back home along with their parents I jumped out of the train as the doors were and coaches. There was no room to move. about to close. Up the down staircase, flying My flight was looming and the line was up the steps. What is my bag?? Is it even still at a standstill. Nerves were at edge. Some there? Did they cart it away as suspicious? began to push. Others to voice their frustra- Retracing my steps, I spotted my bag in tion loudly. Tension filled the air. the distance. A sigh of relief as I The situation began to get grabbed it off the table. My out of control. flight was being called A group decided again. Final call. I to surge and cre- couldn’t breathe. ate their own line. I never ran so There was lots of fast in my life. Back jostling and push- down the stairs, ing. Those whose waiting for the train flights were within the to take me to the area hour were called to join. that leads to the gate I That was me. I followed the gave myself a talking to. crowd. There was no way I could How could you do this? What miss this flight. I had family waiting and were you thinking? How could you be so classes to teach. My eye was anxiously on careless? the clock. It seemed as if everyone had excess I had no one to blame but myself. A most baggage and the trays were spilling over with lonely place to be. stuff. My heart was beating. Come on, come The doors opened and once again I jumped on, I thought. I wish the line would just move. into the train. Finally it was my turn. Throwing my My inner voice began to nudge me fur- things into the tray, I quickly removed my ther. There is no way you are going to make shoes and raised my hands inside the security this flight! And why do you do this traveling machine. My flight was being called. After to speak anyway? It’s too much pressure! being checked manually, I ran. The train jolted to a stop. I dashed out. Where do I go? Which direction? It all My gate loomed up ahead. There were seemed so confusing. The overhead screens two people left to board. And me. were a jumble of numbers. I called out to I made my way through the plane. With an officer next to me. “You need to get on sweat pouring and in dire need of a cold cup the train to get to your gate. You need to go of water, I found my seat. downstairs to the station first!” As I made calmed down and took a few I could not believe it. How will I ever make moments to collect my thoughts, I realized this flight? My heart began to race. I ran two things. down the stairs. The doors of the train were Continued on pg. 10

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Continued from pg. 8 I recalled how once Zaydah described First, my inner voice was way too negative Joseph wandering in the field. A man who today. This is the powerful voice that becomes was really an angel asked “What are you the reality we create. This is the voice that stops looking for?” Joseph replied “I am looking us in our tracks and does not allow us to believe for my brothers.” in ourselves. We berate, we surrender, and we My Zaydah cried as he spoke. “This must choose to limit ourselves. Instead of ‘yes’ we be your mission. The mission of every Jew. hear ‘no’. We replace ‘possible’ with ‘impossible’. Look for your brothers and sisters. And do Why not replace that voice with positive lan- not rest until you find them.” guage? Why not create a positive reality in our I grew up knowing that this was my fami- mind? Yes, it is tight, but if you try you will make ly’s mission in this world. This was our reality. it. It’s okay to misplace a bag. It’s not the end of After surviving a physical holocaust, my the world and it doesn’t mean you are a loser. parents and grandparents encountered a Second, why do I choose to speak in different spiritual holocaust. Through love of every communities, sometimes getting up at the crack Jew, they discovered the key to our survival of dawn and returning the next morning as I and passed this legacy on to us. watch the sun rise? Why do I feel the need to What an awesome reality we can create. reach out to Jews all over the world despite the Think positive. Reach out to your brethren pressure that my schedule sometimes brings? with love. Change the world. а At that moment the image of my Zayd- ah, my grandfather, appeared in my mind. Slovie Jungreis Wolff is a noted teacher, author, When I was a little girl, my Zaydah would relationships and parenting lecturer. She is the leader offer a few words of ’s wisdom before of Hineni Couples and daughter of Rebbetzen Esther Jungreis. Slovie is the author of the parenting hand- my mother would speak. Though Zayd- book, Raising A Child With Soul. She gives weekly ah’s English was broken, his was the lan- classes and has lectured throughout the U.S.,Canada, guage of the heart. Everyone understood Mexico, Panama, and South Africa. You can reach his message. Slovie at [email protected]

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A Time to Laugh and Listen By Rabbi Yehoshua Kurland Tefillah: It’s Not Just Three Times A Day

arry, a secular Jew, was running late for health, peace, etc. Perhaps we can suggest a Bhis job interview in Manhattan. Ner- deeper explanation for why tefillahis referred vously, he circled the streets looking for park- to as “chayei sha’ah.” ing, berating himself for not leaving home The in Brachos (6a) describes earlier. He couldn’t afford to lose this oppor- tefillahas something that stands “berumo shel tunity. As the 9:00 a.m. interview approached, olam – in the highest places of the universe,” in desperation, with only a few minutes to and yet people are “mezalzelin bahem – they spare, he offered a prayer to Heaven: denigrate its true value.” Through tefillah, “G-d, if You help me find a one can reach a level of hispash- parking place, I promise I’ll tus hagashmius, the shedding go to every of all earthliness, that Saturday!” allows one’s intellect Suddenly, a car to soar to heights pulls out of its slot close to prophecy. right in front of ( the office build- Orach Chaim ing he needs to 98:1) Clearly, enter. Barry tefillah is not swiftly pulls simply about in and says, asking for one’s “Forget about physical needs. it, G-d! I found It is about the a spot myself! creating of an Prayer, as intimate bond understood with one’s Cre- in the secular ator. world, is reserved for emergency sit- This relationship uations, when one’s ideally develops into an options have run out, and ongoing conversation with there is nowhere else to turn. the Ribono Shel Olam, a give Even authentic Jews, at times, and take, a debate, a discussion, view tefillahas a three-time-a-day obligation, a negotiation of sorts, a dialogue between a to be completed within a specific time frame- Jew and his Father in Heaven. In the pas- work. And although that is true, we would suk (Yeshayahu 1:18) “Lechu na v’nivachecha be terribly remiss if we were to stop there yomar Hashem,” Yeshayahu Hanavi calls it a without uncovering its genuine meaning and “vikuach – deliberation” that is in progress purpose and unparalleled worthiness. twenty-four hours a day, in no way restricted The Gemara in Shabbos (10a) refers to tefil- to Shacharis, Minchah, and . lah as “chayei sha’ah – living for the moment,” “Vayeitzei Yitzchak lasuach basadeh – And in comparison to Torah which is “chayei olam Yitzchak went out to meditate in the field Bere( - – living for eternity.” In contradistinction ishis 24:63).” The Gemara in Brachos (26b) points to Torah, which is our link to eternity, tefil- out that the word “lasuach” could be interpret- lah deals with the basics of this world: food, Continued on pg. 14

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Continued from pg. 13 one who confides in his best friend, revealing ed as “to daven,” for its root word, siach (lit. his heart and exposing his worries and con- conversing), is an expression of tefillah. Indeed, cerns, uncertain of what exactly it is that is conversing is the very nucleus of tefillah. A con- really disconcerting, only to find clarity from tinuum of numerous, nonexclusive communi- his loving friend’s insightfulness, or simply cations and conversations between man and by having had the opportunity to talk it out his Creator, lies at the very core of this unique to a caring, listening ear. Similarly, through medium of avodas Hashem. his dialogue with Hashem, the person is able How clearly do the words of my wife’s Bubby to make an honest appraisal of his requests, Rissel zt”l, a uniquely pure tzadekes, ring in my having sifted through his thoughts in the ears! “Hashem is my friend. I speak to Him.” course of conversation with the Source of all Her tefillahrelationship was without interrup- that is true, Hakadosh Baruch Hu. tion, part of her uniform routine. It most cer- Perhaps, tefillah is referred to as “chayei tainly was not confined to time periods alone, sha’ah” to make this very point. We live and but rather, it was an ever-present reality that breathe tefillah every hour, every minute. she lived with every day. Like Dovid Hamelech, At every moment of need for expression, it who described himself as one perpetual prayer, is available. The Ribono Shel Olam is there we need to tune in to Hashem’s accessibility for us with no time constraints. He is my every moment of the day. Friend; He is my Beloved; He always cares; The numerical value of the word “siach,” He’s always listening. I’m never disturbing which is 318, is one more than “yiush – Him; He always has time for me. He is my despair,” which is 317. This reiterates the idea Father; He is my Mother. We have an inti- that Hashem is accessible 24/7, no appoint- mate relationship twenty-four hours a day, ments necessary, no waiting, all insurances seven days a week, non-stop. He will never accepted. There is no place for hopelessness; forsake me! Now that’s praying! а absolutely no room for despair. The Mesillas Yesharim (ch. 19), in describ- ing the magnificent opportunity oftefillah, writes so poignantly: “However, an intelligent person with a little contemplation and focus, can establish the truth of this matter in his heart, how he actually comes and converses with Hashem may He be blessed, and actu- Take Advantage of our ally offers his supplication before Him, and Historically personally beseeches Him. And that Hashem, may His name be blessed, listens and pays LOW RATES!!! close attention to his words, just as a man speaks to his friend and his friend gives him Deal with Direct Lender his undivided attention.” In the same vein we understand the Gema- Call me today for information about: ra’s statement (Brachos 28b), “If one makes • New Home Loans davening a ritual of rote performance and • Conventional Loans commonplace routine, his prayer has no • Conforming, Conforming Jumbo and FHA appeal.” It has no attractiveness or charm. Loans, including 203K, Full & Streamline • Cash Out Re nance It has no chein (favor), because it was a prayer Eduard () • Residential Construction to Perm Loans of obligation only, and not of intimacy. It was Mamonov • VA Loans Loan Officer • Fixed Rate Mortgages a prayer of duty, and not one of closeness • Adjustable Rate Mortgages 186-09 Union Tpk. • Primary, Second Home and Investment and affinity. 2nd Floor The vikuach of tefillah helps the one who Fresh Meadows, Property Loans NY 11366 • Foreign National Loans is praying clarify his priorities. Through the Direct: 917.709.6772 • COOP & Condo Loans (non-warrantable Office: 718.969.7100 COOP & Condo loans) give and take of his multiple conversations [email protected] with his Confidant, as it were, the Ribono NMLS# 40287 Shel Olam, he is able to remove the inessen- tial and focus on his primary needs. It is like

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Halacha Insights By Rabbi Meir Gavriel Elbaz Laws of Chanukah and Procedures for Lighting Chanukah Candles in Various Settings While Away From Home

The Proper Time to Light Chanukah Candles Preferably, one should not light later than ne should preferably light Chanukah the prescribed time; rather, one should light Ocandles immediately when the stars immediately upon the emergence of stars appear in the sky (halachic nightfall), which in the sky. If one did not light at this time, is approximately fifteen minutes after sunset one may still light until the time when most during this time of year. Some Ashkenazim, passerby are no longer found in the street however, customarily light at sunset. Hala- (which is about half an hour after the pre- chic nightfall can be calculated by counting ferred lighting time). Even if one has not yet thirteen-and-a half halachic (seasonal) min- lit by this time, one may still light afterwards, utes after sunset. The formula to calculate even if the hour is late, until dawn. However, thirteen-and-a-half halachic minutes is to in such a situation where one arrives home divide the day from sunrise to sunset into late and finds the members of his household twelve equal parts. Every part is a halachic sleeping, it is preferable to awaken at least (seasonal) hour and each of these hours con- some of the family members so that they may sists of sixty halachic minutes. This is what be present at the time of the lighting in order causes these thirteen-and-a-half minutes to to publicize the miracle. If one is unable to be approximately ten regular minutes in the wake them up though, one may nevertheless winter and in the summer these thirteen- light the candles and recite the blessings. and-a-half minutes can actually be longer based on the length of the day. If One Will Not be Home at the Pre- In New York City, sunset on the first night ferred Lighting Time of Chanukah is at approximately 4:32 PM and As we have established above, the proper the thirteen-and-a-half halachic minutes are time to light Chanukah candles is at approxi- approximately eleven regular minutes during mately 4:45 PM throughout Chanukah. Many this time of year (Note: Nightfall in the New times the head of the household will not have York throughout the year is approximately returned home from work by this time and 15-20 minutes after sunset according to the will only return home later on in the evening. Sephardic tradition; for further reference, Rabbeinu Ovadia Yosef zt”l writes see Igrot Moshe, OC, Volume 4, that even if a husband knows that he will Chapter 62 who rules that nightfall according be returning home that same night but at a to the opinion of the Geonim [whose opin- late hour, it is better for him to appoint his ion is the basis for the Sephardic tradition] wife as his agent to light the candles at the in New York is 9.375 minutes after sunset proper time, which is approximately fifteen all year long). Hence, the proper time for minutes after sunset, rather than light on his lighting Chanukah candles in New York is own at the later time. Even though there is at approximately 4:45 PM according to the a rule by all Mitzvot that “it is preferable for Sephardic custom on all other weeknights one to fulfill the Mitzvah on his own rather of Chanukah besides for Friday afternoon than through an agent,” in this situation it is and Motza’ei the laws of which preferable for the husband to appoint his wife shall be discussed further. Continued on pg. 21 718-285-9132 19 www.CHAZAQ.org MAGAZINE

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Continued from pg. 19 first in order to publicize the miracle, for if as his agent since in this way, the Mitzvah Havdala were to be recited first, most of the will be fulfilled at the proper time our Sag- congregation would have gone home before es established for it. Additionally, even when Chanukah candle-lighting. one’s wife lights on his behalf, since halachi- When one returns home from synagogue, cally “one’s wife is considered like himself” since the act of lighting a fire will in any (meaning they are considered to be one enti- case remove the sanctity of Shabbat, one ty), it is considered as if the husband has lit should first recite Havdala and only then the Chanukah candles on his own. However, light Chanukah candles, for the more fre- if this was the situation on the first night of quent Mitzvah should be performed first. Chanukah, the husband will not have recit- (Havdala is indeed more frequent, for it is ed the “Shehecheyanu” blessing customarily recited every week.) recited on the first night. Thus, if the indi- Those who follow the righteous custom vidual is home on the second night (or any not to perform work on Motza’ei Shabbat other subsequent night of Chanukah) and will until nightfall according to the opinion of be lighting the Chanukah candles himself, he Rabbeinu Tam should also abstain from must consequently recite the “Shehecheyanu” lighting the Chanukah candles on Motza’ei blessing since this is his first actual lighting Shabbat Chanukah until nightfall accord- of the Chanukah candles. ing to Rabbeinu Tam, for this is not merely Nevertheless, if a situation where the “another good custom”; rather, it is correct wife lighting in absence of the husband or and proper for everyone to follow the opinion vice versa (if the wife works until later) will of Rabbeinu Tam in this matter, especially cause discord in the home, this is certainly since this is the opinion of Maran Ha’Shul- cause to permit the family to light togeth- chan Aruch as well. This was indeed the er later on during the night even after the custom of Maran Rabbeinu Ovadia Yosef prescribed time for lighting has passed. zt”l who spoke about this topic constantly throughout his entire life. Lighting Chanukah Candles on Friday Afternoon Lighting Chanukah Candles While One should preferably try to pray Min- Travelling or Staying as a Guest cha before lighting Chanukah candles on If one is travelling during the holiday Erev Shabbat. Chanukah candles should of Chanukah but one’s wife or other family be lit on Friday afternoon approximately members are still at home and are light- twenty minutes before sunset. One should ing Chanukah candles there, one fulfills take care to fill the glasses with enough oil his obligation with the candles being lit in for the candles to remain lit until a half- one’s home and one need not light Chanu- hour after nightfall, i.e. approximately one kah candles in his present location, for when hour and five minutes after having been Chanukah candles are lit in one’s home, all lit. Chanukah candles should be lit before of the family members residing in the home Shabbat candles. fulfill their obligation, wherever they may be. For this reason, our custom is that only Lighting Chanukah Candles on Mot- the head of the household lights the Cha- za’ei Shabbat nukah candles at home since by doing so, On Motza’ei Shabbat Chanukah (this year, the entire household fulfills their obligation. the first and last nights of Chanukah), in the According to the Ashkenazi custom, how- synagogue, Chanukah candles are lit first ever, that each member of the household and only following this is Havdala recited in lights his own Chanukah candles, some say order to delay the departure of Shabbat as that if the head of the household is away much as possible. Although the one lighting from home, he must light on his own while the Chanukah candles removes the sanctity others argue. of Shabbat from himself, nevertheless, the Halachically speaking, Hagaon Harav rest of the members of the congregation who David Yosef Shlit”a rules that although it is have not yet lit still retain the sanctity of preferable for this individual not to light in Shabbat. Also, the Chanukah candles are lit Continued on pg. 22

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Continued from pg. 21 time of halachic nightfall in Israel, one’s par- his current location at all, nevertheless, if ents have certainly not lit yet since the pre- he wishes to have in mind not to fulfill his scribed time in the United States has not yet obligation with the candles being lit in his arrived, although he is not obligated to, if the home, he may; if he does so and then wish- Yeshiva student wishes to light Chanukah es to light his own Chanukah candles with candles with a blessing, he may indeed do so. a blessing, he indeed has on whom to rely. If one is travelling and knows that there Lighting While Staying in a Hotel Over is no one lighting Chanukah candles in his Chanukah home, for instance, if one’s wife and children Many people commonly go away on vaca- are travelling with him, if this individual is tions during the holiday of Chanukah. When staying in the home of a fellow Jew and is pay- one is a guest in a hotel over Chanukah, ing his host for his expenses, such as lodging, since one pays a fee to lodge in the hotel food, and the like, this individual must give (and sometimes pays for meals in the hotel his host a small sum of money in order to as well), the hotel room is considered “rent- purchase a share of the host’s oil and wicks ed” to the guest and he does not retain the for the Chanukah candles. Alternatively, the laws of a “guest” at all, for the owner of the host may grant his guest some of the oil and hotel usually does not live in the hotel and wicks as a gift (and in this instance, the host even if he does, one has nevertheless rented should add some more oil for the guest). In his own room. Thus, one must indeed light this way, the guest fulfills his obligation with in his hotel room. Let us not forget though the lighting of the host’s Chanukah candles. that if the individual staying in the hotel has adult family members at home light- Married Children Staying in their Par- ing Chanukah candles there on his behalf, ents’ Home he need not do anything more. However, if Regarding a married individual who is stay- there is no one at his home to light on his ing as a guest at his father’s home, according behalf, he will need to light on his own in the to the Sephardic custom that only the head hotel room. The problem is that many times, of the household lights Chanukah candles, the the hotel administration strictly prohibits son (and his family) will have fulfilled his obli- lighting any kind of matches or candles in gation with his father’s lighting, for the son is the hotel room and even equips the rooms staying as a guest and eating at his father’s with smoke detectors to enforce this rule. If table. According to the Ashkenazi custom, this is the case, the following should be done: every member of the household lights Chanu- If the guest can obtain permission from a kah candles regardless. manager of the hotel to light candles in his room and leave them ignited in the room Yeshiva Students Studying Abroad for a half-hour (minimum requirement for Yeshiva students studying abroad may rely the Chanukah candles to be lit) under strict on their father’s Chanukah candle-lighting supervision, one should certainly light in his at home (even if one’s parents’ home is in a room with a blessing. However, if the hotel different time zone) and they need not light management vehemently refuses (as is many Chanukah candles at all. Regarding Yeshiva times the case), one may not light in the students of Ashkenazi descent, if they have room and certainly not with a blessing, for their own room in the Yeshiva dormitory, they there is room to claim that the management should light Chanukah candles with a blessing never meant to rent the hotel room to the in their room (or in the Yeshiva’s dining room individual under such circumstances thus based on the Yeshiva’s instructions) similar retroactively absolving the lease of the room. to the above law of a guest. The law for Ashkenazim, however, is some- Nevertheless, more recently, Maran Rab- what different. According to several Ashke- beinu Ovadia Yosef zt”l has ruled (in his Cha- nazi Poskim (see notation of Rama on Shul- zon Ovadia-Chanukah, page 150) that when chan Aruch Chapter 677, Section 1; Hagaon a Sephardic Yeshiva student is studying in Chazon Ish, Hagaon Harav Aharon Kotler, Israel and his parents reside in the United and others quoted in Teshuvot Ve’Hanhagot, States such that it is clear that during the Continued on pg. 23

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Continued from pg. 22 there. If the management does not even allow Volume 2, Chapter 343, Subsection 11; see also this, one should light in the lobby or dining room Piskei Teshuvot, Chapter 677, footnote 4) the without a blessing, if possible. If none of these primary place to light Chanukah candles is options are possible, one will thus be considered where one eats his meals. Thus, many hotels (in an “Anoos” (one stuck in a situation beyond his Israel or in other places which accommodate control) and he will have no other recourse. The Torah observant Jews) prepare several tables Poskim tell us that one should take all of these in their dining room where guests place there factors into consideration when finalizing one’s Menorahs and light there. Thus, an Ashkenazi Chanukah travel plans so as not to be stuck in a guest in a hotel over Chanukah may light in situation where one cannot fulfill one’s obligation the dining room of the hotel with reciting a to light Chanukah candles at all. blessing. On the other hand, Hagaon Harav May the light of Chanukah, which rep- Ben-Zion Abba Shaul zt”l points out that the resents the Jewish nation’s firm dedication dining rooms in hotels nowadays retain the to the fulfillment of the Torah and Mitzvot, law of random restaurants because one cannot continue to accompany us throughout the come and go as one pleases, for there are spe- year and infuse us with the strength and cific times for meals and one cannot enter the conviction to constantly grow in the study room outside of the allotted time. Additionally, of Torah and the service of Hashem. а outsiders can eat in the dining room as well when they pay for their meal. Thus, according Rabbi Meir Gavriel Elbaz is an alumnus of the famed to this rationale, even Ashkenazim would not Mirrer Yeshiva in Brooklyn as well as the prestigious Bet be able to light in the dining room of a hotel. Midrash Yechave Da’at in and is a respect- ed Halachic authority in the Sephardic communities of The best advice for lighting in a hotel is that Queens, Great Neck, and elsewhere. He is also the director one should ask the management’s permission to of the English version of the “Halacha Yomit” website. You light Chanukah candles on the porch of one’s hotel can sign up to receive a free, daily Halacha sent to your room (as they usually permit smoking there), for email at halachayomit.co.il. Rabbi Elbaz currently serves one can certainly recite a blessing when lighting as the rav of Congregation Shaare Zion of Great Neck.

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Seize the Day By: Rabbi Dovid M. Cohen ‘We’re Almost There’: Living With Patience, Perseverance, and Purpose

few months back, I had an e-mail daily attacks on Jewish soldiers and civilians, A exchange with a dean of the American that Chazal knew of what they spoke. rabbinate, Rabbi Emanuel Feldman, in which For most of us, life isn’t easy. Even for he wished me “b’shaah tovah umutzlachas” those who appear to have a smoother path on my new book. He explained that he used – nachas from children, physical comforts, this term because writing a book has “simi- etc. – there are many behind-the-scenes pit- lar birth pangs.” Well, we have reached “full falls or potential obstacles lurking. The chal- term,” as my book is now in a bookstore lenge is one of patience and faith. Patience near you. when things don’t happen according to our As is true of many things in life, I kind schedule and faith that God not only has a of “fell into” writing a book, never imagin- plan for us but also has the timing of that ing how arduous and frustrating a process plan worked out down to the millisecond. it would be. As a mentor once said to me Letting go of our dreams and ambitions about the rabbinate (and I’d extrapolate it to and submitting to a higher authority is one of other contexts as well), “If you knew or fully the most difficult things for the human ego. appreciated what you were getting into, you To admit we’re not in control is not easy to would never pursue it.” do. It makes us feel vulnerable, and that’s a Interestingly, that thought is applicable place many don’t want to visit. to life itself, as the teaches that we I speak from experience about these issues. are placed in this world “against our will,” I married in my early thirties and my first but once put here, we must make the most child was born with special needs. Profes- of it and explore our actions and motives. sionally, I had big dreams and large ambi- When one is anticipating or pursuing a tions that have not always come to fruition. certain milestone, it requires patience, per- I waited, not so patiently, sharing a pulpit severance, and purpose. Most meaningful until my predecessor was finally ready to accomplishments don’t just happen over- relinquish his position of sixty years. When night. They require enormous investment he finally did, the resources weren’t there for and effort. The Midrash comments that the me to move forward in that position. That final redemption evolves “kima, kima,” little being said, I try my best to keep my head by little, or as my grandfather, Rabbi Meir down and move forward. I try to be resilient Felman, z’l, used to say in his indomitably as best I can. clever way, “Yiddel by Yiddel.” These personal experiences are what kept One of my favorite aphorisms is “Hachaim me motivated through the long process of zeh lo piknik – Life isn’t a walk in the park.” producing a book that could “withstand the This is the quintessential understatement. I test of time.” My new offering will hopefully write these words having just read of another provide readers insight into the journey called stabbing in Israel. The incitement and treach- lifewe each traverse in our own varied ways. ery knows no bounds; hundreds of innocents We are taught that this world is the Olam were slaughtered or wounded in the streets Hanisayon, a world full of challenges, and I try of Paris only a few months ago and dozens to orient others as to how to optimally han- were killed or injured in California on our dle both personal and communal obstacles. American soil. I recently heard a great concept from Rabbi We are taught in particular that Eretz Paysach Krohn, the renowned mohel and mag- Yisrael is acquired through suffering. There gid. He said there is a fundraising mantra or is little doubt, as we can see in the spate of Continued on pg. 27

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Continued from pg. 25 formula known as SW to the 3rd power/N. It represents “Some Will, Some Won’t, So What? Next!!” A successful baseball player gets a hit 3 out of 10 times at the plate. Perseverance and Resilience is so critical in spiritual pursuits and life in general. We must remember the adage that “Life is a marathon, not a sprint,” and therefore we have to keep moving on to whatever comes next. My wife trained to be a professional doula or labor coach and is now in the Frontier gradu- ate program for midwifery. In that process she came across the following mantra: “Hold the Vision, Trust the Process.” In the birthing con- text, it means the yearning for a natural birth story shouldn’t be lost sight of, certainly not in the difficult moments when one is tempted by an epidural. One must cling to that vision while trusting a process that involves pain and disappointment. The pain is a signal that the body is opening and doing what it needs to. This unpleasant process will ultimately lead to that much anticipated birth. When we occasionally travel in a rental car with our four children (we live in Man- and living in general. It gleans lessons from hattan and often avail ourselves of public my own personal challenges as well as my transport or Uber), they always ask me, “How observations about how others have handled much longer?” or “Are we there yet?” I snick- their own. er to myself when they do, as they have no My primary message is that we are all firm grasp of time and my answer wouldn’t still “in process” – unfinished products, if be meaningful to them as a barometer. They you will. I know this because we are all still are just expressing impatience or maybe even here, which means God still has work for discomfort. us to do and places for us to go. My hope is Children live in the moment and they maybe, just maybe, the reader will discover want things on their schedule. When that something life-altering. isn’t provided, they tend to let you know they The question is, why exactly are we are are dissatisfied. in such a hurry in the first place? Maybe we No matter our age, we all have childlike can reorient, live in the moment, and begin tendencies. In many situations we ask our- to enjoy the ride or the process just a little selves or even others, “Why aren’t we there bit more. If we can do that, we will ultimately yet?” Especially when logic dictates that we realize that we are all much closer than we already should have arrived. At times we think or feel at any given moment of time; continue to wait and sometimes we realize in fact, to borrow the title of my book, We’re we will never arrive in the way we had hoped. Almost There. а That’s when we need to gird for battle and ensure we aren’t crushed for good. There will Rabbi Dovid M. Cohen is director of for be other fields of play and other meaningful New York and director of community outreach for opportunities if we can allow ourselves to , both roles at the Orthodox Union. His popular book “We’re Almost There: Living with Patience, wipe off the dust and get off the mat. Perseverance and Purpose” was published earlier For the past two years I have been focused this year by Mosaica Press. It is available at Jewish on writing a book that explores areas of bookstores and on his website, www.rabbidovidm- interest relating to Jewish life in particular cohen.com.

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The Shmuz By R' Ben Tzion Shafier The Bais HaMikdash – Power Source of Spirituality

Chanukah for. Initially, Antiochus refused. Finally the Jews he Bach commenting on Tur Shulchan Aruch of Yerushalayim gathered together 360 talents of Texplains that the decrees of the Yivanim silver – a king’s ransom – to bribe Antiochus to against the Jewish people occurred because erect such a building. He agreed, and the Megil- the Jewish people became “lax in their service.” las Chasmonaim opens up with the statement: Earlier in history, the Bais HaMikdash “They erected a gymnasium in Yerushalayim.” had been the center of life, the pride of every The Ramban on Chumash says, “If not for Jew. Going up to Yerushalayim three times a the Chasmonaim, Torah would have been for- year was looked at with excitement and great gotten from the Jewish people.” If so, why did anticipation, and the effect of the service was the Bach say that the reason for the decrees appreciated by all. However, at the time of was the Jews being lax in the Avodah? There the Chanukah events, that appreciation was seem to be many other things going wrong. long gone. While the Kohanim still brought the Korbonos, the service in the Bais HaMik- Spiritual fuel source dash had lost its luster and glory. The answer seems to be that in spiritual The Bach seems to be saying that all that was manners, there is no stagnation. A person is to befall the Jewish people was because we no either going up or going down. The concept of longer approached the Avodah with the appro- remaining static doesn’t exist. If a person has the priate sense of purpose, and therefore it was tak- spiritual fuel that he requires, he ascends level en from us. This, however, becomes difficult to after level. If not, he declines. That is the reality. understand when we take into perspective what That is the way Hashem created the world. The was actually happening in those days. Bais HaMikdash was the nuclear reactor that fueled the spiritual needs of the world. The state of the union The nation as a whole took a downturn At the time of Chanukah, there was much because the source of all Ruchnius was no wrong with the spiritual state of the Jewish longer potent. It had lost its luster in the peo- people. Ignorance had become profound, and ple’s eyes, and so it was no longer providing entire generations were no longer brought the life-giving nourishment that HASHEM up in the ways of Torah. The Greek/Syrian created it to give. The Jewish people are one philosophy had taken hold, and many, many unit, inextricably tied together in fate and Jews considered themselves more Greek than spiritual level. The core of our spiritual energy the Greeks. In their homes they spoke the in those days was the Bais HaMikdash. The language of Yavan. They schooled their chil- Avodah was the lifeline and fuel source for the dren in the ways of Yavan, and all that they nation. Since it was no longer practiced prop- aspired for was acceptance in Greek society. erly, it couldn’t maintain the spiritual needs of According to the Megillas Chasmonaim, the our people. The reason the Jews of Yerusha- Jews of Yerushalayim asked Antiochus to rename layim became enamored with Greek culture their city Antioch in his honor. They even sent a was because the furnace providing the level of contingency asking him to erect a gymnasium spiritual power was no longer functioning at in Yerushalayim. A gymnasium was not merely capacity. The Avodah no longer accomplished a hall for the practice of Greek sports; it was a its desired effect, and the Jewish Nation itself center of idol worship. It represented a house of was in grave danger. Greek culture for the specific function of prop- agating the Greek ideology and all that it stood Continued on pg. 32

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Continued from pg. 29 our brothers who were brought up bereft of The only cure was for the Jewish people their heritage. From that aspect, the work is to reach a new understanding of the prima- clear. We must go out and do whatever is in cy of the Avodah and to rededicate them- our power to help – whether teaching classes selves to the service in the Bais HaMikdash. or inviting non-religious co-workers to our When led by the Chasmonaim, Kohanim homes, whether joining Partners in Torah who did the Avodah and who were willing or contributing to Kiruv programs. The to sacrifice their lives for it, the nation was work is endless, but the potential is stellar. rededicating themselves to the centrality At the same time, we can’t lose sight of of the Avodah. Then the Bais HaMikdash the reality that these attempts succeed only could be reestablished and pump out the because of the spiritual state of our nation. spiritual nourishment needed to keep the We no longer have a Bais HaMikdash. Now, Klal Yisrael whole. our and are the nuclear fur- Kiruv - The mitzvah of our generation naces that provide the spiritual fuel for the This concept is especially relevant in our world. If our own Torah study is on a high times when as much as 90% of our nation is level, and we are pumping out the vital spiri- made up of non-practicing Jews. While the tual fuel needed, then with HASHEM’s help, numbers may seem daunting, nevertheless, all of these efforts will succeed. However, if we live in amazing times. There is a power- we allow the spiritual reactors of our people ful receptivity amongst our people –religious to decline, then all of the best efforts in the and not yet religious – for growth. People world will not meet with success. The under- hunger for truth and meaning in their lives, lying energy source of it all will be lacking. а and the Torah is only pure source that fills that need. Clearly, the mitzvah of our gener- “The Shmuz”, an engaging and motivating Torah ation is Kiruv. And as such, it is an obligation lecture that deals with real life issues is available for upon each of us to do all that we can to help FREE at www.TheShmuz.com.

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his is my new most-favorite muffin reci- • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract Tpe, partly because the muffins are abso- • 1/2 cup pecans or chocolate chips lutely delicious, so much so that my family devoured a whole batch in one sitting on the PREPARATION last snow day, and partly because they use 1. Preheat oven to 350 and spray a 12 cup a whole can of pumpkin, which is nutritious muffin cup tray with cooking spray. (and also means I don’t have to figure out 2. Sift together the flour, sugars, baking what to do with the extra). Make them with soda, salt and spice mix in a large bowl. whole wheat flour. Add nuts or chocolate 3. In a separate bowl use a spatula to mix chips if you want and enjoy. the eggs, oil, pumpkin and vanilla extract. Mix well. • 35 Min Duration 4. Pour wet ingredients into dry ingredi- • 20 Min Cook Time ents and mix lightly with spatula until just • 15 Min Prep Time combined. If using chocolate chips or nuts, • 12 Muffins Servings add them now. Scoop muffin mix into the tray and place in the oven for 20 minutes. INGREDIENTS This recipe is adapted from LovelyLittle- 3 • 1 /4 cup white whole wheat flour Kitchen. а 3 • /4 cup sugar 1 • /3 cup brown sugar Tamar Genger is the Executive Editor of Joy– • 1 teaspoon baking soda ofKosher.com and a Registered Dietitian with • 1/ teaspoon salt a Masters in Health Studies. Tamar has a pas– 2 sion for healthy cooking and eating -- using local, • 1 tablespoon pumpkin pie spice mix seasonal ingredients, inspired by international • 2 eggs flavors, to create exciting meals for the whole family. • 1 (15-ounce) can pumpkin puree Tamar lives in New York and is the mother of three 1 amazing children. • /2 cup coconut oil, melted

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The Coaching Corner By Rabbi Naphtali Hoff Chanuka… Al Pi Darko

hanuka means consecration, such as the guide a child to remain on the proper path Cconsecration of a home (see Devarim well into their adult lives. “Chanoch l’naar 20:5). During the eight days of Chanuka, we al pi darko, gam ki yazkin lo yasur mimenu” – commemorate the miraculous rededication Train the youth according to his way, so that of the Bais Hamikdash by the Chashmonaim even when he ages he will not deviate from in 165 BCE, following three years of contam- it (Mishlei 22:6). ination at the hands of the powerful Seleu- Certainly, our generation is blessed with a cid Greeks. wide-ranging Torah educational system that Chanuka, however, can also be understood serves an extensive array of Jewish children. as education, consecrating a child for the holy Yet, this success has not been without its ambition of a Jewish “chinuch”. In this I refer challenges. Children often find themselves not solely to the transfer of information and forced into a system that, for a variety of ideas, but rather the inculcation of a way of reasons, does not meet their individual needs. life, a standard of principles and life-shaping They spend year after year in an endless rut ideals that will guide a child to remain on of frustration; many become disillusioned the proper path well into their adult lives. and consequently turn away from our rich “Chanoch l’naar al pi darko, gam ki yazkin lo heritage. What can be done, by both mechan- yasur mimenu” – Train the youth according chim and parents, to stem this growing tide to his way, so that even when he ages he will of disenchantment and disconnect? not deviate from it. (Mishelei 22:6) Fortunately, contained within Shlomo Chinuch refers to realizing the inherent HaMelech’s mandate of “chanoch l’naar” are capability…for whichever task or the capabili- strategies with which to address and hope- ty of a house or an object to fulfill its function… fully improve the situation: When it is used to refer to the education of chil- Educate according to their abilities and incli- dren, then the meaning is to raise and devel- nations – As we know, every child possesses a op the child’s nature and capabilities. (Rabbi different blend of learning styles, abilities and Kalonymous Kalman Shapira of Piaseczno, interests. (See Malbim, ibid.) It is necessary Chovas Hatalmidim, Warsaw, 1932, pp. 1)) for educators to guide their students accord- Chinuch is a topic that deserves special ing to the path that their abilities and inclina- attention during Chanuka, a time when the very tions dictate (Ralbag, ibid). This requires us essence of Jewish education was threatened to consider differentiated forms of instruction by a materialistic, Hellenistic cultural “dark- to incorporate all learners and accentuate a ness” that outlawed the study of Torah and wide array of student strengths. It also means the observance of mitzvos at the pain of death. that we must be willing to be flexible with “The earth was astonishingly empty, and our curricular demands, emphasizing more darkness was on the face of the deep, and the of the affective components of Jewish edu- spirit of Hashem was hovering over the face of cation, so as to ensure a longstanding sense the water”. (Bereishis 1:2) Rabbi Shimon ben of connection. Lakish applied this verse to the foreign powers. To again quote the Piaseczno Rebbe, “We ‘Now the earth was empty’ symbolizes Babylo- must raise and educate the person with the nia… ‘Astonishingly’ refers to Persia / Media… aim of drawing out (Hashem’s spirit), reveal- ‘Darkness’ symbolizes Greece. (Bereishis Rab- ing it, making it flower, so that he becomes a bah 2:4) faithful Jew. The person’s connection to Tra- Chinuch does not refer not solely to the dition will thus be borne of free will.” Parents transfer of information and ideas, but rather can help facilitate this process by advocating the inculcation of a way of life, a standard for their children and their specific learning of principles and life-shaping ideals that will Continued on pg. 38

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Continued from pg. 37 our children are not overwhelmed by life’s needs. Our goal must be to capture the child’s challenges and experiences. As our students essence as much as his intellect. leave the insular walls of the yeshiva, they will And according to their temperament – We invariably be faced with difficult tests, ones must be willing to work with all of our chil- never before experienced by past generations. dren and be exceedingly patient with them, We simply cannot shelter our children from even when they are very challenging. So all of these temptations. Rather, we must many of our best and brightest children have instill within them a love for yiddishkeit that been turned off because of their inability to is of such a magnitude they will possess the fit in neatly within the established religious, necessary fortitude to resist and ultimately educational and social systems that we have reject these divergent forces. Allow them to created, sensing their teacher’s or parent’s ask the difficult questions; children must see frustrations and displeasure. that the Torah can and does respond to all Educate the entire child – We all have a matters. core list of basic needs, from physiological to It must be our mission to ensure that physical to emotional, all of which, if not prop- each of our children is receiving a Torah erly met, will hamper our ability to achieve chinuch, both in yeshiva and at home, that is maximal intellectual results. Every child “al pi darko”. In so doing, we will hopefully needs to feel like he belongs and is properly see them develop a deep, long lasting sense cared for as a person, not just as a student. of connection to all that we hold so dear – Otherwise, he will seek to satisfy those needs gam ki yazkin lo yasur mimenu. а elsewhere, often in environments that are damaging to his physical, emotional, and Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is an executive coach and spiritual well being. consultant and President of Impactful Coaching & Educate with the future in mind (based on Consulting (www.ImpactfulCoaching.com). He can be reached at (212) 470-6139 or at nhoff@impactful- Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, Collected Writ- coaching.com. ings, Vol. VII, pp. 411ff.) – We must ensure that

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1. What does the word "Chanukah" mean? A. candles B. triumph C. dedication D. potato pancake

2. The best place to light the Menorah is: A. outside your front door B. in your front window C. on your living room table D. on your rooftop

3. Who is the Greek-Syrian leader that took harsh steps to destroy ? A. Alexander the Great B. Antiochus Epiphanes C. Julius Caesar D. Judah Maccabee

4. On Friday afternoon, the menorah should stay lit for at least: A. 18 minutes B. 30 minutes C. 48 minutes D. 72 minutes

5. What is the name of the courageous Jewish wom- an who defied the Greeks and killed one of their generals? A. Yehudit B. Devorah C. Miriam D. Esther

6. According to Jewish law, how many gifts must be giv- en during the holiday of Chanukah? A. 0 presents B. 1 presents C. 8 presents D. give until it hurts

7. The preferred arrangement of a menorah is where the candles: A. are all at the same height B. all are in a straight line C. are at least 2 cm apart D. all of the above

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8. Jews who assimilated into Greek culture were called: A. Greeks B. Maccabees C. Hasmoneans D. Hellenists

9. How many branches did the Menorah in the Holy Temple have? A. 6 B. 7 C. 8 D. 9

10. What do the four Hebrew letters on the dreidel (nun, gimmel, hey, shin) stand for? A. Eternal values will always triumph B. A great miracle happened there C. God saved us from our enemies D. Try your luck and win the pot

11. Who is allowed to say a blessing on the lights of Chanukah? A. one who does the lighting himself B. one who does not light, but has someone else light on his behalf C. one who merely sees the Chanukah lights

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entral to the holiday of Chanukah is the We all know the difficulties involved in chang- Cconcept that spiritual ascent occurs in ing long-standing behavior patterns. Nonethe- steady increments, which is offered as the expla- less, when transitions are approached slowly and nation for our practice of lighting one additional sensibly – through the process of setting short- candle each night throughout this eight day fes- term, realistic, achievable goals – it is possible tival. Given the uplifting mood associated with to consistently build each day upon the previous Chanukah, I’m especially excited to embark on day’s accomplishments. With this approach, the a new venture together with Chazaq, beginning experience of change will be less threatening and on the first day of Kislev, the month in which overwhelming for you and others around you, Chanukah falls. A unique Torah-based men’s thus minimizing internal and external resistance. weight loss support group that I’ll be leading This concept is in line with the Torah based idea is planning IY”H to hold its first meeting in comparing spiritual growth to climbing a ladder, Kew Gardens Hills at that time. which requires taking one careful step at a time In light of this endeavor, I’d like to share in order to prevent falling backward. with you some empowering thoughts about the In the same vein, the Rambam cautions “One process of achieving weight management goals should not change his habits all at once, in eat- based upon my own experience. While working ing, drinking or exercise (Regimen of Health, 4:15). as a nutritional consultant for a popular New This point is further elucidated in Moreh Nevuchim York based weight loss program, I was told of (3:32), where he states “It is impossible to go sud- a wonderful exchange that took place between denly from one extreme to the other. Therefore, a new client and her counselor. it is not possible according to the nature of man During her initial session, the client to suddenly discontinue everything to which he expressed a desire to shed 50 pounds, to which has been habituated…human nature always likes the counselor instinctively responded, “That’s a that to which it is habituated.” lot of weight. Can you really envision yourself Considering the Rambam’s timeless teach- losing 50 pounds?” ings, you can more fully appreciate the value The client answered honestly, “No.” of proceeding step by step so as to attain true “What about 20 pounds?” asked the coun- progress in any endeavor. With these ideas selor. in mind, I propose that long-term nutrition “No,” said the client. Their dialogue contin- and lifestyle goals will most likely be achieved ued along these lines: when broken down into smaller, manageable “In your mind’s eye, can you visualize losing short-term goals and pursued at a pace that ten pounds?” feels comfortable for you. “Not really.” I wish all my readers a happy, healthy Cha- “What about two pounds? Could you imag- nukah accompanied by steady ascent in achiev- ine yourself losing two pounds in the next week? ing your goals both spiritually and physically. а “Yes, that I’m able to imagine,” was the confident reply. The client went on to lose two Dr. Shmuel Shields is a N.Y.S. Certified Nutritionist who pounds that week, and in time, eventually lost works with children and adults. His Torah-based book the intended fifty. on health, L’Chaim: 18 Chapters to Live By, is available directly through the author, online, and at Jewish book- What should we take away from this anec- stores near you. For more information about his book and dote? Typically, lofty goals feel overwhelming at unique line of multivitamin-mineral supplements, visit first, but when broken down into small, imag- www.drshieldsnutrition.com. To order directly through inable steps, these same goals become more the author or for a consultation with Dr. Shields, contact manageable and achievable. I have found that him at [email protected] or call (718) 544-4036. Most insurance plans are accepted. House calls, phone this applies to most people, no matter what and e-mail consultations, and guest speaking can be their weight management plans may be. arranged.

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